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He can escape her verbal abuse - Winnipeg Free Press

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: One of our dear friends is living common law with a woman who's controlling and constantly belittling him in front of his friends. He just sits there and says nothing. His grammar isn't the greatest and she constantly corrects ...

California Court Says Online Bullying Is Not Protected ... - Tech Dirt

... rights] may often appear to be only verbal tumult, discord, and even offensive utterance[,] . . . [w]e cannot lose sight of the fact that, in what otherwise might seem a trifling and annoying instance of individual distasteful abuse of a ...

In the Know Health and Home Report What's Next ... - WTHR

Is your home filled with constant fussing and fighting, and sometimes, physical abuse? Some experts say domestic abuse is a form of terrorism for our children. It is not always physical abuse – sometimes, it is mental, emotional, or verbal abuse ...

Fight stepped up on Wales abuse in the home - News Wales

Swansea today launches a new domestic abuse strategy aimed at cutting verbal, psychological, sexual, financial and physical abuse in the home. Almost half of the 14,000 calls to the Wales Domestic Abuse helpline originate from South Wales. From April ...

Hinch Blog: 'Copping abuse' - 3AW

There was one allegation that after one verbal confrontation with a young group police came back, out of uniform, to bash them in a public park. A 15-month survey was funded by the Legal Services Board in 2008 and managed by three community legal ...

Ralph Doty: Was Detroit flight incident an abuse of ... - Duluth News Tribune

She was gracious in all her verbal and written communications. I wrote to her: “I fully understand [after you’ve read my four-page letter] that you may need more details about this incident, and I am ready to cooperate with you in every possible ...

Ten cricketers from Thomson side accused of racial ... - The Gaea Times

... racial abuse of opposition Indian players playing for the Waurn Ponds Cricket Club on Sunday. According to Fox Sports, the complaint alleges six Waurn Ponds players of Indian decent were subjected to a series of racially motivated verbal attacks ...

The Problem With John Allen - The Atlantic

Playing verbal gymnastics may be an inside Vatican game, but I find it dishonest at heart. This is the first time I ever saw a direct statement from Allen that Maciel was nevertheless guilty. 2) Meeting abuse victims abroad after, what, five years ...

We all benefit from good discussions - Coloradoan

In my opinion, verbal abuse is just as much an act of violence as a physical attack and is just as destructive. Personal attack only drives participants farther apart and lessens the likelihood of finding new solutions. And many people with good ...

Port Shepstone High School - Team Talk - Independent Online

Often, due to society's intolerance, they have to hide their acts and feelings in fear of rejection, abuse and disownment by society. 96 percent of homosexuals experience verbal abuse. 40 percent of homosexuals experience physical abuse. 28 percent ...

Open Question: how likely am i to be dismissed for the following offence at work?

Basically my employer has started disciplinary proceedings for my actions at work. The allegation in question refers to unauthorised entry to the premises out of hours, as well as allowing an unauthorised person into the premises. On the night in question me and a colleague had attended an awards dinner representing the company, on our walk back home we were confronted by a group of men who threatened us, we swiftly walked away and managed to get away from them. At this point we heard their verbal abuse and realised they were following us, in an act of panic me and my colleague (who had his work keys with him) entered the store as a means of escape, we remained in the store for no longer than 10minutes and then left and went home, we have both been suspended and i am just wondering what the likelihood of a dismissal is, given the circumstances, thanks more

Open Question: What are some serious signs of an abuser?

What are the important signs to be aware of when it comes to an abusive man in a relationship? It can be verbal, physical, or even mental abuse. I feel like a person I know may be in an abusive relationship, but i will like to help her. Please give me some details and ways to avoid an abusive relationship. more

Open Question: can a house be legally signed over to someone if the elderly owner doesn't realize what they are signing?

elderly woman owns her house, her son brought over papers for her to sign for medical power of attorney & living will & snuck in the deed to her house. she signed it over & didn't realize she did that. She is very upset that she no longer owns her house. son has hx of verbal abuse & control issues. APS involved. What legal can be done to get her house back. She does have a will that states the house will go to both children. more

Open Question: what is your impression of this Human Resources response to a verbal abuse case?

I filed a complaint against my coworkers who has been verbally harassing me. They did it to me three times. I only have evidence for the third or last event. This is the HR's response according to my Boss: My impression on xxx (HR's personnel) when I submitted your complaint was that she seemed hesitant as the issue seems problematic due to the inadequacy of our policy and the lack of similar case from which we can pattern the process to be adopted as well as resolution of the issues. I think she feels that taking this issue seriously is only troublesome for everyone (she even commented to me that “I am working peaceful here then. . .” when I first approached her regarding your complaint. From your narration, it also seems that she is discouraging you already even though we haven’t even started. Since she mentioned that the advice she gave you came from the higher-ups, it seems that they want to settle this as fast as they can without any additional troubles." Do you think i should consider their response? it feels unjust and i can feel injustice inside me. pls. advise more

Open Question: What a predicament..I thought I didn't care about being bullied.But I was wrong. Your help, please.?

I'm 16 years old, and i've been bullied..My whole life..I've been subject to beatings, mobbing, muggings, anything you could think of..I suffer from verbal harassment about 100% of the days I go to school..Due to trauma, I'm well aware now that I've come along some problems..For starters, I'm cyclothymic..And depressed. And since my leave from elementary school, I've come to be known as an elective mute to my psychiatrists. I have gone from school, to different schools all across the state..To avoid being harassed..I'm one of those small, wimpy kids. The kind of guy who can only lift 60 pounds.The kind of guy whose...Well, petite..I've come to a school, where I refuse to take this anymore..I don't need medication because I have my own ways of handling myself, and those ways have always worked..Believe what you may, despite my temper, I'd never hurt anyone.. So I've been at this school for two years...I haven't been beat up, but I've still been verbally abused and harassed..Those people, I didn't care about..It was only name calling...By the second year, I've made an oath that I will not let this happen to me anymore, that I will not deal with it anymore..Going to the principal would only make people chastise me more..I'm a sweet guy..But I'm living in a city where all the kids care about are drugs..And they do drugs all the time..They're shallow, rich, and judgmental kids. And I say that just because I've gotten to know them.. Today, a friend texted me..A friend that goes to my science class, while I got switched to PE. Please, recall that I'm a quiet kid, in case no one knows what a mute is. Anyways, this friend texted me that this girl, who sat by me in some classes, was mocking me...Calling me weird, and saying nobody likes me..Then she called me a stalker, said "I wouldn't let him babysit my kids", and got she got up, and started imitating me, the way I walked (I have a bad knee), and caused people in the class to..Well, follow her along.. The teacher over heard them, and yelled at them. It seemed to have ended there but..Given that these people love to insult me.. This friend said that theres five people who are going to come up to me tomorrow, and insult me, and bug me..Talk to me just so they can comment later..One of the girls who did this was someone I used to talk to, someone I thought was my friend.. I want your advice, NOW. I can't tell the principal..Five people? Knowing these kids, the whole schools gonna know about their little act, and follow upon it. I can't fight on school campus..This school expels you for bullying..One insult, and you can get expelled..Once, my PE teacher expelled half his class for talking about another student..NOT EVEN TALKING..Laughing.. You can call me an ***, you can call me angry, or dramatic, I don't care..But something must be done. I said I wouldn't deal with this anymore, and that was my new years resolution..It was a promise.. If I hadn't been busted for threats at my previous schools(due to bullying of course), I would've traced her number, and threatened to slit her throat. I've done it before, and since I've done that, people have backed off..Even when I'm not there..But I got in trouble with the state..One more threat like that, and I'll supposedly be thrown in Juvi. Something has to be done..I used to be careless, but now..I'm trying to live a good life here..I don't need this. I want your advice..i'm tempted to do something on my own, but I know how far I tend to go, so I'm asking you people.. My parents know, my psychologists know, my psychiatrists know. EVERYONE KNOWS ABOUT MY PAST, THEY KNOW IM BULLIED. The best my parents can do is take me out of the school.Ignoring it isn't an option..It'll just keep happening..And I know I'm not the only one, but how is that piece of advice supposed to help me feel better? more

Open Question: What to do, what to do..Seems like another predicament..?

