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Sunday district court news - Midland Daily News

EDITOR'S NOTE -- OWI means operating while intoxicated. DWLS means driving while license suspended. (H) is for Judge John H. Hart. (C) is for Judge Stephen P. Carras. (M) is for magistrate Stephen Houseal. Sentences may vary based on previous ...

'What's next' fuels his arts drive - CharlotteObserver.com

"There's a moment of realizing that without your effort, without your passion and enthusiasm, and without your ability to move things forward, the organization can't be successful," Provancher says. Personal: Age 33; raised in Albany, N.Y.; bachelor ...

Community Online Calendar - Danville Weekly

An exhibit of Porcelain Art by Eugenia W. Zobel, will be held from 1-6 p.m., until Jan. 28, at Wente Vineyards Estate Winery Gallery, 5565 Tesla Rd., Livermore. The gallery is open during business hours. Visit www.wentevineyards.com. Lynn Shephard ...

Whining, dining and the entitlement culture - CharlotteObserver.com

Corporate America relishes catchy labels. It doesn't matter much whether those labels are entirely accurate. What's more important is that average products become "game changers," "environmentally friendly," "new and improved," and that average ...

Bagolie Friedman Injury Lawyers - Hudson Reporter

Ricky Edward Bagolie represents clients on a wide range of personal injury litigation matters in the areas of nursing home neglect, workers' compensation, workplace and railroad injury (FELA), toxic exposures and wrongful death litigation as well as ...

Officers face ‘balancing act’ when sex offenders are on probation - Bristol Press

NEW BRITAIN — Kerry Staples was released from prison in late 2007 after serving nearly 30 years for two separate first-degree sexual assault convictions dating back to 1976. He was required to register for life with the state’s Sex Offender ...

Man accused of beheading wife claims abuse - Buffalo News

The cable TV executive accused of beheading his wife in Orchard Park last year now claims he was the one humiliated and abused. Through his new lawyer, Muzzammil S. "Mo" Hassan claimed Friday that he was a "battered spouse" who was left emotionally ...

Man accused of beheading says he was battered - MSNBC

BUFFALO, N.Y. - The founder of an Islam-oriented television station who is accused of beheading his wife was abused by her for years, according to his lawyer, who said Friday he will pursue a defense combining that justification as well as ...

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... recognized organization whose mission is to establish, promote and communicate the highest standards of quality, integrity, and professionalism in the administration of workplace substance abuse prevention programs . At a minimum companies must ...

Man accused of beheading wife claims he was battered by her - News-Democrat

... at Bridges TV, was skeptical of the abuse claim, noting the stocky Hassan stood over 6 feet tall and "filled a doorway," while Aasiya was slender and several inches shorter. "I never ever heard her disparage him in the workplace at all," Sanders ...

Resolved Question: Do Christians hate gay kid?

As a gay person growing up in a rural state it was very hard. I was bullied beyond mercy from 7th grade through high school. I still have psychological scars to this day. I find it apalling that Christian groups think it's wrong for schools to stop bullying and abuse against gay kids. If this is what religion is all about why do we need it? I thought religion was supposed to be against evil, not a supporter of it? I think that gay kids who are bullied should just start sueing the school system. It's no different than if you were being harassed in the workplace as an adult. Being gay was not my choice but being a Christian is a choice. I'm not saying all christians are like this but many are. Does Christian=loving torturing others?Matthew: How's a trait a sin? more

Voting Question: Damsel in distress in the workplace and other woe is me situations. What’s yours?

Always in distress. Always have to be watched out. Always have to be rescued. Always has something troubling her. Always sick. Always have to work half days or take longer sick leave because she ‘has a condition’ or trouble. Who else is sick of this? And who else is sick of parents who have to leave early and give their work to someone (read: single employee) because their kids have to be picked up, etc etc. Why do people with kids assume that single people don’t have a life outside work? Who else is sick of salaried employees who get paid even if they don’t come to work or leave/come late and abuses this privilege? And people wonder why they are losing jobs and being replaced by immigrants. more

Open Question: Im kind of in a sticky situation and not sure how to deal with it. I work for a resort that has two different?

places. theyre both about two hrs away, anyways, i worked for the first place first for about 9 yrs, there was someone there that was really mean to me at work so i left to go to the other place. this was in food service. i worked at the other place for 3 yrs also in food service, i also ran into someone there that was really mean to me , so i decided to go for another job. the first place hired me again in housekeeping this time, i asked them to so i wouldnt have contact with that mean person. i filled out other applications with other places but my old place was the only one that hired me, so i thought i was doing the right thing and figured i wouldnt have contact with him so i took it cause i needed a job. the other job was almost out the door anyways cause the mean person would kick me out of work, get me written up, suspended, etc., so i knew that job was going bye bye so i decided to go for the other one back, i went to work in housekeeping but then my managers decided i couldnt do the lifting and sent me over to food service, that was the only other opening, my manager i worked with before knew i didnt want to work with that mean guy so she sent me over elsewhere at the grill there but i might still have to work in the dining rm but she promised me shed schedule me on the days he was off, so id be 3 days at the grill and two in the dining rm. right now its slow so i cant stay there 5 days. wish i could. this is not what i planned, i wanted to stay away from abusive people in the workplace. any reason why they cant be the ones leaving instead of me? im always the one packing and all, why cant they be the ones packing? right now im not sure what to do, ive only been here a wk, i cant see my friends from the other place cause theyre kind of far but at the same time im seeing friends here i havent seen in 3 yrs so it does have advantages since ive missed being around them. so far no problems at work and people seem to like me so no problems there, just wondered if i should stay or what to do, i do need a job. i probably wouldve lost the other one if i had stayed. any suggestions on how to put up boundaries so im not dealing with abuse in the workplace? there are no openings in other depts right now so im stuck there. and i couldnt find another job when i tried. more

Resolved Question: A Pro-feminist MRA? I never knew.?

