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The New Jim Crow - Common Dreams

The Reagan administration seized on this development with glee, hiring staff who were to be responsible for publicizing inner-city crack babies, crack mothers, crack whores, and drug-related violence. The goal was to make inner-city crack abuse and ...

Former Boise police officer may have molested more than a dozen ... - Idaho Statesman

Ada County Prosecutors said Monday that former Boise police officer Stephen R. Young is accused of molesting at least 13 children over the past 30 years. He has been charged for his interactions with four specific children, but more charges are ...

Ecoterra Press Release 215 – The Somalia Chronicle June – December ... - Buzzle

Following the Somalia Spring 2009 Chronicles, I herewith republish the Ecoterra press releases issued in the second half of 2009. I reproduce the integral version of all Ecoterra press releases in a recapitulative effort to provide the global ...

GOP: Law banning child abuse in schools will lead to ‘government ... - Raw Story

Hononegah parent files complaint over remark by algebra teacher - Rockford Register-Star

ROCKTON — A Hononegah High School parent has filed a discrimination complaint with the U.S. Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights, demanding an investigation into racial remarks a teacher made to her daughter in class. Kelly Wilkerson ...

Yamhill County deputy DA will go to work for Oregon DOJ - News Register

Greenawald, a graduate of Willamette University College of Law, has worked since ... violence task forces and a multi-disciplinary child abuse assessment team. Greenawald’s position is funded by a federal STOP Violence Against Women Act grant ...

Domestic violence victim Steiner to tell all in San Diego - SDNN: San Diego News Network

Leslie Morgan Steiner’s memoir “Crazy Love” didn’t immediately capture my attention or interest. But I knew Steiner’s work; she’s the best-selling author of “Mommy Wars” and the author of a 1980s Seventeen magazine article that ...

Task Force Appeals Macon County Ruling - WTVY

MONTGOMERY – John Tyson, Jr., Commander of the Governor’s Task Force on Illegal Gambling, filed an appeal to the Alabama Supreme Court this morning from the ruling issued last Friday that prevents the Task Force from enforcing Alabama’s laws ...

Disparity in salaries irks college teachers - Tribune

A circular issued by the UT administration to the city government colleges, pointing at the disparity in the salaries of contractual employees deputed against regular sanctioned and those employed against additionally sanctioned posts created by the ...

Tazers good or evil - Daily Mail

... if under threat by say a bunch of out of hand youths, then I can see the support for its use - but to read that its been used against an 85 YO suffering from dementia and a 12 Year old child - this ... used, and very clear laws to protect the ...

Open Question: Why would republicans support state funded child abuse?

A proposed law designed to prevent child abuse in schools has been lauded by children's protection advocates, and slammed by House Republicans as an unnecessary expansion of federal government power. The House of Representatives last week passed the Keeping All Students Safe Act, which for the first time sets minimum national standards for practices the use "seclusion rooms" or forced restraint of unruly students. The bill would ban the use of "mechanical restraints" such as tying children to furniture, and would allow seclusion and physical restraint to be used only when there is "imminent danger of injury and only when imposed by trained staff." Though the bill was a bipartisan effort in reaction to a government report last year that found "hundreds of cases of alleged abuse and death" related to the practices, it was opposed by a vast majority of Republicans, who said the bill amounted to an intrusion on states' rights and the ability of local school districts to determine their own policies. In all, 145 Republicans and eight Democrats voted against the bill last week, which will have to get the Senate's and the president's approval to become law. more

Open Question: Can someone help me with these questions on Disappearances, POC, Torture !?!? 10 pts!!!?

A frequent response of military regimes to accusations of gross violations of human rights is the following: to claim that they are investigating the incident. to arrest and punish those involved. to deny that human rights of citizens have been violated. both a and c are correct ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The Nazi policy that ordered anyone arrested on suspicion of endangering German security was to be transferred to Germany under “cover of night” was known as what decree? Disappearance Decree Nazi-Grabbing Decree Night and Fog Decree Security Degree ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Which of the following is NOT typical of a disappearance? The victim is seized by armed men and is transported to an unknown destination. Government authorities deny there has been an arrest. The family receives a hefty ransom request. The victims are often tortured or killed. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Which of the following is NOT one of the stages of response identified among family members that experience a relative’s “disappearance”: Disbelief and inaction Anger and guilt Searching and anxiety Acceptance ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The United States is counted as one of the countries guilty of torture because this is true: They export products used in torture. They hold public executions. Children in custody are abused. Both a and c are true. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Read this scenario: The government arrests a young man because he is the editor of a newspaper that has been criticizing the government’s policies. The government is worried that this will turn people against them so, although he has broken no laws, they imprison him for his participation in the paper. It is well known that he is in custody and several human rights organizations are campaigning for his release. Of what is this an example? A “disappearance” Torture Apartheid Prisoner of conscience ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- All but which is a part of Amnesty International’s 12 point plan to prevent torture? Investigate accusations of torture Prohibit torture in law Allow uses of statements received through torture Ensure access to prisoners -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Thousands of disappearances occurred in Latin America in the 1960s and 1970s. True False ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Today, disappearances are increasing in countries with civilian governments. True False ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Torture is used exclusively to control people who commit crimes or terrorist acts. True False ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Real torture occurs when someone is abused physically, not when they are abused mentally. True False --------------------------------------------------------------------------- Every act of torture is a crime under international law. True False ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ According to international law, torture may be used only in times of war. True False ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- “Disappeared” persons and prisoners of conscience are often subjected to torture. True False ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Torture is an effective tool for gathering information. True False -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- There are no instances of torture in the United States. True False more

Open Question: Abuse, Adoption and Lots of Questions?

http://taxdollars.freedomblogging.com/2010/03/08/adoption-gone-awry-launches-couple-onto-child-abuse-list/52663/ I came across this article this morning and it made me wonder about several things: 1. Do you feel that the actions of the AM (cutting the AD's hair as punishment) should be considered abuse - why or why not? (I also wish I knew how well the APs were educated about their AD's history and issues, but on the other hand, the APs are relatively well educated in a general sense and work in the medical and law enforcement fields...) 2. Do you think the APs received "special treatment" due to their job statuses? 3. "We got off their list, but there are a lot of people out there who don’t have the resources we have,” Bette said. “ They don’t’ have a husband who’s an attorney, they don’t know what the law is. To me, it’s a really sad state of affairs when your liberties are taken away from you and you have no recourse. We want the public to know that this situation exists. Is there anyone else who’s been in this situation?” Do you feel that this statement applies could apply to some biological parents also? What do you feel should be the recourse for people who have been "bullied by the system"? 4, The APs lawsuit against DSS states: “This case amounts to an unconstitutional abuse of power by county social workers and county policies that both violate and demonstrate a deliberate indifference to the constitutional rights of Plaintiffs, parents and others who work with children. County social workers, acting as judge and jury, and without meeting any burden of proof, have the ability and authority to arbitrarily and falsely stigmatize individuals as ‘child abusers’ and without providing any pre-deprivation procedural due process, then blacklist their names by reporting them to a central registry maintained by the California Department of Justice without prior notice or an opportunity to be heard. In doing so, the (county and state) trample on the constitutional rights of parents to raise their children and maintain family integrity, do irreparable damage to the reputations of those stigmatized as child abusers, deny them procedural due process guaranteed under the 14th Amendment and ultimately harm the very children the defenders are supposed to protect.” Do you agree or disagree with these statements and what kind of impact could this have on the way we handle abuse cases? 5. What would you change about the way the system works to prevent issues like this? How can we best balance protecting abused children and ensuring sure the system is not being heavy handed towards parents? I will be ruminating on these questions today and I'd love to hear your opinions on any or all of these questions if you have the time. Thanks!ETA: I guess I should add that I DO feel that cutting a child's hair as punishment is indeed abusive. more

Open Question: Have you worked with people with personality flaws ? Does that suggest they have a secret past ?

<<James Bulger killer Jon Venables back in jail for attacking fellow worker at fast food restaurant CHILD killer Jon Venables was hauled back to prison after years of drug abuse and brushes with the law. It has been revealed that the 27-year-old killer of toddler James Bulger finally ended up back behind bars after a bust-up at work. Venables flipped out without warning at a fast food restaurant which employed him and grappled with another worker. He was suspended - and ended up in jail for breaching his bail conditions. Venables had already been arrested for possessing cocaine and for another bust-up outside a fast food shop. He was just 10 when he and fellow thug Robert Thompson battered two-year-old James to death on a railway line in Merseyside. The murder shocked the nation and the pair were provided with new identities when they were finally released in 2001. But insiders say Venables descended into a life of drug abuse and brushes with the law. He now lives alone in a bedsit - and a legal ban on exposing his new name, location or appearance remains in place. It was yesterday claimed he began snorting cocaine and popping ecstasy pills while throwing himself into his local nightclub scene. And it was revealed that until last Christmas, Venables was buying a gram of cocaine a week to feed his habit. That led to a major brush with police. Snorting cocaine with a friend down a dirty alley outside a club in December 2008, Venables was stunned to see plainclothes police running towards him. Both men were arrested on suspicion of possessing Class A drugs. They were later allegedly let off with cautions. But violence has also brought Venables to the attention of the law. Our source said that in one incident outside a fast food shop he got into a row with the boyfriend of a female reveller. After being accused of pinching her bottom, he was punched in the face. Police arrested both men on suspicion of affray. He spent the night in custody but was released without charge the next morning. Yesterday, James Bulger's mum demanded to be officially told why Venables was back in prison. A spokesman for Denise Fergus, 42, said: The Probation Service have promised to keep her informed and has assured her she was not in danger at any time. "But she believes that she and the public have a right to know what Venables has done." Denise added on Twitter: "Would like to let everyone know Jon Venables is where he belongs tonight - behind bars." Justice Secretary Jack Straw has insisted details of the prison recall cannot be revealed, as it could "prejudice criminal proceddings". Venables will be able to appeal against his prison recall within 28 days. His solicitor Laurence Lee said he was "shocked" at the arrest. He added: "If I were a betting man and someone said to me one of the killers of James Bulger had returned to prison, I would have put a lot of money on it not being Jon because he was the less evil of the two." >> more

Open Question: Is the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) a good, fair law OR a blatant Violation of Male's Human Right?

Let's there be NO illusion for any Men who STILL think Obama is fair & neutral on this issue, when he appointed Joe Biden as Vice President: "Joseph R. Biden, Jr., JD, Senator (D-DE), stated in a June 8, 2005 press release, 'Biden, Hatch, and Specter Usher Violence Against Woman Act into 21st Century with VAWA 2005': "We broke tremendous ground in 1994 and 2000. We wrote new domestic violence laws. We outlawed marital rape. We distributed over $3.8 billion dollars to states and towns to train and support police, lawyers, judges, nurses, shelter directors and advocates to end domestic violence and sexual assault. And as a result, we’ve seen an almost 50% drop in domestic violence. But we must do more..." ======================================… And this Observation from a fair, intelligent woman: Phyllis Schlafly, JD, Founder and President of Eagle Forum, wrote in her July 20, 2005 column, "Time to Defund Feminist Pork," for EagleForum.org: "Let's have a reality check. VAWA's gender-specific title is pejorative: it's based on the false, unscientific, unjust, and blatantly offensive premise that men are innately violent and abusive toward women, making all women victims of men.... VAWA encourages women to make false allegations, and then petition for full child custody and a denial of all fathers' rights to see their own children.... A woman seeking help from a VAWA-funded center is not offered any options except to leave her husband, divorce him, accuse him of being a criminal, and have her sons targeted as suspects in future crimes... VAWA uses a definition of domestic violence that blurs the difference between violent action and run-of-the-mill marital tiffs and arguments. Definitions of abuse can even include minor insults and refusing to help with child care or housework... It's time to stop VAWA from spending any more taxpayers' money to promote family dissolution and fatherless children." Excerpt from: http://aclu.procon.org/viewanswers.asp?questionID=000702 http://www.jugsforjustice.org/wordpress/?p=24 NOTICE that ALL VAWA supporters have GREAT financial stakes in its implementation. more

Open Question: Why do americans treat sexting between couples as child porn? When the Megans mum stated its wrong?

