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Reports link Paterson to calls in abuse case - Herald Tribune

... matter, the governor instructed his press secretary, Marissa Shorenstein, to ask the woman to publicly describe the episode as nonviolent, contradicting her accounts to the police and in court. Paterson ... Housing and Community Renewal, reached ...

NY Gov. Paterson drops election bid amid scandal - Stamford Advocate

Paterson is under fresh pressure to drop his run for a full term this year after a report about a domestic abuse complaint against his ... asked the attorney general to investigate a newspaper article saying state police may have pressured the woman ...

Supreme Court Reinstates Confession in MD Case - ABC2 News

Michael Shatzer ... imprisoned on a child sex abuse conviction in 2003 when police questioned him about allegations he also sexually abused his own 3-year-old son. Shatzer refused to talk and asked for a lawyer, and the questioning ended.

Police seek more abuse victims of ex-hospital head - San Francisco Chronicle

At least four telephone messages were left for the lead investigator in the case by Thursday afternoon, Police Lt. Alex Avila told the Long Beach Press-Telegram. The investigator had just returned from Napa where Claude Edward Foulk Jr. was arrested ...

Ripley Police Officer Indicted for Sexual Abuse - WOWK

CHARLESTON -- A Ripley police officer has been indicted for sexual abuse. Denver "Buddy" Thomas was indicted by a grand jury Feb. 23 in Jackson County. According to court records, Thomas allegedly groped an underage girl. The case has been turned ...

Family charged with abuse of Md. woman, 83 - Delaware Online

SALISBURY, Md. — An 83-year-old bedridden Fruitland woman whose family was criminally charged this week previously suffered near-fatal abuse and neglect four years ago, but charges were never filed, according to police. The victim's husband, George ...

Acquitted in Police Abuse Trial, but Still Under a Cloud - New York Times

Officer Alex Cruz, left, is working in the property clerk's department, and Officer Andrew Morales in fleet services. He slept well on Monday night, his lawyer said, but it could be a while before Officer Kern, whose current job is to monitor video ...

Boulder weighs settlement of police abuse lawsuit - Denver Post

BOULDER, Colo.—Boulder city officials are considering paying $230,000 to settle a lawsuit filed by a man who was hit in the eye by a police pepper ball during a 2004 disturbance. The City Council will vote next week on the proposed settlement with ...

Police: Abuse may have triggered murder-suicide - New Haven Register

BRIDGEPORT (AP) — Bridgeport police say the deaths of a city man and his 24-year-old son this week appear to be a murder-suicide that may have been sparked by the father's alleged abuse of his son. Police say 64-year-old Joaquin Gonzalez was beaten ...

Open Question: How to deal with depression? Healthy ways of reliving stress?

I'm fourteen and for the past few years I've been severely depressed. My mom is a drug addicted prostitute that cares about he dog more than my brother and I. My father left when I was just a few years old because well as rumor has it he got a teenager pregnant and she threatened to call the police if he didn't leave me, so he did. I live with my aunt, grandma, brother and sister. My mother was with someone who I loved as a father figure when I was really little [I have a good memory]. He left the country when my mother accused him of cheating with another girl well he killed that girl and fled the country, that broke my heart. I lived with my aunt, her ex-husband and his son when I was maybe four or five. He cheated on her. She worked night shifts and his son would molest me and he would beat me with the belt. I started sleeping over at my grandma's. My grandma, brother and I moved to a different town and my aunt followed with my uncle and his son. They lived in town and we didn't. We lived in the country. Since the separation my grandma obviously favored my brother. My brother and I had a strong bond with all that we've been through. [I forgot to mention I lived with my grams when I was really really young though I don't remember she says when I moved with my aunt they sold my toys like everything and that I had a lot]. I wet the bed for a long time (by this time I'm like 6 when we moved) because of stress. She would yell at me and call me names like bed wetter, pissy body (?) ect. I took a knife into the bathroom and threatened to kill myself at 7. We moved back to my home town when I was 8 and have been here since. My aunt divorced my uncle and she lives across the street from us. I don't have a good relationship with any of them. My brother, well he grew up and he is about to graduate. We're four years apart. My cousin lived with us more here when we moved. (He was abused too and he has Bipolar.) We got really close, we're 8 years apart. When he moved out that really effected me. My mom was never in the picture but she hangs around now and that stresses me. She's told me I am a whore ect and that I do drugs and she even told me to hang myself. I was super popular and no one really knew or knows my life story. I used to get pure A's and last year I messed up so bad. I never went to school and just didn't care. I barely have friends now and I'm in homeschooling which was a terrible mistake. My grades are back up and I'm starting high school in August. About a year and a half ago I fell hard for someone I let break down my barriers and walls. He broke my heart after he got what he wanted. I still cry about him, I have no trouble being liked but I only take to certain people. I have problems with abandonment, depression, anger problems, anxiety and separation anxiety. In the beginning of summer two years ago I began cutting and it's been my escape ever since. I write a lot too. Now that you sort of know what's happened to me. What kind of release things would be good for me? Therapy doesn't help me at all it just makes me even more mad. I also am willing to admit I am, very how should I say it, manipulative. I can show what people want to see. I went for a psych evaluation and came out literally adored by everyone. I mean no offense but the people there were really ill in the head. [The staff loved me not the patients] If you saw me you couldn't tell how hurt I am. No one knows and they add with every comment. It's so bad that I cry every night in my room. I'm just so tired of hurting and I want to start school a different person. I went from straight A's, friends with everyone, Honor Roll, head cheerleader to someone without a GPA, getting strange looks, always in trouble and just a mess. I used to wear black so much and now I still do but not as much. I want to just be happy. I think maybe I know how it feels to be happy but that led to more pain, so I don't know if I even know what it means to be happy. I need help, -AnastaishaIsn't Schizophrenia when you have multiple personalities or something? Or here or see people that aren't there? It's hard enough for me to write this. I know you can't verify but I am telling the truth. Sometimes people just have those kind of lives. It's not all fairy tale childhoods for everyone.About the other questions, no I don't have a strong imagination. The things about like Pyrokinesis ect well my mind travels. I'm a G.A.T.E student. My mind doesn't work like other kids. Look it up since you obviously like doing that. more

Open Question: What should we do? Not enough money to move away but can't afford to stay with abusive father.?

My father is abusive, not physically, anymore, but if you get him angry, or if he's had a bad day he will take it out on my sister, me and especially, my mum. He will keep yelling and say pejorative things about you, and society (ie. say nasty things about gays which I find offensive, even though I'm not gay). He has all the money in the family, and my mother can't afford to support me and her (eg renting out a place) as she works on a casual basis. Recently, my aunty had a brain aneurysm, so my mum had to go away to look after her (in another city). I took on all of the house work while my father did virtually nothing. At his job, he fell off a roof and fractured his back. In the night he needed to get up to the bathroom; he called out for me but I'm a heavy sleeper so I did not hear him (I sleep through smoke alarms). I got yelled at for hours in the morning and had to do all the house work before I was allowed out of the house. I got back from walking the dog and he was in my room tidying it up, and was yelled at for hours and was told i was lazy and nasty names (I didn't have time to keep it tidy as I had been doing the housework). He also yelled at me and said horrible things about my mother and said she had to come home (even though my aunty could die if no one is looking after her. He said if my aunty's family cared about him what would they do to help HIM out (he is selfish).I have this all on camera. Is this right of him?? Last night he was also yelling at us for hours because of something work related, about him leaving a clients house in a shambles. He said horrible things about his client and about us too. He got in my sister and my mothers face in an intimidating way.He caught me filming and came after me, my mum got in between and he pushed her. She has a bruise on her arm. He was verbally abusing her last night. Bringing up the bullying she had in her childhood. Should we put up with this? He never changes. We have had the police involved numerous times. He could have gone to jail for the physical abuse he did to my sister when we we're younger. Is it too late?He cause a bruise on my mother yesterday. And it was years ago that he abused my sister. He use to leave bruises on her. I think a scholl councellor took a photo of them once. One time he strangled her so much she couldn't breathe and she vomited after. But this was when she was about 10-16. She is now 21. And he hasn't abused her since. Is it possible he has a mental sickness?I also have my friends house close by if I need to escape. I think my father has moved out... I'm not sure, he's taken some of his stuff. My uncle has come over at the moment to make sure everuthing is ok. My mums a mess. more

Open Question: why do people feel guilt after turning in an abuser?

