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Is health care reform moral? - Bismarck Tribune

Mr Obama and his minions have and always had the idea of changing our Constitution. The only lie Mr. Obama didn't make was when he said 5 days before POTUS election, to a very admiring and cheering crowd, that they were 5 days away from fundamentally ...

Rock Hill schools offer nurturing environment - Rock Hill Herald

The mission of Rock Hill Schools is to provide all students with challenging work that authentically engages them in the learning process and prepares them for successful futures. Due to societal pressures, economic stressors and unresolved family ...

Briefs RELIGION - The Keene Sentinel

* The First Congregational Church in Walpole continues its five-part Lenten series on Sunday titled “Personalities of the Passion (Were you there when they crucified my Lord?)” Worship begins at 10 a.m. The church is at 15 Washington Square ...

Oscar battle a classic Hollywood story - Times Colonist

It's a classic Hollywood confrontation: a gritty little war film with modest returns against the biggest-grossing film in history. Their directors are connected: she is only the fourth woman in history to be nominated as best director — none has ...

Former chamber head back on stand - San Mateo Daily Journal

But finishing up his cross-examination, prosecutor Ivan Nightengale showed Kazarian a photo of the blond 8-year-old child and asked him if he wanted jurors to believe his story that she had called him — a 40-something man — to her airbed at night ...

Court awards bullied student $800,000 - Detroit Free Press

In what experts say could be a landmark decision, a Michigan school district has been ordered to pay $800,000 this week to a student who claimed the school did not do enough to protect him from years of bullying, some sexually tinged. This week's ...

AROUND SOUTH MISSISSIPPI - Biloxi Sun Herald

GULFPORT — The Gulfport Police Department received three complaints Wednesday and Thursday about residential thefts by a man who claimed he worked for the city water department and needed to check water in homes for safety reasons. After stealing ...

COMMUNISTS HIDE BEHIND RADICAL ENVIRONMENTALISM & THE GREENS - NewsWithViews.com

We have all seen this last year the unraveling of data and real science regarding global warming. The real scientific community and now media world has hailed it a complete failure and fraud . I would even ad ‘criminal’ since the self appointed ...

Abused kids deserve our help, and they need to be defended - Kansas City Star

Annette Rasmussen is a clinical therapist in Wyandotte County who counsels both victims and perpetrators of child abuse ... com or write to Editorial Page, The Kansas City Star, 1729 Grand Blvd., Kansas City, MO 64108.

Three brothers prepare to deploy to Iraq - Milwaukee Journal Sentinel

Greg Lemke Jr., Lance Lemke and Curt Anderson are members of the 724th Engineer Battalion with its Headquarters Company in Chippewa Falls. Their mother, Mary Lemke, says she was "freaking out a little bit" when she found out Lance would be deployed ...

Open Question: why is my sister such a jerk?

well basically im 15 years old and shes 19 ever since she started high school she has chanhed completely, most of the time the only person she cares about is herself. She used to be abusive when i was younger and would slap me or pull my hair the usual stuff but its turned more into verbal abuse now. she also doesnt give a crap about my parents like pne time she called the police on them for "child abuse" i mean come on what sick person makes up something like that and cause most of the time my dads at work my mum cant handle her and she walks all over her. shes tried to run away loads of times too and one time when my mum tried to stop her she borke my bedroom door kicked a hole in the wall smashed all the photos off the walls and broke the glass on the front door, then later that night she comes back home and my mum and dad dont say nothing, the worst part is that my mum goes up stairs with a tary full of food and chocolates for her as if she has done something to deserve it. she always acts without thinking and when everything goes wrong she takes it out on other people usually her family and when she messes things up we have to pick up the pieces my dad is always paying for her outstanding bills. is there something i could say to her like a little comment that would make her think about her actuons and take responsibilty, shes not the type of peson you can sit down and talk to. and btw she is the BIGGEST slut more

Open Question: Help me please I don't know if I can cope with this? Childhod sexual exploration gone awry?

My brother was sexually abused quite horribly by his mother.(not my mother) For years he's been stealing underwear from a variety of places from neighbours including a forty year old woman and a 5 year old girl to including me and my then 14 year old sister and masterbated into them. Police were involved and he had counselling. He was 18 the last time and fourteen the first. He's now 23 My brother recently started dating a woman with a three year old . I don't beleive the child is safe with him not just because of that. When I was 6 he began touching me, I don't know who started it but I know I instigated it sometimes and we played "house" often , mimicking sexual acts . As we grew older though I began to feel threatened and I knew that type of thing was wrong . But I still went to him and let him because. I knew he'd feel me up anyway and it was the only way to get him to go away, I think I had depression to as I. felt empty inside I never spoke- I had anxiety/selective mutism as a child and he never threatened me. Sometimes after I was eleven I would try to push him off but I didn't realise how stronghe was and he'd just grind against me harder and pull down my underwear, I tried rolling over from him once but he kept grinding me but I managed to get him off and run to the bathroom. I don't know if he realised what he was doing because he's not very bright although he had counselling after he was abused too so surely they would of explained to him right from wrong, I mean when he's ontop of me and I'm hitting him with a playstation controll as hard as I can that means i don't want to? . I only ever said no once, even when I tried it wouldn't come out. But sometimes I got pleasure from him grinding against me . He never made me touch him but he'd touch me all over and finger me, grind and grope me. I told my counseller only about his knicker taking and the fact he's living with a littlegirl in the houseSorry , stupid iPod. Cont. My doc wants me to contact social services to let them know. My mum wasn't happy and is refusing to let my doc have his name or adress so I confessed what he did to me , without details and she's not sure if what he did to me childhood exploration or worse . I don't even know. He was only 2 Years older so it doesn't count does it. She's still protecting him though. I feel so guilty for telling her about it that I keep having panic attacks but I promised myself that I'd tell to protect a child if it was involved . My mothers great but it's all going to be my fault if it all comes crashing down and I can't stop crying . Long post I know, sorry, thanks for Reading if u do.Stupid morons making comments . You don't have a bloody clue what it feels like and how everything is completely screwed. I hope you never have to experience anything like this. more

Open Question: I need some serious answers about a domestic abusive situation, please?

Oh gosh, where to start?!?! Ok, so the situation is this - My mother is currently going through a separation from her husband of 18 years. He is not my biological father, but he did adopt my brother and I, against our will basically, when we were very young. Together, he and my mother have 4 more children. This separation has turned very nasty. My mother's husband has been a domineering and obnoxious person since the day I met him, and nothing has changed, in fact it has gotten worse. Over the last 18 years he has used the Bible as a weapon to control everyone in his life, telling them the Bible gives him authority over them and they are in rebellion to question what he demands. My mom has finally decided she is done with his constant verbal and emotional abuse that he has inflicted for years and filed for full custody seeing as none of the children at this point want anything to do with him. Obviously, he is fighting her very hard and blaming the kids feelings towards him on her. Also, he has been a prescription drug addict for over 10 years and just within the last 6 months has been, supposedly, off all medication. On top of this addiction to morphine and Fentanyl he has drunk and drove several times, been on sleeping pills and drove, and huffed paint once to get high and relieve the pain he has from some surgeries years ago. Once he was drunk and asked my 9 year old half brother (7 years old at the time) to drive with him down to the dollar store right up the street...with my brother as the driver. My mother intervened, but this type of thing is not uncommon for him. He brought fireworks into the home not long ago (illegal in the state) and had my brother outside with kerosene lighting them. Anyway, he commands respect from everyone and when he does not get it he threatens and intimidates and bullies everyone in the house until they feel helpless other then to just do whatever it takes to get him to back off. My mother call the police on him pushing her out the door through the use of the door and has received no help from the deputies at all. An incident that happened just hours ago was my mother returning from a trip out of town and brought back my older brother with her to stay with her for the weekend turned into her husband calling the sheriff on my brother and demanding he be removed from the property. So, I guess I don't understand. This is all in the state of AZ, by the way. My mother's name is on the mortgage, she owns half the house legally, and is getting it in the separation. Her lawyer told me that if her husband called the cops to have me removed they would not be able to considering she owns half the house, so why did this not happen that way? I am thinking the best choice at this point is to contact CPS and report the emotional and verbal abuse and see if it can be used for the court to help my mother get full custody. Does this sound reasonable in this situation? There are so many more issues and details, but it's all a lot to process and make sense of right now. Any good (not rude) advice is welcome, it fact I am begging for it! I am at my breaking point by seeing this all happen, they are all victims, and I am not sure what I can do to help. more

Open Question: Does the Yahweh ben Yahweh cult have any type of ritual that happens when a child turns of a certain age?

I am interested in information about children and child abuse in the Yahweh ben Yahweh cult. Are there rituals involving children or birthdays? more

Resolved Question: FIGHT WITH MY MOM..?? PLEASE HELP:'(?

yesterday i went to my friend's house afterschool for a project, i told my mom the day before i also told her that we would go to a couple of shops to get the items we need. i found it strange that she didnt call me from about 2 o clock to 8:30 i was just going to call her, but she was out waiting for me. when i got in the car she wasnt mad, but later she was like why didnt you call me and tell me whats happening and where you were going. ( i never call her, she allways calls me thats wut usually happens). then she got mad wen we got home we were eating dinner she was still mad at me i didnt know what to do, i mean its not a big deal why should she be mad? she said that she tried calling me on my mobile but one of my mobiles was out of charge and the other she typed a wrong number several times, which isnt my problem at all right? i didnt know that she was trying to reach me. we were then arguing and she threatened to beat me up, i didnt answer, she started lectueing me about her beating me n stuff so i told her about child abuse and stuff. i just turned 15 a week ago. so i got off and went to sleep. everything was fine till today, she didnt want to take me to yoga class as she promised, and when she came to pick me up from the class she was still pissed at me, that at home she started telling me all these mean stuff then she told me to get out of her face she doesnt want to see my face or hear my voice. tears fell down i couldnt stop them, so i ran upstairs and here i am writing this. i told her sorry several times today about me not calling and arguing back, but i just dont see how this is MY problem, i even told her that why does she always want to fight with me, she says you piss me off thats all, she doesnt like the way i am or the way i speak, i was speaking very politely but shes always screaming :'( it huurts i cntt take it she shouting at me and threatning me.. what should i do ?? more

Open Question: What's the best way to write a resume for this?

I haven't worked for about 13 years (since my children were born) and put up with abuse from their dad for even thinking about looking for work. Thankfully I'm no longer in that situation and am starting to have opportunities that weren't there before. I used to type quite good resume's, but since it's been so long and since I've been a mother all this time, I'm now completely lost in how to do resumes and not sure whether I even remember where I have worked and when + I worked well outside the area in which I reside, so they probably haven't even heard of those places that I have worked at. I'm also limited in terms of time I can work as there is no more after-school care available in my area (places are full) + I'm in a situation where I cannot move due to separation issues. Most of my skills at the time revolved around retail and briefly at a liquor store (this is actually appropriate for where I may be applying) and have done some stocktaking. I have no idea what to put or where, in terms of structure Any advice/ideas would be appreciated. more

Resolved Question: Why am I always like this?