Why do americans treat sexting between couples as child porn? When the Megans (as in megans law) mum stated its wrong to abuse couples and thats doing the opposite of what the law was intended for. http://www.netlingo.com/more/Girl_arrested.pdf The whole point of anti child porn laws was to prevent young teengers and children being forced often violently into sexaul activity AGAINST THEIR WILL. ie rape When teenagers send sexy photos of themselves to partners its no different to a love note as its CONSENTUAL and they actively WANT their love interest to see them in a sexaul sense to make them want to make out and kiss. if the whole point ie the 'spirit of the law' as opposed to he 'letter f the law' was to prevent teengers and children getting abused, harmed, hurt, raped etc. Then how is sticking a young teenage girl who never hurt anyone in a cage full of pedophiles, rapists and murderers (and yes even if juvenile jail the cell is still ull of rapists, peados, murderers and thugs (see movie Scum and inparticular the greenhouse rape scene) Ie using a law meant to protect them from rape to have teengers raped. Surely then the judges, police and prosecuting lawyers are peadophiles using laws meant to protect kids and teens rom rape to have them raped and battered and destroy their lives for fun? Protecting anyone from abuse? Where is the abuse? if a girl or guy wants their partner to check them out sexaully (and in most cases they wont be having sex stright away more making out) to kiss. be in love, feeling up. And that makes them happy then why waste police or other grown ups time when they could be arrested real criminals. for there to be a crime their needs to be a victim. the law should be there to protect people from harm and abuse not abuse nice people. And laws and rules are not simply rules and laws. Take or example how it used to be legal to keep slaves, mixed race marriage was illegal, so was gay sex and how woemn were not allowed to vote and if you are heading the correct way up a one way road and a tsunamie is hedding down the opposote way do you A) obey the law and drown or B) apply common sense and drive the other way ral fast.?Why not be happy your kid has somone to snuggle up with and be lovey dovey with and if as teeangers do trying to hard and doing too much too young just get them to calm down a little8 ball if you dont like my question then dont bother with them... leave everyone else to do what they want. And these are legit questions and legit issues so why doint you go off and mind your own and let all else do their thing. Why do you have a problem with these issues being discussed?Actually Im an adult who has seen how hurt those without a boyfriend or girlfriend get and how they end up in councillng, depressed, suicidal etc and how happy those dating with a boy or girlfriend are and yes many break up others dont but gain something from it. ie practice, confidence, social skills, reltionship and pulling skills, And stds and pregancy only occur with not using condoms plus teengers are more likely just to make out as dont feel ready to go further. As mentioned its only bad if forcedIm not an idiot. Teenagers have been sexaully active since cavemen times thats why they have hormos, periods, erections etc. The only protection they need is due to lack of experience, size and power. Ie its like driving lessons. teenage reltionships and sexaul activiry is like driving in a car with dual controls. You ned to be on a real road in a real car to learn properly but with parents or instructors able to stop the car if you make a mistake. And to scare any would be ashole boyfriend thinking of passing private photos around that he will be sorry for upsetting your daughter so he can also learn a lesson in not acting a jerk. But the lovey dovey stuff is fineTeenagers are not stupid or innocent they do know that they are doing to an extent. So its not a case of they do nothing but do it with parents acting as a saftey net or a long leash... Enough freedom to develop, have a life and experiment but whihc can be pulled in if they step out in the road. Plus many teens I have seen are more sensible then many adults more

Voting Question: Teens - Short story advice please? :)?

Hey, I'm writing a short story for English and I'm not sure about it.. I'll post the start and any criticism would be much appreciated! Preparing to climb a steep, treacherous mountain in the north of Scotland was not how I had planned to spend the first Saturday of half term. For weeks the holidays had lain stretched out in front of me, They had dangled freely in my wake; tempting me into their luxurious clutches. I had fantasised for what seems like eternity about waves of crystal lashing against rocky coves in some exotic destination which fulfilled my every need. I had imagined clubs bustling with people swaying to the pulsing rhythm of the music. I had dreamed of quaint little towns and market-places, culture filling every possible crevice. When we had planned a trip, being knee-deep in mud and other such revolting substances was not on my agenda. But here I was. Looking back, I suppose it was somewhat ironic that it was I, the most disorganized member of the group, who remembered to check the weather forecast that fateful day. It was I who took care to pack the maps and to make sure that we were all correctly equipped to make the ascent, not that I had anything more than basic knowledge, it was in fact my first – and last – time. It was still relatively early when we arrived at our destination, the trek looming ominously ahead of us. We were amusing ourselves by playing silly, infantile games and poking fun at one another. A childish insult was muttered and colour rose furiously to my cheeks. This was typical of our group, someone would say something to provoke me and I would struggle desperately to keep my temper – behaviour more fitting to a gathering of children in the playground than to a bunch of soon-to-be Law graduates. The situation developed rapidly and soon the atmosphere reflected the frosty weather. A tirade of abuse flew from my mouth like poisoned darts and before I knew it I was storming off into the marshland that led me up the mountain. The mountain itself was magnificent to behold, lush green and pure, unsullied white. My vision, however, was tinted red. I all but ran through acres of trees and long grass, not thinking where I was going but determined to reach the summit, just to prove I could, alone. Somewhere in the back of my mind I realised that I was being ridiculous, that I should turn back and apologize, offer to buy them dinner tonight, whatever it took, but my ego dominated my thoughts and I knew I had to do this. I picked up the pace, slipping into a steady jog. It began to drizzle, the sky sickly grey. The ground beneath me became hazardous and slippery and, inevitably, I lost my footing. Pain shot through my ankle, which was swelling rapidly. My back, exposed to a thin sheet of ice, began to ache, the bitter cold a stark contrast to the warm, sticky liquid trickling steadily down my face. more

Voting Question: If someone made a MALICIOUS referral to Social Services?

ie telling outright lies about a family, accusing them of acts of neglect which were patently not true. Social Services investigate and agree that the accusations are unfounded and close the case. Would there be any recourse to justice against the person who did this on behalf of the family who have been put through the distress of having Social Services call on them accusing them of neglecting or abusing their children? I understand that many of these malicious referrals are made anonymously. However, if it was possible to discover who had made the refferal, or if a family member owned up to it perhaps, would ther family be able to seek any recompense under law, for defamation of character perhaps, or for the distress that has been caused? I am not talking about genuine referrals where a child HAS been abused/neglected but cases where a referral has been made out of spite or malice, perhaps by a neighbour or a family member who wishes to cause distress to the family. There are many such cases of these malicious referrals every year and I have recently become victim of one myself. I'd like to know what rights under law would be to seek justice. more

Voting Question: What do you think about Sarah's Law: disclosure of paedophiles?

Home Office ministers will today confirm the national rollout of the child sex offender disclosure scheme - known as Sarah's law - to 18 police forces this August, followed by the remaining 21 forces across England and Wales by March 2011. The decision follows the independent evaluation of a £600,000 pilot scheme in four police forces areas which saw 311 formal applications from parents and carers that resulted in the disclosure of the background of 21 convicted child sex offenders. However fathers raising concerns about their ex-partner's new boyfriends are one of the largest groups applying for public disclosure of details of convicted child sex offenders under a newly completed pilot scheme. The small number of disclosures that took place - 21 out of 311 applications - showed that the scheme's main benefit was to reassure those who had anxieties about individuals in their neighbourhoods. What do you think of Sarah's Law? Is it a reassurance to parents or will it just drive paedophiles underground as some commentators say? Is it against the human rights of the convicts? A right to a family life? A right to freedom? Will it be abused by vigilantes? Do the paedophiles deserve any retribution that may come their way? Should the crime committed be considered? Eg looking at child porn vs actual child abuse? Personally I'm very unsure and am completely in the middle on this at the moment. http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2010/mar/03/sex-offenders-disclosure-scheme more

Resolved Question: Can someone can make the case that Nazism was not leftist?

National Socialism- is the totalitarian ideology and practices of the Nazi Party or National Socialist German Workers’ Party under Adolf Hitler, and the policies adopted by the dictatorial government of Nazi Germany from 1933 to 1945 (totalitarian is leftist, dictator is leftist, socialism is leftist) Hitler was a socialist,very anti-capitalist, he was pro-choice, pro gun control, anti-tobacco, pro gays in military, anti christian/jewish churches and was atheist, pro euthanasia, racist, had contempt for innocent life, statist with ulta powerful govt, complete govt control of education, complete govt control of healthcare, major abuse of science, a darwinist, pro labor unions, controlling the media, "We are socialists, we are enemies of today's capitalistic economic system for the exploitation of the economically weak, with its unfair salaries, with its unseemly evaluation of a human being according to wealth and property instead of responsibility and performance, and we are all determined to destroy this system under all conditions." - Hitler National Socialist Political Platform 1. We demand the struggle against those whose activities are injurious to the general interest. 2. The state is responsible for the reconstruction of our national education program, 3. We demand education at the expense of the state for outstanding children 4. We demand the state be charged with providing opportunity for a livilihood for the citizens 5. The first obligation of the citizens is to work for the benefit of all 6. Personal enrichment through war must be designated a crime against the people 7. We demand the nationalization of all associated industries (trusts) 8. We demand a division of the profits of all heavy industries 9. We demand a large scale expansion of old age health care and welfare 10, We demand immediate communalization of warehouses 11. We demand a provision of law for the expropriation of land and prevention of speculation in land 12. The state is to care for elevating national health 13. We demand legal opposition to known lies and their promulgation through the press (state censorship) 14. We demand freedom of religion so long as the state determines its excercize does not endanger the nation 15. For the execution of all this we demand the formation of a strong central power: unlimited power of the central parliament over the whole nation, Nazism was a statist-socialist govt, both far-left by anyones account.If I had a trillion dollars I would give it to someone that could but on the other hand I dont think its possible to call Nazism rightist anyways.If you have no knowledge on NAZIs and homosexuals than read about The Pink SwastikaI was hoping someone would bring the other side of the debate but noone has. more

Resolved Question: How would the courts justify this?

If you're 18 years old your parents can legally kick you out of the house given they use proper eviction procedures. I'm having trouble understanding the justification of court order "college" child support. My state of NJ states that if you're in school at least half-time one of the parents will be ordered to pay until the age of 23. I'm having trouble understanding how this can be legally enforced? Many other states are hopping on the band wagon but many have a lesser age limit like 21 or 22, NJ is 23 which is ridiculous. I just don't understand how a parent could lose in court if they challenged the constitutionality of mandating support for their now adult (child) who is over 18 and responsible for their own actions. Do you think the outlook on mandating college support will grow or diminish? I think while the intent of mandating college support on a parent after the age of 18 is great, it goes against every thing the laws and norms of the U.S. stand for, no? Do you agree that a father or in a rare instance a mother should go to jail for failure to pay college support for their adult son or daughter? This whole scenario doesn't target CS as a minor, it only questions a states ability to mandate support payments after the age of 18. I think while the intent is good, it's a clear abuse of power. There are laws in 10 states that permit courts to order parents to pay some portion of a child's post-secondary educational expenses. Two other states extend the age of majority to a child's 21st birthday for child support purposes, thus permitting support orders to cover any child up to that age. Outside of these 12 states, courts have issued conflicting rulings on the authority of judges to order child support payments after the age of majority. For example, judges in New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Dakota, and South Carolina have found this authority in those states' general child support laws. But Pennsylvania's Supreme Court has ruled that it is unconstitutional to order divorced parents to support offspring after they reach adulthood. more

Voting Question: Ex husband sends local police to my house and calls DHR w/ unfounded charges?