4 yr relationship countless acts of abuse (verbal, mental,emotional, and physical). At a breaking point I call his job, he's a police officer. Now he's on suspension and will probably be fired. I feel so much guilt over turning him in and now feel I'm a bad person. Too, I'm beating myself up as to why and how I stayed so long, and now it's come to this. He is saying, "look what you've done" and "how could you call my job . . . I feel tormented, threatened....and feel I need counseling I'm also afraid to leave my house. What am I to do? more

Open Question: can a police officer get in trouble for erasing a warrant for his friend? PLEASE HELP READ DETAILS!!!?

when my big sister was 15 years old our half uncle beat her up and hit her in her face and left her cuts on her face and i was their to witness it. well after he left my sister and my dad made a police report and they took pictures and everything. well 3 years past and nothing ever happened he never went to jail or any thing! well one day i asked my grandmother what ever happened with the case and she told me not to tell anyone but my half uncle got a friend of his that is a cop to erase the report! and he did! so my sister is walking around every wear with a scare on her face and HE is walking around with NO consequence's what he did to my sister.. and now that i know whats up i want him and that cop friend of his to get what they deserve.. some one please give me advise what i can do about this please i hate my half uncle he also abused my little brother when we were younger but that never got reported now that im older it really makes me sick and i want this man to stop getting off so easy PLEASE HELP more

Open Question: please give postive feedback. love u all who help.?

Im turning 18 in may and i get 800$ a month my girlfriend is 16 and 2 months pregnant. Im trying to find a apartment where i can be within walking distance of a school so i can continue to get my education. i also want my girlfriend to pursue a education when we have the baby settled down, the problem is her mother is very neglectful and abusing and nothing is being done about it she doesnt know we see each other nor does she know shes pregnant but she has told my girl she will beat the (curse word) out of her if she ever tries anything. shes beaten her before and police around here really are crooked. (California) But anyways i want to get her out of here before she grows and gets found out and hire a mid wife to deliever the baby when its ready. im getting social security (the 800$) and im going to get a job to where i can at least get in a min of 1300$ or more. least shes really close to 17 years old if she gets filed as a runaway when we leave whats the chances of them pursueing her least shes 1 year away from 18? Itd really help if i can get some positive feed back and im not the average jerkoff it was very protected but caused by a damaged condom that i showed my own parent and older brother. she refused a abortion(which i dont blame her im not a girl so idk how it feels to carry a life in you) and she wants to keep it but is really scared of her mom and so am i, i know so much about the mom ( i used to hang out with her son for 4 years and would stay the night alot) shes tied her up with a phone cord and threw her down stairs, the list goes on but the question is If me and my girlfriend leave and i support her while also getting additional help from family friends and family. Will police actually pursue her least shes pretty much 1 year away from 18? i dont do drugs or even drink alcohol and never will. her parents are divorced and heavily addicted to booze (dad) and weed. and her mom is addicted to weed,cocaine,partying and she has HIV Aids. she wont ever stop no matter how many times she gets in troube for it. and police like ive said is very crooked one officer actually told the mom she can beat her because he didnt like children anyways..please dont blame me for running away like this with her she needs better and pregnancy at are age is never a good idea and we didnt want it to happen and thought we wher protected. but least its happening now we are both setting are goals high and thinking for the best and doing the best we can. more

Resolved Question: Spousal abuse (violence. emotional toture etc)?

Do abusers change after being delt with by the police and after going through some therapy more

Open Question: I was molested and abused how can I get over it?

Ok when I was a child I was abused between the ages of 5years old and 16years old by my dad he used to creep into my bedroom late at night and touch my genitals and fondle me he would then climb on top of me and rape me I would try to scream but he would tell me to shut up then put his hand over my mouth after it would be finished I would burst out crying and he would just smirk and tell me to grow up and act like a big girl I eventually told my mum about it and she comforted my dad about it and he of course denyed it and said I was making it up for attention but my mum still believed me she then alerted the police the police charged my dad with Sexual abuse but due to a lack of evendance he was never convicted but mum still never took him back.But now I suffer nightmares and flash backs and have fall-in into a depression and I self harm all most evreyday how can I get over this nightmare I dont' think I can take much more I have even thought about ending it all I just want the pain to stop. more

Open Question: Why are violent dangerous illegal alien crimicals released from jails & free to walk the streets of America?

Hundreds of missed opportunities to deport convicted criminals, perpetuating a cycle of crime and violence. •Armando De La Cruz, a Mexican national, told jailers on two occasions in 2007 that he was undocumented. Both times, he was convicted of assaulting his wife and released after serving his jail time. De La Cruz is now back in Harris County Jail, charged with raping a woman at knife point behind a southeast Houston apartment complex in July, and attempting to rape another woman less than a week later. His defense attorney, Ricardo Gonzalez, did not return phone calls. •Pedro Alvarez, a convicted sex offender from El Salvador who was first deported in 1991, racked up eight convictions in Harris County over a span of two decades and was allowed to walk free from jail multiple times — as recently as the spring of 2007. Immigration officials finally charged him with re-entry after deportation in February. Sandra Zamora Zayas, the attorney who represented Alvarez in federal court in South Texas, did not return phone messages. "It's just amazing how long it took them to catch up with him," the mother of a 5-year-old girl Alvarez sexually assaulted in 1988 said in an interview with the Chronicle, after learning about Alvarez's extended criminal history. 'Never lied about who I am' Miguel Mejia Rodriguez, 36, is locked up on the fifth floor of the San Jacinto Jail downtown, accused of raping and sodomizing a second-grader. It is the fourth time in 12 years that Rodriguez, an unemployed drifter from Zacatecas, Mexico, has landed in Harris County Jail. Over the years, Rodriguez has served time for drug possession, theft, trespassing and indecent exposure. He told jailers he was in the country illegally in December 2006, after a security guard caught him touching himself in an apartment complex parking lot, records show. But ICE officials did not file paperwork to detain Rodriguez. He was released after serving his 25-day sentence. "I never lied about who I am, or where I'm from. I'm 100 percent Mexican," Rodriguez said in a jail interview with the Chronicle in September, after he was accused of the rape and sodomy of a 7-year-old. According to court records, the girl told a friend Rodriguez started abusing her after her mother died in 2005, while he was living with her family. The girl was hospitalized and treated for syphilis, court records show. In an interview with Houston police detectives, Rodriguez admitted to contracting syphilis from a woman he met in a Houston cantina, but he denied raping the girl. He said she was a "troublemaker" who lied because he punished her when she misbehaved. When he was arrested on the sexual assault charge in July 2007, Rodriguez again told jailers he was in the country illegally, records show. In June, nearly a year after his arrest, ICE officials filed paperwork to detain Rodriguez, who is scheduled for trial in December. Deadly consequences Katherine Anne Bridges, deaf and mute, was just 19 in the fall of 2004 when she told Harris County authorities that Jeremias Fuentes, her boyfriend, tried to grab their 6-month-old baby boy from her arms and kicked her in the face. He hid her emergency phone so she couldn't call for help. Fuentes was sentenced to 20 days in jail. Nearly three years later, in August 2007, Fuentes was arrested again, suspected of interfering with case workers trying to interview Bridges about abuse allegations. Fuentes, 36, told jailers he was an illegal immigrant from El Salvador, records show. He was sentenced to 30 days in jail. He was released after ICE didn't file paperwork to detain him. On the morning of Nov. 26, 2007, a medical examiner puzzled over the writing scrawled on Bridges' palm. It read in part: "Payback because ... help me." The evening before, Bridges' body had been found facedown in the bedroom closet of her southwest Houston apartment complex. She had blood in her brown hair and a dozen stab wounds on her face, neck, chest and back. A knife rested on the baby crib. Detectives questioned Fuentes, who admitted he stabbed Bridges, but he said it was self-defense. In December, immigration officials filed the paperwork to detain Fuentes, who declined a request for a jail interview. He is scheduled for trial in February. Andy Kahan, director of the Houston Mayor Crime Victims Office, said he hoped Bridges' case could be a ''catalyst for change" and encourage local authorities to work more closely with ICE to ensure inmates with violent criminal histories are vetted before release. "There were numerous opportunities to do the correct thing, and that's have him deported, and that didn't happen. And as a result, a woman paid dearly with her life," Kahan said. Matthew Baker, an assistant field office director for ICE in Houston, said agents try to screen out as many violent criminals as possible to avoid preventable crimes. Many illegal immigrants are identified by ICE in the state's pris more

Open Question: Please can you help me with my novel?

I need a suggestion for the name of the main character of my novel.. Here's a description.... She is 20 years old, and her birthday is on July 3rd. 5”8, slim, dark brown eyes, and light brown hair down to her shoulders, pale pink lips, and slightly pointed nose. She is a uniformed police officer which she has been since she turned 18 years old. She lives with her sister who is 3 years older than she is, and her sister’s boyfriend David. She was brought up by her auntie (mothers side) since she was six years old when her father was put in prison for abusing her mother, who killed herself after the terrible ordeal she had been through. She is ambitious, loyal to the job, independant, determained, friendly, shy, sensitive, good listener and wise. She doesn’t trust men. Because her father abused her mother, and she is worried that the same thing might happen to her. She doesn't smoke, and only has the odd drink. She likes going with her friends to the pub after work (where she mostly drinks orange juice or cola), and also going to clubs. She has a dog and loves walking him to the local park, and also going out jogging because she likes to keep fit. She also goes every week end to her local tennis courts to play tennis. Most of all, she loves her job more than anything. I was thinking.... Julia Brianna Megan What do you think?? And if you think you know a more suitable name then please say?? And surnames aswell if you don't mind? :) more

Open Question: How is everyone keeping faith in these hard times?