I always feel like im nothing but a loser. I know it's not true because people I meet always like me because they think im a really nice person to get along with but just don't feel like im socially accepted. I mean I cant do things for my self, im a major cry baby at the age of 17, im terrified of people, I can't even manage my looks properly, I can't speak very well when im around people I don't know, I just started to remember to take a shower and brush my teeth, I feel hopeless a lot of the times, im afraid of aging because im terrified of forgetting, I just don't understand my self at all. I tried going to therapy, I tried taking pills, I tried doing a self help book, but in the end I cheat and lie my way through everything and in the end I don't feel any better then I thought I would. Im always lying to my self. I tell my self things will get better, I can improve,things will work out in the end. I don't have a social life out side of the class I stay in because i can't stand to be around people but even then I don't socialize with any of them except the ones that come around at lunch time. I've tried improving my appearance but in the end I just slip away and ignore it and after a while im back to where I started. I can't go out with out my mother or some one by my side unless im going to class. I've been feeling happy recently but it feels more like a sugar rush happy then an actual happy. I don't know if im really happy or not because im usually upset. I always have a unhappy/unfriendly look on my face which some say makes me look scary and unfriendly. I really am friendly but I get so nervous around people I come off as if I have no interest in them at all. All the people that have come to like me were surprised at how I am once they got to know me. But in the end I don't feel like they get me and I avoid them and shy them away from my life but it makes me hurt inside after a while. I just don't get it why am I like this, I mean there is so much more but I don't feel like typing it in. Anyways I just don't understand why I can't figure my self out I mean I don't even know what kind of music I like and music is my life I listen to it everyday. I don't know if I like what im eating or not. Im just so confused. I mean yeah I know I was abused as a child but im over that now I mean I should be since my mother smartened up her act completely around grade 11 after I dropped out for being suicidal. Since I know most of you who answer wont read this can you at least give me a site to talk to some one about it for a while. It feels good to get it off my chest. I know it will come back after a while though but it would still be nice to talk to some one random over the internet who can't judge me the way the people im around can. more

Voting Question: is this domestic violence or any type of abuse?

Okay, so I know a lovely 28 year old with three beautiful, loving children, but she has one huge problem: her husband. When they first got together, they were always breaking and making up, and now they are married and have moved very far away from her family. When I've been to visit her, her husband is always sitting at the computer, and if one of his kids does something (such as whine a little about whether they could have a drink) he calls them "knobheads" "dickheads" "prats" "idiots". He screams at the kids, yells, is really quite tyrannical in his behaviour. I should note he has NOT hit, punched or in anyway physically harmed his kids or wife, but does treat his kids quite aggressively when picking them up/putting them down. I certainly wouldn't treat my children like that. She phones me nearly everyday in tears telling me how he's screamed at the kids, or done nothing to help in the house. Her kids are 1,2 and 6- she never meant to get pregnant with any of them with him, but accidents happen... Now... breaking point for me was when I asked her on the phone a minute ago why doesn't she say something, she replied "I'm scared of him... I can't confront him" From having this awful man in her life, her self esteem has hit rock bottom, she's nervous, stressed, constantly in pain (from severe SPD from her pregnancies) and completely under the thumb. She also said to me a few weeks back that she said she doesn't want to leave because she doesn't want to "be another failed marriage statistic" and also because she "doesn't know where she would go, or what she would do" Is this domestic violence? Or abuse of any kind? And if so, should I call someone and get involved. I am her best friend. I can't see her like this any more- please help. more

Resolved Question: Why is having big boobs treated like such a bad thing (long and I apologize for ranting)?

I'm probably going to get a lot of abuse over this and regret I even asked, but it really hurts. True, there are the types who walk around showing them off but even if someone with big boobs doesn't go around showing them off (and I wouldn't want to, I'm not like that) you're labeled a sl*t or something equally unflattering. People don't want to know you. All people talk about is how they sag a lot more quickly and use that to make fun of big chested women and who wants to be with a woman whose t**s are sagging and knocking around their knees, etc. Well, exercises can be done to prevent that from happening so quickly and there's always surgery (even though most can't afford it) and besides smaller sized breasts can sag and look not as lovely as they once were too, once the body starts getting older. And sometimes, even though all boobs sag eventually, big boobs that sag can end up not looking that bad, certainly not as bad as people like to create a picture in other's minds of. Not every big breasted woman gets horrible breast/shoulder/neck/back pain. I truly think there are men who don't care what size a woman is, just as there are men who prefer smaller breasts and just as there are men who prefer women with bigger breasts. And for men who prefer bigger breasts, true there are a lot who are just wanting to use that woman, but I also believe that men genuinely respect the women who have bigger breasts too, not because of their chests, but because of the person they are. The focus is not on what size their boobs are. Having big breasts doesn't mean you're dumb or a sl*t or think superficially all the time. I am sorry to rant here, but I am just so sick of being smirked at or treated like there's something wrong with me just because I have a bigger bust. I developed a lot earlier and more quickly than other girls, I don't know why. I've been told that I had a great grandmother with a very large bust, maybe I get mine from her. But it's not something I could help. Why is it that big breasts are such a big deal (no pun intended)? I would agree though that it is hard to find attractive underwear and clothing (except for the women who like to show off everything they've got) I am absolutely not knocking women with smaller breasts, so don't accuse me of that. Why though, do big breasted women get to have smirks and dirty looks, and treated like something is wrong with them? Treated like their breasts need to have something done about them (made smaller) as soon as possible? Yes maybe in future if they had children for example and their breasts had grown to a point where they were just really uncomfortable, they could get them reduced if they wanted to. Same as people get nose jobs, botox, whatever, because a part of their body is bothering them. And while I'm here, some people don't like small breasts. They think they should be made a bit bigger and are unattractive, etc. Small boobs can be beautiful, big boobs can be beautiful. But why are big boobs constantly made fun of? Although I'm aware that smaller-breasted girls sometimes don't get a great attitude from society either, it does seem that people are more eager to jump on the bandwagon of bashing bigger-breasted girls. Why?Is that really all it is? Jealousy? Sometimes I truly feel like there is a real preception in society that having big boobs is wrong, though. It's interesting what you said. Thank you for your answers though.36F. Thank you too for answering :) more

Resolved Question: Sociopath with a dilemma? I dunno?

For some time I've always figured myself different from other people - or I'm better than other people. I'm not sure what it is, because I've never actually thought about it too seriously, even as I type this and try to express what I'm trying to convey. I watch people, their actions and reactions seem redundant to me, yet I find myself having to follow these examples to get what I want – Why do people feel I always offend them? Why do they care that I’ve offended them? Why do people ask me to tell them about myself (I find this an extremely intrusive question), which people say I have difficulty answering and become evasive? I was physically and mentally abused as a young child by the person who was suppose to be looking after me, this was encouraged by my mother, who would say that this carer should beat and me and my brother in whatever way she chooses – I still have the physical scars to this day to which my mother has gracefully ignored through the time I grew up (And when I look at my brother, I know he will never have a normal life). I find it difficult to talk to my mother because – I used to have panic attacks when walking past people in the street or in crowded places when I was young. My heart use to RACE and I would be on the verge of bludgeoning them if they so much as asked me a question about directions or inquired about what a nice day it was – Girls used to come up and ask me out and want to know about me, and I use to violently attack them. I think this stopped when my mum sent me away to Jamaica – My grandma/Pa had a dog there I liked (it never asked questions and was always nice), my grandma and grandfather used to tie it to a tree because they had cats. I didn’t like this, so I took the cats, and pretty much fed them to the dog (It would shred apart any cat I fed it until it was dead), then I would tell my grandmother that the cats used to get too close to the dog, she had no idea what I was up to. I didn’t enjoy or dislike killing them I was indifferent, it was never part of the equation for me, I just wanted the dog set free so I could spend time with it – My grandparents finally got the point to not waste money on stupid animals that would get close to a larger predator, I would go deeper into the things I did but it’s not something I wish to discuss yet – What I’m trying to say is that’s when my life became simpler. But anyway, I’m 24 now, and I feel I have some control over my demons, I can walk the street, make conversation without feeling the need to attack anyone (As long as it’s not about me for some reason – and when it is it hasn’t gotten physical because I’m usually very brief) – Nobody knows about my past, I’m not even sure I remember all of it. My point is when I talk to her I feel I am regressing and falling back into bad habits, the only solution I have for this is to put a gun in my mouth and pull the trigger. I’d rather not have anything to do with her. I haven’t seen her in a long time – I’ve never sent Christmas or birthday cards or anything like that since I don’t even know how old she is (When I asked her when I was young she use to tell me to “Mind your own fucking business”), even if I did know I wouldn’t waste the money. I cannot tell her this because she’ll run to my other family members and they will denounce me as some ungrateful little brat that I supposedly am not that I actually care because I don’t even seem them either, but it’s more trouble than it’s worth. I checked out a few internet sources and from what I’ve gleaned I would say that I have sociopathic tendencies but I’m not sure since I’m no doctor, this cannot be remedied by medicine, so is cutting my mother off the wiser choice? Can someone give me expert opinion more

Resolved Question: Is there a way to just never, ever think about this again?

I don't know what to think anymore. I've heard about sexual abuse of children by other children before and I read that it's damaging the same way other sexual abuse is, but I feel like my case is so much lamer than all of that. The fact that I care bothers me no end and the fact that it has influenced me disturbs me. I am repulsed by that part of the body and I can't even hear about it without becoming really sick. How weak does that make me though? I've heard about people who have been raped disliking that part as well, and rape is so much worse than what I experienced (they can't even compare). I asked on here what I would call what happened (before I learned that children could do that) and people said it was still sexual abuse. I thought in being validated I'd get over it, but I feel like words make it sound worse than it was (it was scary and gross and the other kid used a threat that freaked me out at the time, but at the hands of an adult would be worse, of course). It's embarrassing just to type that this happened, and I spent my childhood trying to tell my mom about it and never could (eventually I pushed it away, but I can't seem to stop thinking about it lately). I feel like if I ever said this to someone they'd tell me that kids do stuff like that, but it's so much more than that and I don't know how to properly explain it. I feel like I'm evil for caring and I feel so guilty because I'm sure it happened to the other kid first, and it's not her fault and I feel so badly for her. The guilt just weighs down on me so heavily. People always joke about my guilt-complex because they're convinced I've never done anything bad, but I am so awful and nothing I do can ever erase that fact (it's like having a tainted soul, because no amount of prayer, volunteering, nice thoughts, or whatever else can ever make me a good person and I hate myself for that). Do you think there's a way to never, ever think about this again? I don't even want it at the back of my mind, it's been there for far too long and I'm tired of invalidating it all the time while praying that I'm not insane for actually being kind of scarred by the entire thing. I appreciate your time. more

Resolved Question: Does my grandfather have the right to tell me what to do?