I'm 16 years old, and i've been bullied..My whole life..I've been subject to beatings, mobbing, muggings, anything you could think of..I suffer from verbal harassment about 100% of the days I go to school..Due to trauma, I'm well aware now that I've come along some problems..For starters, I'm cyclothymic..And depressed. And since my leave from elementary school, I've come to be known as an elective mute to my psychiatrists. I have gone from school, to different schools all across the state..To avoid being harassed..I'm one of those small, wimpy kids. The kind of guy who can only lift 60 pounds.The kind of guy whose...Well, petite..I've come to a school, where I refuse to take this anymore..I don't need medication because I have my own ways of handling myself, and those ways have always worked..Believe what you may, despite my temper, I'd never hurt anyone.. So I've been at this school for two years...I haven't been beat up, but I've still been verbally abused and harassed..Those people, I didn't care about..It was only name calling...By the second year, I've made an oath that I will not let this happen to me anymore, that I will not deal with it anymore..Going to the principal would only make people chastise me more..I'm a sweet guy..But I'm living in a city where all the kids care about are drugs..And they do drugs all the time..They're shallow, rich, and judgmental kids. And I say that just because I've gotten to know them.. Today, a friend texted me..A friend that goes to my science class, while I got switched to PE. Please, recall that I'm a quiet kid, in case no one knows what a mute is. Anyways, this friend texted me that this girl, who sat by me in some classes, was mocking me...Calling me weird, and saying nobody likes me..Then she called me a stalker, said "I wouldn't let him babysit my kids", and got she got up, and started imitating me, the way I walked (I have a bad knee), and caused people in the class to..Well, follow her along.. The teacher over heard them, and yelled at them. It seemed to have ended there but..Given that these people love to insult me.. This friend said that theres five people who are going to come up to me tomorrow, and insult me, and bug me..Talk to me just so they can comment later..One of the girls who did this was someone I used to talk to, someone I thought was my friend.. I want your advice, NOW. I can't tell the principal..Five people? Knowing these kids, the whole schools gonna know about their little act, and follow upon it. I can't fight on school campus..This school expels you for bullying..One insult, and you can get expelled..Once, my PE teacher expelled half his class for talking about another student..NOT EVEN TALKING..Laughing.. You can call me an ass, you can call me angry, or dramatic, I don't care..But something must be done. I said I wouldn't deal with this anymore, and that was my new years resolution..It was a promise.. If I hadn't been busted for threats at my previous schools(due to bullying of course), I would've traced her number, and threatened to slit her throat. I've done it before, and since I've done that, people have backed off..Even when I'm not there..But I got in trouble with the state..One more threat like that, and I'll supposedly be thrown in Juvi. Something has to be done..I used to be careless, but now..I'm trying to live a good life here..I don't need this. I want your advice..i'm tempted to do something on my own, but I know how far I tend to go, so I'm asking you people..I refuse to let this be ignored...ANSWER ME!!!!!My parents have always known..What can they do, besides helping me withdraw from the school? more

Open Question: Work harassment, written warning before verbal, i'm confused on what to do?

Here is some background information. I work for a company in Wisconsin that helps mentally disabled individuals my start date was January 20th of this year. On March 10th I was called into the office because of a few incidents that had occurred. I'm a whistle blower. It all started because my staff were abusing my clients, I caught it on camera and brought it to my manager & hr. The 2 staff were fired. Although the one staff was my managers best friend outside of work. The one staff was starting problems over facebook so I just deleted and blocked them. My manager criticizes every tiny thing I do so I make sure to double and triple check myself. Well this weekend because of day light savings time the other staff was late to work. They are writing me up because I didn't call a supervisor and notify them that they were late. Even though I was taking care of the client, and I didn't have to stay later to do so. Then they finally get back to me today about some unpaid personal time I took off. I asked for 30 hours of unpaid PTO in may. I called the PTO (personal Time off) lady today and she said I would qualify and there shouldn't be any problem. But, my manager said no she denied it on grounds that I missed too many days off from work. So I asked her how I've missed 2.5 days of work because I had walking phenomena. The other days I was out I was already scheduled off. I not only had a doctors not but I went back to work early to cover shifts that they couldn't find anybody to cover. The abuse that took place was they made my client take a cold shower, used body wash as shampoo, made him sit in the dark while the other staff went into the office to watch a t.v program, sent him to bed w/out eating, and when he went to take a drink he spilled juice all over his stomach and they sent him to bed like that, made him go to bed naked. Those were just the stuff that took place with the male clients. The female staff was screaming at my female client telling her she's not anybody friend, she's nobody, stop talking to her, and then the staff fell asleep on my clients couch @ 11:30 am. UPDATE: 3/18 my "update meeting" They 1. Wrote me up for capturing abuse on camera because the staff that I caught on camera I did not have their permission to tape. 2. gave me a verbal for not calling in and saying I took care of 4 clients at night. Even though I don't and when I mentioned that it was told to me somebody might be busy with meds so it was my job. Ok that's a new one too me. But the strange thing is the date of my verbal warning came second and the date of my written warming came first. Verbal was dated for today's date and my written was dated 2/15. Aren't you suppose to get a verbal first then a written? If so how can they switch them around on me? And how can they give me a verbal for something I was never told to do, was trained to and if I do what they say in my verbal warning i'm lying to the state. Plus the funny thing is they used my maiden name on my write up slips, they didn't even use my married name. I don't go by my maiden name other than on facebook. So I found that very odd. My question is can they give me a written warning before a verbal warning. Especially using my maiden name? And, how can I protect myself? more

Open Question: How do I help my best friend get out of an abusive relationship?

I have been friends with this girl for over 10 years and she is my best friend. I consider her my sister and I consider her daughter my niece. But I am afraid that my best friends life will be cut short or completly ruined because of her husband. His anger is a huge problem. Mostly it is verbal abuse, he will call her a bad mother and a bitch and scream at her, She has gone into a different room to get away from him but she just punches and kicks the door till he gets in. When she was pregnant he pushed her in the doorway to their apartment and if she didnt catch herself on the railing she would have fallen down the stairs. He has never punched or hit her but he has pushed her and thrown things at her like shoes and their camera. They have a little girl who is 7 months old and im afraid one day she is gonna get caught in the crossfire and get hit with something. I have told her how i feel about what he does and she gives the same excuses..."he did say he was sorry" and... "he grew up in a rough neighborhood and he doesnt know how else to act" it is frustrating to say the least and i dont know what to do but ill feel really bad if something happens to her or the baby and i didnt do anything. So what should I do....is there anything I can do? more

Open Question: Could we all pray for Ashley - a sexually abused child now 25 years old!?

A user of R & S - yahoo ans sent this message for prayers today : Subject: PLEASE PRAY FOR ASHLEY Message: (A) Sexually abused as child. (B) A sensitive girl, she sought the "American Dream” (husband, 3 kids, house, car, etc.) A man with as bad a controlling spirit (male “jezebel” spirit) as I have encountered in some time, moved right in on her like a predator. (C) After a continued time of monitoring & controlling her every movement, utilizing manipulation and both verbal and physical abuse, Ashley was final delivered from that environment, was saved and baptized and walked in great joy & peace, singing & playing guitar praises to our Lord for about six months. (D) Ashley joined the local church, where her ex-live in’s mother also attended, I understand. She shared many deep, intimate hurts and events in her life. This church “pastor”, who also was in an adulterous affair at the time, for some reason made known what sensitive issues were said in private. By the time the wildfire of gossip finished spreading, everyone knew her personal business. (E) Ashley went to apologize to the ex with the controlling spirit and by the time all was said and done, he manipulated his way back in the door, she has never gone to church again. (F) The pattern of control and abuse has started all over again. Now, since our last bible study on seducing & controlling spirits, she is no longer permitted to be in my presence. This sounds strange for a 25 year old woman, but you just have to understand the jezebel spirit’s hold with fear and intimidation. PLEASE PRAY & GET OTHERS! more

Open Question: I have a 13 year old daughter who is desperate to change schools?