My ex husband won't leave it alone. He's bitter because he does not have custody and constantly harasses me through regulatory and law enforcement agencies. I understand charges involving children and neglect or abuse must be investigated, but how many times can an ex continue to do this? All of his accusations have been resolved unfounded, yet he continues... Can I take any legal action against him? Frustrated in Alabama more

Resolved Question: What is your opinion on this Another Illegal Alien Sues Over Arrest?

In the latest of several lawsuits filed by illegal immigrants against U.S. law enforcement agencies, a Mexican woman claims that an Arizona sheriff’s department mistreated her during a workplace raid that led to the arrest of dozens of undocumented workers. For three years Celia Alvarez used a fake identity to work at a Phoenix landscaping company that was raided last fall by the Maricopa County Sheriff’s Department. Alvarez, who has four U.S.-born anchor babies, was among the 60 illegal immigrants arrested in the operation. In a federal complaint she accuses Maricopa Sheriff’s deputies of negligence and mistreatment for arresting and interrogating her. Alvarez also claims that deputies violently struck her and denied her medical care for several weeks during her two-month detention. She is seeking damages for illegal search and seizure as well as assault. The arrest also traumatized her children, Alvarez says, especially her youngest because he was still breastfeeding at the time and his mother was not available to properly nourish him. She asserts that the incident has marked her for a lifetime and hurt her kids, who as U.S.-born citizens collect public assistance. The struggling, unemployed illegal immigrant with four young children assures she’s not interested in the money she “could get out of this,” but rather in denouncing the “abuse, cruelty and inhumanity” of how she was treated by the local sheriff, which she worries will “go after more people.” This seems to be part of a growing trend among illegal immigrants and their advocate pro bono attorneys to sue law enforcement officials for doing their job and local governments for enforcing their measures. In the last few months alone legal action has been taken against an Ohio sheriff deputy who helped deport a Mexican with false identification cards, a Maryland officer who arrested an illegal Salvadoran woman and federal agents who apprehended a group of illegal aliens in a Connecticut immigration raid. A few weeks ago a group of undocumented day laborers sued a southern California city (Costa Mesa) for banning them from seeking work on public streets. The lawsuit actually stems from the arrest by local police of a dozen illegal alien day laborers who violated the city’s anti-solicitation ordinance. On a positive note, a Rhode Island state trooper sued for racial profiling after detaining a group of illegal aliens during a traffic stop was recently exonerated by a federal appeals court that determined the officer acted appropriately. http://www.judicialwatch.org/blog/2010/feb/another-illegal-alien-sues-over-arrest more

Resolved Question: Is this fair yes or no for the American father?

Is this fair yes or no for the American father? A mother is a national of Bahrain takes her US born daughter to her native country and will not return her to the United States. The US embassy says that in Bahrain most fathers can see there children any time they want to that live with there mother along as the father agrees to abide by the laws of Bahrain, not try and remove the child from Bahrain, or abuse the child. it does not matter if the father is a American or a national of Bahrain. But if you file parental kidnapping against the mother in the US, you will not be allowed to see that child, because you are a danger to the child and it appears that you will not abide the laws of Bahrain. Parental kidnapping taking a child in Bahrain from another country by a national of Bahrain is not a crime under the laws of Bahrain, but it is a crime to take the same child out of Bahrain before the child turns 18. more

Voting Question: Soon to be ex-spouse sending emails about child abuse and threathening. Is this harrassment?

We are separated after one of the incidents of domestic violence. I had a Temporary restraining order against him. I moved after 4 months of separation into my sister's and brother-in-laws home as my landlord wanted to sell his house. I am looking for a place for myself. Soon to be ex has sent letters of cease and desist to my sister and brother-in-law to stay away from my 9 year old son. My 9 year old son has become too aggressive, he beats me, my sister, he says very mean things to me, he pretty much rules in the house in the shelter of his dad. If he is asked to stop watching TV or eating dinner and if he doesn't want to he immediately calls dad and while on phone with dad keeps threatening us of sending us to jail, calling us liers etc. After that soon to e ex has already so far sent 4 letters calling all of us child abusers and threatening to take actions if we try to keep the son in limits. Is this harrassment? What can i do about this situation? Soon to be ex is trying to force sister and brother-in-law to make me leave their house. more

Resolved Question: Neighbours calling police?

I sit at home 24/7 , a law abiding citizen, never had a charge against me, (touch wood) I had a few drinks tonight, now I get dobbed in by a neighbour for a bit of loud music and I have roller shutters on the home ! yet I put up with the neighbours dog, screaming kids and dope smoking across the road .. well no more .. whoever dobbed me in ... I am going to report the yapping dog, report child abuse to the kids next door and report dope smoking across the road .. why do people do this? mind your own business ! genuine replies please .. no smart ass comments .. no warranted .. ) more

Voting Question: my mother is against my divorce?

I don't understand my mother. When I try to tell her about problems with my husband she gets really mad at me and fights with me. She sucks up to my in-laws, who I don't really have a relationship with because of how they treated me (partly the reason I'm getting divorced). My husband has done horrible things to me and she's made excuses for them.My mother is controlling and abusive, I have lived under her control and abuse my whole life. Why would she suck up to my in-laws when she knows I don't get along with them and they have done horrible things and said horrible things to me. My inlaws and husband are another story. Just to put it in perspective, my fil is divorced 3 times, my husband cheated on me, and constantly blows up at me. My inlaws have bad relationships with almost all of their family members because of the way they are (so it's not just me). Why won't my mother support me in wanting to get divorced? I get that I shouldn't be affected by what she thinks, but it does affect me. Is it normal for a mother (or father) to be against their child's divorce? more

Voting Question: Why is it wrong to do child abuse ?

I have a law project, and i have to tell why i'm against it. i have some good points, but i would take all that i can. so can people please help me ! thaaanks. more

Resolved Question: State your Views on gay rights?

I dont want no shouting or abuse ok... Just an honest and civilised calm board where everybody can post their opinions on gay rights. Ill start with mine.... I think its disgusting and should be banned or at least kept behind closed doors like it used 2 be, the UK and USA are christian countrys so therefore as homosexuality is against the Bible it should be against the law. I think its an absoloute outrage how it is advertised on T.V so openly whilst my children are watching TV and being subject to it. As far as im concerned its a perversion of nature....if its ok to be gay then why isnt ok for a sicko to have s*x with a child......understand what i mean (before you say its different, no it is not, its a perversion) Anyhow thats just my opinion on the matter and i am really keen to hear everybody elses views. This is not a debate or discussion and i do not care if you do not agree with me cos i wont change my mind....just post your views on gay rights, do not bother commenting on my opinion ok. ?? more

Resolved Question: can my wife ask for child support when she left the house with the kids, claiming false child abuse?

my wife and i have been having marital problems for some time. she has asked me to leave several times, but my lawyer told me she has no right to ask me this because there is no cause. I am not abusive in any way to her or the children. my lawyer warned her of false accusing me and the ramification if he had to take her to court if she did. However last week, she sent to a letter to my job stating that she has been very disappointed in me for being abusive the KIDS (EMOTIONALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY!) WHAT THE HECK? I have never been abusive to my kids, ever. I am a school teacher for over 15 years god sake. Anyway. This past friday, she sent email to me stating that she was leaving the house with the kids and not returning until I left the house. She told me the kids are fine and she was staying at a friends house. She also said she wouldn't tell me where the kids were. She had to protect them for my evil ways. (wth?) In addition, she said she would not send the kids to school. that not taking them to school would be my fault and responsibility (that's against the law). Then tonight, she emailed and told me she was going to take me to court for child support. She also said to leave the house and find a room near my job. My lawyer again told me not to leave. if i left i would lose everything. the house, the kids everything. I feel horrible that she has lied about me and that the kids are out there sleeping under some body's else's roof. If she want to leave, fine. but to drag the kids out of the only home they have evver lived, is irresponsible and damaging to the kids. Especially, when they have the best home anyone would want. they have all the comforts. for god sake, each of them(4) have tempurpedic beds! I had filed divorce in december but stopped it because i wanted to work it out. She doesn't work, has no cause for forcing me to move out and child support will not be enough to maintain the lifestyle i've given them so far. they are all children. can she claim for child support? not tell me where the kids are and claim abuse without proof? If she is given the child support, i wouldn't have enough money to pay the mortgage and i would have to foreclose. what do i do? Any lawyers out there. more

Resolved Question: Is it fair that Kathleen can't find a husband unless family law changes in the United States, yes or no?

Have Anti-Father Family Court Policies Led to a Men's Marriage Strike? By Glenn Sacks and Dianna Thompson Kathleen is attractive, successful, witty, and educated. She also can't find a husband. Why? Because most of the men this thirty-something software analyst dates do not want to get married. These men have Peter Pan Syndrome--they refuse to commit, refuse to settle down, and refuse to "grow up." However, given the family court policies and divorce trends of today, Peter Pan is no naive boy, but instead a wise man. "Why should I get married and have kids when I could lose those kids and most of what I've worked for at a moment's notice?" asks Dan, a 31 year-old power plant technician who says he will never marry. "I've seen it happen to many of my friends. I know guys who came home one day to an empty house or apartment--wife gone, kids gone. They never saw it coming. Some of them were never able to see their kids regularly again." The US marriage rate has dipped 40% over the past four decades, to its lowest point ever. There are many plausible explanations for this trend, but one of the least mentioned is that American men, in the face of a family court system which is hopelessly stacked against them, have subconsciously launched a "marriage strike." It is not difficult to see why. Let's say that Dan defies Peter Pan, marries Kathleen, and has two children. There is a 50% likelihood that this marriage will end in divorce within eight years, and if it does the odds are two to one that it will be Kathleen, not Dan, who initiates the divorce. It may not matter that Dan was a decent husband--studies show that few divorces are initiated over abuse or because the man has already abandoned the family. Nor is adultery cited as a factor by divorcing women appreciably more than by divorcing men. While the courts may grant Dan and Kathleen joint legal custody, the odds are overwhelming that it is Kathleen, not Dan, who will win physical custody. Over night Dan, accustomed to seeing his kids every day and being an integral part of their lives, will become a "14 percent dad"--a father who is allowed to spend only one out of every 7 days with his own children. Once divorced, odds are at least even that Dan's ex-wife will interfere with his visitation rights. Three-quarters of divorced men surveyed say their ex-wives have interfered with their visitation, and 40% of mothers studied admitted that they had done so, and that they had generally acted out of spite or in order to punish their exes. Kathleen will keep the house and most of the couple's assets. Dan will need to set up a new residence and pay a substantial portion of his take-home pay to Kathleen in child support. As bad as all of this is, it would still make Dan one of the lucky ones. After all, he could be one of those fathers who cannot see his children at all because his ex has made a false accusation of domestic violence, child abuse, or child molestation. Or a father who can only see his own children under supervised visitation or in nightmarish visitation centers where dads are treated like criminals. He could be one of those fathers whose ex has moved their children hundreds or thousands of miles away, in violation of court orders which courts often do not enforce. He could be one of those fathers who tears up his life and career again and again in order to follow his children, only to have his ex-wife continually move them. He could be one of the fathers who has lost his job, seen his income drop, or suffered a disabling injury, only to have child support arrearages and interest pile up to create a mountain of debt which he could never hope to pay off. Or a father who is forced to pay 70% or 80% of his income in child support because the court has imputed an unrealistic income to him. Or a dad who suffers from one of the child support enforcement system's endless and difficult to correct errors, or who is jailed because he cannot keep up with his payments. Or a dad who reaches old age impoverished because he lost everything he had in a divorce when he was middle-aged and did not have the time and the opportunity to earn it back. "It's a shame," Dan says. "I always wanted to be a father and have a family. But unless the laws change and give fathers the same right to be a part of their children's lives as mothers have, it just isn't worth the risk." This column first appeared in the Philadelphia Inquirer (7/5/02). Glenn Sacks' columns on men's and fathers' issues have appeared in dozens of America 's largest newspapers. Glenn can be reached via his website at www.GlennSacks.com or via email at Glenn@GlennSacks.com. Courtesy: http://www.glennsacks.com/have_antifather_family.htm more

Resolved Question: My husband videotaped me trying to initiate sex without my knowledge. Help!?