My moms father is not a traditional GD the one who can tell you something is wrong.. and you'd probably listen because you know hes right. I don't have a problem with listening and admitting to the wrong things that ive done. but my moms dad always likes to point out whatever he thinks is wrong but he does it on assumption. he never researches anything. and then he tries to change you and sermon you... that would be fine if i had grew up with him.. but he just came into our lives like 2 years ago. Everytime we go visit him he always has something negative to point out or say.. and frankly i dont give a F i have no time for BS.. he offended me yesterday by saying my mother raised me in vain because i won't help her "curse out the landlord" or take charge because he feels like my mom can't speak for herself. ive tried to help my mother with the dealing of the landlord but she tries to go at it very uneducated, so i dont get involved with it.. i let her handle her business. my granddad tried to tell me yesterday i dont worry about my mom or have compassion for her because i dont take charge. how could i take charge with someone who wont let me help her? the right WAY! WHATEVER. i choose to respect him because he is my mothers dad and my grand father so i respect him for that. but he cant expect me to tolerate the mental abuse and him disrespecting me because i'm an adult and i expect the same respect. my mom has no type of relationship with him.. they never talk. they never say anything to each other. the only thing she does for him is probably feed him when he stops by or probably give him money or a few items of clothing. they never speak. she never even offers him a seat when he comes in.. he never comes visit us anyway.. like once or twice every month or never and we live 10 mins away. and wen he comes he never really says anything unless hes getting ready to complain about something. another thing is that he lives with my aunt and her husband and he acts like her husband is more family to him than us because my aunts husband gives him money and takes him places and hes full of sh** he doesnt really mean those things hes just trying to get on his good side. whatever opinion my aunts husband has about us.. he has. they always talk sht about us behind our backs.. how my mother doesnt know how to raise kids etc. my aunts husband wont come visit us because we have a dog.. and he says dogs are dirty and full of bacteria and he wont let his child near a dog so everytime my grandfather comes and the dog tries to greet him he says take that damn shit*y dog away from me... because dogs are "dirty" yet my aunt and uncles had a puppies when they were young. its watever to me. i just try to live life however it shall come and not worry about what anyone else has to say. more

Resolved Question: What are some other books?

So I was wondering if anyone knew any good books about abuse. Like physical/sexual? Those types of books interest me and the only one I know of is A Child Called It. So do you know of any others? more

Resolved Question: Is Massachusetts Probate Judge Richard Simons a fair Judge? My daughter is facing him; Ex & parents are chargi?

My daughter is facing him because her ex & his parents, mostly his Mommy are charging her with contempt of court & kidnapping. The kidnapping stems from her not allowing 1 of her 4 kids to visit the ex, & of course his parents, after the grandmother abused the child recently. Does anyone know what type of Judge Richard Simons is, fair or unfair? Partial to men or women? Thanks very much for your help! Pete more

Resolved Question: In a divorce action due to abuse, is the abuser entitled to alimony?

Hello! I am in the process of filing for divorce from my wife, who has been severely abusive. Before you step back and say "Whoa!", I was severely injured by a motor vehicle accident and she took advantage of my incapacitation. I was physically unable to run, unable to fight back or defend myself, unable to call for help, and kept physically dependent on her. It was determined by the State and their professionals that she has a personality disorder, of which I was unaware of at the time of our marriage. For the welfare of myself, and to hasten the return of the children (toddlers) removed by Children's Protective Services, I obtained a restraining order against her and had her removed from the home. Prior to receipt of the restraining order, I was subjected to at least 35 instances of physical abuse (assault) and two instances where I was almost killed by her temper. I was subjected to all types of abuse: verbal, emotional, mental, and physical! I was even deprived of life maintenance medications at a very critical period in my life. Perhaps the lawyer I am retaining is preparing me for the worst, or maybe he is overly consumed by her rights, but he has spoken on many occassions of my having to provide any of several types of alimony. Personally, had she not become abusive and almost killed me (and therefore having become a threat to the health, safety, and welfare of the kids) the marriage would not be ending in divorce. Bottom line, looking more for factual instances than opinion, is/has the abusive partner in a marriage entitled to any form of alimony in a divorce proceeding? Thank you for your assistance!Sorry I did not include this in the original post. This is the same lawyer representing me in the CPS action, he is intimately familiar with the details in this case. As a result of the injuries and to aid the return of the children, I took retirement and am limited by income, handicaps, and the fact that I have the kids (at the moment) 24/7/365 and she has visitation rights [:-(]! more

Resolved Question: Should I send this to the OTHER WOMAN!! Bitch just took my husband and I am left with a one year old.?

I am writing this to you as I feel that you need to have a full picture of what happened over the months of Nov 09-Feb 2010. I am fully aware that the affair began before he left the home but I was unaware until I spoke to people who confirmed it for me. Daniel had very carefully made sure I have no contact with you and fed you whatever crazy nonsense about me because he is so terribly afraid I will inform you of what really happened. I am certainly angry that you are the type of person to start an affair with a married man who has an infant child. You will never even understand the enormity of how wrong your actions were until you have a child yourself and that will haunt you when it happens. You are just another victim of Daniels behaviour and if anything, in the long run, I will be thankful that you ended what was a very dysfunctional relationship. When I married Daniel I was very aware of his faults but I still loved him. My friends and family tried to gently warn me but like you are now, I was blinded by love. But it was the continual affairs (you are the third I am aware of) , compulsive lying, long term drug abuse, inability to maintain strong friendships and mistrust in people that Daniel has that slowly ruined the relationship. He knew he had to get out because he would never have been good enough to be a fit father and husband. He couldn’t handle the commitment and pressure. He will tell you his story of how bad his childhood was and how he was so emotionally abused, but that just gives him an excuse to feel it is ok to behave the way he does. During the time he was living with you he told me he was living with you and your husband (which I now know you ex-husband never lived in that house) and that you were just good friends. He has told me many things about you that you told to him confidentially in supervision. He was still having a sexual relationship with me right up to the Wednesday night after I found your Valentines gifts in the car. He has sex with me standing up in the shower, which must be something that you two do and he NEVER had sex standing up with me before, he said he couldn’t do it. He probably wanted to compare the two. Is the “wand” a new trick from you too? He told my family members, the counsellor and friends that he was having time out while we rebuilt the foundations of our marriage for a reconciliation. He sent me several texts, emails and phone calls EVERY DAY, confirming his love for me and George. He kept telling me that he was still my husband and at no point was a divorce ever discussed. Every time he saw me he had his wedding ring on. He wanted to maintain a part time marriage and have his lover too. I am unsure how long he wanted to continue it but in the month of March, we had a weekend away booked for Yallingup and three concerts. He would have told you he was with his parents but he would have been with me. The last two weeks before I found all of your gifts in the car, he was living at my brother in laws, as he had told me he wanted to be closer and spend more time with each other as he was considering moving back. You obviously had an argument on the Wednesday before Valentines day as he was spending the day with me! The only reason why he is now living with you is because he HAS NO WHERE ELSE TO GO!! No friends, no family, no one wanted to know him after the truth came out and the extent of his disgusting way of treating his wife and son. You will soon realise that he lies to you all the time, little things, big things. He is very good at doing it. I always knew he lied but I just accepted it was a part of him. He will look you right in the eye and swear on his life, he always says that and he will also tell you, “Go on, ring them yourself and ask” because he knows you never will. You will start to mistrust your gut feelings and then think that maybe it is you who is just so negative and untrusting. You can take what ever you want from this email, I just wanted to give you my side of the story. He is very charming when he wants something but he will get bored of you and then you will see who he really is. You will remember what I have written today, it may take you a year or like me a very long time, 12 years, but you will see who he really is. Unfortunately I should have listened to the advise given after the second affair, leopards never do change their spot. If you don’t head my warnings, I will enjoy watching over the years because unfortunately I still have to have him in my life because of our son. Also I advise you have an STD test as I will be. Even though he was having sex with us at the same time, I am sure that there have been others. more

Resolved Question: Legalities of Underaged Sex?

Aside from the fact that most view these type of things as morally wrong, what exactly are the legal punishments, if any, of minors having sex? As in, child abuse does not apply. Also, up to what age is one considered a minor in such a situation? more

Voting Question: Is verbal abuse a type of child abuse?

just wondering. like calling them names like little shit and stuff like that.. more

Voting Question: How can I stop my principal from beating the students at my school?

I work at a special education school where many of the students are nonverbal and our principal is severely beating the kids. She slaps the students in their face, punches them and even encourages her staff to do the same thing. Those staff members who do not hit the children are targeted by her and looked down on because they refuse to beat the students. This type of abuse is going on across the board, the majority of the staff members do it, they hit the students with scissor handles, rulers, and hit the children in their face. I can't take this any more, I have to tell someone but I don't know who to trust. My principal will retaliate so fast and had done so in the past with people who have spoken out against her. You cant even trust the school board because she is well connected and has many friends and associates who will support her. The parents are not aware because their children can not tell them about what is going on at their school. I thought about contacting Child and Family Services but I am afraid nothing will come of it and I will be fired. Please help, anyone, please tell me what I can do to save these kids from this abuse.The only evidence I have is the witness of the abuse by other staff members who are afraid to speak up. more

Resolved Question: What should I title my novel?

I've never told anyone about this book I'm writing, but here goes... It's a story about these three main characters. Their names are Quinn, Lilly and Tom. The book starts out when they are all 5 years old and goes on from there. Quinn is a very interesting character. He's an out going little boy with ADD. He's also a child actor, and a born performer. Anyway he's also a very different person. He is something of a god, and his family works in heaven. They also all have a power. Quinn's is jumping from place to place. Quinn doesn't exactly except who he is, and that he's different from others and has to hide the secret of who he is from his friends. Lilly is a little girl with a troubling past and future. When she is five years old her parents are murdered and she is separated from her older brother to live in a girls home (an orphanage). She feels that she is lost and no one loves her. For the longest time she has no friends. After a while she discovers that she can sing and befriends Quinn and Tom who go to the same school as her. Around age 12 Lilly starts dating Quinn and as they get older they fall in love. When Lilly is 14 she accidentally gets pregnant with Quinn's baby. She has the baby and gives it up for adoption. Lilly and Quinn stick together throughout the story no matter what happens to them. Tom is the definition of unstable and problematic. Tom, at a yong age is abused by his alcoholic father. When Tom is only 6 his brother richard moves away to collage and he is left alone with his father. Tom never met his mother because she left the family for another man when he was only two. He's a quite young boy with an amazing gift for playing guitar. He's also a singer like his best friend Quinn. When Tom is a teenager he starts cutting himself, and his brother finds out and takes Tom away from his father. But things dont get better. Tom becomes more depressed and suicidal. Tom finally starts seeing a therapist and gets help after trying to kill himself. Throughout the story Tom learns that there are people who love him and want him live in this world that has so much to offer. I'm sorry if it seems like a long explanation. I've been building on this story since I was 10 (3 years) Now I've finally decided to start typing it up. It's a very unusual story. I've been watching too much General Hospital :) Reading the story The Outsiders inspired me to write my book because I realized that even a teenager can write a book. Maybe I came up with this story because I have such a boring, typical life I decided to write a story about teenagers with troubled, out of the ordinary lives. Plus the story starts out in 1974, and I do love the 60's 70's and 80's. But of course I had to be born in the suckish 90's :P. Thank you so much if you actually read this whole thing! lol. I just want to know what I should call my story, and maybe what you think of it. It's still evolving (just like me, lol) :) more

Resolved Question: Should I visit old friends whose son is crazy/violent?