I'm sick of bearing witness to all these evil people getting away with everything. Bush started a war that has resulted in the death of thousands and a recession which has led to a significant cut in my pay, and nothing has been done to him. Kim Kardashian sucks Brandy's lil' brother in a sex tape and ends up with a career. Now, Michael Vick, the man who electrocuted dogs to death, went to jail for a much shorter time than he should have and still ends up with a reality show. How does God expect me to keep faith in him when he allows such travesties. Governments suck. Colleges suck. Police officers suck. I'm really losing my faith here. I've always been positive, hoping that one day there'll be end to world hunger and poverty and child abuse, but each day things just get worse. I haven't prayed for an entire month now because I just don't feel inspired, you know. God, are you even there anymore? more

Open Question: ***MY PUG IS PREGNANT, HAS LABOR BEGAN?

My pug is pregnant though I cannot be certain how long she has been pregnant, she is huge, her tummy is quite big and hard and her nipples have dropped and are dark in color. She seems to be shivering and panting a lot today and wants more attention than usual, she is drinking a lot of water and has a rectal temp of 98.2.. Is it possible that she could be in labor? She hasn't done any digging that i've noticed and hasn't been licking herself either. (BECAUSE THIS IS MY SECOND TIME POSTING BECAUSE LAST TIME I WAS VERBALLY ABUSED ON MY LACK OF KNOWLEDGE. PLEASE READ) -----------> Actually for those of you that think I am such a horrible person, I will have you know that I have had this dog for only two weeks. She and three other dogs were abandoned by the neighbors when there home was foreclosed on!! So we took them in ONLY because the police asked us and because the local shelter is overpacked and would have killed them!! So yes, I am clueless and I am trying to do the best I can to help these animals out until I am able to find them homes!Yes I have a nice box set up for her with newspaper and have a new pack of hand towels nearby to help her clean the puppies if needed. I have done a lot of research and took tomorrow off work.I do know that the father of the litter is a toy poodle. The other two dogs were both females, hes the only male of the 4 and he's not fixed. more

Open Question: Should I have been charged with disorderly conduct? PLEASE ANSWER ASAP?

According to the Texas Penal Code, you can be charged with disorderly conduct if you do any of these in a public place: 1. Use “abusive, indecent, profane, or vulgar language,” of the kind likely to provoke a physical altercation. These are known legally as “fighting words.” 2. Make an obscene gesture that is likely to start a physical altercation. 3. Use chemicals to make a “noxious and unreasonable odor.” 4. Verbally abuse or threaten another person “in an obviously offensive manner.” 5. Make an “unreasonable noise” in a public place or near a private residence that’s not your own. The law defines “unreasonable” as making a sound that is more than 85 decibel levels after being warned once by a police officer. Remember, this a state law, separate from any local noise ordinances. 6. Get into a fight with another person. 7. Fire a gun, or display a gun with the intention to scare other people. 8. Expose your genitals or anus in a “reckless” manner that disregards anyone else who might see you and be offended. 9. Peek into someone else’s home or motel room, or into a private restroom, shower stall, or dressing room for “lewd or unlawful purposes.” MY STORY: My ex and I were parked under some trees in a secluded area in my neighborhood to talk. In order for you to see what was actually going on in the car, you had to have had no life, came close to the car and peeked through the tinted windows. (I can't actually prove this, but my intentions were never to have sex in a car. I don't put out in vehicles. My ex and I were not doing so well anyway, so let me establish that i just allowed him to take me home and my intentions weren't to do anything else. I've ended the relationship, but i knew how much he loved me so i've been allowing him to spend as much time with me before i move away to college this June; even if that means letting him take me home.) Anyway, so on the way to my house he decided to park in this area to "talk". I agreed that we could pull over and verbally talk about some things. So things get a little emotional, and he starts to cry about how he wishes i'd stay with him and that he didn't want me to leave and blah blah blah...SO, he leans in to kiss me and so i kiss him back to show that i care about him (and all of that other mushy stuff). Things get a little carried away and so he reclines my seat and climbs over on top of me and kiss all over my neck...We spot this woman looking across the street. She was walking a little close and straining her eyes i guess to try to see what we were doing. (The seat was reclined all the way down so we had no idea that she saw us kissing. And the windows were tinted). Now i had on these heels which were burning my legs all day. He asks me "Do your legs still hurt? Would you like me to rub them?" So yea, i let him massage my legs... I let him manipulate me into thinking this was just something he was doing for fun and that he missed me a lot so he just wanted to fool around and touch me a little.This was all just a moment of consolation. So he wanted to remove my pants and rub down my legs...so.. it was a little uncomfortable but i didn't think it was a big deal. As long as i kept everything else on, it was okay to me (i thought for some stupid reason). Now i'm turned side ways not paying attention to what he was doing behind me. He was just supposed to be massaging my legs. His pants are now kind of sagging down and his belt unbuckled like he intended on removing his pants also...That's when these cops come, and bang on the window saying "Alright come on, step out of the car now and don't try to hide anything" So my ex immediately opens the door and gets out so the officer wouldn't think we were trying to hide something. I put my pants and shoes back on, while the officer yanks him out of the car with his pants sagging down a little with his belt unbuckeld. The officer also saw me in my underwear (which looked very suspicious). He charges us with disorderly conduct according to NUMBER 8 of that list above. Which meant that were exposing ourselves recklessly (like mooning) not caring who saw us. Which wasn't true. The officer had to spend like 20 minutes contemplating what he could charge us with. He didn't witness any gentitals or anyone's anus. Where we were parked, you could tell that were not trying to "expose" anything to offend someone. Even if the officer had suspicion, he didn't have suscipcion that were EXPOSING OURSELVES IN A RECKLESS MANNER.We should have just recieved some warning and a call to our parents, but not a ticket that goes up to a $500 fine. What were doing might had been PDA, but there is no law for that in texas. So these are the main points: Secluded area, no sexual intent(just PDA) reclined seats, tinted windows.... DISORDERLY CONDUCT for EXPOSURE IN A RECKLESS MANNER? I don't think so...Let me know if it's worth fighting against, or if i should just plead guilty. more

Open Question: Should I let my mother see my children?

My mother and I have not gotten along since my birth. I am not one to put my life on public display but I don't think private counseling sessions with this woman would benefit anyone. Our relationship is toxic and I at age 33 have finally accepted this as fact. The last "blow up" if that's what you want to call it, was over a disagreement about a disciplinary action that my husband had decided to take with my daughter. My husband stuck to his guns, and she didn't get her way so she started by kicking us out of her house. This did not get her her way, so she proceeded to call Social Services the next the day. Social Services did not feel that is was a case of "abuse" so she proceeded to tell my daughters school that I was danger to her and had them believing that I was coming to sign her out of school and take her away to some unknown place because I was mentally unstable. It was my daughters birthday, I was picking her early to take her out to lunch and instead I was detained by police for two hours. Well, after that charade had played out and I had assured the school that we were not moving until the following month as I had informed them two weeks prior, I felt that she had nothing left. Now, this is all normal reaction from my mother. This is the kind of person she is...DRAMA. Long story short....too late....I called her to ask her for my belongings, some furniture and boxes she had stored for me (I know, a snowballs chance in hell) and she says no. So, I called an attorney to ask what my next step should be since storming into her home and taking it was not nice and/or illegal. I was informed that I would have to take her to small claims court which reluctantly I did because my husband encouraged me to "stand up for myself." He quickly learned that the only way to "stand up" to this woman was to "stand down". All Holy Hell breaks loose again. First, she hired a blind attourney....for small claims court. Then she pays this woman, that I don't even know, to lie in court and say that she's my cousin and that I sold her all of my belongings for crack. I was 5 months pregnant. She was ordered to give back what I could prove was mine and the judge shut down our little circus act. On the way out of the court room I, five months pregnant I am approached by a deputy sheriff and informed that I have an outstanding warrant for my arrest from 5 years ago. (The result of another argument.) I was arrested, booked, and released within an hour with my date to return to court. I was able to prove that I was not in the state at the time of the allegation with a time/date stamped police report and request for an order of protection against my mother who was in another state harassing me...not the other way around. The order of protection was granted by the way...another drama filled court case story for another day. The case was thrown out, and I swore never to let her into my life again. For two years now, I have beat myself up over our failed mother/daughter relationship and till this day I am still fighting the gut feeling that I am the bad guy. She recently started contacting me on the INTERNET, but I'm still so hurt that I cant give her my phone number, my address, NOTHING. I have been keeping her at bay for the last three weeks not knowing her intentions but longing for that "mother" that I have always wanted but will never get. I won't let her see my kids because I don't have time for Social Services, and trying to prove myself as a parent mainly, but her presence ALWAYS means interference. I doubt myself enough without scrutiny from the public. I really don't physically want her in my life...but emotionally I feel as if I am committing a mortal sin by doing so. What is wrong with me? more