She is in the 7th grade, and comes home describing horrific acts of verbal and on occasion physical abuse. She's always been very resilient, she's had to be with all the crap the other kids give her. My daughter doesn't admit to distress easily but has been having issues like this for just under 2 years. In the past few months she's been getting more and more depressed and has stopped holding anything back when she describes her periodic bullying. She comes home with more and more severe bruises to her personality, ego, confidence, and every and again her body. She's beem picked on since she started middle school, and always seemed to bounce back from every blow, but a few months ago she came home crying after being traumatized when a group of fellow students physically attacked her with office supplies during class, and she hasn't been the same since. She says she's tired of bouncing back, and fighting it, and that she's finally given up on making her school life any better.She says her life is a living hell, and that she can't find the will to even get out of bed anymore. The worst part is looking in her eyes and knowing that she's not exaggerating. She begs me everyday to let her change schools, so she can have a new start and do things up so people would like her better and not try to murder her. (her actual words) She literally gets on her hands and knees, and promises me everything she has to offer, in exchange for letting her switch schools. She actually researches schools in her spare time, and when I get home from work she attempts to persuade me to let her go to whichever school's on the computer screen. I would let her go but I'm a single mother and none of the schools we find have bus-stops in our area except the one she already goes to, or at least none close enough that I'd feel safe letting her walk home from there. She's actually so desperate that she suggested moving in with her grandparents and going to the public school near their house. They agreed but I don't think I can let other people raise her even if it is only for the school year, and they live only two and a half hours away. But she is truly desperate, and it hurts me to see that the only thing that makes her happy is the idea of a new school, and the only thing that she's passionate about is researching new possible schools. Private school isn't an option either because #1 money, #2 we're a family of bleeding liberals and are spiritual but not religious. There are no non religious Private schools in our area. What should I do? Should I let her move in with my parents? more

Open Question: Why do i keep having nightmares?

for the past 7 month (yea long time really getting annoying now) I've been having nothing but nightmares night by night. they just wont stop or go any. they all seem to be about my fears. the one 2 nights ago was about verbal an emotional abuse from my parents (my parents do abuse me a little bit but its mainly my dad. its normal to me but I'm still kinda scared an unhappy of them from it) an the one last night was about hatred from everyday people, school an my friends rude yelling with the threating look on her face when she yells. some from over the months where hatred from old friends that happen to be really close to me but turned the back on me in a fight an never talked to me again (there guys so theres some explainment of the stubbornness for ignoring of my words an leaving) those nightmares lasted for a while an now come back every now and then. theres a lot of different nightmares but never really the same. the good part is I'm still not scared to go to sleep. if i wake up i'll stay awake for about 30 minutes to clam down then go back to bed. but some of them have really been threating to me. losing my trust in some people, wanting to just give up in life thinking I'm never gonna fill a percent of what i want out of life, and a few more. the biggest thing i notice its cause the nightmares are all from my fears an some of those fears take place almost everyday the nightmares are confusing my mind with what really happened an I'm starting to forget thing. now i really just cant trust some of my memory's anymore. so i cant really say much on what happened with the day before yesterday and yesterday. just the end of the day. it's really confusing! but theres really nothing that i know of that would cause them. all what i pretty much watch is anime i don't know how that can make a nightmare unless your watching something like Naruto or Inuyasha an fighting an/or killing really scares you but it don't scare me! hehe..i don't really watch movies all i do most the day is watch anime, read story's or books and talk to my friends i stay perfectly clam till when i go to bed these fears i have just....like wake up an makes me have a nightmare. But w/e i do they wont leave! i got a happy story stuck in my head. it leaves an i have a nightmare when i fall sleep. it's really getting annoying now i just want it to stop. more

Open Question: Can you file a complaint, if someone you work with has verbally attacked your character?

This person is in a higher up position than me. But the verbal harassment, against me, and my character continues, every day that I have to work with this person. I am looking for a new job, for I cannot take this abuse any longer. I have stood up to them, but it does no good, for they feel they are better than I am, and that I know nothing. That is not the case for I have been in this line of work for many, many years. What can I file with the Dept. of Labor against this person? This is in the state of georgia. Any advice on this will be so helpful. I have never done anything like this, but I think this person, needs to be stopped in their tracks, for their big mouth. Some of these things are directly about me, that they say. more

Open Question: how do you deal with a teenage daughter who treats her parents like crap?

my teenage daughter treats us like crap smart answers verbal abuse cocky attitude etc violent mood swings we tried shouting we tried ignoring her confiscating phones tv etc nothing works ad yesterday she said she was going to kill herself help i dont know what to do more

Open Question: Should Christians be happy because of their God was crucified by the Jews?

I wonder what should a Christian feel when their claimed God, Jesus Christ was tortured and crucified by the Jews and Roman army? Should they feel happy or sad? By right they should be sad because of the horrible torture, crucifixion and murder. Not to mention verbal abuse, false accusation and denial of rights. But then, according to their belief, if Jesus wasn't crucified, there would be no salvation. Without salvation, everybody will simply go straight to hell, including so-called holy Pope and mother Teressa. Honestly I don't know what to guess. What should a Christian feel? Tremendous joy because of skipping hell while your God tortured like Hell? more

Voting Question: Is this a good enough reason to see a counselor? Do you think there is hope for my family?

Since the death of his friend my brother has been suffering from depression. As far as I know hes not suicidal but it is affecting him quite badly. He no longer works (he had a full time job which he loved) he barely comes out of his room (he has always been very outgoing and loved talking to us and going out with his friends) he hardly eats (he used to eat a lot) and has pushed nearly all of his friends away. Lately he has also been getting quite angry which is scary (the abuse is verbal not physical) Anyway his depression is really affecting me. I hate the atmosphere in the house now. I actually dread coming home from college because of it or if I go out with friends I hate the thought of coming home. When Im out I dont have as much fun as I used to because Im constantly thinking about my home life. Often when I think about it I feel really upset and on a few occasions when I have been in bed at night I have cried over it. I live with him my mum and dad and our house used to be a really happy house. We were a close family and the atmosphere used to be great. I miss the happiness so much. I miss my mum and dad being in a good mood and I miss the random little chats me and my brother used to have Now this seems really horrible but sometimes I feel as though Im beginning to hate him for it. I feel like he wants this as hes not helping himself. Hes just not making the effort. He must be able to see what hes doing to us all yet he doesnt care enough to sort himself out. People deal with death all the time they grieve and move on what makes him so different? Im thinking about seeing a counsellor. What do you think? more

Voting Question: Is this a good enough reason to see a counselor? Is there any hope for my family?

Voting Question: Is this a good enough reason to see a counsellor?

Voting Question: I Dont know what to do, is it just me? Am i the problem here?

Right so im worried, confused, unhappy and ill. I know most of what im about to talk about is probably my fault because of the fact im ill. I suffer from Bipolar Disorder, and basiaclly my family is a complete mess, nobody talks to each other hardly, and if we do or we have a laugh its only for a short while and then its back to reality. Over hte last 2-3 years iv been ill theres been so many ups and downs, and by that i mean yeah by mood swings, but the family also, weve had to deaths which hit us hard, one more than the other, money problems and business, me in and out of hospital, suicide attempts. abuse you name it. So the whole point of this question is basically my dad and brother, they drink a hell of alot, my dad dirnks every night, and he drinks alot, my brother probably once every other night, hes 21 and my dads 40 somthing. My dads ALWAYs since i can remember been an angry man and i hated him so much when iw as young, i was scared of him and still am, we had the normal family arguments, but over the last year he gets anrgy even when sober, but wehn drinks involved they both get voilent sometimes and just of there heads, ive taken a beat in from my brother whilst he was drunk last year, and he threatend if i told anybody he tell id be on drugs when i was manic etc, which is not my fault, i loose touch with reality and have no contorl? right? :(. So anyway my teacher i just had to let it out i was distraught. It got sorted etc. Then about 4 months ago my dad and brother had been drinking alot for about 12 hours straight, they both came in and an argument came my dad became very voilent physically, he was just out of it, he beat my brother up, he hit my mum and pushed me into a wall and my brothers GF. I rang my grandad and nan, and when they came at like 3am in the morning, my dad hit my nan, and my brother shouted verbal abuse badly at them. Me and my mum moved out and moved in a while after, it took me alot longer and set me into a depressive episode and i ended up in a psychotic depressive episode and in hospital. Last night me and my next door friend had a nice girly night in spenind time together as ive jus recoverd from a mania psycotic episode and released from hospital, my brother came around banging on the door drunk, and was yelling that i had no brain and needed to sort myself out etc im fucked up and what not, i had to push him out the door before he obvs would of done somthing, he was getting real anrgy and all close up so i smacked him in the arm and ran home to get my mum who has just had an operation also. My dad yelled your as bad as him? How? yeah im ill and if i do somthing when im ill its not my fault i take full blame for it when i become better but at the time i have no control weva im manic depressed what not, my dad and brother bring it on themselves because of there drinking, now i dont know weather they have a underlying problem, with my dad i think he has seriosly bad mental issues, and i blame myself for how the family is. I just want to leave home and move on, im only 18 and i dont think my mum would cope without me at all, thats the only reason why im staying, if it wernt for her id be gone along time ago, but its hard with my illness in what decsisions i make. What do i do? All my doctors, psychs etc know about my home situation and arguments, which they support me fully in. My dad you no hes just loosing it, even sober hes so anrgy and irritble, sometimes if a car behind us annoys him, hel get out scream at them swearing and abusive and i just feel so useless, he gets bared from pubs when he goes on holiday due to drink. Im lost on what to do, he aalways says i dont care about anybody else, and all that stuff. Im battling my own illness here whilst trying to cope with them both, and keeping the family together? Please help me :(Ill think youl find bipolar people during manic phases can loos touch with reality, when they goin into manic phase and have psychosis with it like i do. more