As a teenager, Mike was my best friend. I was real close with his family, they told me I was like a son. We had been through a lot of stuff together and had good memories. I ran into Mike's parents recently, they invited me over to dinner. There's a catch. #1 Mike is full blown schizophrenic now, in jail for attacking a security guard in a library, & due to be released soon. Before that he had attacked his father, cracking his skull. Around that time I hung out with Mike, he acted mostly normal, but then talked about delusions of grandeur, killing himself, and he had these weird plans, like of being homeless as an experiment. #2 I told him suicide was a bad idea, maybe he should try meds, & that his plans didn't sound healthy to me. He got defensive, brought up a time 7 years ago, in High School, when I thought I might be gay (I'm not!). Said he didn't want anything to do with me. I'd like to go over his parents house for dinner, they are good people, but I don't want to risk Mike targeting me for a violent crime. I was abused as a child, and I'm over these types of crazy situations. Should I go? If not, how do it to these people who are nice and normal, that even though they have no contact with their son anymore, I still want no part of it. This is a real question. Yes, these things do really happen. Any advice is greatly appreciated. God bless.One thing I forgot to add. Mike's father has cancer about is about to have MAJOR surgery. His chance of surviving this surgery is not as high as I would like it to be. more

Resolved Question: My father asks me for advice on his marriage? They are unhappy yet refuse alternatives...what to do?

My dad writes to me from time to time telling me how hard it is to live with my mother. The last email he sent said he felt as though "he were drowning". I have told him to go to therapty with her because theyhave beenmarrie dfor 29 years and he is very old school,not the type of man to remarry as he is a traumatized child of divorce himself. she is part of a fanatic religion which i will omit so that the answers can be as unbiased as possible. She will only see a therapist form this religion which is not an option for my dad although he did go once and said it was "bull". My mother believes her truth is absolute and she is doing nothing wrong in the marriage and my father cant understand her or the situation because "he hasnt seen the light". According to the religion , you cannot divorse unless one of them cheats or they put theyre lives in danger through extreme abuse or financial negligence. my father is a good man and doesnt have the heart to do this but is constantly drained emotioanlly from my mothers character. he obvoiuly loves her but has to do things her way in order for it to work. she seems ot be oblivous to everything and live sin her bubble of church. she doesnt speak to me because i rejected taht faith and therefore cannot be in close contact with her. they live overseas btw. i am the only daughter and althouhg my father will not do anything drastic they just seem to be stuck in the same place all the time. what advice should i give him? it hurts me to see him unhappy and teh whole sitaution with my moms religion jsut destroys our family becasue there is no such thing as family ties.suggestions anyone???????????????? oh, many people strongly suspect my mother has bipolar disorder but she thinks she is fine. more

Resolved Question: Is it weird for a mother to not want to be with her children?

I have been close friends with five women who are mothers and did not want to be around their children. Every parent needs a break from time to time, and enjoys quiet time for sure. But the five women I've known who longed, and craved, to be away from their children, or they partied 2-3 nights a week and left the kiddies with the grandparents, or whoever they could find, or they obsessed over finding ways to not be with their children as often as they could.....every one of these five mothers have had drug abuse problems, emotional problems, or some other type of disorder. Nowadays, if I meet a woman who is a mother, but enjoys to the extreme not being with her children, I see an immediate red flag. I explain this that God implanted in mothers a natural yearning to be with their children, and that there's some strangeness involved if a mother goes against God's nature and refuses her children for extended periods of time. Some agree with me, while others try to explain it in other ways, but I am convinced that it is unnatural for a mother to long to be away from her children for days at a time, or to party 2-3 nights away from them, even on the weekends. I am in no way a family therapist or a doctor of any kind, but I am a very observant person and I notice things about other people, that some people may gloss over with little thought. And if a woman wants to hang out with me, or date me, but she rejects her children, I immediately see red flags. But has anyone known of women who do not want to be with their children to the point of spending as much time away from them as possible? If so, did you discover this woman had other issues as I have?By the way, I'm not judging mothers who want free time, but I have just learned that a mother who refuses her children to a large extent usually has some underlying issue. For the most part, the mothers I have met like this have been young 20-something women, but some have been older. And the women look attractive, and normal, but they have issues once I have gotten to know them. In other words, their parent and family lives were not exactly all happy-go-lucky like the Cosby Show family, or the Brady Bunch on TV.I'm just saying that in the five instances I know of mothers obsessing over being seperated from their children, there was drug abuse, suicidal tendencies, abuse, or some other issue. Sort of like if a father spends every weekend away from his family, there tends to be some real issue going on. It's just a red flag....doesn't mean something's wrong. Just a red flag. more

Resolved Question: child abuse survivor.long term-effects, how to i get help? please read all. any professionals in the subject?

im sorry this is so long, but i am trying to explain in detail my circumstances so i can get the best advice. it will be greatly appreciated if you read it all i am having many problems in my life, and i dont know how to fix it. i dont know if i have ptsd, or what, but i am constantly going through emotiotional stress that is impacting my ability to function effectively. from ages 7-12 i was abused by my stepmother. the types of abuse i endured on a daily basis were physical, mental, emotional neglect, and cruel and unusual punishment. some examples: .beaten with the metal part of the belt 30-40 times on different parts of the body bashed in the head on a weekly basis with fist, hard shoes, on the counter, walls, through a window, etc unusual things like having to drink my own pee, getting dog shit smashed in my face, writing 500-1000 standards saying i am a bad person and that is the reason my mother punishes me (about twice a week), shoving a fork down my throat and then having to eat the food that came back out, having to sleep with soap scrubbed on my teeth. other than the soap on my teeth and standards, the major punishments only happened once or a few times each. referring to me as a 'scumbag' and a 'cunt' and a 'piece of shit' , telling me that no one will ever love me, and when my dad came home i would have to tell him a made up story of the dog beat me up or that i did something really bad to get punished telling me i didnt deserve to be loved, only telling me the bad things about myself, hitting me and then telling me to hug her but then would hit me again, not allowed to go to outings with my stepmom and my siblings once i got out of that and went into foster care, within 2.5 years i went through 9 homes. the first house i was molested by the foster dad and the whole family told me i was a lier. i met my biological dad and had to live with him and he ended up sexually abusing me, touching me making me watch porno with him forcing me to have sexual chat sessions with guys and making me use the restroom and bathe with the door open. i also went to a foster home where the foster mom let two of the girls hit me and call me names, but if i talked back to them she would tell them to hit me. throughout my life, i havent been able to make friends. i either talk too much, dont talk in fear i will say the wrong thing, or if someone wants to be my friend i become super clingy which scares them off all of my actions i make are to protect myself. i put up a wall from any one harming me when i find out someone likes me romantically, i immediately do all i can to scare them off. i have been diagnosed as having severe adhd, major depression disorder, generalized anxiety, separation anxiety, mixed receptive expressive language disorder. i also have had eating disorders from bulimia to anorexia to excessive eating to block the pain. i have also cut myself, burned myself, taken bottles of nyquil, hit my own head against the wall until im dizzy, pulled my hair out, see how far i can go without actually causing serious damage as holding myself under water, squeezed my hands around my neck until i feel faint, etc. i also have bursts of anger where ive bashed a kid on the head with my lunchbox till he was bleeding, stabbed a kid in the neck with a pencil, and up until three years ago i would out of nowhere punch my friends really hard or bite them. i also (not as much anymore)used to live in a fantasy world, where i would be a different person have a different life, i had many stuffed animals with personalities and feelings who i would talk to everyday. i also tend to dissasociate myself from pain. when i am being hit, i can turn my body off or go into a trance, like pretending that im not there, that when im being hit my body feels it, not my mind or heart. im very fogetful, cant concentrate, nightmares, sleeping problems, and eyetwitches and i get alot of hiccups and noises. like i shudder or i make a loud hiccup sound, or a gasp sound like getting air. i think i might have that somatomatic disorder, because i am always having problems with my body, im always sick, i always have a stuffy nose, a sore throat, back pains, headaches, flem, ear aches, asthma, anxiety attacks, etc. a therapist described me as concrete, hypervigilant, low self esteem, interpersonal difficulties, lonely, very immature behaviors, poor problem solving skills, and disliked by peers and adults i am now in a relationship where the guy sees my weaknesses and uses them to his advantage, he tells me im fat, stupid, no guy will ever like me, and even after three months of going out and moving into his home i have not been allowed to hold him kiss him hug him touch him without asking or him telling me im allowed to. as a result of all this, i have problems being productive in college, cant keep a job, cant have a good relationship, cant make or keep friends, cant be happy. i need advice from someone o more

Resolved Question: What type of a counselor deals with abused children/teens and rape victims?

Its a career I would like to get into and I googled but I'm not getting much help from good, anyone else want to help me? more

Resolved Question: Can you go over my essay?