My husband rarely initiates sex anymore and I think he's leading a double life. Sometimes I try to initiate it just to prove myself right about the constant cheating and to also make sure he doesn't take advantage of me by letting weeks and weeks go by without giving me any. So last night I tried to initiate it because he refused to celebrate Valentine's (not even a card and he purposefully worked an 18 hour day) and it's been 2 weeks since we were together. I had no idea that he was using his i-phone to videotape me asking for it and getting on top of him. He said no and then literally pushed me away and yelled at me. I got the message after the third attempt and left him alone, but unfortunately he emailed the video of this. Additionally he captured me asking him not to leave the house because I always have to take care of our daughter and get no help, and I didn't think it was fair that he was wanting to leave after that when I did nothing wrong except ask my husband to make love to me. He said he hopes to eventually use this videotape as evidence against me in a custody trial. I've been so angry with the lack of intimacy, him not getting me anything for Valentine's, him using me for a green card, him not letting me be a stay at home mom, and him preventing me from having another child. So basically, I've been threatening to walk away from the marriage. I have before. I actually left and filed for divorce and lived apart from him for 9 months 2 years ago. He begged his way back and was actually nice for about 6 months after he returned home. He said that this videotape should make me think twice about my latest plan to leave. I guess I'm just supposed to take the abuse and stay trapped in a marriage where he cheats all the time and everything else. My question is can this video be used against me in a court of law and what can I do now?What happened is that we were watching TV and I asked my husband about having sex. Then, I went to the restroom to put on some perfume and headed to the bedroom where he had gone when I was in the restroom. The i-phone was under his pillow and he turned it on while I was in the restroom. The video of this is really only a audio recording, but he says things like "get off of me" and what not. I tried to get the phone out of his hand at one point when I realized he was recording it and he threatened to call 9-11. So he was able to record everything and then email it to himself through the i-phone.Just to add on to what I've already said, the reason he is going to these lengths is because when I left for 9 months it was because it was his second arrest for physically abusing me. I got a 1 year protective order against him and he lived at his office for 9 months and was forced to take anger management, and have supervised visits with our daughter. He spent that time using third parties to try to reconcile with me, made a big effort in the marriage and tried to prove to authorities that he had changed. Understand that had I pressed charges during either of his arrests, he would have been deported back home which was his reason for trying to work it out. If he hits me again, it will be a felony. So he's careful to just push and shove here and there, and intimidate me with this video and what not. more

Resolved Question: why illegal immigrant children still get instant citizenship?

why USA failed revoke instant citizenship for babies born from illegal aliens lets american people vote against this law and remove it. illegal alien babies born in USA are the fuel for thousands of illegal immigrants. instead of budgeting billions of dollars for border partrollng simply remove the law then there will be no illegal immigrant threat. and billions of tax abused on welfare and medicare will be saved. more

Resolved Question: Christianity.....................?

Okay - I am a person of learning, I love to learn, especially other cultures and religions, Im not sure why, but I do enjoy learning the way people think, and the way they live and why they live this way. Myself, I am Wiccan ( This word means CHILD OF NATURE. NOT WHORE OF SATAN, thank you VERY MUCH ) I spent a long time studying religions and I found this, and Buddhism was the one of felt closest to in beliefs and way of life, I am very happy in this religion, I do not wish to change, so do NOT try to force me or tell me otherwise. If you call me any names or try to tell me I will go to hell for this, I will report you and have you thrown off the site. Now, I have to admit I have always avoided Christianity since I was younger, after a brief spell at Sunday school, as I found its teachings unethical and sexist and a little hypo critic, but I decided to re educate myself with this religion as I do like to be intellectually and culturally aware of other people. Now, once again I have found this religion disturbing to say the the least, especially this chapter I found below: "Let your women keep silence in the churches;And when they heard that he spake in the Hebrew tongue to them, they kept the more silence; for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. [The law, Genesis 3:16, says, And thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.] And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home [not the pastor or other men or women]: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church...The things that I write unto you are the commandments of the Lord." (1 Cor. 14:34-35, 37). If women are not meant to ''speak'' or have any ''say or power'' then why is Mary also worshipped and had such an important role in the coming of jesus? I mean its like God rang her up and said: ''Okay here it is love, im gonna impregnate you, against your will, your probably gonna lose your husband and oh yeah, your never aloud to speak or have an opinion, that alright yeah?? I thought so, good stuff.'' Without women - there would be no human race, there would be no Jesus Christ. How are these teachings right and ethical? I have to submit myself to my husband and im not to speak or have the same rights as my husband and I must be RULED by my husband, regardless of the fact that without my sex, there would be no MAN in the first place? Its despicable. They say that god is Neutral and Un sexist - this verse in the bible contradicts that COMPLETELY! How can you subject your wife, your SOUL mate to these teachings? Without your wife, you wont get a son! You are taking us women for granted and it is WRONG. And what is this that if I wish to LEARN ANYTHING I must ask only my husband? My husband is NOT all knowing ( I do not have a husband, this is hypothetical, although i am engaged ), my husband can not teach me everything!!! Not to mention that most men cant even TURN ON a washing machine, never mind bake bread!!! I would like this verse explained in the way YOU see it please, I would like to hear how YOU justify these teachings. I will remind you I am not here to take abuse, so give it and I will report you. Thank you.I apologise for my APPALLING spelling and punctuation! Unfortunatly as much as I love learning I do get tired and sloppy with my typing! =] more

Resolved Question: i need help on my drivers test plz help?

. Substance abuse and addiction are called A. Public enemy number one B. A term for using drugs C. None of the above 2. If your license has been suspended, you must do the following to reinstate your license: A. Serve the period of suspension B. Pay any service fee in addition to any fines ordered by the Court C. All of the above 3. Close to 25% of fatalities on the road are related to alcohol. A. True B. False 4. The maximum speed limit in a business or residential district in Florida, unless otherwise posted, is 30 m.p.h. A. True B. False 5. Traffic collisions are the number one killer of children in America. A. True B. False 6. A driver is labeled a habitual traffic offender if they receive fifteen total traffic convictions within a five-year period. A. True B. False 7. Alcohol affects the Limbic portion of the brain by A. Making your vision blurry B. Relaxing your muscles C. Exaggerating emotional states 8. The No-Fault Law requires minimum insurance coverage of: A. $10,000 Personal Injury Protection and $10,000 Property Damage Liability B. $20,000 Personal Injury Protection and $20,000 Property Damage Liability C. No insurance 9. The best tool to extinguish a small gasoline or diesel fire is a portable fire extinguisher. A. True B. False 10. Depressants are very similar to the effects of alcohol A. True B. False 11. If your hood flies up while you are driving, blocking your view of the road, you should A. stop the car immediately, get out and put your hood down. B. slow down and peer through the crack in the hood or put your head out the side window. C. maintain your speed and drive using your mirrors until you can find a service station. 12. When you drive through deep water, you should dry out your brakes by driving slowly in low gear and apply your brakes lightly. A. True B. False 13. The shape of a sign warns you of what is ahead: A. True B. False 14. If you find your brakes failing, which of the following should you NOT do? A. Pump your brake pedal hard and fast. B. Apply your parking brake sharply. C. Rub your tires up against the curb to slow down. 15. When attempting to pass another car safely, you should always exceed the posted speed limit. A. True B. False 16. You may lose your drivers license if you accumulate too many points on your driving record. A. True B. False 17. Narcotics are A. Not addictive B. Very addictive C. Sometimes addictive 18. Alcohol related crashes cost the public _____. A. $10 million B. $100 billion C. $116 billion 19. Passing a stopped school bus will result in ______ points on your license. A. Three B. Four C. Six 20. People who worry that a safety belt wrinkles their clothes can: A. Place a small hand towel or handkerchief between them and the seat belt B. Drive with one hand and hold the belt away from them with the other C. Wear only their lap belt 21. A Hospital sign is an example of a _____ sign. A. Regulatory B. Warning C. Guide 22. If one of your tires blows out, you should apply your brakes immediately. A. True B. False 23. Examples of traffic controls are: A. Signs or road markings B. Signals C. All of the above 24. If you accumulate too many points on your license, it will be: A. Canceled B. Suspended C. Revoked 25. If you approach a railroad track where the gate has come down or lights are flashing, you should stop: A. Before you are 50 feet from the track. B. Between 15-50 feet from the track. C. Within 6 feet of the track 26. The best tool to extinguish a small gasoline or diesel fire is a portable fire extinguisher. A. True B. False 27. If you hit a car from behind you are usually legally at fault A. True B. False 28. A limit line marks a crosswalk and the beginning of an intersection. A. True B. False 29. If two cars get to a 4-way stop intersection at the same time, which car should be yielded the right-of-way. A. Car on the right. B. Car on the left. C. Car making a turn. 30. Driving under the influence of anger can be as dangerous as driving under the influence of alcohol A. True B. False 31. A diamond lane on the freeway is called a High Occupancy or HOV lane A. True B. False 32. Which of the following is not available to the public A. Record of your mental health B. Record of all your violations and crashes C. Record of impaired driving convictions 33. Which of the following is NOT very helpful if you find a car or motorcycle approaching you in your lane. A. Sound your horn and flash your lights. B. Brake sharply. C. Put your car into reverse. 34. Alcohol is a stimulant A. True B. False 35. A pool of standing water could be hiding A. flash flood currents that could sweep your car away. B. deep sinkholes. C. all of the above. 36. If you accumulate too many points on your license, it will be: A. Canceled B. Suspended C. Revoked 37. Clo more

Resolved Question: need to know if i have a law suit for racial discrimination and child abuse against oklahoma dhs?

my child got abused in oklahoma dhs custody and my case worker said some racial remarks about me and my husband in front of a witness who came to testify in court ( a lady from tps) he didn't know she was going into the court room on our behalf, and she was upset, do we have a case? more

Resolved Question: was i physically abused? my counselor refuses to tell me?

what happened was my moms dad hadrecently died and she was really upset about it, and even more that i didnt seem to care because i didnt try to console her. thing is, i dont cry when ppl die (because its inevitable), i never really met him, and this has never happened to anyone i knew so i didnt know how to react. anyway, we were having a wakekeeping at our house for him, and my mom wanted me to clean the gameroom because the adults bring their children. well the way i clean is that i take everything out and put it in the middle of the room, THEN i figure out where they belong. well i got tired of it and went downstairs to eat, and my mom saw the "mess", and she confronted me with yelling and telling me that she was going to kill me and herself right now (and she was YELLING this) and since i was already sitting in the dining chair so she shoved me backwards against the wall and was yelling at me and slapping me and spitting in my face. this was 2 years ago and i still refuse to talk to her even though she still tells me she loves me. thing is, she NEVER apologized. ever. i told my counselor about this just recently and she said that by law she had to contact cps about it. she later told me that cps wont do anything about it since it was long ago and nothing is happening anymore since. but they still stored in on her record. my counselor wont tell me if this is physical abuse, so what do you think? also this incident still pains me so where can i go for help? thanks in advance. more

Resolved Question: How many more of our children will have to die before our border laws are taken seriously by those sworn?