Voting Question: What can I do about an abusive ex and him seeing his daughter?

My ex and I split almost a year ago after a number of years of verbal, emotional and physical abuse. We had a little girl together and she was 6 months old when I finally got the guts to leave. I don't think that he would ever hurt his own daughter but he is still verbally and emotionally abusive towards me almost every time we talk. What can I do so that I have minimal contact with him? We do not have a formal custody order in place as I have just agreed with him that he can see his daughter whenever he wants and at the moment he sees her every second weekend but I have to drive 2 1/2 hours there and back (5 hour round trip) to drop our daughter off for him to see her he also drives 2 1/2 hours and we meet in the middle as we live 5 hours apart. Do I have to meet him half way for him to pick up his daughter? There is no family contact centre between us. I just want him as much out of my life as possible, he constantly sends me abusive messages and calls me abusing me. I am tolerating the abuse so my daughter can see her father and have him in her life as I am worried that if i get a restraining order or go to court that she wont be able to see him. What should I do? more

Voting Question: In 2005 my Nephew and my oldest sister had his Children after they Kicked his wife out and they lost Parental?

Rights in Court.This was in Feb 2005 I guess it was a real ugly case. It happened in South Dakota. My sister went to jail for 65 days for some reason The family has all been lied to about this. We can not get any straight answers from my sister. She is 63 now and it must be pretty bad because even her son has put her on the street. I admit she is a real pain in the A**. She loves to be controlling. But in 2005 my nephew took the case Clear to the Supreme Court and they Had 10 Cases againt him for founded forms of Abuse. From Sexual, Mental,Verbal, Mental, Physical, Child Abuse, Child Neglect, I do not Know what the other 3 forms of abuse are. My sister says she never went to Court she just went to Jail. All this stuff was against My nephew and his now ex wife.It was bad I guess because They Lost ALL and ABSOLUTE Rights to the Children. The youngest child was adopted, the middle one is a few months from adoption, now the oldest child is with in 3 months from 18 But she has started calling my son Saying she is Gettinh High chasing 3 guys,Drinking and getting laid at 17 years old I don't want this in my house. She is all over My space and Face book. She emailed me this weekend saying all kinds of stuff. Should I email her counselor or just ignore her. more

Resolved Question: Reporting Someone I love...Help me please.?

I love my mother...I always have. But I know that what has been done isn't right, but I'm not positive it's abuse. I remember times where she's cussed me out, yelled at me, called me a whore, a b****, a slut, a demon...all sorts of things and sometimes in front of my friends. I remember one night she forgot I was at a friends house, stormed over to her house, tried to break in, and cussed me out calling me a b****-a hooker-a slut in front of my friends,. My friends where devastated and so scared that they hid in the next room after turning off all the lights in the house. They were still afraid after I convinced her to leave that she would come back...another time when I said I didn't believe in her religion, she looked me in the eyes and said that I was a demon and demons' deserve to die so I should go kill myself and be done with it, just burn in hell. There have been many other times where she has told me she hates me, that I'm disgusting, that I'm a f***ing idiot, that she doesn't want me...all kinds of things. I don't know what to do. I have no self-confidence, and I have self-harmed because of the things she's said to me sometimes. But there are times when she's so nice and kind that I don't know what to believe...it's so confusing. One second I'm determined to go, to get away...the next it's how can I leave her? I don't know what to do. I don't want to go to a foster home. I want to go live with my grandparents, but would they want another child? But what if they do? Can they get legal custody of me? Does anyone know what will happen if I report her? I don't even know anymore.....the verbal wasn't all by the way...she's burned me, shoved me into the wall, and she's even forgotten me and left me home alone for an entire day with nothing to eat and my only company is my step-brother who tries to molest me so I'm holed up in my room alone...scared for my life...I don't know what that means...but it's not good. I'm 16 years old. I've been through alot, not just the crap with my mother, but things that have happened because she's put me in those situations. And because of her, my step-brother isn't the only one who's molseted me, nor is he the worst molester I've had. I still remember that one. Mother never listened to me about any of them though. She said I was a kid with an overactive imagination and that I should suck it up and stop making up stories just cause I don't like certain people. I don't think she'll ever know what they did. Or how bad they hurt me. So after thinking everything over, I've come to the conclusion that the best thing is for me to leave...but does anyone know how I can do that without going to a foster home? Can anybody help me? Any advice? Please...I only have a few more weeks to figure this out...I only have until the end of this school year...then I have to make my move, but I want to know...any advice or knowlegde would be greatly apprectiated...please.... more

Resolved Question: My fiance has called me the "N" word several times? Verbal Abuse?

I am a black female and of course my fiance is a Caucasian man. I hate that it has gotten to a point to where I'm asking myself if I'm in a verbally abusive relationship. I don't really think that we're too compatible as we may think we are. We fight all the time, argue and yes at times and can get physical. When we're fighting he calls out all sorts of names, b*%$#, h@#, s&*^, and even the "N" word. I ask myself, if he really loves me he would not even be calling me a that. I mean, I know it's in the heat of the moment b/c we're arguing but I don't sit here and call him a cracker or anything else. I'm not trying to sound childish by saying " who calls what who" but...it shouldn't got that far. After 3 in a half years of being with him, I'm realizing that we're not compatible. I think we bring the worst out in each other. Now, I am a very blunt person and I've told him how I feel. The fact that I think we're not compatible, we argue too much and so on....I can't believe that I haven't left a long time ago but he always said "oh it's just the situation that we're in that makes us argue" I think its a bunch of "BS".... please help....He had gotten me a dog about 2 weeks before Christmas because he said he thought maybe it would help our relationship. But I think different....I think he got the dog because by then, the dog would be emotionally attached to the both of us and I wouldn't want to take the dog from him... but oh well. I do plan on leaving him and taking the dog considering it was a gift to me. He makes the dog an issue in our relationship by saying that she needs both of us and " oh you would take her from me like that"I do love the dog, but she's not a child. So when he's arguing with me about who the dog belongs to it doesn't do anything. I know by law that if you give somebody a "gift" you cannot take it back. Besides I have papers on her when I had her spayed a week ago..+shots......But he can keep the dog if he's gonna make that an issue more

Open Question: What is your opinion about violent religions?

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Resolved Question: What is the difference between dirty fighting and verbal abuse?