I learned something today. I had honestly never heard of this group, but sounds exactly like the non-wackjob (represented here, very loudly) MRAs I knew several years ago. Thanks to Ashleigh for posting about it! "Welcome to our online home! NOMAS is celebrating its 35th year with our National Conference on Men & Masculinity (M&M), and the 22nd Annual Men's Studies Association Meeting in conjunction with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) 14th National Conference on Domestic Violence: Changing Faces of the Movement, in Anaheim, CA, August 1-4, 2010." I actually was working with the NCADV at the time! See, now this? If we could just get more men here representing men's rights this way, people like me who genuinely ARE pro-equality wouldn't be having to fight not to equate MRA with "lunatic woman-hating wannabe rapists." QUESTION: So, what do our MRA guys here think about this? All of it, of course, but things like the following, especially? Is there room in your ideology for ideas like this? Are you ready to defuse the battle of the sexes? And do you have any other positive activist sites like this? (Clue: Any of the ones that want to decriminalize rape are out.) 12 Steps Men Can Take to End Sexism 1. Don't interrupt women when they speak, control their space, or assume they need your protection. Focus on the effect of your actions, rather than on the intent. 2. Support women's leadership and help elect progressive women to political office. 3. Support women's equality in education, sports, and in the workplace. 4. Don't condone, laugh at, or tell sexist (racist or homophobic) jokes or stories. 5. Don't make fun of or invalidate anyone's emotional reactions. 6. Listen, believe, and be accountable to women and their stories. When confronted on your own sexism (racism, homophobia, etc.) listen instead of getting defensive. 7. Tell the women and men in your life that you love them, out loud. 8. Be the kind of father you always wanted to have. 9. Be the kind of partner you would want your children's partner to be. 10. Share responsibility for birth control and reproductive health and safety. 11. Speak up when you see violence or abuse directed at women or children, in real life, or in the media. Donate to a local rape crisis, sexual assault, and domestic violence program. 12. Oppose pornography and the sex industry.http://www.nomas.org/I should add, this is not my own precise take on feminism, and I'm very aware of the individual men who support equal rights! (I have one sleeping behind me *g* ) I don't expect anyone to agree with me about everything, but common cause on the important things is awesome. But I had never seen such a large organization that was an active pro-men's rights organization AND anti-feminist.and NOT anti-feminist. *facepalm*Okay, the link Dr M posted is one I've looked at before. It says this about MRAs: "Inasmuch as these movements promote equal rights for men and women, we stand together with them. However, we stand opposed to extremism in these movements (just as we oppose extremism in feminism) which detracts from that goal." But the people I've seen post that link are very definitely not equalists. Maybe I was catching the wrong posts, but I've seen that link used by some definitely hate-spewing MRAs here. I don't mean people who say things I don't like. I mean the YOU STUPID WOMYNS types. Are that type hijacking that group's name, or are they representative of what the group is in action, rather than what's on paper? more

Resolved Question: If religion is the source of morality then why are priests bullied by bishops and parishioners?

Every other day someone asks how atheists can be moral without a belief in god. Well I have a question for them: Is the news story below an example of the sort of morality "god" imparts to its followers? "Workplace bullying of the clergy has become "rife", according to the union Unite which says priests are being picked on by bishops and parishioners. The union has set up a hotline where the clergy can report abuse, and says it deals with up to 150 cases a year. "Bishops have got a lot nastier", says the Reverend Gerry Barlow, chair of the faith workers branch of Unite. " http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/business/8439005.stm@Joshua M - I think I've pretty much done that to death on other questions :D@Captain Obvious Is Obvious - Can you prove Pastafarianism is wrong? Or any other religion? You certainly can't prove any of them are correct ;) more

Resolved Question: Is everybody abusive?

I'm 24 and I've just moved out away from my mentally abusive dad. Since moving out, I've been thinking a lot about the subject of abuse, and I've come to the conclusion that basically everyone is abusive. Am I wrong? Sure, every now and then I think, "Okay, of course I'm gonna feel like this, because I've been abused by my dad my whole life." But everywhere I look I see people abusing one another. For example, go into anyone's workplace, and you probably will, at some point, see someone ("the boss") screaming at someone else. Or turn on the TV at any given time and see the same thing. As another example, when walking down the street, don't show any weakness (e.g., walking with your head down), or you may be attacked. I just feel like humans are all evil. It seems to me that most people see the world as one big hierarchy, and suck up to those "above", and abuse those "below". And to be honest it makes me sick. I really despise the world. Does anyone agree with me? more

Resolved Question: Who do I report workplace abuse to?

I work for a rather large retail corporation as a customer service associate...When I went into work today they told me I had to wear a rubber band around my wrist and told me that every time I don't greet a customer and the leader on duty saw, they would snap the rubber band... Hmmmmm...wouldn't you consider this abuse in the workplace? Not sure if it is only the store I am working at that is using this method, or if it is at all stores. What do you think? more

Voting Question: Is petition and protest portected under freedom pf speech from stalking laws in fl?