I'm not very good at essays and I need someone to let me know if this Narrative essay is ok?Thanks Children are so innocent Reading Martin Luther King Jr. “Letter from Birmingham Jail” made me think about what I would go to jail for and it made me sad to realize that I do not believe in something so passionate enough to go to jail for. Then, after really thinking it through I realized that the one thing I would definitely go to jail for is my family and their safety. As a mom that is one of my biggest and most important priorities in my life. It can be from child abuse, their health and even children’s education that I would fight for. I strongly believe that if they were in any situation where their environment was unsafe and the only way to prove my point would be to go to jail, then I would definitely go. There are many forms of child abuse that go on in America: Physical; hitting, shaking, burns, human bites, strangulation.: Emotional; constant disapproval, belittling, constant teasing: Sexual: fondling, the showing of private parts by an adult, sexual intercourse, oral and anal sex, forcing a child to watch while others have sexual intercourse, incest, pornography: Neglect; absence of adequate food, shelter, emotional and physical security, and medical care. For these hideous and vicious acts I think my cause would make any mother ,parent or even any real human being go to jail for ,in my opinion. In fact, if I were to go to jail for this cause I do not think I would wait to get out to start doing something about it. The first step I would take would be to educate myself on the signs of abuse that a child might be dealing with. Most of the time it goes unnoticed because people think there are only physical signs of abuse but like I said there are many forms of it so one has to look closely. I would then ask for support from my family and friends to come together and help me fight to protect the children that have gone through this or try to help to prevent this from happening again or to any other child. There are numerous ways to help out this cause, volunteering, donating to certain organizations around the country and helping parents of abused children. These methods might seem demanding but if one thinks about what an unfortunate child has/had to go through it does not compare to what little we could do to help. We have to think about the good that will come out when we work together. What this cause says about me is that I truly care about the future and well being of any child, whether mine or someone else’s. It is not fair that someone would take the purity of a child and replace it with feelings of apprehension and fear towards another individual. The most obvious reason why I choose this cause is because I'm a mother and I want children to be safe, healthy, and happy. In doing this essay I have came across some sickening images and stories that make me wonder why this is happening to such innocent and beautiful children that are to be our future? It is very alarming to think that I have three children who are going to be around predators and not know how to stop them. In a perfect world this would all end in the future, but realistically it will never happen so I believe that it is our responsibility to help each other out and protect our children from any type of abuse. Even if it won’t stop today we can have a smaller amount of abuse going on in America if we commit to the cause. So as a compassionate human being that I am, my cause that I would go to jail for is any form of child abuse. Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has. — Margaret Mead, anthropologist more

Resolved Question: please read the beginning of my story and chose 1?

First ... Here os the summary of my story Clare, a struggling single mother of three children (hillary(14 yrs), charlotte(11 yrs.), and matthew(3 yrs))who never planned on having children but when she was 17 years old when she got pregnant and her parents kicked her out. Clare is a mess and even after 14 years doesn't know how to be a mother. They move constantly she's never home and shes kind of a whore each kid is from another father. She's never been married or in love. Both daughters are struggling practically raising their mother. Hillary is running the family and Charlotte is going through her pre-teen years alone. The big plot in the story is that Clare gets a new boyfriend that marries her that her kids don't like, it turns out that he later abuses her and Clare has to learn how to be a good mother and escape her hellish marriage! SO....here is what i've gotten so far....(there are grammatical mistakes...sorry) It's been rought so i wrote the begining twice, which is better beginning 1: Hillary It wasn't a surprise when I woke up to find yet another stranger sitting at the kitchen table. God knows I was used to it. I went to the cupboard and got myself a glass of orange juice. "Hello," the man greeted me. "Hi," I replied blankly. "I'm Rob, you're mom's new boyfriend," he grinned. "Sure," I said. He looked confused, obviously not knowing my mom. She never survived a single relationship. Each of my siblings were from a different dad. "So what's your name?" he asked. "Hillary." "Hillary thats such a pretty name," he said as if I were four years old rather than fourteen, he wasn't very good at small talk. "Huh," I smirked glaring at him mockingly as my mother walked in wearing a blue silk robe. "Good morning Hil," she said kissing my forehead, "Hello Rob," she said kissing him passionately. I walked out of the kitchen unnoticed and went towards my room which I shared with my brother and sister. We lived in a very small house, but it was an upgrade from the small apartment complex we lived in 6 months ago. My mom was the type of person who liked "fresh starts" or simply just ran away from life anytime it became difficult. I walked into my room to see my sister sitting on her bed waiting for me. "What's his name?" she asked sadly hugging her pillow. "Rob. He seems nice though," I tried. "What difference does it make?" she sighed, "We just settled in, why does she always have to do this?" I sat on the bed with her, "Charli, I'm sure its just one night, we've already survived one man in Trenton so far, I'm sure this one will pass too." "Lets hope." Beginning 2: Hillary It was silent at the dinner table. I was impatiently waiting for the doorbell to ring any minute. Every little movement my little brother made my eyes directly shifted towards the door. "Hill, when is mom coming home?" "Um-," I began hesitantly, "She'll be here soon Charli, probably within an hour," I said more reassuringly even though I knew everything I was saying was extreme crap. Our mother was already an hour late, she was with another man. "Well, Matti, I think its time for bed honey," I said picking up my baby brother. I wiped his mouth from the pasta sauce, it was hard to believe that any of it actually went in his mouth. "No Hilly, I want mommy to say goodnight to me," he said. I was very used to this scenario, this wasn't the first time mom was "late" so I knew how to handle it. "OK. Matti, mommy will be here in five minutes, lets run to put your pajamas on then we'll surprise mommy!" "OK! " Matti said excitedly! I put him in his pajamas washed his face and when he went into bed he fell asleep instantly. I went back to the kitchen to find Charli doing the dishes. "Moms probably not coming home tonight," Charli said turning the water off. "No.Probably not," I said walking towards her drying the dishes. "We barely moved to Trenton two months ago," she said becoming enraged, "It's not fair, does she not get that she's just going to get hurt again!" "Charli, she could just be somewhere else, or maybe she found a job, or is stuck in traffic." "She said she's going out for supposedly a half an hour, 3 hours ago, and she's not answering her phone, she's obviously with a man!" Which do you prefer and why??? THANKS=) more

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Resolved Question: What kind of effects does sexual abuse have later on in life?

I was abused by my grandad when I was little, it wasn't massive abuse, and from my memory it only happened once, no one knows, at times I think it is so significant and I wonder if it completely changed the type of person I am today.. but other times I find it so insignificant that such a small action by another person when I was a child could affect me so substantially. Most of the time im obssessed with sex like a normal teenager, but when it gets down to it I'm scared and I cry a lot of the time. I have bad bouts of depression, does this link or does loads of people go through this?He can't go to jail, cos he's dead now, that's why I find it pretty pointless bringing it up with my mum, cos it would just confuse her and think I'm making it up or trying to hurt her or blame her in some way. more

Resolved Question: What do you think is the best type of discipline? Explain?

When I was a child my parents would spank me with one of those sticks that you stir paint with. Nowadays that's called abuse. So as a parent of a 2 yr. old child I sometimes use time out. more

Voting Question: What type of reality is ideal for you ?

Many people are selfish self seeking , arrogant, & controlling .. There are children starving and innocent deaths, genocide && the majority of people in the world are working to support a very few number of people.. We abuse the Earth and the life which inhabits it, to the point of self depletion. Is this all there is ?? We have the option to create a reality for ourselves in which we can be free to express ourselves negative or positive.. Without extreme negative there would be no extreme positive.. So my question is .. Is it worth creating a collective reality that is extremely polarized to one side while repressing the other? Is the state of the world terrible is it is portrayed?? Personally I don't think the world is in that bad of a condition, many people are just to lazy to do anything about their situations and would rather point a finger.. We have the ability to be resourceful and create a reality where positive and negative are allowed to exist in harmony. Do you people not realize that we are creating our so called "5th dimension" which is allegedly upon us? You would rather give up your free will to join the collective, so you don't have to think for yourself? We have the potential to do and be anything we want. If we were honest about how we felt then we can create a reality in which we can express all that we are without remorse, positive and negative. How can we experience the beauty of a sunny day if there is no rain? How can we appreciate the diversity and beauty in someone else if they are exactly as we are?http://www.spiritofmaat.com/jan10/fifth_dimension1.html@ Freejason .. You obviously just want to be a rebel.. Polarity is not reality .. it is a part of the whole thing.. My issue is with the victim who cannot take responsibility for himself and his actions before pointing his finger - Even though you feel powerless, I do not because I am discovering my options and I want others to realize they have options also maybe you should have drank some water with that red pill because it seems stuck in your throat. Wake up to the fact that you aren't better than anyone more

Resolved Question: home work help .... HELP HELP?

Choose the term that best matches the given definition. 1. The process of talking directly to the other person to resolve a conflict (1 point) conflict negotiation assault compromise 2. Forced sexual intercourse (1 point) gang assault rape neglect 3. A disagreement between people with opposing viewpoints, interests, or needs (1 point) neglect conflict negotiation bullying 4. When both sides in a conflict agree to give up something to reach a solution (1 point) negotiation conflict bullying compromise 5. An attack on another person in order to hurt them (1 point) neglect bullying assault rape 6. A group of young people who come together to take part in illegal activities (1 point) gang foster care homicide conflict 7. Failure to provide for the basic physical and emotional needs of a dependent (1 point) foster care negotiation neglect bullying 8. A type of violence in which one person uses threats, taunts, or violence to intimidate another again and again (1 point) negotiation rape assault bullying 9. A violent crime that results in the death of another person (1 point) rape conflict bullying homicide 10. Care provided by people who give children temporary homes when they are in crisis (1 point) homicide foster care bullying compromise True/False Indicate whether the statement is true or false. 11. Disagreements are a normal part of life. (1 point) True False 12. Talking to a trustworthy adult is the best way to stop sexual abuse and get help. (1 point) True False 13. Some conflicts are made worse by peer negotiation. (1 point) True False 14. Feeling negatively about someone because of their race is an example of bullying. (1 point) True False 15. Getting back at someone for something they did to you is known as prejudice. (1 point) True False 16. A factor that keeps abuse victims silent is fear. (1 point) True False 17. Many abusers can learn how to avoid becoming violent again. (1 point) True False 18. Conflict can never be helpful. (1 point) True False 19. Most conflicts for teens happen at home or at the mall. (1 point) True False 20. The most common violent crime is assault. (1 point) True False more

Resolved Question: I think i have some form of add ?

How do i know if I have add i heard there are types of it where you are not hyper but you just cannot pay attention a lot ? Basically I am failing a few of my classes and I have a friend whos grades mirrored mine and had the exact same problems with going to school and what not. He went to the doctor because we both agreed that we probably have add or something. Well he went to the psychiatrist and he did have it so he went on medication. Now he went from failing multiple classes to passing with all As and bs. When I asked my mom to take me for an evaluation she said ok took me to the doctor like a family doctor. He recommended a few psychiatrists but since he said it probably wasn't a problem just because i didn't "look hyperactive" which is bogus because i heard of the other types one can have. He also did not take any mental tests or evaluations. I was literally in his office for less than 15 minutes ! Now my mother won't take me to the psychiatrist and she's even questioning me saying i just want to sell the pills because she thinks it's fishy. Is this not some form of child abuse ? I have taken many online tests about anxiety and add and they all turned over positive. What should I do. My friend also was never really been he just got bad grades hyper. Hell i was the one to mention it in the first place. I could just be getting ready for the bus in the morning and I'll get sidetracked and miss it because I can't even pay attention on that and am more focused on getting ready taking a shower etc. Just about every other day I have to walk a quarter mile to the other bus stop in my neighborhood to catch it and if I can even catch it. idk what to do and haters fuck off ! more

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Voting Question: can i use this as evidence against her in the costudy case?

my son was abused by his mothers boyfriend and sent to the hospital.There had been a previous report that he was being beaten by this man in the past but i was never informed.After i found this out i took my son from her since costudy was never set. And we are going to court for costudy now. Ive been keeping track of his myspace he just created and saw that she is already on his friends list when she isint even sappose to have contact with him.I printed that page showing it and wondering if i could use it in court showing that its only a matter of time before she is back with him since she is already having sime type of online communication and se is pregnant with his child who is due next weekwell my son is only two there isint much he can say.....and yes i have an attorney more

Voting Question: Am i considered as a loner?