How many more of our children will have to die before our border our laws are taken seriously by those sworn defend both? Illegal alien Francis Hernandez is on trial this week in Arapahoe County District Court for an automobile crash that resulted in the deaths of three people, including a 3-year-old boy. Francis Hernandez, faces a total of 19 charges, including vehicular homicide, leaving the scene of an accident involving death, and child abuse resulting in death. On September 10, 2008, the parents of 3-year-old Marten Kudlis buried their son at Fairmount Cemetery, a few days earlier, he was killed while waiting for his ice cream in an Aurora Baskin and Robbins. An SUV speeding through the intersection of Havana and Mississippi, with Guatemalan national Francis Hernandez at the wheel, slammed into a pickup truck, which was then pushed into the ice cream shop´s window. The toddler was sitting at a table in front of that window, and was sent flying as the truck came crashing through it. Police say that Hernandez was traveling at a speed of at least 70 mph. After the crash, police say Hernandez jumped from his Chevy Suburban and fled the scene. He was later apprehended without incident. Marten was taken to the hospital, but died a short time later due to massive internal injuries. The two women in the pickup truck struck by Hernandez were Patricia Guntharp, 49, and Debra Serecky, 51. They were both pronounced dead at the scene. KMGH of Denver covered the child´s funeral and reported that the first song heard during the service was Eric Clapton´s "Tears in Heaven." In a heart wrenching display of grief and anger, Marten´s mother Marat Kudlis shouted: “That bastard!,” referring to the illegal alien believed responsible for killing her son. Between the tears, Marten´s father cried out: “I really loved him.” The rabbi conducting the service told the heartbroken family and friends: “This burden feels like more than we can bear because it is so sudden. It´s a parent´s worst nightmare. It does not seem fair and it is not fair to lose someone so young.” A teddy bear was placed in the tiny open casket which held Marten´s body. Following the funeral, many of the mourners returned to the crash site, which became a makeshift memorial, filled with flowers, stuffed animals, and cards with expressions of sympathy and support for the Kudlis family. One of those mourners, Duane Stokes, told a KMGH reporter: “I helped pull Marten out of the building. I was right there with him. He squeezed my hand. I held his hand until he passed on. My fiance and I were just saying a prayer to Marten and just getting one last glimpse of everything around here. Just to say goodbye to him.” Marten´s death hit the community hard and his funeral was attended by many people who had never even met him, but were saddened and angered by his senseless death. Hernandez who has 12 aliases and two dates of birth, has been arrested an astonishing 19 times since 2003. The Colorado Bureau of Investigation has also, confirmed that Hernandez has been arrested by nine different police departments. Despite his lengthy arrest record and illegal status in this country, Hernandez has never been deported, nor have deportation proceedings ever been started against him. The police report shows that after Hernandez ran from the scene, he phoned his girlfriend, Brenda Aleman, asking her to come pick him up at a local Hooter´s restaurant. The report reads: “(He) stated after the accident he was scared and fled the scene, he was afraid he would be taken to jail because he had no insurance, no driver's license and that would prevent him from seeing his kids.” Hernandez and Aleman have two small children. It should be noted that the Congressional Research Service has classified both Aurora and nearby Denver, CO, as a “sanctuary cities.” The term refers to a policy taken by cities which refuse to inquire into an arrestee´s immigration status, or a refusal to inform federal authorities when a suspect in custody is believed to be or known to be an illegal alien. Shortly after little Marten‘s death, retired Congressman (R-CO) and former presidential candidate Tom Tancredo said that Denver Mayor John Hickenlooper, as well as Colorado Gov. Bill Ritter "have blood on their hands." While both Hickenlooper and Ritter have long been criticized for their opposition to enforcement of our immigration laws, Gov. Ritter tried to deflect any attention from his office onto the federal government and called Tancredo´s comments “out of bounds.” In response, Tancredo issued the following statement: “While it might be politically expedient to blame Washington for what happened this week or to characterize my criticism of him as ´out of bounds,´ the fact remains that Gov. Ritter is in charge of enforcing and keeping Coloradans safe. It´s time for Gov. Ritter to take concrete steps to ensure that illegal aliens like Franwhy not ask the same question about the police and the rest of the local legal system, given that this fool was arrested 19 times since 2003. Are they somehow less culpable? George do your own work and go ask why, I do not need to since I already know why. more

Resolved Question: I don't know how to deal with my sister in law?

She just split up with my brother and she keeps trying to badmouth him to me like she thinks I'm going to take her side against my own brother! In the past I've supported her when I felt he was being unreasonable but at this point I don't think he is being unreasonable and she's telling lies about my family and upsetting our mother and using access to the children as a weapon against him. She meets strangers on the internet for sex she'll call him in the early hours of the morning and demand that he (a non-driver) come to her house to collect the kids so that she can go out and party with people that she calls F*ck buddies that she meets online. He has to work, he can't be woken up unexepectedly in the middle of the night to come and babysit and then be badmouthed because he 'let the babies down' if he didn't agree to come over in the middle of the night to take the babies so she can party. I struggle with how much I dislike her right now and I'm thinking that I can't say anything because she's a mean person who twists everything and tells loads of lies and I don't want her to stop me seeing my nephews and neice. She pretended to have a serious medical condition and because I work at the hospital and have had genuine reason to access her medical notes on more than one occasion I know that she's lying badly. She pretends that she had a blood clot on the lungs or a brain lesion and uses these fake medical conditions for sympathy and to force my elderly and genuinely ill mother to look after the children but I know she's lying and I can't even say anything about it because of patient condidentiality. But the stress is really getting to my mother. My mother was told to not have any sudden shocks as she has a heart condition and this woman is calling her drunk in the middle of the night and screaming abuse at her. I want to find a way to deal with this situation in a mature and sensible way but I get so emotional when she upsets my mum and I just feel like I want to slap her face. I don't know how to deal with her. It would be easy to just explode and scream at her but then I'd lose contact with her kids (my neice and nephews). I feel like I really need to keep control of myself because if I allowed myself to express my anger towards her then I'd just explode. She is 25 and weighs 32 stone and she posts pornographic videos of herself eating chocolate cake and doing sex acts on websites that cater for men who like larger women. I need to deal with her but I need to get over my emotions because getting angry isn't going to resolve this situation is it?Hey Sheak, well I’m totally not religious but how could I possibly be offended by a good man who speaks from the heart? You’re clearly not prejudiced against me for not being religious and I’m only too keen to repay the respect there right back at you! I have to work very hard and I don’t get a lot of time but I will take your advice to try and make time for her in a non confrontational way. It’s difficult because although I’m not a Christian I do dislike the concept of hatred and I try very hard to not hate but it’s a lifestyle thing rather than a religious thing. I just don’t want to have hatred and feel like it’s not right but I also feel so much anger and resentment and I really want to keep control of my emotions. It’s how she upsets my mother! I feel like now that I’m an adult it is my job to protect my mother and she’s younger than me and I feel like I should be doing something to stop her from being allowed to upset my mother! But I just get angry and emotional and don’t know more

Resolved Question: My boyfriend is over-involved w/his ex(w/whom he has children) and now his mother want her 2 spend the night.?

So this is a long and bizarre story. I have known this guy for seventeen years an prior to our romantic involvement that started less than two years ago, I had no interest in him although he has always liked me. We are in our thirties now. I have a 10 yr. old from a previous relationship. We have always been friends however had huge gaps in our correspondence because I had a child, he went away to college, worked nightshift and got married. When we were 27(we are the same age) he got a seventeen yr. old girl pregnant and married her. It turned out to be a tumultous marriage. She physically abused him while he was in the military and living on base. She would hurt him and them call the police. She drank heavily, partied, cheated on him(even took out a loan for a lover putting up the family car for collateral). The biggest deal though was that she hid an entire pregnancy from him. They had already been married, had one child (who was 20 months old at siblings conception), and one abortion they both participated in. He was deployed part of the time. She didn't even tell her identical twin or mother(with whom she is close) that she was pregnant even though she moved back home to live and work with him during part of the deployment. She sought no medical attention even though it was free. Her first baby had been born via emergency C-section. She told no one she was pregnancy and also did not seek alternative care. She also binge-drank vodka on several occasions. In fact she came back home w/him when she was seven and a half months, and attended a large party thrown by his parents for her older child, surrounded by multiple relatives and told nobody. Two months later he is in one of his training classes and is pulled out by a superior and told his wife is going into labor. He is not sure if this baby is his, she looks NOTHING like her sister but he raises her as his own. She assumes he is involved with me one day(which he isn't) and sends me multiple harassing and vulgar text messages. Anyway, after the delivery, 14 months later he comes home for a three week leave on a fifteen month tour and she tells him she doesn't love him anymore and wants a divorce. He is devastated but eventually relents. He and I are not involved at this point. She makes harassing phone calls to me. He asks her about it. She denies it. They are now divorced. In 2008, they arranged a custody agreement for him to have the children five days a week. They come back from their mother's home disheveled and often dirty. They look tacky(but she doesn't), their hair is unbrushed and their nails overgrown with dirt underneath. This is amongst other neglectful behaviors. His mother becomes very angry with the ex daughter in-law because she has taken them on weekends when he is in Iraq and witnesses their commonly unacceptable appearance and mannerisms. When son returns(after leaving military for good to be with his children), he and his mother have a huge falling out due to his renewed relationship w/his children now that he will no longer have to be away from them. His mother have previously hated his ex-wife due to the wife squandering thousands(of husband's and mother-in-law's money), hateful, disrespectful language from the ex-wife, and continued neglect of the children. His mother decided to have bad will against me because I was an emotionally supportive friend of his and as he spent more time with his children, she seemed to become angrier. Well, I became pregnant. He and I now live together and have a child together. His ex-wife repeatedly calls her ex-husband for trivial matters even though she continues to neglect the children. She also repeatedly invited him for dinner. We reside in the old neighborhood in which I grew up. She invited him to go trick-or-treating with her(but didn't invite me) and said to him she would love to go trick-or-treating in my neighborhood but didn't want to run into me. He said nothing to her about this. She also has said disrespectful things about me to the children. He has said nothing about this. I have continually cared(meaning I take care of them)for her children by him in spite of the ugly way she has treated me. I have given them baths, have done their hair, dressed them, taken them to different activities, read to them. I don't expect praise. I just know that all children need to feel loved. I also do not speak poorly about her to the children. It is clear she is emotionally unstable though. The year where his mother stopped speaking to him, she then decided to like his ex-wife again. I now have a baby with him(I know). I decided to let bygones be bygones and let her meet her grandchild. His mother trivializes the abuse the wife has enacted against her son and overlooks the neglect she enacts towards the grandchildren. His ex-wife told him about the last time she had sex, how she was pregnant last year. It iBlending a family is an investment, right? I have my problems with this guy(who I am planning on leaving). We have are own problems. However if he was hitting her, it would not be trivialized as just a "flaw". When CPS, was called on her, the case was closed. People don't like to think of women as abusers. I can see, as an abuse vitime, he appears to be relating to her the same way as in marriage-as a vitime-walking on eggshells. However I think he sends her mixed messages and he thinks he doesn't. He spent Thanksgiving in her family's home, he attended a birthday party with her, went to his child's school event with her. I understand, that it is important to get along for the sake of the children, but she uses the children to have a relationship with her. She gets irritated that he doesn't spend more time with her. How is telling him the last time she had sex have anything to do with the children? His mother abused him, so it isn't surprising he stayed with a woman who didI mean she uses the children to have a relationship with him. He doesn't see it as inappropriate to text her at an odd hour or talk to her late at night, unrelated to the children. Also, he said when it comes to his mother offering her to spend the night, it is "none" of his business even though his Mom told him to tell it to her. Also, less than 1% of women conceal pregnancies to that degree, so it would appear to be more than just simply a "flaw".He has custody most days except she has them late afternoon Sunday through Tuesday morning.He has custody most days except she has them late afternoon Sunday through Tuesday morning. more

Resolved Question: Regarding Massachusetts law, Can a restraining order, or stay away order be issued against a child?