Resolved Question: please I need 10 mins of your time and some advice in this matter?

this is long and confusing I tried my best to make it as clear as I can What are my rights as a mother with sole custody? I have a 6 1/2 year old son I have had sole custody of him since he was 2 years old his fatherwas never around always cheating i used to have to pay him to be home with us .. never showed up in court nor does he pay child support I have been to court 3 times over his dad wanting to see him which is fine with me but I want supervision as he was in a car accident 4 years ago after driving while under the influence which left him with severe TBI he has workers for physio etc with him all the time long story short I was pregnant with my second child and was very sick in and out of hospitals which left me not being able to get my son to all of his visits with his dad at teh supervised access centre where they supervise access between child and parent . so he ended up serving me papers for not seeing his son when he was supossed to It was not my fault why he didnt get him when he was supossed to things came up .. and i always called and told his people why .. anyways now its been a year and never in front of a judge and rememned about 11 times !~ my lawyer has done nothing for me and my ex has hired a lady who works with families to make things work out for the kids ! she is from hell . she tells me i have no rights to say anything or do anything for my son like i cant say no he is not going or i dont want these peopel to be around him etc ( one more thing my ex's family disowned my son when he was born he is white ( they are hispanic and I was pregnant out of wed lock his sister tried to kill me while i was pregnant ) anyways they never wanted anything to do with my son and now they are teh supervised access .. I agreed with this cause i was told i had no rights its my sons life etc ... well the only thing i asked is that my ex;s sister is not present .. they wrote it down they told me he promised that she is not present etc ... it was suposed to be settled .. and the very first visit she was there ... now i am told i have to send him regardless i do not have teh right to say he cant go cause i am afraid for his safety . no one is listening to me my lawyer is useless apparently i went to him and wrote him a letter and its been 2 weeks now and i still havent gotten any legal advice .. so i write that lady after she wrote me today saying that even if my son is sick i have to send him his dad can take care of him his dad is not even capable of taking care of himself .. let alone my son ! i am so confused i feel so useless i feel liek my son and all the shattered peices i have collected for my son everytime his dad walked out teh door or beat me up in front of him is gone out teh window my son is so hurt and torn he wants to see his dad which is fine and im not trying to stop that but he pays no suport and never wanted to be in his life before took off and now all of a sudden gets all the rights to see his school makes dr.records etc and gets to make the shots .,I feel liek i am the bad guy like ive done something wrong like i walked out on my son or i dont pay for my son etc .. i do everything for him ! EVERYTHING!!! ,, I am so sorry this is long and confusing much liek it is ! but i need some advice ! i do everything i can for my children and i feel so sick and depressed im scared i will go to jail if i dont send him but they are not listening to my desires they are coming in after 4 years and taking over not caring of our routines ive set and the way we live .. etc .. please help again im sorry i am not slow or a bad speller i am just trying to get it out the fastest and best way i can .. thanks in advance God bless ps im in ontario canada using legal aid .. Also he has been told no contact with me at all he has been emailing me on a date site telling me how fat ive gotten and im a WH#*#* and that he had me when i was in my better days .. also used to call and play rap songs with verbal abuse that was ment for me to hear came to my home banging on my door i never answered so he wrote Fat Puta on my sign for all to see .. then sent a dvd home iwth my son after a visit and it had a naked chick on it my son seen it thought it was his .. and yet he doesnt get in trouble for anyof this and they still want me to send him ! he is abusing me and there is nothing i can do :*( im sad ive been to the police station and because he is not personally harming me there is nothing i can do but bring it to teh court .. it keeps getting remanded .. I apoligize .. It is a long question non the less it is how my life is confused and all in a mess 'I tried my best to get it out ... I do have an atternoy to is doing nothing I have not had contact with him for 2 weeks So as of monday i will be searching for a new lawyer .. sorry for it being to long and confusing more

Voting Question: Please help a lost single mom know her rights?

What are my rights as a mother with sole custody? I have a 6 1/2 year old son I have had sole custody of him since he was 2 years old his fatherwas never around always cheating i used to have to pay him to be home with us .. never showed up in court nor does he pay child support I have been to court 3 times over his dad wanting to see him which is fine with me but I want supervision as he was in a car accident 4 years ago after driving while under the influence which left him with severe TBI he has workers for physio etc with him all the time long story short I was pregnant with my second child and was very sick in and out of hospitals which left me not being able to get my son to all of his visits with his dad at teh supervised access centre where they supervise access between child and parent . so he ended up serving me papers for not seeing his son when he was supossed to It was not my fault why he didnt get him when he was supossed to things came up .. and i always called and told his people why .. anyways now its been a year and never in front of a judge and rememned about 11 times !~ my lawyer has done nothing for me and my ex has hired a lady who works with families to make things work out for the kids ! she is from hell . she tells me i have no rights to say anything or do anything for my son like i cant say no he is not going or i dont want these peopel to be around him etc ( one more thing my ex's family disowned my son when he was born he is white ( they are hispanic and I was pregnant out of wed lock his sister tried to kill me while i was pregnant ) anyways they never wanted anything to do with my son and now they are teh supervised access .. I agreed with this cause i was told i had no rights its my sons life etc ... well the only thing i asked is that my ex;s sister is not present .. they wrote it down they told me he promised that she is not present etc ... it was suposed to be settled .. and the very first visit she was there ... now i am told i have to send him regardless i do not have teh right to say he cant go cause i am afraid for his safety . no one is listening to me my lawyer is useless apparently i went to him and wrote him a letter and its been 2 weeks now and i still havent gotten any legal advice .. so i write that lady after she wrote me today saying that even if my son is sick i have to send him his dad can take care of him his dad is not even capable of taking care of himself .. let alone my son ! i am so confused i feel so useless i feel liek my son and all the shattered peices i have collected for my son everytime his dad walked out teh door or beat me up in front of him is gone out teh window my son is so hurt and torn he wants to see his dad which is fine and im not trying to stop that but he pays no suport and never wanted to be in his life before took off and now all of a sudden gets all the rights to see his school makes dr.records etc and gets to make the shots .,I feel liek i am the bad guy like ive done something wrong like i walked out on my son or i dont pay for my son etc .. i do everything for him ! EVERYTHING!!! ,, I am so sorry this is long and confusing much liek it is ! but i need some advice ! i do everything i can for my children and i feel so sick and depressed im scared i will go to jail if i dont send him but they are not listening to my desires they are coming in after 4 years and taking over not caring of our routines ive set and the way we live .. etc .. please help again im sorry i am not slow or a bad speller i am just trying to get it out the fastest and best way i can .. thanks in advance God bless ps im in ontario canada using legal aid .. Also he has been told no contact with me at all he has been emailing me on a date site telling me how fat ive gotten and im a WH#*#* and that he had me when i was in my better days .. also used to call and play rap songs with verbal abuse that was ment for me to hear came to my home banging on my door i never answered so he wrote Fat Puta on my sign for all to see .. then sent a dvd home iwth my son after a visit and it had a naked chick on it my son seen it thought it was his .. and yet he doesnt get in trouble for anyof this and they still want me to send him ! he is abusing me and there is nothing i can do :*( im sad ive been to the police station and because he is not personally harming me there is nothing i can do but bring it to teh court .. it keeps getting remanded ..I apoligize .. It is a long question non the less it is how my life is confused and all in a mess 'I tried my best to get it out ... I do have an atternoy to is doing nothing I have not had contact with him for 2 weeks So as of monday i will be searching for a new lawyer .. sorry for it being to long and confusing more

Open Question: How do I report her and what will happen? Can my life story be considered abuse?

I love my mother...I always have. But I know that what has been does isn't right, but I'm not positive it's abuse. I remember times where she's cussed me out, yelled at me, called me a whore, a bitch, a slut, a demon...all sorts of things and sometimes in front of my friends. I remember one night she forgot I was at a friends house, stormed over to her house, tried to break in, and cussed me out calling me a bitch a hooker a slut in front of my friends...another time when I told I didn't believe in her religion, she looked me in the eyes and said that I was a demon and demons' deserve to die so I should go kill myself and be done with it, just burn in hell. There have been many other times where she has told me she hates me, that I'm disgusting, that I'm a f***ing idiot, that she doesn't want me...all kinds of things. I don't know what to do. I have no self-confidence, and I have self-harmed because of the things she's said to me sometimes. But there are times when she's so nice and kind that I don't know what to believe...it's so confusing. One second I'm determined to go, to get away...the next it's how can I leave her? I don't know what to do. I don't want to go to a foster home. I want to go live with my grandparents. Can they get legal custody of me? Does anyone know what will happen if I report her? I don't even know anymore.....the verbal wasn't all by the way...she's burned me, shoved me into the wall, and she's even forgotten me and left me home alone for an entire day with nothing to eat and my only company is my step-brother who tries to molest me so I'm holed up in my room alone...scared for my life...I don't know what that means...but it's not good. I'm 16 years old. I've been through alot, not just the crap with my mother...there's more to my story, but that's not my question nor do I have time for that now. Can anybody help me? Any advice? Please...I only have a few more months to figure this out... more

Resolved Question: What is the BEST stress medication a General Practitioner can prescribe?