Can protest and handing out fliers that publicise crimes or spread awarenesss of individuals responsible for crimes be protected under freedom of speech and not included in stalking definitions? Can you hand out fliers defaming or suggesting defamation of character including names, addresses, birthdates, dates of crimes, and nature of crimes around the home residence of the accused, workplace, spouses workplace, immediate family's home, locales of leisure and local community including public school zones within the accused private residence? Is this legally permissible to publicize information about uncharged criminals adn their past crimes aginst individuals within their living area? This is not direct nor indirect contact with the accused, but pubicization of their character and the crimes theyhave commited in the past, ( rape, conartistry,sexual abuse,pedophilia,child molestation). Is this not freedom of petition to make others aware of unprocessed criminal minds living within their community who may pose a threat to local families children? Can publicized material be considered stalking, when in no way does the author of the material have contact with the accused? more

Voting Question: Why is it in our society that the victim of bullying is required to change instead of the bully?

Take any crime you may well imagine - rape; murder; assault; robbery; etc. - and you will find that our society as a whole is intolerant of it, as indicted by the fact that we have a justice system set up to punish those that transgress. In all of these crimes some form of harm is being done to the victim. Yet when it comes to bullying a strange thing is seen, instead of a perpetrator (the bully) being subjected to a system of where by they are required to 'pay back' their debt, we see that it is in fact the victim of the bullying that is required to change. Society in effect turns its back on the victim in favour of protecting the perpetrators right to free speech and act, even if that right is used to cause harm to another. Now the detrimental effects of bullying are well known from anecdotal sources and psychological studies of both children in school and adults in the workplace. Bullying is linked to stress, low self esteem, physical and medical complications, injuries and illness caused by physical abuse and has even been linked as a major contributing factor to teenage suicide. Please see http://www.bullyoffline.org/workbully/index.htm and http://www.beyondblue.org.au/index.aspx?link_id=69.376&print=true (fact sheet 17) for more info, but this is by no means the only sources out there. So bearing in mind that our society is intolerant of actions that cause harm to other individuals, as evidenced by the fact that there is a justice system in place (its record of getting it right is not at issue here), why is it that our society in general expects a victim of bullying to change thier actions and does nothing to alter the behaviour of the bully? more

Resolved Question: What is going on with women being harassed into hiding in majority Muslim countries?

CAIRO – The sexual harassment of women in the streets, schools and work places of the Arab world is driving them to cover up and confine themselves to their homes, said activists at the first-ever regional conference addressing the once taboo topic. Activists from 17 countries across the region met in Cairo for a two-day conference ending Monday and concluded that harassment was unchecked across the region because laws don't punish it, women don't report it and the authorities ignore it. The harassment, including groping and verbal abuse, is a daily experience women in the region face and makes them wary of going into public spaces, whether it's the streets or jobs, the participants said. It happens regardless of what women are wearing. With more and more women in schools, the workplace and politics, roles have changed but often traditional attitudes have not. Experts said in some places, like Egypt, harassment appears sometimes to be out of vengeance, from men blaming women for denied work opportunities. Amal Madbouli, who wears the conservative face veil or niqab, told The Associated Press that despite her dress, she is harassed and described how a man came after her in the streets of her neighborhood. "He hissed at me and kept asking me if I wanted to go with him to a quieter area, and to give him my phone number," said Madbouli, a mother of two. "This is a national security issue. I am a mother, and I want to be reassured when my daughters go out on the streets." Statistics on harassment in the region have until recently been nonexistent, but a series of studies presented at the conference hinted at the widespread nature of the problem. As many as 90 percent of Yemeni women say they have been harassed, while in Egypt, out of a sample of 1,000, 83 percent reported being verbally or physically abused. A study in Lebanon reported that more than 30 percent of women said they had been harassed there. http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20091215/ap_on_re_mi_ea/ml_arabs_sexual_harassment;_ylt=AhVhWa4.mwIRaEXsOKk05LZTXbN_;_ylu=X3oDMTNma3F1ZHQwBGFzc2V0A2FwLzIwMDkxMjE1L21sX2FyYWJzX3NleHVhbF9oYXJhc3NtZW50BGNjb2RlA21vc3Rwb3B1bGFyBGNwb3MDNQRwb3MDNQRzZWMDeW5fdG9wX3N0b3JpZXMEc2xrA2hhcmFzc21lbnRhYw-- more

Resolved Question: Is there now some kind of punishment for being disrespectful, unprofessional and rude at the workplace?

Isn't it true that, if the boss wants to yell at you, he should be allowed to? Is he supposed to be punished for this? Nowadays, I see employee manuals with the buzzwords "respect", "dignity" and "professional". Are these words the flavor of the month at the workplace? Are the lawyers licking their chops as they excitedly invent new categories of lawsuits? Anyway, to condense this question down to the core: it it true that, nowadays, if a boss yells at or otherwise verbally abuses his subordinates, he can nowadays be officially punished in some way? In what way can he be punished? more

Resolved Question: How would any type of social justice be possible without victim mentalities?

Various idea logical groups accuse each other of having or supporting a victim mentality but should anyone be ashamed to own one? Gays are discriminated against.- true Whites are discriminated against via a.a.- true Blacks, Hispanics, and Asians are discriminated against.- true Women experience discrimination in the workplace.- true Women get raped- true Animals get tested on and abused.- true Fathers are discriminated against- true Convicts get raped in prisons- true Dr. Martin Luther King was accused of being a communist with a victim mentality. If people are truly victims then why should we expect them not to address their social ills by claiming a form of victim hood and trying to do something about it? What's inherently wrong about a victim mentality? Sort of a devil's advocate type question. But really is this a meaningless term we're using in order to try and shame anybody we wish to quiet? more

Resolved Question: Are Japanese people's life boring?