My son is being harassed and bullied by a kid that lives only 3 houses away from mine. Issues at the school and on the bus were resolved as best as they could be. But, issues at the bus stop and when my child are outside playing have not been resolved. I have changed bus stops to prevent anymore bullying there, this allows my son to walk to the bus stop and wait without being harassed or punched, and also allows him to come home without being harassed or punched as well. I also filed a private complaint against the child for harassment and I am waiting for a return phone call from the head of the Juvenile Department. At this point I would like to know if I can obtain a restraining order against this child to force him to stay away from my child and my property? The police officer that I spoke to said he thinks that we cant, but he was unsure about it because he was not an expert in regards to laws dealing with juveniles. In what way can I legally protect my child against this bully? Can I obtain some form of a legal document that prevents a child from harassing, physically abusing or communicating with another child? more

Resolved Question: Is raising a child Catholic no longer working to have them grow up as Catholics?

It used to be the Catholic church would tell other Catholics to have lots of kids, cause they would raise their kids to be Catholics and thus you have 1 billion Catholics now. But now thanks to child abuse laws and laws against capitol punishment being raised "Catholic" doesn't necessarily mean the child will grow up Catholic. I mean how can you convince your child that condoms don't help prevent the spread of STDs if a Nun can't hit them with a yard stick for asking. Or how can you tell your child Jesus is the son of God and the Pope is just a servant of God, without hitting your child for asking. Or how can you tell them that science is wrong about the age of the world without threatening their life with a belt for asking. Catholics I feel your child's pain, or lack there of. How can we create a confused Catholic child without using violence against our children and then teaching them that we believe violence is wrong? more

Resolved Question: Needing PA laws regarding divorce, custody & classifications for child abandonment?

I have a family member that has been in a horrible situation/marriage. He has 2 kids, ages 14 & 12. His wife & their mother has had years of known drug abuse, identity theft charges, theft & drug trafficking charges and is currently on probation. He has had his fair share of issues too, and not the perfect one. He has been trying to straighten his life out. He began drinking beer due to depression under the circumstances they were living, She insisted that they move to PA because her mother has recently leaving there. He did not want to move, but wanted to be with his kids. He ended up moving, leaving his entire family 1700 miles aways. He has been absolutely miserable since. In 2007, her mother passed away & then there was a big within her family. She repeatedly would emotionally & mentally abuse him, so he continued to drink beer. She would call him names in front of the kids and tell the kids he was nothing but a drunk and did not care about them. He would just tolerate the abuse and drown in beer and kept quiet. Recently he discovered that she was leaving in his truck in the middle of the night (3a.m.) & receiving calls at odd hours and meeting to purchase drugs, while he was home asleep with the kids. When he confronted her, she began screaming and threatening him. She attempted to hit him and reached up to protect himself and keep her from hitting him. She told the youngest child "Look he i s trying to hit me". The child took a chair and hit her father., which upset him and he told her he would never hit the mother but was trying to keep the mother from hitting him. She then took a beer and threw it against the wall and started screaming, turn on a video camera and pretended that he was throwing beer bottles at her and video taped the beer bottled and floor and screamed. Anyway, long story I know, he finally had to call his parents crying, begging for a plane ticket to come home to keep from doing anything stupid, he walked away. The kids wanted to stay in PA because of their friends & school. He said they were safe with her, but she had gone psycho. He flew home to get his had together and she has continuously called & texted him and other family members using profanity and threatening statements. She refuses to let the kids talk to him and when he does manage to get one on the phone, she hollers & screams the entire time. When he calls, she will tell him the kids do not want to talk to him, curses him and he has to hang up. He had recently been on unemployment because he had a work injury. 1 week after he was home, he received his unemployment check. He sent all but $300.00 to her, totaling $900.00 to her and $800.00 to the renter that owns the place she & kids are still living in, because he wanted to make sure the kids were not on the street. Less than 1 week later, she called cursing him wanting more money. She threatened him and told him she was filing felony charges in PA for child abandonment, because they had no money or food. He has provided her with money but she has told the kids their daddy wants them to starve and want send them money. My question is In the state of PA, is this really child abandonment? Does he have a chance or legal rights? She told him tonight that if he did not send her more money, she was filing charges tomorrow and she had full custody of the kids and did not have to let him see them, stating he gave up his rights. He needs much legal advice. He feels she must have spent the money of drugs, to go through $900.00 in less than a week. He has no money and needs help. Since he has been with his family, his entire demeanor has changed. The obsessive drinking has stop, he his happy with the exception of missing his 2 children and her continuous threats. PLEASE HELP more

Voting Question: Does anyone know how many law suits have been brought against CPS and won?

Why aren't there penalties for CPS when they wrongfully decide a child's non-custodian parent is reporting wrong doing because they are bitter or angry parents? When there really is abuse or neglect involved. How are the children being compensated mentally and physically? They aren't...mental state and physical well being is priceless! They should pay out to the wrongfully accused parent so that they can make sure the abused or neglected child receives the proper care. The system is set up to fail the children. There should be new laws and the old laws need to be abolished. The old laws do not suit every situation. There need to be new guidelines. Anyone who has dealt with CPS can tell you they are just lazy people looking to collect a check. more

Resolved Question: cps laws on being pregnant and custody?

my girlfriend has an open cps case for child abuse and lost custody of her son. she did not commit the charge so it is being dragged on in court. she is pregnant with my kid now ( the charge is against her son with a different guy ) and will be due in September. will she be forced to give up custody of our kid even though it has nothing to do with the current case. again cps can not prove that she committed child abuse. what will happen with our baby will she loose custody ? more

Resolved Question: I have evil in-laws...I would like solid advice to stop or lessen the cycle of never ending abuse.?

latest example: I was throwing a football party for family and friends on Sunday. I did my grocery shopping for this event Wednesday and had a complete menu all planned out. My rotten sister-in-law called and announced that her and her husband were staying home and we could invite our friends to come to her house b/c she had already told the family and they were coming to her house since they had all been @ my house the previous weekend. She never liked football but, decided a few years ago that she wanted to particpate in the gatherings anyhow. So, there I was with all that food and my husband didn't want the family and friends too have to choose between houses, he told me and her it was fine. I told him it was not fine with me and that I was going to a girlfriends and he pleaded that he really wanted me with him. I made part of my food and froze the rest and went under protest. After my two BIL's tried to pick arguments w/me, that evening packing up to leave the SIL's house, I decided to let her know that I was disappointed that she changed the plans. She let me know that she had no remorse, that she feels that I am taking her brother away from the family, and that I am turning him against them! Rotten stuff like this along with horrible comments have been coming from her and the BIL's all these years and I was hoping that all of them would mellow with age but, it hasn't happened! I love my husband very much and he defends me but, it is always a yelling match. The MIL & FIL condone their kids' actions no matter what; which, make them even worse to deal with! BTW all are divorced but the SIL and my husband & I feel sorry for the SIL's husband for having to put up w/her. Staying away doesn't help either b/c it is only a temporary fix! I always tried to be the bigger person by looking the other way but, sometimes it is just too much to take and I have to voice my hurt feelings! The disrespectful treatment must end. I don't want our children growing up thinking this is the way families are supposed to treat each other. I tell my son every time their behavior is unacceptable that it is UNACCEPTABLE and not to settle for it! Does anyone have any sincere advice? Plz don't reply if you were raised to be a bully to get your way! Thxno1adv: You are not a sincere person and very unchristian. If you read, try looking up Gen 2:24. Giving bad advice about a particularly hard subject is something for grown up to answer. Respect is something his family has never learned the meaning of and I am not able to teach it, so, they are pushing him away. I am not taking. He is walking away of his own accord. more

Voting Question: christian and atheist what do you think of this quotes from the founding fathers on religion?

quotes for religion It is impossible to rightly govern the world without god or the bible George Washington It cannot be emphasized too strongly or too often that this great nation was founded not by religionist but by christians not on religions but on the gospel of Jesus Christ Patrick Henry The moral principles contained in the scriptures out to form the basis of all are civil constitutions and laws Noah webster Education shout teach the precepts of religion and the duties of man towards God Governor Morris Quotes against religion I think vital religion has always suffered when orthodoxy is more regarded than virtue. The scriptures assure me that at the last day we shall not be examined on what we thought but what we did." Benjamin franklin "If we look back into history for the character of the present sects in Christianity, we shall find few that have not in their turns been persecutors, and complainers of persecution. The primitive Christians thought persecution extremely wrong in the Pagans, but practiced it on one another. The first Protestants of the Church of England blamed persecution in the Romish Church, but practiced it upon the Puritans. They found it wrong in Bishops, but fell into the practice themselves both here (England) and in New England." Benjamin Franklin Lighthouses are more helpful than churches." Millions of innocent men, women and children, since the introduction of Christianity, have been burnt, tortured, fined, imprisoned; yet we have not advanced an inch towards uniformity. What has been the effect of coercion? To make one half the world fools, and the other half hypocrites. To support roguery and error all over the earth." Thomas Jefferson "I almost shudder at the thought of alluding to the most fatal example of the abuses of grief which the history of mankind has preserved-- the Cross. Consider what calamities that engine of grief has produced!" John Adams What do you think of these quotesġoiиġ ∩υтs & alгeaḋy CяคzУ millions of people have died in the name of religion no one has died in the name of science people may have died because of science but that is totally different more

Resolved Question: Should parents be held accountable?

The latest case against 2 boys in care who horrifically abused 2 others in the UK has seen the police/courts take unusual steps to look at charging their parents for neglect and abuse which led them to behave in the way that they did. Both children witnessed domestic violence against their mother and were sometimes subject to abuse themselves, they were able to access alcohol and view porn from a young age. I think this is a new and welcome development but I'm not sure whether they'll do this just for high profile cases or any serious case. I'm also not so sure it will be an easy decision for the courts - most children do things for a reason, but some children have loving parents and then go bad and no-one knows what went wrong...some people are born with a disposition for violence, some may have an unknown form of autism or brain damage. This potential "law suit" has many implications/connotations. What are your thoughts? more

Resolved Question: GPS implants to save kids?