I feel stressed on a daily basis. I have 3 small children and rarely get a break from my loads and loads of daily chores. Sometimes I find myself treating them harshly (no physical abuse, but verbal) and taking things out on my husband, once he gets home, and I shake with frustration and anger. I'm tired. There's no "true" break in sight. I am looking for stress medication to help me through this stressful season in my life. But, I'd rather see my GP since a Psychiatrist visit would be too expensive. Any suggestions on a brand I can mention to my GP? more

Resolved Question: Do you think my dad is a verbal/emotional abuser?

Well, first of all, I have to say that my dad's not always angry. His family has a history of being bipolar, but he really is a good person. I have to say that he has good morals and he's a good man considering I'm posting this on the internet and that it'll never really be erased. Anyway, on to the question details....My mom and dad fight...A LOT. He will begin to be upset over the smallest (and i mean smallest) of things. He will curse and scream (he has the most horribly loud voice)...and he'll say things like "You don't love me!" even though my mother does always try to show her love. I do know this, believe me, i've dealt with it all my life, and when you stand back and watch things, you seem to have a better understanding of what's going on than what the actual people in the situation do. Anyway, I am honestly going to say that I have never once seen my dad truley happy. He cannot deal with everyone being happy if he isn't, yet he's overly idealistic. My mom never yells back at him when he yells. He yells at me too. And curses. He's made me cry before over the stupidest things. When I was a child, i was chubby. He would always tell me to stop eating junkfood. This has caused me 'certain' health issues in my past... Another thing is that my dad drinks alcohol. He's fine the first night, but then it seems that the days after the hangover he's utterly depressed and verbally violent. He'll go off on ranting rages of horrible cuss words. There isn't one day I haven't heard him say a curse word. My mom and I think he is bipolar, and I think that they need counseling. But I know for a fact that my dad would NEVER go to counseling, or go to the doctor for bipolar issues, because he would never think such a thing about himself. I guess i would call it denial. He cannot handle anything my mom tells him, he'll be in a horrible mood for the rest of the week. I know this isn't severe, but it does hurt our feelings and I've been dealing with it all my life. Do you think this is some sort of abuse? I don't know...I've never been physically hurt, and I don't think my mom was hurt physically either, but he's made my mom cry before, and he's made me cry even more. I think it's my fault he's angry so much and so easily. I have trouble sleeping, i don't know if it has to do with this or not. But to sum aaaallllll of this up, would you call this abuse?My dad always talks to me about my mother (bad talk of course) and my mom sometimes talks to me about my dad. I know they need a counselor. Even though I want to help my parents, I am their child, and it is just simply not my job to be their counselor. It's too much stress on me, and it will cause me health issues. What do you think i ought to do? Please help me. Thank you (:Thank you all for answers. I appreciate it more than you can imagine. more

Voting Question: CURIOUS TO WHAT YOU GUYS THINK. DO YOU THINK VERBAL ABUSE IS JUST AS BAD AS PHYSICAL ABUSE?

Resolved Question: Why do women try and down play radical feminists?

Very often we hear women claiming their not that type of feminist. I think (The Violence Against Women Act) as a national Domestic Violence policy is completely radical, Nazi worthy and reeks of discrimination. Men make up the other half of the population, so where is our protection from verbal, emotional, mental and physical abuse? Isn't it fair to say that funding (Tax dollars) for VAWA has done a lot for women to get out of abusive situations, but what has it done for men in abusive situations? I'll tell you, it's taken abusive women and turned them into victims and abused men into abusers. This is done through women's groups who use VAWA funding to spread their agenda driven propaganda. If I was a cop, prosecutor or judge and every piece of information that made up my training supported men as abusive, logic would assume Men are abusers. Add on the Laws like VAWA, and the average man is convicted from the minute he is accused. If you review any domestic violence information from websites, radio, TV or booklets, He, husband, him is referred to as abuser. The fact that women remain silent, while their brothers, fathers and, male friends are taken away in handcuff is a crime against true feminism. Men do not receive a billion dollars a year like women's groups under VAWA. We have no means of getting the point across that we can be abused and are being abused. So what makes you a better feminist than a radical feminist? more

Resolved Question: how can i deal with this? i dont want death to be the result?

All my life, I've been treated bad. People wonder why I'm always so 'serious', they obviously don't understand the B.S I go through on a daily basis. I don't tell anyone, because I have the fear of being judged. My mom complains to everyone that I don't have any self esteem. but how do I tell her, that's because of her? Everyday she verbal abuses me, her boyfriend and friends are ahead of me and she never picks on any of my other siblings. Just yesterday (the 10th) she kicked me out of her house, and guess what? Yeah it was my birthday. I didn't get anything except 20$ from my uncle. How horrible is that? I've been staying at my sisters house off and on for about two months, and I have a feeling shes getting sick me. I am at a loss on what to do at the moment. I tried getting a job, as I've handed out over 40 resume at random places a couple weeks ago and no call back yet. I have a feeling, I won't be here to much longer if she keeps doing this to me. Its killing me inside and she knows it. Blahh more

Voting Question: Okay to fight back if parent hits you?

So I am in high school and, of course, I live with my parents still. My parents can get physical when they are angry but it is not enough that you would call difus or something. I mean, I don't know anybody who hasn't been smacked a bit by their parents. Anyway, when they do hit me, it occurs after being in a verbal altercation. My mom got the wooden spoon today and I just... had it. I defend myself when they hit me, but I never hit them back. Today i grabbed the spoon out of her hand. She came after me so I swatted it at her. Obviously that upset her so she tried dragging me by the hair into the room that she previously told me to go to. She dragged me in there but I didn't let up because she was still on me. I was so angry that I kicked her off me. (she had me pinned on the couch). she fell, but got back up again and tried to kick me out of the house. I anchored myself onto her arm sleeve and didn't let up. Eventually she stopped trying to throw me out and left the room. I know, this is a classic white trash moment. But it's like, in the privacy of our home, it's not like our neighbors see us doing this or anything. I know that doesn't add much class, but it saves me some of the embarrassment. What would you do? Did I in a way abuse my parent. I feel guilty about it but, then I don't. I just am really mixed up right now and I want someone the objectively give their input on the situation.that felt better to vent out what happened and to get some feed back. but now im locked in this room. i really need to pee... greeaattt more

Voting Question: is this verbal abuse? if so what should I do?

there is a guy that I have class with that never fails to talk down at me . he's constantly saying I'm a whore or I have no boobs or no butt. I had a picture of my aunt who died of ready cancer on my binder he asked how she passed and I told him breast cancer and he said " well that shouldnt be a problem for you" I got upset and told him to stop and he said "I'm not being mean" but every time I try to say something back to him like after he says I'm a whore he says "go cry" I'm getting really fed up with it. what should I do. and no rude comments, I'm taking this seriously. more

Resolved Question: What is the best way to deal with emotional verbal abuse in virtual world..............?

Voting Question: Please help Me! I am in need of Help please, advice?

? Please help Me! I am in need of Help please, advice? I am trying hard to deal with my wife and it is coming to a point that nothing I do or say is working. I married a women that is 20 years older than me she has four children and no help from the father. She and I have been arguing in front of the children and I am not one to argue in front of them for there own good. She is very controlling and will not take any blame for her own mistakes and about every other day tells me that I am a lair, a hypocrite, selfish, and that I am suppose to love her as christ loved the church. This verbal abuse has made me not want to be around her for my own mental health. I am afraid I will end up in jail, and the children are starting to treat me like there mother. I have been taken from my support group my family because of her disliking of them and my family disliking her. I have lost my job, my license, and about to lose my mind, I love her and the children but the weight is sometimes to much. She does not consider my feelings and she says she does not care weather I stay or go. But this morning I would not come out of the room so I locked myself in the room and when she got back after taking the kids to school she beat the door down with a crowbar. Then she came in and started pulling my hair and hitting me on the *** and I tried to get out of the room and she stepped in the way. The only way I could get out was to jump out the window. What can I do, What would you do? more

Voting Question: What are your thoughts on male victims of sexual harassment in the workplace (details)?