On wikipedia there was this thing that says loners are: Some individuals refuse or feel unable to interact with others because of perceived or actual superiority in terms of ethics or intellect. They relate only to individuals they consider worthy of their time and attention. Therefore, this type of loner will have very few intimate relationships. Many non-loners feel anxious in their presence because they perceive the loner's disdain towards them. Loners may socialize greatly with those in whom they can confide. It can take a long time for this bond to occur. If someone unknown to a loner enters the social group, the loner may automatically shell up. Shy or lacking self-esteem, some loners can socialize only with people they see constantly. This is in part because many are overly self-conscious and believe people are constantly sizing up their attributes. Insecure loners find it excruciating to be in the physical presence of others because they worry they will be judged negatively. Anxiety is a common feature of their social interactions. Self-hatred is sometimes the underlying motivation for why a person may isolate himself or herself. A sense of alienation from society can develop as a result Which totally defines me unless i'm with my really close friends i can relate to them. Could have child abuse effected me in this way? I always get kicked, hit, swore at, slapped, punched and bashed by my dad. more

Resolved Question: Help! I am in a very difficult situation and I don't know what to do!?

This is going to be very complicated to so some people so I will explain the best I can. The thing is I have just discovered that my "grandfather" on my "fathers" side of the family is seriously ill in hospital. The difficult thing is I don't know whether me and my sister should go and see him or not. I know to you, you probably think, oh just go and see him, hes your granda etc. Its not as easy as that in my situation and I will explain why. My life is very, very compicated. First of all you should know that his son, aka, my "father" is in prison for 12 years for multiple accounts of abuse against us. Secondly even before anyone knew about the abuse my "granda" was never exactly the loving granda type. He never kept in contact with us, never sent us birthday cards/Christmas cards/presents etc ever. He has not seen us in about 8 years. He also has 2 other grandchildren aka my cousins who I have also not see for a good few years and also happen to hate me and my sister, especially me for unknown reasons. The thing is I have so many unanswered questions that I want answering to. Now apparantly the rumour is that he has disowned my father, he has nothing more to do with him. He never particularly cared about us or him and never showed it. So if he was like that all my life, could that mean that he knew what type of person he was like and could have prevented the abuse? Did he know? Why did he ignore us all our lives but not his other 2 grandchildren? I just don't know what to do. If we show up after years and years of no contact, will he not know who we are, tell us to get out etc. At the same time he is our grandfather who has never physically hurt us and he may be dying. Me and my sister think we should go see him but what if we are not welcome by our other uncles and aunts and cousins and him? What if we go and we are told to get out? After all we are the ones who managed to get his son put in prison for 12 years even though he deserves every year in there. My other problem is that its going to be very awkward conversation because of this. I don't know what to do. The last time he seen us was when I was 9 or 10 or something. I am now 18 and getting married in June to my fiance who I have been with for over 6 years. I am a totally different person to who I was then. He will not know who we are. Also I was pregnant with me and my fiance's 1st child but unfortunatly miscarried 4 weeks ago. He would have been a great granda. So much things have changed I just don't know what to do. If I didn't go and he died I would have so many questions that have went unanswered not to mention feel guilty that we didn't go and at least try to see what happens. At least if I did go and he didn't want us there at least we can say we tried. So my question is if you were in my situation what would you do, would you go or not? Thanks :)I just learnt a few minutes ago that he is actually dying. He had a stroke and cannot speak or do anything. He is on his deathbed apparantly . . . more

Resolved Question: Liberals say they are against the death penalty but are they really?

After all, one of the arguments they give for abortion is that a child who grows up in a "substandard" home will (their word, not mine) grow up to be a criminal. That children who are abused grow up to be abusers, rapists, killers, drains on society, etc. I will absolutely agree that some of them do. Some of them DON'T, however. So are they not, in fact SUPPORTERS of the death penalty who simply advocate it's use before the person ever commits a crime or is even born? Are they then, for all intents and purposes, advocates of the "pre-emptive death penalty"? After all, many people who commit crimes that qualify for the death penalty did indeed grow up in the type of homes that Liberals say children should NOT be born into, right? Of course, many grew up in wonderful homes, too and still turn out bad. Guess Liberals aren't as gung ho about free will as they seem to think. They don't seem to believe that a person should be allowed to grow up and decide what kind of person they will be and be held accountable for their actions AFTER they do them. (We all know they they will now back off of this belief now that it is posed to them in just this way and say they don't feel that way but we all ALSO know that they have said it time and time and time again.)I'm not a Conservative and I have ZERO problems with my tax dollars going to help children.And by the way... I personally don't think abortion should be a political issue. I think it is a common sense issue: if you know ANYTHING about human development, then you know that a fetus is not a clump of cells, therefore whether abortion kills babies does not need to be an argument. To me it isn't. The only argument is WHY.Last Paladin: I say again tha to me, abortion is not a political issue. Therefore, I give a f_ck about the government's stance on it. My issue is with the women who have them, legally or illeglly. And by the way, abortion IS an easy decision. It is the easiest one you can pick. That's why over 40% of women who have an abortion have had at least TWO PREVIOUS ABORTIONS. 15 minutes in an operating room and your problems are solved. The woman's rights argument means nothing to me and I AM a woman. You LOSE all right to be selfish the MINUTE you find out you are pregnant. PERIOD. You want to be the only one with control over your reproductive organs, right? So you have it. So excercise some control and STOP GETTING PREGNANT.lawrence: I see your point and in my case, I am pro-life for all those who have not forefeited their right to live by egregiously taking another person's (or people's) life in a manner so heinous that they cannot be allowed around others ever again because they are that dangerous. more

Resolved Question: Correlation between religion and child sex abuse?

I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. My parents were hellfire-and-brimstone types and I grew up scared shitless. Many of the other survivors I talk to report that they came from similarly bent religious environments. Has anyone ever done a study on the correlation between the hell doctrine and childhood sex abuse? Hell seems an awful lot like S&M to me, especially when you're supposed to love the guy who puts you there. Religious people, please forgive me if I cause any offense. Before you flame me, please consider the offense that was done to me when I was a ten-year-old boy. I'm not blaming your god. I'm just asking whether this scarring hellfire doctrine encourages people's minds to unhinge and open the door to atrocity. Also, please don't quote scripture or pray for me. I'm looking for a genuine answer, trying to get some closure. I challenge you religious people to be as compassionate as your hero if you're going to respond at all. Best that you respond to that ten-year-old boy.Special awards for compassionate answers from Christians: MicahGetAGrip--Jesus loves me? When I heard about hell I desperately read the bible to try to stay out. What did Jesus tell me? Cut off your hand and gouge out your eye. Gentle, yeah. more

Resolved Question: Adult child of Alcoholic father. How can I help my mother?

My dad is an alcoholic. I'm in my 30's now and I've seen my mum get so worn down over the years and her health has suffered from stress and tension and over-work as she's been dealing with how my dad drinks heavily and makes problems for the whole family. He's killing himself. I don't know if he has even 3 years to live the way he's abusing his body and he's just turned 60. My mum has just started attending an Al Anon type group where it is for the families of the alcoholic. She seems to be getting a lot of support there but her brother and sister just died and I know she is feeling depressed and sad these days. How can I support her more and what are good ideas for things that I can do to make her happy and make her life easier? She always moans about her wrinkles and I thought about buying her a botox appointment but somehow that doesn't seem appropriate so I thought about maybe buying her a day in a spa where she can get a luxury treatment or maybe doing something nice for her but I want something to make her feel pretty and reassure her that me and the other 2 kids (my brother and sister) love her and care about how she's not feeling so happy these days. Any idea's? I want to make my mum feel happy and loved and make her life better. x more

Resolved Question: Where do I stand regards receiving abusive emails from my ex-husband?

I left and divorced my ex husband 5 years ago. After the initial period we settled as friends for our child's sake. Even though we couldn't live together we made each other laugh so it worked well for our child. He has since moved on and is now engaged, I however have poor health and cannot work so have remained single and primary care giver for our child. The problem is that he has always had a problem with lying and has tried to keep his current girlfriend from knowing the extent of his lying. He was so scared I would drop him in it that he started treating me like the dirt on his shoe and acting like he had power over me in front of her. Now he has a fairly well paid job and his girlfriend works for the council, they look down their noses at me for being unemployed ... I wasn't until I fell ill! But he basically says I have no rights to dictate holiday dates or time spent with our child as I don't have an employer. Whilst I have never dictated any such thing I think things like that should be discussed ... not just him *telling* me when he's off on yet another foreign holiday etc Anyway for what ever reason he has now taken to writing quite abusive emails. I assume it gives him a feeling of power sat there with his girlfriend telling me how crap I am. Between him and his mother who loves to stir trouble they are a nightmare. Unfortunately I don't have family close by or I wouldn't need to ever have them babysit. My question really relates to the latest email. I hadn't been well all week and was very tired. A friend asked my ex's mum if she could pick our child up from school and she then offered to have them over night. His mum is renowned for lying too and told my ex something along the line of 'I was comatose from taking too many painkillers'!! I was not comatose at all ... just very tired. The email was VERY abusive, swearing at me, accusing me of abusing prescription drugs and telling me to detox. He said I wasn't fit to care for our child and if I didn't sort myself out I would have my child taken away from me. I have had emails from him that have been this aggressive in nature but not accusing me of drug abuse! he went on to complain that there was no food in the house and that I was using my child as a carer! None of which is true. I have just phoned my GP to ask when I last ordered any Morphine on repeat prescription ... It was 5 months ago! It is a repeat medication which means I can order it as often as I need (within reason). If I was abusing drugs It wouldn't have been 5 months since I last ordered any. That medication is prescribed for a reason and I only take it when I need too! I have been known to stay in pain before because i wouldn't take it while my child was home because it makes me sleepy ... not incoherent! I am very upset that my ex has accused me of neglect and drug abuse. We live in a nice area, are just everyday type of people. It's just an unreal accusation. Our child is very well looked after and well balanced. I can't cope with receiving these emails from him. They stress me out and I ended up going to bed so late as I found the email just as I wasn't turning the computer off for bed. Is there anything I can do? I am thinking of telling social services myself that he's accusing me of these things so they can come and see I'm not. My GP will back me up. He shouldn't have any hold on me. It's because he works and I don't, he gives me maintenance for our child and has a free life aside the 2 days a fortnight he see's our child. Sorry for ranting abit. Just wondered if there is anything I can do? Thank you xxThanks for all your answers. I decided to print the email and take it round to my mother in laws and confront her. I asked her why she made it all up and told her son and she denyed it!! I could tell she was lying. My ex lost his temper when she told him about 'my comatose state' and had written the angry email full of lies. I haven't received an apology but at least it's all been dropped and they might think twice before making rubbish up. Turns out his mother was just attention seeking again and was after taking my son for financial gain!! unbelievable. At least I have told them straight. It is sick to make things like that up and they will take my son away over my dead body. more

Voting Question: My wife cheated on me with a good friend of mine, do I stay?