I heard from a friend who lived Japan for a long time that Japan is not a good place as seen. He said that, Japanese peoples are very selfish and egotistic. They seems to be very kind but they are not kind at all. For example,If some one fall on the road and he can't stand.If a Japanese guy see it he will go away quickly as he didn't see it. Japanese guy will only help some one when he has a reason or with his egostic thinking. Things like, Mum is working in a factory of his son's is usual. Sexual Harassment and bossy abuse in the workplace is a normal thing in Japan. All these things are covered with there money. And he said you will not understand this unless you stayed Japan for a while. I want to know is this true? more

Resolved Question: Do girls even think about that life is easier for them?

That life is easier, or less demanding for them? Less pressure etc. Example, to work out and get in shape. A chick can do some yoga and jog a few times a week, and eat healthy (which generally saves money). A guy has to lift a billion pounds in his lifetime (no, bodybuilding would be a trillion pounds). And often eat a high protein diet that is expensive ass hell. A guy has to meet certain standards to be a "man", he can't back down from certain things so his whole life is a big physical challenge whether he wants it or not. Even girls demand this from him. If not he has to deal with rejection, least of his problems in this case, verbal abuse and/or physical abuse or bullying from his peers. Not nearly as bad for women, in MOST CASES it only gets as bad as verbal abuse. Not even rejection (the nerdiest nerd chick might face 90% rejection and loneliness as opposed to 100% that the nerdiest nerd guy has to) Okay that was mostly high school stuff. Then in the adult life, every thing a woman does is appreciated and complimented (usually) every single day. If her hair looks nice, someone will comment on that, if she does a good job or looks good in some new clothes someone will comment on that. There are no longer jobs that only men are allowed to do, because they shut that down, but there ARE jobs that only men are asked to do in the same workplace and women never comment on or seem to notice. For example working in a hardware store or even McDonalds, they are rarely asked to break their backs carrying heavy stuff, or sometimes even the trash. Even if they can lift less than men, they aren't asked to lift to 90% capacity and it's not common to see chicks working until they sweat, but no feminists seem to be complaining about that? So with all the compliments and the less physical stress it should be easier for women to stay happy and healthy, and make it far in life. So shouldn't they be paying for lunch? There's even less pressure for them to make it far or get validated because having low income and not being outgoing enough does not guarantee that they will be lonely for the rest of their lives, like it does with guys. I'm pretty sure no chick is walking around thinking, "oh shit, if I always have to drive around in this crappy car I'll never get laid and be lonely forever." , because they know guys don't care anyway.I'm pretty sure no chick has to walk around thinking "oh shit if I don't hit on at least 500 guys a year the odds are high that I'm gonna be lonely for the rest of my life" Which should ideally be 5000, And then think about how you might be able to afford paying for 500 people's lunch, if you're so lucky that 10% of them will go on a date and not give you an attitude.. Maybe 20% if you have a BMW that you saved up for all the previous years instead of paying for lunch, and not getting laid. more

Resolved Question: Considering a job offer, should I go for it or stay?

I've been at my current job for less than a year. For the last couple of months there has been a total inquisition in my department, someone got fired and we've been on high micromanagement ever since. The situation is unbearable at times because I'm performing the best anyone has performed in that position in years and now I'm being accused of not doing my job when I have produced top-of-the-line results over and over again. I feel that the owner of the company feels somewhat threatened by my performance and has even told me that I'm "creating" my own company under his. I've had constant verbal clashes with him to the point that he said that I needed to do what he said "just because he said so, regardless of how I felt about it." This is the first time that being an overachiever has become an issue at my work and has really affected my emotional well being with stress, anxiety and uncertainty. Apparently the owner goes through stages like this, but they eventually die out and it's back to business as usual. The problem is that I just received a job offer from the state of California at the EDD office doing my same exact position at the same exact pay. The problem is that given the fact that the state is pretty much bankrupted, there is only enough budget for it until June and then it will have to be "reviewed" again. It also does not provide me with medical benefits and I have a one year old son that I will probably have to put under private insurance. So now I'm stuck between an abuse workplace and the uncertainty of a new job. I need someone's feedback looking at it from the outside in. Please, let me know what you think. I'm desperate! more

Resolved Question: Can someone give me so honest input on this situation. Job issues?

work at a non profit agency in San Diego California. I work at a residential treatment facility that serves the population of men and women recovering from drugs and alcohol abuse. I am a certified drug and alcohol counselor. Before I got certified, my boss told me and two other co workers of mine that we needed to get certified as counselors. We all went up to Los Angeles California to take the test. My two co workers passed the test and I did not. I missed by two questions. Therefore, instead of dwelling on my failed test, I immediately got into the solution. I registered with Breining Institute and studied for their exam, but before I did this, I asked my boss if this exam would be acceptable. She said, Absolutely!. I studied for the exam, took the exam, and passed the exam. I was so pleased with myself. I took my certification to my boss and she gladly accepted it. Lately, my boss and I have been having problems. Every since I bought my home she has been acting very funny. She did admit to me that I have something that she has always wanted...The house. I am also in a happy and healthy relationship with my significant other and she has no one. She makes rude comments about our age difference( he's 59 and I'm 43) and I just brush them off. I have become quite uncomfortable in my workplace. Recently, my boss came to me and told me that my Certification is not good enough and now I have to take the other exam that my co workers took. Both of the Certifying agencies are Nationally accredited by the same organization. I asked her why do I have to take another exam when I am already certified. She said that she has no respect for any test that is given on the computer. I explained to her that there are many organizations that test out from the computer. I asked her if she wanted to know about this agency that I got certified with. She said no, I have no interest in learning of the other agency and that she personally likes the other agency better. She told me to make arrangements to take the exam in March of 2010 when it comes to Sacramento California and that I will have to pay for it all out of my own pocket. I truly believe that this is a personal attack and I do not want to take this exam. I am already certified by a accredited institution. If I don't take this exam, and she fires me, do you think I can do? This is unfair. Please give me your honest input. I am thinking of hiring a lawyer/attorney before March to see what my options are. Thank you so much in advance for your answers!!I forgot to mention that I am in college full time working on my bachelor's degree in human services She told me that she thinks that I am moving too fast and that I should slow down. She was very happy with me when I did not have a life. Now........... more