Open Question: Do U think Luis Antonio Cruz should he get amnstey & a fresh new start for a better life?

http://www.examiner.com/x-35821-Immigration-Reform-Examiner~y2010m3d3-Illegal-alien-charged-with-repeatedly-raping-a-child-for-8-years Last week, sheriff’s deputies in Henderson County, NC arrested Luis Antonio Cruz, 42, for repeated sexual offenses with a girl over an eight year period. The alleged rapes began when the girl was only 10-years-old. Cruz was charged with four counts of second-degree rape, two counts of attempted second-degree sex offense, indecent liberties with a child and one count of felony child abuse. The Henderson County Sheriff’s Office identified Cruz as an illegal alien through the federal 287(g) program. Sheriff Rick Davis told reporters. “Persons in this category, after completion of a sentence, are deported as an aggravated felon and returned to their country of origin.” Cruz is being held at the Henderson County Detention Center on a $280,000 bond. Since 2006, more than 1,000 law-enforcement officers have been trained and certified by the federal program. Currently, 77 local police departments participate in 287(g). Both Virginia and North Carolina lead the country in the number of local departments participating. The Wall Street Journal recently spoke to another sheriff whose department also participates 287g. Wake County, N.C. Sheriff Donnie Harrison said: "I think the program is working great. If the highway patrol brings someone to our jail, and they say they are foreign born, then they are flagged for 287g. They have committed a violation of some sort to be brought to our jail...from broken tail lights to murder and rape." During Fiscal Year 2008, Immigrations and Customs Enforcement deported 356,739 illegal aliens from the U.S., which represented a 23.5% increase over the previous year. The program has been extremely popular with communities inundated with illegal aliens. However, almost immediately upon taking office, Napolitano ordered a review of the 287(g) program. Perhaps, the program was seen as a little too effective by Napolitano, who as Governor of Arizona, was often criticized for her lack of enforcement when it came to illegal immigration. Unfortunately, the Obama administration has been weakening the highly successful program. 287(g) allowed police to investigate a suspect’s immigration status after an arrest had been made for any offense. Under the new guidelines, police will only be allowed to do so in cases where a serious crime has been committed. http://www.examiner.com/x-35821-Immigration-Reform-Examiner~y2010m3d3-Illegal-alien-charged-with-repeatedly-raping-a-child-for-8-years Is this ongoing crime a result relaxed immagrtion laws and let ask why do supporters of illegals want 287(g) program to be discontinued ? Will supporters protest this arrest ? more

Open Question: How do I stop my daughter being bullied?

Hi, my 15 year old daughter was withdrawn from our local School 09 due to her being punched & slapped around her head, had her hair pulled, necklace ripped off & was made to wait whilst this girl finished her cigarette & stubbed it out on her cheek. The School excluded this girl for two weeks so she had about 8 weeks summer holiday instead of six! We went to Hospital for her injury's & the Police came out to see my daughter the next day. Well to cut a long abusive, threatening story short, this girl was taken in for questioning, finally! she got rep remanded. All had been quiet until 1AM this morning, where she & another girl (who's likes a bit of trouble) came round our house, which was over my daughters ex boyfriend who is seeing one of these girls. Police were called as they were punching & kicking the door, shouting & swearing & making threats to my daughter, my husband came down the stairs to find out what was going on, by the time he got dressed they had drove off in a car. If one of these girls has been rep remanded & was told to stay away from my daughter for 5 years then why wasn't anything done about it? I was having an argument with one of the Police Officers who said she hasn't committed a crime. She can shout abuse as many times she likes & make threats, they won't do anything cos shes 14.One can't go to the parents because they are not approachable. Where do I turn to now for help as this trouble won't stop. Please can somebody help me on what to do next. I can't take abuse anymore as this family don't know when to stop. Thanks to everyone who replies. JxThank you ever so much, it is nice to have support from you. JxI rang a Solicitor today for an injunction & was told this would cost around 4 thousand pounds, theres no way we can afford this. My daughter has threatened to take her own life as shes put up with bullies most of her school life & its been from the same people. I dont know if she will get beaten up again or even worse. Why the heck should the victims have to pay out money to get bullying stopped, or your child has taken so much the only way it will stop is to end their life.Im just hoping this will never happen.jx more

Open Question: Why did Yahoo send me this irrelevant advice?

Yesterday I sent an email to yahoo help regarding my suspicion that someone is sending from my email account spam emails to my contacts. This is what they want me to do: Thank you very much for reporting this incident to Yahoo! UK & Ireland. This is an automatic response to let you know that we have received your report regarding a Terms of Service Violation or Abuse issue involving a Yahoo! member. We take reports of abuse on our site seriously and appropriate action, in accordance with our Terms of Service, will be taken against the offending account immediately. If you seriously feel as though the safety of someone is being jeopardised, we suggest you contact your local police station. more

Open Question: What do you think about Sarah's Law: disclosure of paedophiles?

Home Office ministers will today confirm the national rollout of the child sex offender disclosure scheme - known as Sarah's law - to 18 police forces this August, followed by the remaining 21 forces across England and Wales by March 2011. The decision follows the independent evaluation of a £600,000 pilot scheme in four police forces areas which saw 311 formal applications from parents and carers that resulted in the disclosure of the background of 21 convicted child sex offenders. However fathers raising concerns about their ex-partner's new boyfriends are one of the largest groups applying for public disclosure of details of convicted child sex offenders under a newly completed pilot scheme. The small number of disclosures that took place - 21 out of 311 applications - showed that the scheme's main benefit was to reassure those who had anxieties about individuals in their neighbourhoods. What do you think of Sarah's Law? Is it a reassurance to parents or will it just drive paedophiles underground as some commentators say? Is it against the human rights of the convicts? A right to a family life? A right to freedom? Will it be abused by vigilantes? Do the paedophiles deserve any retribution that may come their way? Should the crime committed be considered? Eg looking at child porn vs actual child abuse? Personally I'm very unsure and am completely in the middle on this at the moment. http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2010/mar/03/sex-offenders-disclosure-scheme more

Open Question: My niece's (soon to be) stepmother hit her & broke her tooth... what should I do?

My sister and her husband of 20 years recently separated. This happened for a number of reasons; one of the reasons was that he was abusive, mentally, verbally, and PHYSICALLY towards her and their 2 children (a boy of 16 and girl of 10). Although she should have left him YEARS before when he first started hitting her the day after the wedding, and then she had another huge red flag when he started hitting their son at the young age of 4. The father is now engaged to a woman who has a 13 year old son. The children would spend the weekdays with their mom, and the weekends with their dad and his fiance. My nieces stepbrother and stepmother have been rude and inconsiderate since the day they moved into her dad's house... but one day things got WAY out of hand. During a huge argument, the stepmother grabbed my 10 yr old niece by the face, called her a whore and hit my niece in the face and my nieces front tooth broke. The father kicked out the fiance, but later she came back and no one did ANYTHING about her hitting my niece, not even her real mother (my sister) or her dad. My niece lied to me and said it was the stepbrother that hit her... but later my sister told our parents that it was indeed the step-mom. When I confronted my niece she told me that "it's not a big deal". But it IS a big deal. I don't want my niece to grow up thinking being hit is NOT a big deal because neither of her parents did anything about the fact that some stranger hits her and breaks her tooth. If she doesn't see any action being taken, even if its the police being sent to the house just to question everyone of their actions, she will grow up and think its "not a big deal" to be hit by her boyfriend, husband, friends, etc. What do I do? Do I call the police? Do I go talk to her teacher so the school can do something? Should I not do anything at all? She was raised in an abusive household, and my sister didn't do ANYTHING to stop their father from abusing them. Should I finally do something to stop the abuse that is now being imposed onto her, not by not their father but instead, by her STEPMOTHER? Please give me your opinion. Thank you.You're right...her mothers totally to blame. She never did anything about the hitting. and she STILL isn't doing anything about it... Which is more detrimental to my niece? The whole process of the cops getting involved and possibly being taken out of her parents homes, or knowing that no one did anything when she was hit? Her mother can face consequences also for knowing what happened and not reporting it correct?You're right...her mothers totally to blame. She never did anything about the hitting. and she STILL isn't doing anything about it... Which is more detrimental to my niece? The whole process of the cops getting involved and possibly being taken out of her parents homes, or knowing that no one did anything when she was hit? Her mother can face consequences also for knowing what happened and not reporting it correct?Sorry for the double post.Julie, thank you. I googled what you wrote, and it gave me a website titled www.preventchildabuse.org. There are many numbers listed there. Do you happen to know which is the number I can call to report? more

Open Question: Do you want to hear a dirty joke?