Here's the scenario: One year ago, a few blocks from my house, a little girl was abducted from a family picnic. Her father chased after the van that grabbed the girl. The police were immediately dispatched, but no one was able to find the van. Two days later, the van was found in the mountains at a man's house. The body of the little girl was found behind the man's house. He had raped and killed her. I also saw a story tonight about a teenage girl who almost got abducted and sold into the sex slavery trade. She escaped, but what if she hadn't? If she'd been secretly swept out of the U.S. to God-knows-where, how could her family save her from years of sexual torcher and ultimately murder at the hands of her abductor? I don't have children yet, but these stories scare me to death. I often wonder what I could do to protect my children if they ever end up in a predicament like this. You can't bet that they will have a cellphone in their pocket. And although I will watch my children like a hawk, what if something goes wrong? What if somehow, my child ends up in one of these horrible predicaments, hoping that someone will save them? Everyone howls against having something like a GPS implant for kids, but for me, I would want something like this that would allow law enforcement to track a child that goes missing. I'm curious... what sort of tracking system would you like in place if your daughter or son was abducted? I think we need to come up with a system that would allow abducted children to be tracked, but it needs to be something that can't be abused by parents or the government. What sort of system would you dream up? Please take in mind that if an easily identifiable system (id bracelets) were in place for all children, the perpetrators would simply remove these objects as soon as they captured the children. more

Resolved Question: If he wanted you on strings, he would have made a place for those strings to be connected?

Did everyone fraction off as said in the Quran translation here in English and each content with what whty have chosen? If so, then what is the problem, is it not as Allah SWT has said and given? Ouzibillahi Min shytan Al Rajeem Bismillahi Al Rahman Al Raheem 23 : 53 But the people cleaved the religion into fragments and each group is content with the tenets which they have chosen 23 : 51 51. Ya ayyuha alrrusulu kuloo mina alttayyibati waiAAmaloo salihan innee bima taAAmaloona AAaleemun O you Messengers! Eat of the clean things which We have given you and perform righteous deeds for verily I am aware of what you do! 23 : 52 52. Wa-inna hathihi ommatukum ommatan wahidatan waana rabbukum faittaqooni And verily your religion is the same religion for all and I am your Lord so revere Me! 23 : 53 53. FataqattaAAoo amrahum baynahum zuburan kullu hizbin bima ladayhim farihoona But the people cleaved the religion into fragments and each group is content with the tenets which they have chosen. 23 : 54 54. Fatharhum fee ghamratihim hatta heenin So (O Mohammed) let them remain sunk in their stupor for a while! 23 : 55 55. Ayahsaboona annama numidduhum bihi min malin wabaneena Think they that, by blessing them with affluence and progeny - 23 : 56 56. NusariAAu lahum fee alkhayrati bal la yashAAuroona We rush towards them the good things in life? Nay! They do not glean! (The verse forces us into deeper thought by reminding us that, if Allah blesses us with wealth and children, they are not necessarily good things. Wealth corrupts, and excessive wealth corrupts excessively. For, how many wealthy men have we not known who abused their affluence towards leading a life of sin, debauchery, deceit, mendacity, vice and immorality, treason and transgression! How many sons have we not witnessed who plotted against their fathers, conspired with their enemies, stole from them, committed murder in order to lay their hands upon their wealth in a haste rather than wait until it was given to them by the Law, by the Shariyyah and by way of their birth-right! How many daughters have we not heard about who forsook their parents in preference to strangers, who brought upon them opprobrium by their sinful deeds and plunged them into disgrace! The verse echoes a stringent warning to all of us that we should take our blessings with a pinch of salt and desist from revelling in them to such an extent that we forget Him who gave them to us and forget that He who gave them to us can also take them away from us because nothing in life is permanent; life itself is not permanent; the wealth which we cherish is not permanent; the children we care for are not permanent and the wives whom we love and respect are not permanent!) Even if mankind today tells you one way or another, does not Allah SWT right here show you a path that is unrefutable? more

Resolved Question: How can you stop a cop from harassing you?

My ex-boyfriend is a cop working in internal affairs. We have a child together but I left him before I knew I was pregnant. He's controlling, verbally abusive, abuses his authority and knows enough about the law to keep me afraid and in a constant state of paranoia. He makes veiled threats against me, he has threatened suicide to get me back and has thrown things at me. His new thing is to obtain the child's personal records to obtain my personal information. I'd like to file paperwork against him but we haven't finalized the parenting agreement nor have we agreed on custody. His financial status is well above mine and I'm concerned that if I upset him, he'll wage a long court battle against me. Any guidance and/or information would be greatly appreciated. more

Resolved Question: How does being reported to Child Services effect your "record", if it was confirmed accidental?

My kids (boy-10, girl-5) have had the worst luck with getting hurt. My son, has had several black eyes in the past 2-3 years. I would say maybe 4 to 5 (one of which required a visit to the emergency room and stitches). Although each one has happened either at daycare or school. My poor baby girl at only 3 had the worst black eye, well actually "black-side-of-face", it looked so bad I almost fainted, her poor little eye was swollen shut and both eyes were black...but again this happened at daycare. All accidental, I love their daycare and school..but lets face it, just as some adults some kids are a little more clumsy. So the last black eye my son had was two weeks ago. When I went to meet him after school, I saw he had this huge black eye. Poor kid, said he was playing basketball and "girls have hard heads", apparently a little girl that was playing against him, head-butted accidentally. They sent him to the nurses office and gave him an ice pack. Sorry for the rambling, I promise I'm getting to the point. Monday evening him and his dad were being boys and my husband was teasing (in a playful manner) holding his forehead. Just like on TV where he pinwheels his arms as he's being held back by his head. EXCEPT my husband though he was being funny, and said "look with only two fingers, I'm stronger than Superman". Again all playful and fun. My son pulls back when my husband was still holding strong, and he accidentally poked him in the eye. My son never cried, and we didnt see a thing. The next morning I took him early to school as he's a student councel representative. Didnt notice a thing. Well, I'm sure by now you figured out exactly what happened. When I met him after school that same day, I noticed his eye turning black. I paused for a moment thinking it was just the one he had before, but NO. It was the opposite eye that the girl bumped. I asked him what happened. Immediatly said nothing. Well c'mon parents we know that's not Nothing. So of course, I told him he needed to tell me what happened and he spits out. Dad did it. Well as you can image, my eyes were popping out of my head and my face turned into an angry mad womens face. Seeing this, he quickly stated "no no no...it was an accident, when dad was holding my forehead. My husband is not violent at all. If anything I'm the aggresor of the relationship. So, I calmed down, told him if he felt okay, and we proceeded as usual. I didn't even think about it, well, wrong move. Parents if your kids accidentally get injured in any part of the body that is exposed...it's probably better to tell their teachers/caregivers when you drop him/her off! The next day, after school got out, his teacher called to let me know she was sincerely sorry, she was obligated by law to report the insedent, and that she told them what my son told her, and she says that she gave her opinion that there was no reason to believe otherwise. He has never come to school with bruises or serious injuries, he only comes home from school with them. So I wasn't concerned. She apologized up the wazoo, so I reasurred her not too worry. The way that I felt was, she was doing her job. I do think it is better safe than sorry, This policy is very important to the kids who ARE being abused. It gives them a safety-net. I felt confident, because we have nothing to hide and accidents happen. I notified the daycare, of the situation. They do care for our children and I'm assuming they would be interviewed. They were shocked that the teacher called it in. Every other teacher was telling me no, they do not by law have to call it in, but they do have to use their best judgement. Which then in-turn began to scare me. I do not believe in diciplining with physical abuse. I think that it is discusting and an embarrasement to man-kind. I have always felt this way. I was adopted and raised around foster children, some of which were terribly abused. Some of which should never have been taken from their parents...and many many poorly handled cases. Well I've been expecting someone from Child Services to show up on our door step and 3 days pass by and I figure well, they must be taking his teachers opinion seriously and I've got nothing to be concerned about. Then, my son tells me after school on the 4th day that some people had come to talk to him at school. My son, (god bless his heart) is a goof-ball and since I down-played the situation with him. Telling him only that someone may stop by and may ask him some questions, but it's no big deal, everything is cool and to be honest and polite. Well, I'm not asking questions, I'm just letting him explain what had happened. In his own words without letting on that it was actually a very serious situation. So, he proceeds to tell me how the lady asked him, "Has anything like this ever happened before?" and he replied, "hmmm...uuuuuuhm, nope, I don't THINK so". (as he pretended to stroke his fingers on his chin, thinking style). My jaw hit the f more

Voting Question: How would I go about getting my girls back?

Hi, My divorce was final on March 24, 2008 and my ex ended up with 2 of the children (the girls) and I ended up with our son. The divorce was an Act 130 case. I filed for a domestic abuse injunction the day I left and it was granted for 4 years. According to the state law, it states that anyone with a domestic abuse injunction against them is not to have any custody of minor children. According to the state law I had to give 60 day notice before moving which I did and my son received a birthday card the day after I sent the letter stating from my ex that is fine with him if he (our son) moved out of state with mom (me) but received no response to the letter I sent giving 60 day notice. I waited 6 weeks still no response so I moved out of state. I would like to know how I would go about getting my girls back? more

Voting Question: How would I be able to get my girls back?

Hi, My divorce was final on March 24, 2008 and my ex ended up with 2 of the children (the girls) and I ended up with our son. The divorce was an Act 130 case. I filed for a domestic abuse injunction the day I left and it was granted for 4 years. According to the state law, it states that anyone with a domestic abuse injunction against them is not to have any custody of minor children. According to the state law as was I had to give 60 day notice before moving which I did and my son received a birthday card the day after I sent the letter stating from my ex that is fine with him if he (our son) moved out of state with mom (me) but received no response to the letter I sent giving 60 day notice. I waited 6 weeks still no response so I moved out of state. I would like to know how I would go about getting my girls back? more

Resolved Question: Strathclyde Police Refusing to Prosecute Child Attacker? What can I do?

Sorry this is long winded but here goes. Tonight whilst collecting my 7 yo child from an after school care, my car was blocked in by a man shouting abuse that I was blocking his driveway. (I have pictures proving it was about 3 feet from the entrance. Anyway, he got out his car, put his head in mine and screamed causing my terrified daughter to start crying. I got out and asked him to stop terrifying kids. He swore, said he didn't care about my child, put his car in gear and rammed my car at full speed. I of course ran to free my daughter and called the police. Now Scotland's finest, have called me and said that if I insist he is charged I will also be charged for breech of the peace for shouting and "swearing" (I don't ever swear) The police also pointed out that as my employment requires police checks, that would not do me any good. (I would not only be sacked but be unable to gain employment in the same type of work.) Now I would never suggest that because the man was in a big flash BMW, lived in a very big house and was in an expensive looking suit got off with assaulting my daughter with a deadly weapon because he had money, but I do wonder how far he could have gone before they would do anything. My question is, under Scottish law is there anything I can do? I would like to make an official complaint against the police but feel I may be charged with breech of the peace out of badness.PS, I do admit I was parked on yellow lines which I could not see in the darkness and with snow covering the ground, so my car should not have been there. The man however managed to reverse into his drive without problem.PC involved called me back tonight at 11pm to ask what I wanted to do. I politely said that I felt forced into dropping the issue as he agreed it could affect my employment but I am annoyed that police willing to allow man off scot free for endangering a childs life. He got very annoyed with me and said it was his decision and that he could change his mind and charge us all. more

Voting Question: Do you think it's messed up thinking/behavior....?