Before my wife and i were married we had been together for 7 years. We have a wonderful 5 year old son. Sometimes i wonder if i am staying for him. i hate to see families split up even if it means me suffering. we are best friends who are deeply in love with each other. i am the sensitive affectionate romantic rough strong type. she is more of the non romantic cool type. there is a good balance between us though. she has always had anger issues that come and go during those certain times of the month. i used to have anger problems as well. i had cured this right before she started cheating on me with him. she did not believe i had changed at the time. our first 2 years together was blissfully perfect. we had fought a lot over the years. we believe this had come from us both being in serious 4 year relationships with our first love which both involved a lot of fighting. we fought verbally and physically harshly. we had never fought this hard with anyone else before. our son was born in 2005, she cheated on me in 2006. i was on the road for 2 weeks for work when she started sleeping with him. when i had come home she would go out with a friend of hers while i would stay home with our son but it was a diversion. she would come home at 4am. i knew something bad was going on but she would not tell me until 2 months after she had stopped seeing him. she slept with my friend 4 times. he had a long term girlfriend and a child with her. they managed to get a hotel together, a friends place, and his place while his girlfriend was out of town. he and i had been good friends for a good 8 years before i met my wife. he and i hung out weekly playing poker, golf, hanging out, parties, everything a good friend would do. i was a crappy common in law husband fighting with her at every chance. both of us hurt each other horribly through the years. i was not there much during her pregnancy which i deeply regret. i was out playing poker with this friend she slept with. i will never chose a friend over my own wife ever again. my family comes first. she said she was angry with me so she pretty much did it out of revenge for the abuse, fighting, and neglect we had imposed upon each other over the years. we believe we are a rare breed inseparable best friends in love. she deeply regrets this and had apologized in her own way. i fell to my knees sobbing when she had told me this in 2006. i mainly cried for her pain, my sons pain, and the upcoming pain i was to endure. i had semi forgiven her but the memory lingers. forever i believe. she has not been in touch with him whatsoever. when he found out that i knew, he the coward he is moved 3 hours away. i had informed his girlfriend of this but he managed to manipulate her into believing my wife was just trying to split them up and have him all to himself and they had never had sex turning this into a jealous Territorial claiming ritual. there was nothing more i could do but move on. this happened in 2006 and still to this day i have nightmares of them two having sex or thoughts of inflicting pain on him. i want to be at peace so bad. my wife and i are better than ever but the trust will never be the same again. i know i could have been happier if none of this had happened. during our years of fighting i would catch him and her lightly flirting. i had trusted them both fully at the time. these days i trust no one. i had gotten rid of most of my friends and moved on. anyone associated with him is not someone i want to associate with. i fear the day i bump into him will cause me to end up in jail. you just do not betray your friends just to get laid. he was one of those fat balding losers with no car and no job mooching off everyone at the time. i was passive and wanted to help him out and be his friend. this has taught me to watch every ones move around me as if i will always have a wall up. some days i am truly myself. even after 3 years i think about him just about everyday. there would be a porn video playing in my head of them two going at it. sometimes i wish i hadn't asked her the details of their encounters but i had to know. sometimes i feel like i should have left her right there but i was weak and vulnerable at the time. i did not want to hurt my son and i love her with passion. we are perfect for each other but i know we could be much happier if the past had never happened. i know i have already decided to stick around and marry her a year after cheating on me but of course i wonder if the logic choice would have been to leave her. i know the pain may have been worse not being with her or my son but it also could have been better. maybe i would have fallen in love again which is highly doubtful as much as i love my wife. as for him, what do i do? pretend he does not exist? im tired of watching for him. im tired of the nightmares. im tired of the stress headaches. if i could go back in time there are tons of things i would have changed to prevent all this from happening. even more

Resolved Question: Idea for a manga.. need input? (warning: it's sad, violent and VERY long)?

I was daydreaming the other day.. and I can't get this story idea out of my head, tell me what you think. well, first off I was hoping for this to be in more of a manga type of format. slice of life, romance, comedy, and psychological genres. sorta similar to school days. it's from the point of view from a male character who is around 16, has an upbeat personality. The beginning of the story involves him trying to settle into a new community with his family, that moved there because their dad's job. they live on the outskirts of a big city, where their school, the market, and most of the locations will be in the piece. He makes friends with another male character with a similar attitude, but a lot more relaxed. he introduces him to most of the school, showing him all the cliques and people, one of which is a really nice looking yandere loner with long dark hair and red eyes. after meeting up with his new friends group (which consists of two other girls and a guy) all seems well, but the main character can't get the yandere out of his mind. after observing her for a long period of time he notices people picking on her, and insulting her. he befriends her, and despite the initial disapproval from his friends starts to include her in some of their activities. she is very quiet and doesn't smile very much. later on, after been crushing on her for the longest time, he has a moment with her. she tells him her story about how she was abused by her step father as a child, and she ran away by herself. he then confesses himself and compliments her on her eyes comparing them to a burning gem, and he starts going out with her. by this time, she is becoming very warm with him, and she is able to talk to her group of friends, and she is being defended by her friends from the bully type of people. after a while, one of the other girls from their group starts to come onto the main character, (it is obvious by this time that she likes him). soon thereafter he starts cheating on the burning eye yandere, and having an affair with his other friend. she begins to become skeptical when he quits giving her attention, and makes lame excuses for not being able to hang out. the bullies start up again, and she is beginning to shut herself in her room for long periods of time. the person cheating with the main character on her is also using put downs and making things all-around worse. eventually, a sketchy teacher from her school starts coming onto her, and eventually starts sexually abusing her, completely emotionally destroying her because it's happening again, but by this time she has convinced herself that she deserves it because she isn't good enough. by this time, she is being bullied, harassed, abused by a teacher and being cheated on by her boyfriend. she is becoming psychotic. in the last chapter, she has no where to turn, and smuggles a handgun that she purchased from somebody in an ally to school. her target being to shoot the people oppressing her (the teacher and all of the bullying classmates). before school in the morning, she enters her teacher's house and greets him with two shots in the chest. she feels no remorse. after taking the train to her school in the city, she makes her way upstairs toward her year's classrooms and before class starts, in the hallway, pulls out her gun when a 'bully' type starts mocking her. she looks horrified as she shoots her point blank in the forehead. the bully friends scream and run, but she picks them off one by one, breathing deep and keeping silent. after a few rounds at the students, she notices the new girlfriend of the main character (who would have been more focused on in the story more than I am in my summary) she corners her and puts up her gun from about 3-4 meters, and just as she is pulling the trigger, the main character jumps into the bullet, guarding his new girlfriend, and pays the price. red eyed yandere is crying silently now, as she remembers in flash-back form about how they had great times, and how she opened up to him. she shakes her head yelling "NO, NO NO" as he slowly bleeds to death from his one bullet wound, trying to say the name of his current girlfriend. while this is happening, the people from the chem lab run away but someone pushed over a burner, that ignited something that started the place on fire. by now most of the student body is evacuated she hears the police call from a microphone from somewhere downstairs, and the smoke is filling the school from below the floor below her, making it impossible to run downstairs. she makes her way up to the staircase going upwards and stands on the burning roof. she stands on the edge of the 4 story roof, opposite the door and sees the police on the ground below, she realizes that the roof will cave in soon and jumps while she remembers the one time he compliments her eyes. the last scene is a view of the flower she wore in her hair, sittihaha sabina, yeah I wrote about the most depressing part (the climax). there will be fun with friends and romance style slice o' life goin' on than I talked about.the rest of my story got cut off, so I would like to add the last paragraph sitting on the roof ablaze I want to name her Ayame-san, it also means Iris in japanese. And I want to name it "Blazing Iris" so I believe the name fits in multiple ways. also Stephan, after reviewing I understand what you mean because it will be from the POV of the male character, making the yandere's depression almost meaningless, but I wouldn't know how to connect that to him betraying her... and the saying of the name of the other girl (who will get a lot of time in the story too) also adds that last burst of despair for Ayame more

Resolved Question: how do i tlk to him about him and porn?

ok.. i was sexually abused as a child/teen and the man who did it was very into porn, i feel sick when people talk about it i feel sick when im near someone who i know watches it and worst of all i think my boyfriend may be addicted to it, everytime i go to use the computer i type something in and he history bar is full of porn sites. i know it is a guy thing to check it out occasionally but this volume of it crushes me, i have asked him to get help and he told me i was being silly and got really angry, i have had counselling but it seems i am stuck like this... we spoke before we started dating about it and he said he'd stop looking at it to make me feel safer and more at ease but now im just so devisated and confused that i dont know where to go from here? maybe he is in need of counselling too? more

Resolved Question: How do I deal with the type of man I married or what should I do with this marriage?

We've been married for 16 years now. My problem is a combination of things. First, dealing with a husband and a 13 year old son who both have ADHD. I feel like my husband is also a child who needs supervision. We have a 1 year old baby boy, too. I have been a stay at home mom for the past 12 years. With the birth of our second child, I feel that my life as a stay at home mom is never ending. My husband and I do not have good communication. We both have different needs. He comes home from work and is not ready to talk and on top of that his ADHD causes him to get distracted on other things he is more interested in and he also zones out where he is "physically present but mentally away". I'd like to talk to him more since I have not had anyone to talk to the whole day but he is not there for me. Aside from this, what adds strain to our relationship is the presence of his parents who live close by. We seldom see them as a family but my husband goes to their place to get a haircut and/or to do favors for them such as backing-up their computer, saving files, and other technical stuff. Even though this is not all the time, I feel that they seem to be just a phone call away. Like my mother-in-law leaves him messages on his cell phone asking for help regarding computer problems. I know they talk at least once or twice a week. I have to say I resent the time he puts in to help them especially when I feel he does not put the same amount of time into our marriage. By this I mean, genuine time for us to have a good conversation. He claims he is there when I want to talk. To me its different, he may be there when he is "listening" but not really exchanging thought and ideas with me. This is where the problem lies. I don’t know if he is truly listening 100% of the time or he is just not paying attention to what I am saying. I have to push him to respond to what I just said. He is always in a rush or limits his time talking to me while I would like to talk longer than 10-15 minutes. He claims that he is afraid to talk to me because I have verbally abuse him when he does not get what I just said or does not remember what I just said or does not remember things we did together. Its true, I have called him names due to frustration and anger for not being able to get satisfaction in our relationship. Time and time again I have brought this problem of him not being in the same wave length as I am. I have to repeat things to him since he does not remember a lot of things. Conversations are stunt because of his forgetfulness or with him missing my point. more

Resolved Question: Please help me to get serious help from a God-fearing psychic?