Resolved Question: Please look! I need some honest input and advice.?

I work at a non profit agency in San Diego California. I work at a residential treatment facility that serves the population of men and women recovering from drugs and alcohol abuse. I am a certified drug and alcohol counselor. Before I got certified, my boss told me and two other co workers of mine that we needed to get certified as counselors. We all went up to Los Angeles California to take the test. My two co workers passed the test and I did not. I missed by two questions. Therefore, instead of dwelling on my failed test, I immediately got into the solution. I registered with Breining Institute and studied for their exam, but before I did this, I asked my boss if this exam would be acceptable. She said, Absolutely!. I studied for the exam, took the exam, and passed the exam. I was so pleased with myself. I took my certification to my boss and she gladly accepted it. Lately, my boss and I have been having problems. Every since I bought my home she has been acting very funny. She did admit to me that I have something that she has always wanted...The house. I am also in a happy and healthy relationship with my significant other and she has no one. She makes rude comments about our age difference( he's 59 and I'm 43) and I just brush them off. I have become quite uncomfortable in my workplace. Recently, my boss came to me and told me that my Certification is not good enough and now I have to take the other exam that my co workers took. Both of the Certifying agencies are Nationally accredited by the same organization. I asked her why do I have to take another exam when I am already certified. She said that she has no respect for any test that is given on the computer. I explained to her that there are many organizations that test out from the computer. I asked her if she wanted to know about this agency that I got certified with. She said no, I have no interest in learning of the other agency and that she personally likes the other agency better. She told me to make arrangements to take the exam in March of 2010 when it comes to Sacramento California and that I will have to pay for it all out of my own pocket. I truly believe that this is a personal attack and I do not want to take this exam. I am already certified by a accredited institution. If I don't take this exam, and she fires me, do you think I can do? This is unfair. Please give me your honest input. I am thinking of hiring a lawyer/attorney before March to see what my options are. Thank you so much in advance for your answers!! more

Resolved Question: Where to report abuse/negligence at the workplace?

My sister in law works at a coffee shack in Washington State. She is currently 12 weeks pregnant and is very, very sick. She works 8-9 hour days and gets no breaks. At all. She isn't allowed to sit. Yesterday she threw up IN the car on the way to work, and continued to throw up while working. Still no break, and they didn't send her home. I just need any help reporting this negligence in a civilized manner. I would prefer to write nasty letters and get in the owner's faces, but that won't solve anything. She won't easily find another job while pregnant and in this economy, so I don't want to get her fired. All I want is for the company to reasonably provide for her. She could quit, but that also doesn't solve this company from hurting people. It is sad, unethical, and just wrong. more

Voting Question: Serious! Long read. Please?!!! Advice?.... Girl I have been crushing on just started a relationship?!!?

So for 3 years, I have been crushing. A coworker. Everything about her, I like. I have never made my feelings known until recently. She is the whole package. "The one," dare I say. Who I was? I was shy. Fat. Unattractive. For her, I started going to the gym. Overcoming my shyness. Now i am muscular, and have more personality. I take care of myself, and women look at me. I don't look at them. Not remotely interested. Just found out she's dating someone. I don't get it. I consider myself a good man. I have never used or abused a woman, and raised to be a gentleman. Every woman I have loved was prioritized as number 1. I missed my opportunity. She is kind to lets me know many times that she is not interested; she tells me that she is always busy. ... ... ... I found out today through workplace gossip that she is dating someone. Fu(k me. Fu<k. me. Just excused myself from work.. Wasted. Haven't got anyone to talk to. Prone to depression. Here I am, bearing my soul to strangers. 3 years. I made myself more desirable for her. What am I going to do? No bashing on her please. Drunk and need sound advice. Please. LOST Davd more

Resolved Question: How do you know if your ready to move out.?

Im really fed up with my parents and I want to move out really bad but at the same time I wonder if im wrong by wanting to move out. Im 19 years old and im a good kid. I go to college and i work at the same time. I give my mom half my paycheck every time I get it and just today i dropped my sisters ipod on carpet from my bed and it didnt break or anything and she said i had to give her half my paycheck and to help her pay for half of her expensive itouch. I try to help pay for the home expenses too and i understand i need to if i live there but i think she abuses that. She will also take my money away because I supposably give her mean looks. She also yells at me everyday over the dumbest things because she is so controlling. I have to call her every where I go when she knows where im going. I have to call her when i get there and when I leave, Im a good kid I dnt go out the only places i go to are work school or out to dinner and movies with my bf. If im at work and i dnt txt her during my shift she will call my workplace and start yelling at me on the phone. I help them so much. They dont know much english so im the one that calls everywhere, writes letters to companies, interprets everywhere and so on. I dnt mind doing all that but I really wish they would understand me. If I ever try talking to her she will say im wrong and go in denial and say shes right and im wrong o matter how wrong she really is. I really want to move out but at the same time im scared. Im scared of what she will do. I know im old enough to move out but she will never understand that because she is so controlling, more