Husband's mother told hubby a story how her mother slammed a kid's head against the wall- the kid was 2 or 3 at the time- because the kid kept hitting his head against the wall repeatedly whenever he was angry or frustrated. Husband's mother said that her mother did that as a last resort b/c she kept telling the kid not to do that and he wouldn't stop. She figured if she did it hard enough to make him hurt that he would stop. That the kid just didn't get it and wouldn't unless what he was doing hurt, so she was going to make it hurt. I think the kid was a family cousin and this was in the 1950's. Husband's mother told hubby this when he told her how our almost 2 year old was acting out and biting us when she was angry. What the f**K was her point in saying that if she didn't think that what her mother did was appropriate behavior? If she didn't think it was right, why the h**l would she mention it? This is a very open family and I know for certain that hubby's Mom was not physically abused. However, this is a woman who, when my husband put some land that he had bought up for sale so that he could pay for college, would not speak to him literally for three months because of that. He would call her and she would only answer yes or no- said nothing else for three months. This land was of no value to her and she nor anyone else in the family was affected by the sale of it. In fact it prevented my husband from going 60,000$ in debt. The only connection to her was that the land was close to where she and father in law live. My husband bought it entirely on his own. It is effed up behavior to not talk to your child for three months for a decision that was none of her business. It is SICK to tell a story about your Mom bashing a child's head in the wall to teach him a lesson when your grown child mentions a small behavior problem of your grandchild.Sid: Sounds more like a comment than an actual answer to the question.The question is in the header. Do you think it is messed up behavior to share a story about how your mother beat a 2 year old's head against a wall as way of 'discipline' when your grown child mentions a behavioral problem of your grandchild?#3 - She didn't do it- her mother did. What would she have to confess if she didn't do it?What is CL? more

Resolved Question: Do you blame the Islamic countries after all submitted for Israel case?

We do not oppose their residence in any place, whether in Palestine or Israel .. Jews living in muslims and Arab countries for thousands of years did not happen to them problems or massacres, displacement of the population (as occurred in Europe) and immigrated to Israel without any problem .. We Muslims are committed to our principles .. The hurry (Prophet Muhammad), if land under the control of Islamic .. Not to injure or abuse their rights .. Only a small tax every countries have tax law .. ((if )) 1. Man and an 2. adult and of 3. sound mind and 4. able to pay only .. Prophet Muhammad has a neighbor who was a Jew and Mohammad improves him We are only different in Israel's policy toward the 1 Palestinians ... 2 Al-Aqsa Mosque We do not say that the Israelis expelled from Israel and Palestine, but Israel must cooperate with the neighboring Muslim countries, and to realize that they must cooperate and not to harm Muslims and not to infringe on (Al-Aqsa Mosque) .. Arab States initiative was presented for reconciliation and peace between the Islamic and Arab states: The terms of this initiative is full recognition of Israel by the Arab Islamic states neighboring the normalization of relations with Israel .. In return for a Palestinian state with its capital East Jerusalem and to allow Palestinian refugees to return to their countries of Palestine and this initiative is still there .. But Israel did not agree or disagree with the request until now http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arab_Peace_Initiative Do not forget that we Muslims fought a war called (the Crusades) against Western Europe for 300 years for control of Jerusalem Must be aware of the size of the case and is well aware that we do not care about the insults More than care about our rights and our religion ... America lost 4 thousand as a result of the terrorist incidents in New York and we lost only in Gaza 4 thousand most of them children Jerusalem was not built by Israelis .Jerusalem built by Jebusite tribs ( middle east people . As is mentioned in history .. Israelis origin from Egypt migrated from Egypt. I hope that peace and brotherhood in the Middle East and world .. sorry for my English language more

Resolved Question: For what religious reasons would a grandfather side with the alleged sexual abuser of his grand-daughter?

Beth Ellis's book "Bad Things in the Night" details her Jehovah's Witness stepfather's abuse. Her mother left him, due to the violence although hitting children at the Kingdom Hall was never viewed as that. In 2005 Beth finally had the courage to report him to the police but the investigation was dropped, despite two more witnesses giving evidence. A reinvestigation was started along with an inquiry into the original police investigation by the Police Complaints Commission. Their findings, published in December 2009, resulted in written warnings being issued against two officers. It advised the South Wales Police to revise their policy regarding allegations of historic rape and serious sexual offences. Beth's JW grandfather told her, "I never suspected a JW would be capable of such things." He got local JW elders to help defend the stepfather. Beth says, "They believe in a higher power than the laws of man. I think most Witnesses would put their duty to their religion before the law." Can this be true?I ask "can this be true" because I find it incredulous that such a decent, law-abiding group as the JWs would try to close ranks when a JW child appears to being sexually abused. Would they not be the first to encourage and to support investigations? In answer to the Question asked of me, "my question to you is.....Do you put mans laws before Gods?" - I am in agreement with the biblical principle that Ceasar must be given his due, and God must be given His due. In this case, Caesar's laws are in harmony with God's laws. more

Resolved Question: France making Verbal Abuse a crime, how far will the fanatics go?

I'm posting this because 2 prior related questions have been deleted since certain people do not want this information discussed or exposed. They call it psychological violence. Men are already subject to the Violence Against Women Act and despite some claiming this massive law is gender neutral, the name spells out who is victim and who is abuser. These powerful laws like the VAWA place the burden of proof on the accused (man) instead of the other way around. You basically have to prove your innocence because the laws are meant to empower women and operate on the presumed basis that women are honest and play fair. If a woman is planning to divorce her husband, it's really nothing to make a claim of fear. I fear him, I fear for my life, I fear he might do something, is all it takes and a man is removed from his home and children by the police. Anyone that has been through a divorce or bad break up knows feelings get hurt and vindictive behavior is common so abuse of these laws is incredibly easy. Adopting even more powerful laws that target verbal abuse in further attempting to empower women makes it even easier to seek revenge on men. What if your dating a woman and you dumper and she's pissed. How far of a stretch would it be for her to make claims of being repeatedly insulted during the relationship? It would be even easier to punish a man or have your husband removed from the home and children. My next thoughts are where does it stop and additionally how will the term Psychological Violence expand? Will things like facial expressions, the silent treatment or slamming a door to many times land a man in prison? We've already seen the concept of Domestic Violence go from physical abuse to all sorts of loosely deemed offenses. These laws were invented to empower women, yet we're all suppose to believe like with VAWA that they protect men as well, which is the total opposite of why they are presumed to exist. Can anyone say that this much unfettered power in the hands of anyone is dangerous and will not be widely abused? Do women really want their Sons, Brothers and Fathers, profiled, targeted and basically helpless and defenseless in their own home? Basically with the rate of divorce many of your sons will not be seeing their children, nor will you be seeing your grandchildren. Sorry for being long winded, but think about how excessive corporate abuse is with a government that is basically in the pocket of corporations. CEO earn 500 x's that of the average employee, that's a fact. Corporate outsourcing has destroyed the middleclass. Multi-million dollar executive bonuses for running the company into the ground, while employees are being worked to death are just a few to name. That's what unfettered power produces.******** Erin ********* There are strong laws that already exist that protect women. You cannot just assume or create a blanket policy that treats all people as if they will harm or kill someone. What the movie Minority Report with Tom Cruise and see how close we are coming to a society like that. Does drinking a few beers lead to smoking pot. Sometimes it does. Does drinking a few beers lead to shooting heroine? Probably not. That's what laws like these are based on . One Size Fits all. We have already seen the Violence against Women Act become a Wide Sweeping one size fits all policy. Due to must arrest and must prosecute policies. Meaning if the police show up someone must be arrest and charged and it's always the man. Punching a wall in your own home is an arrestable offense under the one size fits all mentality. more

Resolved Question: Do you agree with U visa's for illegal aliens who claim domestic violence?

Is this not another way for illegals to commit fraud and cry domestic violence to just become legal? The mother put her in this situation and would have had to sign for her to get married. Shouldn't the mother be prosecuted? Why should illegal aliens who are here breaking laws, who put themselves in these positions be allowed a special visa? xXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX And for those who will ask, I am totally against domestic violence, I donate and have many friends who work at a womans shelter. I say remove them from the situation and send them back to their countries. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX She was 14 when her mother smuggled her into Los Angeles. She met her future husband, a legal resident, two years later. Theo Rigby for The New York Times A Guatemalan immigrant now has legal United States residency after helping the authorities prosecute her husband for abuse. She asked that her identity be withheld for fear of retaliation. He had all the cards, and played them cruelly, as she recalls. He would not let her go to school or work, dragged his feet on supporting her citizenship request, and called her fat and ugly after she became pregnant. She endured it all — until she caught him romancing a 13-year-old girl from their church choir. When she complained, he beat her bloody, tried to rape her, and fled, with the girl, to Arizona, she said in an affidavit that is now part of federal immigration records. Today, he is in prison, and she is caring for her children in San Francisco, with a driver’s license and a legal job baby-sitting. Her legal status came about through what is known as a U visa — a humanitarian “island of niceness,” as one advocate called it, in a sea of restrictive United States immigration laws. Victims of domestic violence are often deeply reluctant to press charges, fearing retaliation or simply hoping their abusers will change. The risk of deportation only escalates the aversion to go to the police. That is a main reason that Congress passed legislation in 2000, creating the U visa. It allows immigrants who have endured substantial mental or physical abuse and who cooperate with law enforcement officials to work legally and stay in the United States for up to four years while applying for permanent residence. After nearly a decade of delays, federal officials began allowing the visas en masse only early last year, after sustained efforts from immigrant rights groups, particularly several based in Oakland and San Francisco. The pace of approvals has since stepped up, as has the controversy, with both defense lawyers and groups opposed to immigration contending that the process invites scams. For millions of immigrants and their supporters, however, the program is truly an island of niceness, as Catherine Ward-Seitz, the regional immigration coordinator for Bay Area Legal Aid in San Francisco, put it. With a soured economy encouraging hostility at worst and apathy at best toward illegal immigrants, the U visas are a bittersweet consolation prize. In a compassionate twist on the idea that felons should be imprisoned, victims who can show that guns (or knives or fists) were used against them can be released from the fear of deportation. While victims of several specified crimes are eligible, at least three-fourths of the applicants for U visas to date, like the Guatemalan baby sitter, who asked that her name not be used for fear of retaliation from her spouse, say they have suffered domestic violence, said Chris Rhatigan, a spokeswoman for the United States Citizenship and Immigration Services. Immigration lawyers said this was largely because of the prevalence of domestic violence in general. Ending impunity in cases of domestic violence makes whole communities safer, proponents say. “These are disclosure-driven crimes, meaning people have to come forth and report them; there’s no gunshot to bring it to our attention,” said Lt. Kevin Wiley, commander of the Oakland Police Department’s special victims unit, which certified 153 U visas last year. “It’s all about building trust,” Lieutenant Wiley said, adding that police certification of the visas was a powerful tool in creating bonds among wary residents who have long been the silent victims of a range of crimes, like the robberies of illegal immigrants known on the streets as “amigo checkings.” What is more, Lieutenant Wiley said, the police often discover that domestic violence offenders have multiple victims. Congress approved an annual limit of 10,000 U visas. Yet the regulations that would put the law in force were not made final by the Department of Homeland Security until September 2007. A few dozen U visas were approved in 2008. Then the pace increased. In the fiscal year ending last September, immigration officials approved 5,825. Another 2,244No blame is put on the victim for this, but it should not be used as a crutch for the laws they have broken, like I said, remove the abused from the situation and deport them back to their homelands. more