Probably not how about a clean one? Ok. 1 I went to the store the other day. I was only in there for about five minutes, and when I came out there was a motorcycle cop writing a parking ticket. So I went up to him and said, 'Come on buddy, how about giving a guy a break?' He ignored me and continued writing the ticket. So I called him a stupid idiot. He glared at me and started writing another ticket for having bald tires! Then I really got angry at him. He finished the second ticket and put it on the car with the first. Then he started writing a third ticket! This went on for about 20 minutes. The more I abused him, the more tickets he wrote. I didn't care. My car was parked around the corner. 2 One night a police officer was staking out a particularly rowdy bar for possible DUI violations. At closing time, he saw a fellow stumble out of the bar, trip on the curb and try his keys on five different cars before he found his. The man sat in the front seat fumbling around with his keys for several minutes. Meanwhile, all the other patrons left the bar and drove off. Finally he started his engine and began to pull away. The police officer was waiting for him. As soon as he pulled onto the street, the officer stopped him, read him his rights and administered the breathalyzer test to determine his blood-alcohol content. The results showed a reading of 0.0. The puzzled officer demanded to know how that could be. The driver replied, "Tonight I'm the designated decoy." 3 A police officer pulls over this guy who's been weaving in and out of the lanes. He goes up to the guy's window and says, "Sir, I need you to blow into this breathalyzer tube." The man says, "Sorry, officer, I can't do that. I am an asthmatic. If I do that, I'll have a really bad asthma attack." "Okay, fine. I need you to come down to the station to give a blood sample." "I can't do that either. I am a hemophiliac. If I do that, I'll bleed to death." "Well, then, we need a urine sample." "I'm sorry, officer, I can't do that either. I am also a diabetic. If I do that, I'll get really low blood sugar." "All right, then I need you to come out here and walk this white line." "I can't do that, officer." "Why not?" "Because I'm drunk." Which one do you think was funniest? more

Open Question: should i tell the army, who ive been offered enlistment with, about this involvement with police..?

4 or 5 nights ago me and my dad got into a fight. he was abusing and provoking me. to sum up the physical contact parts.. i pushed him, he kicked me in the crotch, he swuing at me, i ducked, he fell and i kicked him (im ashamed of that pussy move) he gto up and smashed me in the jaw, i rang the police. police came 2 hours later when he had sobered up and things were fine again. i told this to the police they said ok but they need to take our statements so they took me and my fathers. im enlisting with the australian army on the 31st of may this year. should i inform my recruiting officer case-manager guy about this? more

Open Question: When Will Laws Be Enforced On Freemasonry?

I was sexually abused as a child by this group. I have also been harassed for 22 years by them. Why are these people protected by the police and Judaical system? And how can we protect our kids from these secret societies and their subversive agendas.. more

Open Question: i was instructed by the australian army to tell them if i have trouble with police...?

im joining the australian regular army and have received an offer of enlistment through mail to join on the 31st of may this year. after my interview they told me to tell them if i get in trouble with the police. i havent exactly gotten in trouble with the police, but me and my father got in an argument about 4 nights ago, and i called the police, as he was drunk, abusing and provoking me. he initially started verbally abusing me and then provoking me, standing very close to me to try and intimidate me. i pushed him backwards. im about the same, maybe a little stronger than my dad. he fell backwards on to the couch, where he was originally sitting. he then kicked me in my crotch and i stumbled away about 2 metres, swearing at him. not wanting to show him he really hurt me i stood up and found he was coming at me and as he swung i ducked, he fell to the ground and i kicked him. i then tried to restrain him so i could try and calm him down but he got free. i backed away and he stood up, and swung again at me and hit me square in the jaw. i cant remember what happened after that, not because he knocked me out, i guess i was shocked he actually hit me. i must of pushed him again because the next thing i can remember i was getting some ice out the freezer. he sat back on the couch and continued to abuse me. i told him to shut up or ill call the police and he challenged that. so i got up and called them. 2 hours later they came. but by then, my mother and sister had came back from the shops, they had found out what happened (my dad tried to clean the loungeroom up, and began acting normal once they returned, which really angered me, but he must have sobered up). dad had gone to bed after my mother gave him (and me) a mouthful. my feelings about the situation had changed in that 2 hours. i was no longer frustrated with my dad so i rang the police and told them dont worry about coming, everythings ok now, dads stopped being abusive and has gone to bed. but right then, the police car showed up so i told the police on the phone nevermind, ill tell the police that pulled up. i talked to the police, told them what went on, they took my statement and mum woke my dad up so they could take his statement. they then left, as i told them everything had calmed down. me and my dad are now fine with eachother, we talked and made up. this doesnt happen often at all. my dad is under stress as his mother and brother are sick, he is going to lose his job as the company he works for has gone broke, and we own a caravan with 2 others and there has been a lot of trouble with that, financially-wise and time-at-the-van sharing time (its at a really nice holiday resort but has limited space/not enough space). my question is basically should i inform my army recruiter (recruitment case-manager) of this incident? i dont want them getting the wrong idea.. as in do me and my father get in physical fights all the time, we dont; nothing really happened afterwards, with the police, they took our statements, that was it. i never received anything FROM the police for the incident (e.g. an apprehended-violence-order etc) and it is basically all forgotten now, an unfortunate event that did involve the police but really shouldn't-have. being in the army is the ONLY thing i want to do right now with my life. as you can probably tell i'm very worried now about my standing with the army, if they take this the wrong way and decide, for instance, i cant even stay a few months (between my interview and enlistment dates) without getting involved with the law, etc etc etc. any honest opinions would really be appreciated. i've decided i will go to my recruitment centre tomorrow to 1) hand in the rest of my paperwork for them and 2) tell them what happened. obviously i'd rather not do 2 but i feel i have to. its just that feeling in my gut that things will take a turn for the worse after this very unfortunate event. im 18 thanks more

Open Question: Character name suggestions?

Her name is Julia and she is 20 years old, and her birthday is on July 3rd. She is 5”8, slim, dark brown eyes, and light brown hair down to her shoulders, pale pink lips, and slightly pointed nose. Julia works as a police officer which she has been since she turned 18 years old. She lives with her sister who is 3 years older than she is, and her sister’s boyfriend David. Julia was brought up by her auntie (mothers side) since she was six years old when her father was put in prison for abusing her mother, who killed herself after the terrible ordeal she had been through. Julia is ambitious, loyal to the job, independant, determained, friendly, shy sensitive, good listener and wise. The thing about Julia is she doesn’t trust men. Because her father abused her mother, she is worried that the same thing might happen to her. Julia smokes, and only has the odd drink. She likes going with her friends to the pub after work (where she mostly drinks orange juice or cola), and also going to clubs. Julia has a dog and loves walking him to the local park, and also going out jogging because she likes to keep fit. She also goes every week end to her local tennis courts to play tennis. Most of all, she loves her job more than anything. I like Brianna or Julia for the first name...what do you think?? And yes I know I asked this question before, but this time I am asking for surname suggestions aswell if you don't mind?? more

Open Question: Character first name help!!?

Here's my character details...... Her name is __________and she is 20 years old, and her birthday is on July 3rd. She is 5”8, slim, dark brown eyes, and light brown hair down to her shoulders, pale pink lips, and slightly pointed nose. Julia works as a police officer which she has been since she turned 18 years old. She lives with her sister who is 3 years older than she is, and her sister’s boyfriend David. Julia was brought up by her auntie (mothers side) since she was six years old when her father was put in prison for abusing her mother, who killed herself after the terrible ordeal she had been through. Julia is ambitious, loyal to the job, independant, determained, friendly, shy sensitive, good listener and wise. The thing about Julia is she doesn’t trust men. Because her father abused her mother, she is worried that the same thing might happen to her. Julia smokes, and only has the odd drink. She likes going with her friends to the pub after work (where she mostly drinks orange juice or cola), and also going to clubs. Julia has a dog and loves walking him to the local park, and also going out jogging because she likes to keep fit. She also goes every week end to her local tennis courts to play tennis. Most of all, she loves her job more than anything. First names I thought..... Julia Emily Brianna Maisey Carla Maeghan (suggestion from other user) Any ideas?? Feel free to suggest other names if you don't like these :) more

Resolved Question: Am I wrong to feel this way about my mom?