Resolved Question: is this a form of illegal extortion? Will I lose my job for reporting this?

when I had a $5 discrepancy on a customer’s check, Bob, the manager on duty, made me pay it out of my own pocket. I did not think that this was standard procedure, but feeling intimidated, and in order to avoid any conflict, I felt I had no choice and paid the $5.( I later found out this was a standard policy.) Shortly after that, Bob approached me about the color of my socks. When he discovered that I was wearing white instead of black, he said that he was going to write me up. However, he said that in order to avoid being written up, I could pay him $2. Again, feeling intimidated, confused and helpless, I paid him the money. Upon receipt of the money, Bob returned it to me, saying that I had already given him $5 that night and he thought that the $2 “would come back to bite” him if he kept the money. In addition to these two incidents, Bob went on to tell me that if he catches anyone using their cell phone at work, he would charge them $5. Now I understand and agree with a ban of cell phones at the workplace, and have never used one while on the job. However, this is another example of Bob's pattern of extortion and abuse of his subordinates. more

Resolved Question: Email and chat room abuse in the workplace?

I just need to know the defintion of this. Potential problems of it in the work place. and how they can be minimised or preventedd?,.can anyone help me out? more

Resolved Question: Is "workplace senority" justified, abused, or a little of both these days?

I work in a retail establishment in a department with 3 other people. Two of them have as much time as I do with the company (all of us 3 years), but I haven't always been in my department. One woman seems to think that because she has always been in the department and has been with the company 1 month longer than the other woman (who has also been in the department since the beginning, then she can have first dibs on everything. This includes (not all of them) picking her lunch first, what part of the department she wants to work in (we have 3 sections), and picking the two days she wants off first (schedules are set, but are reviewed yearly). Can I get some opinions and possibly some examples of experiences and your thoughts on this? I am going to pick the answer personally so its an easy 10 points. Thanks :) more

Voting Question: abuse in the workplace?

first- where can i find an article about this ? second- what are the different types of abuse that can happen in the workplace? thank you, best answer will receive the points ! more

Resolved Question: Abusing the family friendly policies?

I am a parent of 2 grown up kids who I brought up to be respectful in restaurants, behave properly etc etc. Now I find myself in a workplace where our bleeding heart Manager prides herself on our “family friendly workplace”. This means I cover for 2 co-workers (and I use the term ‘workers’ with sarcasm) who come and go as they please. Can manage to work extra long days to accumulate time to have the WHOLE of every school holidays off but interestingly can’t work past 2.30pm when a big project or job needs to be done. They don’t put all their out of office time on their timesheet and are never picked up for it and have a “she’ll be in here when she can workplace arrangement”. It might seem like sour grapes because I had to organise and pay for childcare for my kids (I have no family in this country) but I can assure you it's not - I just don't appreciate being used. They are also allowed to bring their kids into work when there is a school free day - they cause major disruption to work and run around the office - or worse when they are sick with coughs or the flu (this is a real OH&S issue). These women are supposed to be on the same level as me but I do most of their work. They are paid more because the boss says “oh they are single parents and need the extra money” whaatt – isn’t that workplace discrimination. They are opportunists who are taking advantage to the detriment of other employees – that’s the bottom line and it causes unrest in the office. What do the rest of you think. more

Resolved Question: Why do people like people who are full of themselves?

I suppose it's because people are drawn to confidence, but it often seems like people who are that confident treat others like crap. kk Ill try to be clearer. There is a man at my workplace, he's rather good looking, he's successful at work and is a great leader. Everyone and I'm not exaggerating, everyone wants to "hang out" with him. He says he will, then doesn't....... Or sets a date, then cancels. And when he's in the mood, he treats people like trash... But they always come right back. Id would have thought they'd give up? Get tired of being ignored and stop trying to get in his group? I try very hard to offend people and they dislike me anyway, he practically abuses them and they badger him more! Is there any explanation for this? more

Resolved Question: how do you go about solving mental abuse in the workplace ?

im having problems with a woman bossing me around that is not a superior more

Resolved Question: how do you go about proving mental abuse in the workplace?

Resolved Question: Find fallacies presented in this section should be able to find at least one case of each fallacy?