In Oncale v. Sundowner Offshore Services, the US Supreme Court unanimously ruled that Title VII's protection against workplace discrimination "because of... sex" applied to harassment in the workplace between members of the same sex. In late October 1991, Joseph Oncale was working for Sundowner Offshore Services on a Chevron USA Inc. oil platform in the Gulf of Mexico. He was employed as a roustabout on an eight-man crew. On several occasions, Oncale was forcibly subjected to sex-related, humiliating actions against him by his coworkers in the presence of the rest of the crew. Oncale was also sodomized with a bar of soap, and threatened with rape. Oncale's complaints to supervisory personnel produced no remedial action. Instead, the company's Safety Compliance Clerk called him a name suggesting homosexuality. Oncale eventually quit—asking that his pink slip reflect that he "voluntarily left due to sexual harassment and verbal abuse." Oncale filed a complaint against Sundowner in the United States District Court for the Eastern District of Louisiana, alleging that he was discriminated against in his employment because of his sex. Relying on earlier precedents, the district court granted summary judgment to the defendant, writing that "Mr. Oncale, a male, has no cause of action under Title VII for harassment by male co-workers." Oncale appealed, the United States Court of Appeals for the Fifth Circuit affirmed the decision, and then after granting a petition for writ of certiorari, the Supreme Court reversed the decision. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oncale_v._Sundowner_Offshore_ServicesSorry about the cut & paste. I'm still not feeling well and wasn't up to writing a summary more

Voting Question: Is my marriage worth working on? Or is it time to leave?

My wife and I have been married for 5 years, im 26 an she is 25, we dated for 4 yrs be4 marrying, we have had a decenct relashionship, but she now hangs my past over my head alot i cheated on her b4 we got married and it did not come out until after we married with me telling her... we talked about it and decied to let it go an let the past be the past but she seems to bring it up alot, and if she doesent she acts scorned from it, i know that cheating is something difficult to get past and i have gave her plenty of time(which is different for everyone) but she has told me that it is behind her/us but she acts deferently. Also she is big on verbal abuse I dont belive in any type of abuse physical, mental, verbal, etc but i have put up with it for a long time and i ve come to find out that it is somewhat of a genrational curse in her family, her mother curses her father and they fight and argue heavily,, also what adds to the situation now is that my wife is a trust fund baby that plays wit me via money, ive come to find out that she is a stingy person and wont share anything... somthing as lilttle as food? Its sad but true. but lately she likes to buy me something and let me use it a day or 2 and take it back to the store if she gets mad about something,,, she just accquired the money about 5 or six months ago an ive been laid off for 3 months now but have supported her for most of our marraige and let her buy or get anything shes wanted that we could afford, she tells me every day that i better find a job or she is gonna kick me out of HER house that shes paid for, ie wit the trust fund money,, ant that i need to turn off her tv, lights, water, etc lol yes even unplugs things so i cant use them, but my question is how do i know when enough is enough? i still love her but she makes it harder every day an she loves to play mind and money games, and you know what they say about money and how it can change a person,, so what do i do? more

Resolved Question: when will the verbal abuse stop?

I got made fun of alot when I was a little kid but now im 21 and i still find that people today make fun of me. Usually people aged 28 and under.... why do they do that??? Like I was getting on the train and one guy amongst a group of about 7 of them tried to talk to me, and I ignored him cuz i didnt feel like talking to those no good guys anyway. I mean where would the conversation had ended up? Him wanting my # right. And I dont liek giving out my #, so it was pointless. Anyways, so they started making fun of me saying all kinds of mean things. Saying i looked like an ape anyway and that i look like I have down syndrome... Im like when will people stop making fun of me im 21...i thought that was going to go away when I got out of high school. How can I have confidence after what these people say?...And its EVERYWHERE I go...people usualy spot me out and make fun of me and ONLY me even if another ugly girl walks in. Why me? How can I have confidence when majority of the world thinks im hideous??? more

Resolved Question: My Korean-American Boyfriend abuse me.....?

Hi, I am an international student from Asia.I am living the U.S. now. I am dating with Korean-American Boyfriend for two years. From one years ago, he started to verbal abuse. For ex, he kept to me "F" words, and "Bxxxx" or psycho. He knows I am not frequently English speaker like him. Sometimes he broke and some my stuff such as my cell phones. I don't know what should i do, especially i dint know about the U.S. law well. If i call the police, maybe he will make my mistake to call police. When should I call the police? The police is not work for only Verbal abuse??? Also, he always threaten me,if i go his house, he will call police or something. Does it touch the U.S. law??? more

Voting Question: what should i do, im stuck.?

what can i do, to get away from my parents, they have abused in the past. and they use verbal abuse every single day, my step dad is a jerk and calls me names that are not appropiate, and says my life will be nothing, calls me a bitch, and treats me differently than the other children that are his, is this how a family is supposed to be? parents yelling every night, my mom tells me just to deal with it, how can i make this stop, we have already tried theraphy and everything, im almoast 15, is there anything legally i can do? please help me. is this normal? more

Resolved Question: Im looking for good advise on my mum, why does she act in such a way? :(?

Hello, thanks for taking time to read my story.. I honestly dont understand why my mum has to be so on the defensive and bitchty with me. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we moved in together last year which is great, I feel free! I am 24 yeras of When I lived at home I had to clean, do washing,dishes, animal duties etc etc constantly yet my brother never does anything. I was constantly nagged for board money my brother pays nothing and since I moved out My brother still gets away with murder, he comes and goes when he pleases & If I did that when I was at home I would have been in the dog house! Any ways now Iv moved out my mum calls me to book her hair appointments, my sisters hair, dentist appointments, to cancel appointments, to phone my sisters school to let them know shes sick etc, I work for my Dad in an office 40 hours a week and my mum works part time but thinks she is the only person who works! why does she do this? Whenever I talk to her about what Im up to like holidays or doing something with my boyfriends family she is NEVER interested, only interested in herself and will just talk about herself, she will never ask me if I had a nice holiday & just compares me with my boyfriends family & she says I ma snob of living my life through his family, because we go to his grandparents villa for holidays (which is cheaper and better for us to afford) She contstantly slags my boyfriends family off (who are really nice with me), and she hates me doing anything with them. For example my mum will never usually call me, I always call her first but guarantee if Im at my boyfriends parents house for dinner or something (which is hardly ever)she will call me, and if I so happen to miss her call she will text me ALOT of verbal abuse. This realy upsets then for the rest of the day. If I say no to anything what my mum asks me to do with her or for her, I am branded the worst daughter in ther world, she will swear at me & text me making me feel awful about myself. My boyfriend is shocked by the way she is with me and wants to stand up to her but arguing with someone who ALWAYS thinks they are right is useless. I really dont know what to do I feel trapped, is this right to act like this? I spend as much time as I can with my family, I go round after work for a drink, I go see them every weekend and bake with my sisters, I go shopping with my mum, I go on camping holidays with them, I dont know what more I can do. Im just so upset over this as I feel she doesnt want me to be with my boyfriend who I love and want to spend the rest of my life with. more

Voting Question: Will Stay at home pot addict wife get alimony ? Married for 3 years and no kids.?

My wife never wants to work as we had to leave her home town where she was working for her dads business and has no other skills and a high school dropout.We lately had lot of financial problems because of her wayward ways of spending on drugs and clubs while I am working my ass off. I stopped putting money in joint account as she blows them away in cold cash with no proof of tracking expenses but instead give her weekly dollars for her cigarettes and other personal expenses rest of the bills I pay and She says in marriage everything is half and half. How can this be true if u contribute u can ask for half and half she neither does any work at home sleeping half the tiem nad smoking pot the rest of the time. She says she will divorce me if I don't start putting the entire pay check in our checking account and subjecting me to a lot of verbal and emotional abuse.She was not like this when we started. My point is I too want to end this and go for divorce what are the chances of she getting alimony and how much ? We have been married for 3 years ..Thanks for all answers. The sad part is I really want her to change she is good to her friends but really complacent in marriage. But all i get being called selfish as she says I expect things from her by doing things any other man would do for his wife (like paying bills and everything else) more

Resolved Question: Why does my mum act like this towards me?