I asked a similar question like this last night, but I would like some more opinions/advice. I am 20 years old and since the day I could remember my parents have abused me. I have scars on my body from my mother punching me, bashing me into walls, cutting me with knives etc. I have nightmares of my dad trying to choke me, hit/punch me etc. Not to mention the years of emotional/verbal abuse they gave me. My father passed away when I was 16. My mother is a drug addict/alcoholic who has been since I was born. She went into a downward spiral the day my dad died and took out everything on me. I have found my mother passed out on the floor from her trying to kill herself, I have had to give my own mother mouth to mouth/CPR due to her trying to kill herself. I have (myself) admitted my mother into rehab 5 times, it hasn't worked. She stays sober for a month and than goes back to her old ways. I have been told my whole life I wasn't supposed to be born, how I was a mistake. How I am the reason my parents were and are unhappy, how I am a b*tch, and how I am an ugly/disgusting person. My mother called the police on me when I was 17, because she didn't want me anymore. The police saw that I was terrified of my mother, how I had my lip bursting with blood (due to her punching me) and told me to live with my brother, which I did. I than moved out of my brothers house when I was 18 and I continue to live on my own with my boyfriend who I have been with since I was 15. The thing is, am I wrong to hate my mother? Is it wrong of me to not want anything to do with her? She calls me everyday and I try so hard to be nice, ask how she is and be a good daughter. But she just tells me how she is going to kill herself because of me, and how I am a horrible person for ME leaving HER. I am so depressed and all I want is a mother, because I have never had one. That's all I have ever wanted. Am I wrong to not want to talk to her? Am I wrong to be feeling this way (feeling like I hate her)?I should mention she is bipolar and has multiple personality disorder. She is on medication. She is also engaged, so she is not alone and by herself. more

Open Question: What do you say to a child victim of sexual abuse?

The girl I babysit for was eight when she was sexually abused and raped by her step-dad. She finally came forward to her mom with the abuse when she was ten. They reported it to the police and were going to follow through with charging him. They didn't have enough evidence because he passed a lie detector test because he didn't remember any of it because he was drunk and would black out. In order for the charges to stick, she needs to testify but she refuses to. She talked to a police officer once about it, but other than that she won't talk to anyone else. I know she looks up to me and I've tried to bring it up, but it seems like every time I'm close to she's just too happy and I don't want to ruin her little bit of happiness. I've told her that it wasn't her fault and that she can talk to me whenever she wants to and that I'd do anything for her. Her step-dad was obviously kicked out of the house, but is the father of her three year old half brother so she has to deal with being out of the house when he's there, hearing his voice when she answers the phone, and hearing her little brother talk about how he loves his dad and misses him every day. Her mom is no better, doting on her little brother and giving in to his every want and demeaning her every day. I think she has resentment for her because she is having money problems now that her step-dad is gone and doesn't want to press charges because he'll no longer help pay the bills. It kills me that she has to deal with this, and I really want to help her but don't know what else to do so anything that could help would be great. more

Open Question: CHILD ABUSE QUESTION?

I had a friend who is a single mother of an 11 year old daughter. Recently the mother took of to florida to meet a boyfriend for a week in florida. The little girl said something to authorities while she was in school about her being by herself for many days and it alerted the police. The police went to the house and found the little girl by herself. The police called the mother and she said she would be there in a couple days. When the mother got home police immediatly arrested her. The next day there was a huge picture of her in the paper on the front page. This was the mothers first offense. The question i am asking is do you think the mother will go to jail for this, or do you think she will just get community service? I mean she abandoned her little girl for a week, dont you think she should get some jail time? This happened in connecticut. DCF placed the little girl with her father in new york. Do you think he will get full custody now? I hope so cause i really do not like this woman at all! more

Open Question: Why would a girl want to be on a LEASH!!?

I saw a girl at the mall today. Her boyfriend was holding her on a leash. WTF?? Isn't that abuse? I told the boyfriend I was going to call the police and he said it's okay she likes it. And then the girl said yeah she liked it. I don't understand. Why would a girl like being on leash? more

Open Question: can a police officer put you in cuffs and put you in the back of the cruiser for no reason?

my husband is a truck driver, he barely hit a car yesterday and gave the guy 20 bucks for a bent plate and everything was settled right there. when my husband was leaving a police officer came and stopped him from leaving. told him to get down, asked for his DL and cuffed him and put him in the back of the cruiser. didn't get no rights read or a reason on why he was being cuffed. was there until another cruiser came with a gentleman that seemed to be at a higher rank then the arresting officer and un-cuffed my husband and let him go on his way... both me and my husband are saddened by this ordeal since he has never done anything and its degrading for him to be cuffed just like that! i just want to see what other think about this. and if i should go on an look for a lawyer because of the police abusing his power. more

Open Question: What to do if you found out your brother was looking at child porn over a 3-4 year span?

I have 4 kids and a hubby that is pretty mad about the past actions my brother has made. We only found out after the police found my brother using the IP address. Then, my brother was considerate enough to tell me why a Detective was calling to tell me that my 7 yo dd would have to be interviewed to make sure nothing happened. He swears nothing happened, but he also sexually abused my sister when he was a teen, and she a child. Anyway, my brother has a toddler ds of his own - but the toddler is with his wife right now, who separated from him in December '09. Anyone experience this? I don't know what boundaries to set. I want to protect my kids, but I also don't want to freak out more than I should either. My parents seem to want forgiveness w/o the consequences of boundaries. I'm open to suggestions.*Yes, this is totally sickening and 200% wrong. I'm totally grossed out. *This is so fresh, I'm not ready to forgive. *He is going to a therapist - I think he's been going for a few times now (before the police found out - and before he told us about the child porn).***I hadn't EVER thought it would be ok to leave my kids alone with him. But, I'm referring to family get togethers where I would make sure I knew where my kids were all the time and would not be allowed to be next to him. ***Another question - should I tell my kids about him? I plan to have "rules" while around him. more

Open Question: How can I prove a gift has been given to me legally?

An ex boyfriend purchased a laptop for me as a christmas gift, how can i show it is a gift and not anyone elses or a household item???? Details to the laptop that was given as a gift. My ex boyfriend purchased a laptop for me for christmas and is now withholding it from me. The purchase didn't take place until after xmas because lack of money. I went with to pick out what laptop i wanted and he also purchased the warranty, wireless internet motem (for me to use while being at his house), and my dad a 32" LCD TV with warranty at the same time. The purchase was made in cash. I have taken the laptop back and forth from my home, my dads home, and ex boyfriends' home numerous of times. I am the administrater on the laptop and nor him or anyone else in his household has used my laptop. He has said to number of family members that he purchased the laptop as a gift for me for xmas. I had left the laptop at his home because i was going to work and thought i would be returning to his home after, I did not because he asked me not too. The next day i went to retrieve my laptop and toiletries from his home but was told by him that i can not take the laptop. Because of his mental state and drug abuse i just took my toiletries in fear that if i were to argue he would become violent because he has in the past. I asked his mom at that time to please retrieve my laptop from his possession because i am in fear that he will sell it for drug money and i would get it from her as soon as she can retrieve it from him. After not hearing from her the next day I spoke with her soex boyfriendend) and he said in fact "she does have it and it will not be returned to me, he purchased it and he has treceiptept, it is his!" Because of my work schedule i was not able to retrieve the rest of my personal belongings until 3 days after first coming to his home and asking for the laptop. I on the third day wanted to retrieve my property contacted so i contacted the police to help me retrieve my things. The ex-boyrfriend said i could not reciveve those belongings until i pay him back the 200$ he let me spend on his debit card. Before him ever telling me that i had a money order made out in his name of 200$ already. When the police retrieved my personal belongs from him they handed him the money order. Needless to say my laptop was not included with my other things. I then contacted him and asked him if he can handle things like an adult and give me back my laptop so neither one of us has to go to court. He then said "take me to court, i will see you there". I yesterday being the first business day after all this took place sent him a certified letter stating he has 10days to send a written response and/or return my property from the day upon recieveing this certified letter or i have no other choice but to take this to small claims court to retrieve my belongings. Sorry so long but i thought i should give every detail. thank you for taking your time =)Please i am not asking your personal opinion about me or the situation. I am asking HOW CAN I PROVE IT WAS GIVEN AS A GIFT. thank you more

Open Question: Can my ex-husband terminate my rights and let his new wife adopt?