There have been unusual things, like shadows and images, that have occurred throughout the house. My family says that they have seen these paranormal things as well. I feel eerie feelings and the hairs on my arms feel funny, when I am in certain parts of my home. I feel as though something is watching. I have felt this way ever since I was a child. Because of this, I've had a hard time with school and trusting people. There's some type of presence that I think is surrounding my family and I don't know how to get rid of this. I NEED HELP. Our economy is under great stress and it's hard to find someone professional that can come in and help us resolve this problem. We moved into our home almost five years ago. Ever since then, things have been acting crazy. There was a person that we met who was supposedly claiming to do the LORD’S work. We accepted this person into our lives because we were going through a hard time. My mom was devastated because she lost her husband, which is our father. I don't care what people say, you can never get over the loss of a loved one. I'm very hurt and I don't know what else to do any more. This person for years has brought nothing but turmoil, confusion and manipulation into our lives. It's a stab in the back because my mother made this person a Godmother to us. What pisses us off, is that sometimes we can't see things that are right in front of our faces. My mother was also friends with this maniacal woman, who could do nothing but spread lies and innuendos about the family to cause problems. We were children when we were introduced to this lady, who was supposed to help us cope with the loss of our dad. Instead she wanted to influence the kids (us) that we were psychically abused. What we sought was counseling and assistance in coping with life, after our father’s death. She called herself a minister/counselor as well and proclaimed that she helped people to fix their problems. She was a liar and tried to convince us to believe that we were sexual deviants. This, of course, was not true. She even stole from us and persuaded us into giving her our life’s savings. The family has been messed up because of this woman's lies. My mother does not associate with this woman any more. I do not believe that this minister is out of the picture and is still causing things to occur around us. I will give an example: Every holiday, we were invited to our cousin's home for Thanksgiving and Christmas. We've enjoyed being around our cousin. Our cousin has even invited our Godmother to join us, but every time she had an excuse not to show. Here's the twist, my mother has cut ties with this ‘SO CALLED FRIEND.’ This minister called our cousin and spread numerous lies to her. She uses people that are mentally unstable as a distraction that will cause destruction in others lives. Why would our cousin even want to speak to a despicable person that never came to her home, even though she knew the reason that we cut ties with this person? Our cousin has confronted my mother on the phone and stood outside of our home screaming weird things. The cousin relayed information to my mother about things that weren't even the cousin’s business. Our cousin is a very determined individual who will say what you are saying is fictional, although it is your own business. She has to be right at all times. This is quite pitiful that she would make up falsehoods and keep up confusion. She in turn is just so perfect that she wouldn't hurt a fly. We can see that our cousin is mentally challenged and that's why the so called Godmother is speaking to her. This is to sway her in the wrong line of thought. What can we do to have a God-fearing existence? more

Resolved Question: I need serious help from a Psychic that truly believes in doing the Lords work?

I'm truly upset about things that are going on in my home. There have been unusual things that have occurred throughout the house. I've seen shadows and images that come and go. My family says that they have seen these paranormal things as well. When I'm in certain parts of my home, I feel eerie feelings and the hairs on my arms feel funny. Sometimes, I feel as though something is watching. What ever it is, I have felt this way ever since I was a child. Because of these disturbing problems, I've had a hard time with school and letting people into my life. There's some type of presence that I think is surrounding my family and me and I don't know how to get rid of this. I NEED HELP. Our economy is in dire stress and it's hard to find someone professional that can come in and help us resolve this problem. We moved into our home almost 5 years ago. Ever since then, things have been acting crazy. There was a person that we met who was supposedly claiming to do the LORD’S work. We accepted this person into our lives because we were going through a hard time. My mom was devastated because she lost her husband, which is our father. I don't care what people say, you can never get over the loss of a loved one. I'm very hurt and I don't know what else to do any more. This person for years has brought nothing but turmoil, confusion and manipulation into our lives. It's a stab in the back because my mother made this person a Godmother to us. What pisses us off, is that sometimes we can't see things that are right in front of our faces. My mother was also friends with this maniacal woman, who could do nothing but spread lies and innuendos about the family to cause problems. We were children when we were introduced to this lady, who was supposed to help us cope with the loss of our dad. Instead she wanted to influence the kids (us) that we were psychically abused. She forgot the real reason why we needed to see her in the first place. What we sought was counseling and assistance in coping with life, after our father’s death. She called herself a minister/counselor and proclaimed that she helped people to fix their problems. She was a liar and hypnotically influenced us and others to believe that we were sexual deviants. This, of course, was not true. She even stole from us and persuaded us into giving away our life’s savings to her. The family has been messed up because of this woman's lies. We realize now that she has a problem. My mother does not associate with this woman any more. Still, I don't think she is out of the picture. She is still causing things to occur around us. I will give an example: Every holiday, we were invited to our cousin's home for Thanksgiving and Christmas. We've enjoyed being around our cousin. Our cousin has even invited our Godmother to join us, but every time she had an excuse not to show. My cousin has lived with this man for over 23 years. He died 5 years ago. This man never gave my cousin any money. He arranged for his business transactions to be sent elsewhere. He even had any checks from the job or elsewhere, sent to the bank direct deposit. Coincidentally, my cousin would spoil this man’s relatives with lavish gifts, which they falsely assumed came from him. They did not come from him, it came from my cousin’s savings, the whole entire time. Now, this is what makes a person mad. We've given our cousin gifts for Christmas. Those so called relatives of his did not give him anything, not even a card. Here's the twist, my mother has cut ties with this ‘SO CALLED FRIEND.’ This so-called minister called our cousin and spread numerous lies to her. Quite naturally after all these years, we wouldn’t expect for this ‘minister’ to still be involved in our lives. Why would our cousin even want to speak to a despicable person that never came to her home, even though she knew the reason that we cut ties with this person? Our cousin has confronted my mother on the phone and wanted to know, “What caused our Godmother’s friendship to discontinue?” We weren't going into discussion about that with her. Oh, the cousin relayed information to my mother about things that weren't even the cousin’s or minister’s business. Our cousin is the type of person that knows more about anyone’s business, than they know about themselves. Our cousin is a very determined individual who then says what you are saying or doing is fictional. She has to be right at all times about what she says about your business. This is quite pitiful that any person would make up falsehoods and keep up confusion. They in turn are just so perfect that they wouldn't hurt a fly. Anyway, she’s been calling our home a lot lately, talking to us about silly stuff. With a good ounce of common sense, we check our caller id. We take comfort by not picking up the phone to hear all that garbage. We know it's about something retarded. We can see that our cousin in mentally challenged and thaand that's why the so called Godmother is speaking to her. To sway her in the wrong line of thought. What can we do to left whatever evil energy off of us that we can have a God-fearing existence? more

Resolved Question: please help me with health?

1. The process of talking directly to the other person to resolve a conflict (1 point) conflict negotiation assault compromise 2. Forced sexual intercourse (1 point) gang assault rape neglect 3. A disagreement between people with opposing viewpoints, interests, or needs (1 point) neglect conflict negotiation bullying 4. When both sides in a conflict agree to give up something to reach a solution (1 point) negotiation conflict bullying compromise 5. An attack on another person in order to hurt them (1 point) neglect bullying assault rape 6. A group of young people who come together to take part in illegal activities (1 point) gang foster care homicide conflict 7. Failure to provide for the basic physical and emotional needs of a dependent (1 point) foster care negotiation neglect bullying 8. A type of violence in which one person uses threats, taunts, or violence to intimidate another again and again (1 point) negotiation rape assault bullying 9. A violent crime that results in the death of another person (1 point) rape conflict bullying homicide 10. Care provided by people who give children temporary homes when they are in crisis (1 point) homicide foster care bullying compromise True/False Indicate whether the statement is true or false. 11. Disagreements are a normal part of life. (1 point) True False 12. Talking to a trustworthy adult is the best way to stop sexual abuse and get help. (1 point) True False 13. Some conflicts are made worse by peer negotiation. (1 point) True False 14. Feeling negatively about someone because of their race is an example of bullying. (1 point) True False 15. Getting back at someone for something they did to you is known as prejudice. (1 point) True False 16. A factor that keeps abuse victims silent is fear. (1 point) True False 17. Many abusers can learn how to avoid becoming violent again. (1 point) True False 18. Conflict can never be helpful. (1 point) True False 19. Most conflicts for teens happen at home or at the mall. (1 point) True False 20. The most common violent crime is assault. (1 point) True False more

Resolved Question: should i tell my boyfriend his dad is a child molester?

I have been with my boyfriend for a long time now, and we have a good relationship. He has a rough past though, his dad used to beat him severely for no reason as a child and young teen. It really affected him, and he moved out of his dads house into his mothers house. eventually, he had to live with his dad cause of family issues I don't really feel like typing lol but him and his dad got really close, and most of the hurt has been healed that he had done to him. But, I am best friends with his sister, and she told me once how her dad used to sexually abuse her when she was eleven. She doesn't see him anymore, and she is an adult now, so she isn't in danger anymore. But it is extremely hard keeping this secret from my boyfrieind. I don't want to cause problems,and I don't want to hurt him again. He loves his dad, and has forgiven him for what he has done, but he doesn't know he was a child molester. I just don't know what to do, is it wrong of me to listen to him talk about his relationship and past hurts with his dad while keeping a secret that would change everything about how he feels about him?? help! more

Resolved Question: What would you do in this situation?

Whether the scenario is true or not is not important to the question just give your idea on the way you would deal with it if you were the one the falsehoods were spread about. Husband and wife divorce and wife makes comment "paybacks are a B...." and husband laughs and moves to another state, while living in the other state for 15 years ex-wife was spreading rumors that ex-husband was a child molester and then husband returns to the area and she continues to spread the lies all over the neighborhood, keep in mind that Husband was never accused, charged, prosecuted or convicted of any type of sex crime with anyone. Husband is now ostracized, threatened with violence including death, and even verbally abused in various stores when purchasing essentials. In the neighborhood there are 4 convicted sex offenders/child molesters they are registered and live their life as though they had never committed a crime. Other people know of their crimes and where they live, they are friendly with them but the ex-husband is treated as described before. What would you do? more