Resolved Question: Marriage & Divorce in California?

California is a community property state. What significance does that have re the distribution of assets both during and after the marriage. Also do you know anything about verbal and emotional abuse? Thanks more

Resolved Question: My Manager physically abused me. What should I do?

I work as a waitress and on Feb 13th I was working and had a verbal disagreement with my manager. About 20 minutes later I went into the kitchen and squated on the ground to open the mini fridge door. As I was opening the door, he was walking past and it accidently hit his ankle. I didn't even realize it bumped him so my head was still in the fridge. He then kicked the door as hard as he could into my face and head. It was done intentionally and with full force. I couldn't have bumped his ankle hard because as you know, if you open a door like that and it hits something hard it would bouce back towards you. That did not happen here. He kicked it into my head so hard that it hit me, bounced back off him, and then bumped me a second time. It also hit me so hard that it made me lose my balance (b/c I was squated down) and fall on the ground. Realize that I am a 23 yr old girl who is barely five feet tall and 110lbs and he is 6'2 and over 200. I immediately stood up and said "You just hit me in the face!" He took four steps forward and began to scream and cuss me out by saying "You are a Fing B, You have a Fing attiture, Get the F out, you are a piece of S!" I again said, "You just hit me!" and he looked at me and said "Good!" I left the resturant immediately after and went to my parents house. At this point my head was already beginning to develop and knot and bruising where he hit me. My mother called the owner shortly after and he said he would take care of it and how sorry he was and blah blah but about three hours later he called me and said that the manager said nothing happened. Unfortunately there was no one else back there when this happened except for people who are not citizens and who also get the owner to send their families back home money and also they live in dorms behind the resturant. If any of them said anything, they would be fired and sent back to their home country. I haven't filed a police report or talked to a lawyer yet because I don't know if the case would go anywhere since there are no witnesses that would actually come forward. What should I do? Also, I filed for unemployment and explained to them exactly what happened and they sent me a notice in the mail saying that there was an issue with my reason for seperation and that it would be four weeks before I know if I am qualified. I think that with my circumstances, I have a very good reason for my voluntary quit. But I would like to know if anyone can give me any input to both of these questions. more

Resolved Question: why our human inborn nature reverts into animalistic nature and what is the real reasons?

This question inspired me to ask .. http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AloNrIsSJ5FEKKsx_kIlyZaRHQx.;_ylv=3?qid=20100301134923AAWdIxO&show=7#profile-info-sorb72tMaa no brotherly love, no real friendly, false identifications for self satisfaction and temporary happiness, no mutual understanding, ego, jealous, competitions, violence, sex, acting, disobedience, threatening, ''let me see you or me'' types, scolding, direct and indirect attacks, verbal abuses, etc.,Though some of them are human nature but the percentage of animal nature increases day by day, and unfortunately things have become worse. The helping nature, understanding, share, gone down and believing rumours, hearsays on increase. Hasty decisions, hasty actions without knowing the truth too increses. our ancestors were more wise and behaved a real human but now we have seen beasts in human forms. If we are strong, clever, and have a clear understanding, we can survive. Because of these inhuman and beasts like actions we are making others to worry, and we too lost happy. It is an inherent nature for human to revert back to our animal instincts, however proper nurturing education, we are afforded the opportunity to achieve better lives but why we are animals in some angles.? Finally, civilization is only a thin veener over our animalistic selves. it is proven over and over to us in the daily news stories for which acting as a hindu saint Nithyananda swamiji is a good example. please come and say your good views on reasons, how to get out of etc., thanks for reading !!! more

Resolved Question: Is it wrong for me to spy on my lying man?

When I got together with this guy 9 years ago I never thought it would come to this. He keeps lying and looking at porn. Most guys in the past like porn but verbal abuse and bbad sex follow with this guy. I have left him 3 times for at least a year and he has promised it would stop and it always comes back up. I'm sick of the verbal abuse that comes with it...at least the sexual abuse has stopped. He has even gotten to the point while on a porn binge that he had the neighbor girl come over and get drunk till 2 in the morning when I was out of town. There were. Also some hook up for sex sites in his email. I can't trust him. He has also learned how to get rid of all the traces of porn. I want to instal a keylogger program to catch what sites he goes to. I have told him I am leaving if he does it again but he will lie and decieve to prevent me from finding out. Is this wrong of me to spy on him?First of all, everyone calling me stupid is just as bad as him. Your probably quick to call your own patner stupid when things don't go your way. He has said he would stop and I want to believe he has finally grown up. The whole reason I want to install this is because I want to leave if it happends jus once more. After about a year of this bull with him(the abuse was really bad) I started to drink a lot. He was very supportive in my recovery and won't even bring alcohol into the house even if I tell him it won't bother me if he drinks(he doesn't have an issue with that) after 5 years of drinking and now 6 months of sobriety I feel like I woke up from a very bad dream. There is no way I can stay sober if he goes back to his old ways so I am out. I was simply phrased my question as I did because I didn't want to hear "all guys look at porn" because I hear it enough from him. This man has a serious problem with it and I wasn't perfect either. more

Resolved Question: Emancipation for a Teenager: How, Who, When, Where, and What?

I'm a teenager seeking to emancipate himself. I have just turned 17 a week ago, and it seems time to reconsider emancipation. I've always had a problem with my dad; we've never gotten along, we can't talk to each other most of the time, and he never hesitates to verbally and emotionally abuse me. Yesterday, he picked me up by my shirt and threw me against the wall a couple of times and then proceeded to hit me in the stomach before throwing me on the floor. This is the first time he's ever been this violent, though he threatens often - he always has. It has become commonplace here. Last night, I researched a lot about emancipation but there are still answers I need. I know emancipation is meant to be a last-option deal, but I can't take living here anymore. I am absolutely miserable at all times and I would be much happier with my mother. The things they seem to take into consider most are: The Ability to Support Ones-Self: If I moved out, I would move in with my step-mother, most likely. She can support me, though I think I would receive part of, if not all, of my deceased mother's SSI and I plan to become employed soon. My step-mother that I want to live with treats me very well, feeds me, and makes sure I am taken care of, though I do plan to help her as best as I can. Education: My grades have been floating between A's and high B's. I am currently enrolled at a high school/college and I'm doing very well there. I am well on my way to attaining an education. Reason/Need to Emancipate: The only reason I need to emancipate because of is the abuse I suffer from my dad. Until yesterday, it has only been emotional and verbal abuse; I don't know how valid that kind of abuse is in the judicial system. I just don't want my request for emancipation to come across as childish or petty. Most of the stories I've read from other teenagers just sounds like they're upset because their parents won't let them go shopping, date someone, or smoke weed. My issue is a lot more important than what seems the norm of a teenager's complaint. Mental Capacity: To be clear, I have every bit of my sanity, and I don't think I have any mental disorders. I don't consider killing or cutting myself, ever, nor do I have anger problems. The only problems I have are with my dad, and that's what I'm trying to fix. Anyone I know can vouch for my character, rationale, responsibility, and good grounding. So, all I'm asking is: How - How do I go about getting emancipated and how would that process go? Who - Who decides where I leave, ultimately? (My dad will not be happy about this emancipation, I probably won't have his support.) When - When will it take effect, and how long will it take to be considered? Where - Where can I live until the emancipation is passed? Can I live with my step-mother, legally, until then? What - What kind of SSI will I receive, if any, from my mother's death? and also, what are the chances of my situation being honestly considered and passed? I live in North Carolina, I am 17 years old, currently enrolled in school and doing well, currently unemployed. Thank you to anyone who read all of that; this is a huge deal to me and I need a lot of help.Thanks, Luvina. If I were to move out, I would move in with my step-mother or another friend; The second option I've barely considered. My step-mother, however, is not legally or relatively bound to me. She is not related to me or anyone of my blood family. She has simply been the foundation of my life since my birth mother passed away. I deem my step-mother more fit to take care of me than anyone else. About this "switch of custody", would that mean my step-mother could take care of me instead, rather than declaring myself emancipated? more

Resolved Question: what happens if you call a teacher a retard?

is that considered verbal abusewhat would you get a detention, or iss, or oss, how many days? i am not going to do it but i was just wondering more