I would like to know if my ex-husbands new wife can adopt my kids and terminate my rights. I call them, and pay child support. He will not let me see them. He will not even let me talk to them half of the time. I was with his for about three years and the abuse was terrible. He would run off with our son to his hometown in west virgina until i would take him back. I finally got him back in north carolina and filed for divorce and got temporary custody due the abuse. my kids and i lived in a womens shelter for a while until i got on my feet. he never would stop harassing me or threatning to take my kids and run no matter what i told the police or judge. one day he came and got the kids and called like an hour later and said you will never see them again. he went home of course. 8 hours away. i do not know where he stays with them. i called and called his mom until finally she let me know they were there after about three months. the law would not do amber alert because dumb me told them they were with their dad. i went to his job and found out he transferred. i went to his house and all of his things were gone, a neighbor told me he moved a week ago. i was without a full time job at the time so i did not have the money to fight his rich parents. about 7 months later i get picked up for failure to pay child support wow. i have been fighting for years now to see them and talk to them. tonite he text me that i would never talk to them anymore or see them and he was having his new wife adopt them and he was terminating my rights. is this even legal. i do not know what to do. its like no one will help me. i am in college. i graduated top of my class. i have a good job now, and a nice home. i dont understand what i am not doing. anyway can he terminate my rights and let her become their mom?First of all George read please. I was in a shelter when I left him with my kids. He came and took them on his visitation day. I do not have to lie about anything and please refrain from your rude comments I am going through enough.he took them when he came to get them from me for his two day visitation and no one has to read my long drawn out story just trying to get some advice on what to do thanks to some who understand. more

Open Question: domestic violence question?

My friend is being abuse by her husband physically and mentally. I have told her to call the police she won't. I have given her a number for a domestic abuse shelter she has 4 kids.what can I do other than what I have already done. He has thrown her out of the car with the kids in it and driven off. He threatens to take her 2 sons and leave.They have 2 toddler girls also. Help.we have documented the abuse and I just sent her a disposible camera to her work so he couldn't find it. I don't know her family they live in anther state. more

Resolved Question: Is it always right to involve the police if?

your spouse is abusing you? Or should you forget your material goods and leave the home? There are no children involved. more

Open Question: Do you know this book I cant remember the name?

Its about a woman who is abused by her police man husband, he beats her so bad he makes her lose her pregnancy..he leaves the imprint of his ring on her skin..she slowly starts losing touch with reality, leaves him then totally loses her mind...I know its vague but its all I could remember about the book, I read it years ago and can't for the sake of me remember the name of it or the author. Thanks for any help!! more

Open Question: is this considered child abuse?

one day my best friend came to school crying. she didn't want to talk to anyone. then she finally told me that last night she was baby-sitting and her little sister ate like 60 of those gummy vitamins. her mom got REALLY mad and her mom started screaming at her. the neighbors were about to call the police. then she kicked my best friend in the stomach and slammed her against the wall. my friend threw up 3 times. she couldn't sleep and she cried all night. her mom said that if she told anyone that she wouldn't care. i feel so sorry for my friend. she is adopted and her parents abuse her. wasn't the whole point of the adoption so she could have a caring loving family? she thought of committing suicide that night! thank god she didn't. is this considered child abuse?this has happened at least 3 other times. my friend and i are both 13. more

Open Question: Do you like my poems?

I wrote them both in science so yeah 1st poem: They tell you a good girl is quiet and to never question it they tell you to follow them and watch then win you try to be nice never cry you try all your might they say when you fall they will catch catch you and when your blue They lied you cried that's how the story go you have lost all your hope your only comfort is knowing God is by your side now your jumping off the ride saying goodbye you now know who you are A simple girl going far second poem: you sit he stands you cry he lifts his hand inside you die he tells you who you are you agree he tells you to cover your scars you obey he continues everyday you get fed up and say had enough he disagrees and hits you again you scream he covers your mouth but it's too late the neighbors called the police to take him away now your free A whole new world to see this is the story of an abused girl who was forced to live in an abused world. do you like them more

Open Question: should i run away with my boyfriend?

ok well im 15 and my boyfriend is 17, we have a long distance relashonship but we love each other n we are very mature about this and we know we will be together forever, well we both are abused physically and verbally at home, we both really cant take it and we were thinking about leaving, he has money hes actually quite rich he has enough to take care of us forever. we can leave n wanna plan on getting married then we'd be free and when im 18 i can come back. now i know this is our only option, i dont wanna hear talk to a counslor thr police cps or ect. or that we dont know what love is and were making a mistake. i just want your opinion on running away and if its worth it more

Resolved Question: How to tell my boyfriend about the abuse?

Ok so first off, Sorry if it's long but it would really help if you read it :) So my uncle has been looking after me and my younger sister for about 1 month (my parents are away on an important Business trip) and he has to carry on looking after us for about 2-3 more months. Anyway, my uncle recently started getting drunk and abusive. He will try and hit my sister (she is 13 and im 15) so I ALWAYS make him hit me instead of her. And i have been really down and my boyfriend knows theres something wrong (he helps as a councillor at a youth club) and keeps asking where my cuts and bruises are from (i say my horse). And last night it got really bad, my uncle bought 2 friends home and grabbed my sister and hit her so I grabbed a vase and smashed it over my uncles head (Bad idea) then told them to leave her. So she ran upstairs while they was repeatedly hitting me and held my throat to the wall, so now im coverd head to toe in cuts and bruises. Im not allowed to school for a bit so nobody sees them, and i snuck out tonight to sit by the mountain and just cry, what ive held i for so long now. And my boyfriend came and asked what id done, I just couldn't talk so i juts sat there and cried. He held me and said he knows somethings wrong and he wants me to tell. I apologised to him im sorry im a bad person but I cant. And came home to find my uncles friends had found out im gone- and i was so sad and angry i was screaming and hitting them, basically everything i could. My sister phoned my boyfriend and was crying, and he heard me screaming so came over. My uncle said it was nothing and shut the door while I was hid round the corner held by his friend. I know he knows whats happening, but how do i tell him properly? Please any ideas on how to? And dont say go to the police or anyone, Its all my fault and my parents will be back soon. thankyou :) (Re-post due to lack of answers) more

Resolved Question: How do I tell my boyfriend about the abuse?

Resolved Question: In small print at the end of my submitted answers I've noticed the words, "edit" "delete."?

Why can anyone edit or delete my answers. I don't see these words at the end of anyone else's answers. Are the Yahoo!Answers "report-abuse" police after me? What does this mean? more

Open Question: Do I allow my Foster Child to Speak with an Adult online?

My little girl just turned 9 years old. She has told us and her counselor that she has been speaking online to an adult man and it's her best friend. She has always said they didn't talk about anything "bad". Obviously thinking nothing good is coming out of this, I watched them talk, and secretly recorded their conversations for about a week. I planned to save all and turn them in to the police. But after all, there really was nothing to be concerned about. This guy just seemed genuinely concerned about her, and how she was doing in her new foster home. Asked her school, how we were treating her, has given her better advice than I could have, tells her how to make friends, to listen to us, etc. I have read old emails from her account when she was living at home and he tells her to tell an adult about her abuse, he tells her it's not her fault, etc. All good things. She tells him everything, that she never tells us or the counselors, about her mom, former abuse, her feelings, etc. I dont know what to do, I don't know if it would do more harm than good if I stopped this friendship P.S. They have been talking for over a year, and HE is the one who called child services to get her out of that awful home. Do I stop all together, do I strictly monitor, do I talk to him? What? more

Open Question: how can i break up with my bf and make him move out? help!?

I've been with him for two years and we jus found out I'm pregnant..but I feel he's verbally abusing me and my son I don't have the guts to call the police bc I jus feel shity even tho I know I shud..but I jus want advice.I don't want to envolve my family with me moving with them well bc there places are little and I won't be able to fit there and I'm not working my bf is the main source of income at the time..and I jus don't know what to do he pays rent but its under my brothers name..what can I do help me pls more

Open Question: OMG I THINK I'M BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED BY MY STEP DAD HELP!?

I don't know if this is considered sexual abuse because it wasn't physical, but my step dad just texted me and said when he got home from work he had his big 9 incher waiting for my kitty. I was going to tell my mom but I suddenly got really nervous, but can I call the police about this or would they tell me he had to physically abuse me? I'm scared he's going to rape me HELP! more

Open Question: My friend has a really old dog and he abuses it. What should I do?

My friend has a dog, and it's really old and helpless. He says he absoultely hates it....and I tried to save it because he said him & his family hate it...so I took it & my bestfriends mom said they can take it , but her dad said no. My mom wants to call the police...becasue the kid kicks & punches the poor dog, Oreo. What should I do? PLEASE HELP ME...! :(I must have not made myself clear....I don't have the dog myself, it's back with it's owner....sadly. :'( My Mom wouldn't let me keep Oreo because we travel way to much and doesn't want to have any more pets-tp much drama. I get way to attatched to them. And plus, my parents don't want a dog either. But I really wanted this poor dog, Jamie (the owner) said he didn't want him. He even threatened to kill him one day . I will do what I can to save him though.... :'( Thanks for the support guys....! xoxo more

Open Question: What is the name of this movie?