"Thanks for saving us a seat," Jodie says to her friend Frank, as she and Liz sit down with coffee cups in hand in the crowded cafeteria. "No problem," Frank says130 "We were late getting out of Professor Conklin's social problems class," Jodie says disgustedly. "He's such a jerk! He always keeps us late, and he's the most arrogant snob I've ever met." "I've heard that," Frank says. "What's he covering in class now?" "Sexual harassment in the workplace," Jodie replies. "But that is a real problem these days." "How so?" "Well, my friend Amelia is a dispatcher for a trucking company, and she's told me about dozens of times she's been a victim of sexual harassment.The truckers have Playboy centerfolds tacked up all over the place, they constantly leer at her, they're always asking her for dates. One of them even pats her rear when she leans over at the drinking fountain." Frank laughs. "Well, there is such a thing as the First Amendment, which supposedly guarantees freedom of expression. You wouldn't want to deny these guys their freedom of expression, would you?" "Freedom of expression, my eye!" explodes Jodie, looking incredulously at Frank. "Patting someone's rear isn't freedom of expression, it's abusive physical contact. So it's not protected by the First Amendment. Men! The trouble with you, Frank, is you're a typical man. If you were a woman, you'd see these things for what they are," she says, looking at Liz for support. Liz nods her head in strong agreement. "Well," says Frank, "I think your friend is lucky to have a job, what with all the people out of work these days. I've got a friend who's spent half his retirement savings just putting food on the table for his family, after losing his job. He was in the construction business, which is dead right now. And in other parts of the country it's even worse.You should tell Amelia to quit complaining." "Stop giving me the runaround," demands Jodie, offended. "The trouble with you men is, you always look at women as sex objects.That makes sexual harassment inevitable." "What do you mean?" protests Frank. "It's you women who treat us men like sex objects.What about all your makeup and perfume? And the tight pants and all the see-through stuff you wear? You think men are just a pack of animals—nothing but instinct—and you think that will make us fall for you. Isn't that how you see us?" "I won't dignify that with a reply," fumes Jodie. "Anyone who isn't blind can see that Amelia's being victimized by those truckers. If you can't see it, maybe pouring this hot coffee over your thick head will wake you up!" she threatens. "Calm down," says Frank with a startled look. "Everyone is beginning to stare at us.Okay, suppose I agree that Amelia is a victim.The question is, what do we do about it?" "To begin with," says Jodie firmly, "the trucking company should transfer Amelia out of dispatch and give her a better job, like executive secretary in the regional office. Her husband ran out on her recently, leaving her with all five kids— and little Tommy needs braces. She could really use the extra money." "You're joking!" Frank laughs sarcastically. "Didn't you tell me once that Amelia never finished high school and is functionally illiterate? She could never handle a job like that." Thinking for a moment, Jodie then replies, "Well, maybe you're right. But at least the company should adopt a policy forbidding all forms of sexual harassment. Maybe that would make the truckers see how abusive they are, and then they might stop acting that way. Practically every company in the country has such a policy, but Amelia's bosses are dragging their feet." "Okay. But then how do you define sexual harassment?" Frank asks. '"Cause if you can't define it, any policy is useless." "Well, I don't exactly know," Jodie hesitates. "I'll have to think about that." "Aha! I knew it!" exclaims Frank, triumphantly. "You can't define it, which means you don't even know if it exists! If you weren't such a radical feminist, you would see that all these claims of sexual harassment are hooey." "Me, radical?" Jodie explodes. "The truth is you're a radical sexist. What you're saying is, women are only chattel, like they were 200 years ago, and men can use or abuse them any way they please. Liz, that's what he's saying, isn't it?" "Absolutely," Liz affirms. "What a crazy argument," says Frank scornfully. "What you're saying is, we should abolish all distinctions between men and women and create a unisex society in which everyone acts like a bunch of robots. Isn't that right, Liz?" "No, not at all," insists Liz. "She's trying to—" "You're completely insane, Frank," Jodie interrupts, rising determinedly from her chair, "and your arguments are wacko!" She then throws the remains of her coffee at Frank.The other students who have been listening to the heated argument rise up shouting, "Right on, Jodie!" Some begin chanting, "End sex harassment! End sex harassment!" As more studentsThere are 16 fallacies more

Open Question: Does this song convey a power struggle? If not, what are some good songs that do?

I have to find a song conveying a power struggle for extra credit in my research and argumenative writing class. It's the song "Anthem" by Blink 182. Everything has fallen to pieces, Earth is dying help me Jesus We need guidance, we've been misled, young and hostile, but not stupid. Corporate leaders, politicians, kids can't vote, adults elect them Laws that rule the school and workplace, signs that caution, sixteen's unsafe. We really need to see this through, we never wanted to be abused We'll never give up, it's no use, if we're fucked up you're to blame Let this train wreck burn more slowly, kids are victims in this story Drown our youth with useless warnings, teenage rules they're fucked and boring We really need to see this through, we never wanted to be abused We'll never give up, it's no use, if we're fucked up you're to blame Everything has fallen to pieces, Everything has fallen to pieces, Everything has fallen to pieces, Everything has fallen to ... We really need to see this through, we never wanted to be abused, We'll never give up, it's no use, if we're fucked up you're to blame! and this one, "Power Struggle" by Sunna. (I would rather be able to use the other one because I already have the audio...this one I can't seem to find anywhere.) I will be here when you are gone, So I have the right to a power gorge, And I will be good at making bad, And I'll light the way for the fucking mad, I will defeat what I'm heading for, And I will be here for evermore, And I am the way of your empty shell, I want more than I am, Cause I was made to fly, I was made to fly, And you were made to die, But I was made to fly. I will survive cause I want more, And I will create a bigger war, Then I will rule over and give you hell, And then you will do as I command, Cause I will be here when you are gone, Yeah I'll still be here when you are gone, I'll fill you with fear of a holy sun, I want all that I am, Cause I was made to fly, I was made to fly, And you were made to die, And I was made to fly. I will defeat you. Manipulate, interrogate, compete all you like, And dominate with forceful hate, Cause You know I will defeat you. You were made to fight, Yeh you were made to fight, I was made to fly, But you were meant to die. Cause I was made to fly, I was made to fly, And you were made to fly, And I was made to fly Suggestions would be nice too :) It can be any genre, although I'd prefer rock of some sort...but like I said, any genre is good and appreciated! Thanks! more

Resolved Question: How much does a young mans' job or upbringing matter to a girl?

How many girls expect a 24 year old guy to be the boss of his workplace and cringe at the thought of dating a blue-collar/unionized worker? How many girls would dump a guy if they found out he was abused as a kid or was raised by religious militant parents? more

Resolved Question: Would you be friends with a really negative person?