Okay, so I'm trying to remember the name of a movie I saw a few years ago. The movie has two main stories that are going on: The first story is about two women that decide they want to help a country out that America is currently at war with (The Vietnam War?), so they go over to that country to see what they can help with. When they get there, they see all of these children that are in horrible situations, so they decide that they want to open a company that helps take care of these neglected and/or abused children. The second story that the movie switches between takes place in a little more modern times. It's about a child that's father abuses him, and he finally gets up the courage to call a company to help him. Turns out, its the same company that the two women started in a different country that had turned into a world-wide organization. The boy gets taken out of his home by the police and left in the care of the company. The story follows him as he learns about the other kids that are there with him. One kid's mom would come home drunk and abuse him, and one of the abuse sessions she had taken a cigarette and burned STUPID (I think) across his back. another kid's "punishment" for doing things her father didn't like would be that she would be buried alive in their back yard, but her mom would dig a small hole and put a straw in it so she could still breath while buried. I don't remember much else about it, but I think it was a Lifetime Movie. Does anyone know that movie I'm talking about? more

Open Question: Why do liberals hate conservative values?

Political scientist Dr. Lawrence Britt recently wrote an article about fascism ("Fascism Anyone?," Free Inquiry, Spring 2003, page 20). Studying the fascist regimes of Hitler (Germany), Mussolini (Italy), Franco (Spain), Suharto (Indonesia), and Pinochet (Chile), Dr. Britt found they all had 14 elements in common. He calls these the identifying characteristics of fascism. The excerpt is in accordance with the magazine's policy. The 14 characteristics are: 1. Powerful and Continuing Nationalism Fascist regimes tend to make constant use of patriotic mottos, slogans, symbols, songs, and other paraphernalia. Flags are seen everywhere, as are flag symbols on clothing and in public displays. 2. Disdain for the Recognition of Human Rights Because of fear of enemies and the need for security, the people in fascist regimes are persuaded that human rights can be ignored in certain cases because of "need." The people tend to look the other way or even approve of torture, summary executions, assassinations, long incarcerations of prisoners, etc. 3. Identification of Enemies/Scapegoats as a Unifying Cause The people are rallied into a unifying patriotic frenzy over the need to eliminate a perceived common threat or foe: racial , ethnic or religious minorities; liberals; communists; socialists, terrorists, etc. 4. Supremacy of the Military Even when there are widespread domestic problems, the military is given a disproportionate amount of government funding, and the domestic agenda is neglected. Soldiers and military service are glamorized. 5. Rampant Sexism The governments of fascist nations tend to be almost exclusively male-dominated. Under fascist regimes, traditional gender roles are made more rigid. Opposition to abortion is high, as is homophobia and anti-gay legislation and national policy. 6. Controlled Mass Media Sometimes to media is directly controlled by the government, but in other cases, the media is indirectly controlled by government regulation, or sympathetic media spokespeople and executives. Censorship, especially in war time, is very common. 7. Obsession with National Security Fear is used as a motivational tool by the government over the masses. 8. Religion and Government are Intertwined Governments in fascist nations tend to use the most common religion in the nation as a tool to manipulate public opinion. Religious rhetoric and terminology is common from government leaders, even when the major tenets of the religion are diametrically opposed to the government's policies or actions. 9. Corporate Power is Protected The industrial and business aristocracy of a fascist nation often are the ones who put the government leaders into power, creating a mutually beneficial business/government relationship and power elite. 10. Labor Power is Suppressed Because the organizing power of labor is the only real threat to a fascist government, labor unions are either eliminated entirely, or are severely suppressed . 11. Disdain for Intellectuals and the Arts Fascist nations tend to promote and tolerate open hostility to higher education, and academia. It is not uncommon for professors and other academics to be censored or even arrested. Free expression in the arts is openly attacked, and governments often refuse to fund the arts. 12. Obsession with Crime and Punishment Under fascist regimes, the police are given almost limitless power to enforce laws. The people are often willing to overlook police abuses and even forego civil liberties in the name of patriotism. There is often a national police force with virtually unlimited power in fascist nations. 13. Rampant Cronyism and Corruption Fascist regimes almost always are governed by groups of friends and associates who appoint each other to government positions and use governmental power and authority to protect their friends from accountability. It is not uncommon in fascist regimes for national resources and even treasures to be appropriated or even outright stolen by government leaders. 14. Fraudulent Elections Sometimes elections in fascist nations are a complete sham. Other times elections are manipulated by smear campaigns against or even assassination of opposition candidates, use of legislation to control voting numbers or political district boundaries, and manipulation of the media. Fascist nations also typically use their judiciaries to manipulate or control elections. Copyright © 2003 Free Inquiry magazine Reprinted for Fair Use Only.If liberals would had mind their business, Hitler would had done to Africa, what we did to native Americans. Wipe them out. And we would had so much more land in the hands of the white race.These 14 conservative values is what has lead to the Great U.S.A. more

Open Question: Ex husband sends local police to my house and calls DHR w/ unfounded charges?

My ex husband won't leave it alone. He's bitter because he does not have custody and constantly harasses me through regulatory and law enforcement agencies. I understand charges involving children and neglect or abuse must be investigated, but how many times can an ex continue to do this? All of his accusations have been resolved unfounded, yet he continues... Can I take any legal action against him? Frustrated in Alabama more

Open Question: Letter to David Cameron?

Climate Change. (AGW) Most of the British voters do not believe in this unproven theory. They do know that most of the carbon saving schemes are net producers of carbon products, especially wind powered turbines. Denmark has given up on this wasteful idea. The voters also see right through Carbon Credits as the swindle they are: So: Scrap any idea of Climate Change based policy, it’s bunkum. Stop building wind turbines ASAP. Build nuclear power stations as a matter of priority. Open the coal mines again, build coal fired power stations as Germany and China are. State publicly that the UK will lower its carbon output when China, India, Russia, Germany, the USA and Brazil do. As they won’t, it gets us off the hook nicely. Vote winner-huge. EU. Return the UK vis-à-vis the EU to the same standing as pertained before the signing of the hated Lisbon Treaty. Hold a referendum on the issue. Vote winner-astronomical. Human Rights Act. Scrap it. We have enough legislation to ensure human rights. Vote winner-astronomical. Alcohol Abuse. Return to licensing hours. Stop supermarkets from selling alcohol. Off sales only to be from Off-licences during licensing hours. Night clubs to charge by alcoholic content of drinks, make this price a steep one. Should this not bring an immediate improvement, consider issuing Alcohol Ration Books in which ALL alcohol purchased would be recorded. Vote winner-negative but worth it. Police. Scrap PCSOs, fund “real” police officers with the money saved, if at a rate of 2 to 3 PCOSs to 1 “real” policeman, so be it. Choose an area of mainland UK for a “zero-tolerance” policy. Flood this area with an over-whelming force of police officers, make sure by capacity that every crime in that area is solved; this allied with the “105 year law” would ensure that the bias would switch from the criminal to the forces of law and order. Then move the forces on to another area and so on. Vote winner-astronomical. Legal Aid. Return to the original conception, i.e. for less well off people to afford a solicitor if charged in a court of law, not “can my husband assist me in suicide”? Or “It’s my human right to do---whatever”. Let these people take their cases to the House of Lords as today, but make jolly sure no public money is spent on cases/causes like this. Vote winner-minor. QUANGOS. Scrap them all, wait 12 months and see if any untoward consequences occur, they won’t. Vote winner-positive. ASBOS. Scrap them, start locking offenders up as per the 105 year law, they’ll soon stop. Vote winner-huge. Local Councils. To return to the original task- empty dustbins, schools, sweep the streets, allotments, and not outreach or race crime agencies. If a race crime has been committed, it’s a job for the police, not the local council. Stop translations, if people want translations they’ll soon find a translator without the ratepayer paying for it. Vote winner-positive. more

Open Question: Advice regarding Legal separation and reconcilation?

My wife of 10 yrs with 3 children filed for legal seperation. She considers me an insensitive person. She feels controlled by me and states her life rotates around me to keep me happy. We have been very argumentative and angry at each other and i have been physical with her 2-3 times. During the last episode she called the police and filed for legal seperation. She planned this seperation/divorce atleast 2 years ago but actually went to a lawyer 2 months before the event. it appears it was all planned before hand. It is worth mentioning she does have history of various abuses as a child and teenage and grew up in a seperated family. At any rate we had more good days then bad but all she recall are the bad ones. My attempts to talk to her are met by extreme anger but she does talk to me for hours. Her decision appears final.At same time she also shows care for me and text and email me. I am extremely confused. i am taking anger management classes and what ever it takes to become a better person. it has been 4 weeks but there is no change in her stance. our lawyers and legal process is moving forward though. Any advice wether there is chance of reconcilation. It will be apreciated. more