I met this guy at work. He's 21, I'm 28. We've been chatting online and he told me his parents abused him (emotionally and physically) and he complains about some of the other people at our workplace. I wanted to try to be friends with him but we have nothing in common and I feel sorry for him. Should I even attempt to be friends with this guy? more

Resolved Question: Can I get my boss for sexual harassment and workplace abuse?

My boss is the owner of a shitty diner and he treats me, the waitresses and co-owner(who is also female) like garbage. He degrades us and he smacked my ass once. Can I report him? What should I do? more

Resolved Question: Athiests and pagans only: Please take my poll so the Christians can see how we really behave?

Do you currently engage in any of the following? 1. Statutory rape or relations with an underage partner? 2. Animal sacrifice or torture? 3. The trafficing of drugs or illegal substances to minors? 4. The trafficing of stolen goods? 5. Violent attacks against Christians or religious groups? 6. Sex with multiple partners without their consent? 7. Trafficing of pornography or demeaning photographs? 8. Acts of terrorism or violence to attain religious goals? 9. Protests outside of houses of worship? 10. Anti-heterosexual rallies? 11. Cursing or hexing of any other persons? 12. Poisoning of wells or drinking water? 13. Molesting, beating, or verbal abuse of children? 14. The placing of Satanic tracts in schools and day cares? 15. Lobying to get the words "In Annubis We Trust" placed on currency? 16. Discrimination against people of other faiths in the workplace? 17. The burning of books, CD's or DVD's that you find offensive? 18. The hanging of crucifixes upside down, or the dunking of them into urine? 19. The use of Christian religious implements as sexual toys? 20. Holding of the Catholic Mass backwards, or in the nude? 21. Participation in sexual practices with corpses? 22. Practice of bestiality? 23. Causing or allowing a person to be killed for ritual practice? 24. Convincing the mentally unstable that they'll die an eternal death if they don't take up your faith? 25. Engaging in sexual acts with non-human entities, including Satan?If any one cares, my answers are: NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO more

Resolved Question: Do Mohammedans at YOUR workplace get special time off? If you're an atheist, do you get any?

Mohammedans in workplaces, after they sign contracts for working hours, then demand special concessions to their "holy rituals" and scream bloody abuse if they don't get it. These same guys smoke, drink, and get girls pregnant when they're not being holy. Does this seem fair?Certainly according to Wikipedia, this term is legitimate. At least I didn't draw a picture of Mohammed in a newspaper with a bomb on his head. Mohammedan (also spelt Muhammadan, Mahommedan, Mahomedan or Mahometan) is a term used as both a noun and an adjective meaning belonging or relating to either the religion of Islam or to that of the Islamic prophet Muhammad; a term largely rejected by the Muslim world as a misnomer[1][2][3] The term is now largely superseded by Muslim, Moslem or Islamic, but was commonly used only in Western literature until at least the mid-1960s. (See for instance the second edition of A Dictionary of Modern English Usage by HW Fowler, revised by Ernest Gowers (Oxford, 1965)). Muslim is more commonly used today than Moslem, and the term Mohammedan is generally considered archaic or in some cases even offensive. (can't do THAT) According to the SOED (1973), Mohammedan was in use by 1681, along with the older term Mahometan that dates back to at least 1529.Also, pbuh, have a look at http://www.thereligionofpeace.com for more truths about Mohammedans. more

Resolved Question: Am I entitled to anything here? Would I stand a chance taking this to court?

My mom died of cancer in January, 1999 (I was 11 years old). She had a life insurance policy through her workplace which put aside $20,000 that I should have gotten at the age of 18. My father (who abused me my whole life) asked me in May 1999 if he could "borrow" the money to make a down payment on a house with his new girlfriend. Of course I said yes (you don't say no to an abuser when you're a child), but I never signed anything so nothing is on paper that I know of. I was 11, so it obviously didn't even cross my mind. Now, 10 years later, he's selling the house for $100,000 more than he bought it for after doing extensive renovations. I haven't spoken to or heard from my father in 8 years as I went into a foster home shortly after he bought the house. I've been told by some people that I'm entitled to my money, especially now that he's selling the house that he "borrowed" the money for. I've also been told that with I don't have a leg to stand on here since I didn't sign anything. Advice? Would it be a waste of time and money to hire a lawyer for this? I live in Ontario Canada if that makes a difference at all. more

Voting Question: help with a statistics problem?

a study conducted in new jersey by the governor's council for a drug-free workplace concluded that 70% of new jersey's businesses have employees whose performance is affected by drugs and/or alcohol. in those businesses, it was estimated that 8.5% of their workforce have alcohol problems and 5.2% have drug problems. a) in a new jersey company that acknowledges it has performance problems caused by substance abuse, out of every 1,000 employees, approximately how many have drug problems? b) in the company referred to in part a, if 10 employees are randomly selected to form a committee to address alcohol abuse problems, what is the probability that at least one member of the committee is an alcohol abuser? that exactly two are alcohol abusers? more

Resolved Question: Do you think the 0bama has any idea what this holiday is about at all?

It’s ‘Labor’ Day, Not ‘Union’ Day by MARK MIX Guest Columnist 4 days ago Labor Day is a celebration of the efforts of America’s workers. However, the celebration is hollow for millions of American workers because of compulsory unionism. Throughout the United States, over 12 million workers labor under contracts that require them to be a member of, or financially support, a union as a condition of employment. Additionally, millions of more workers are required by law to accept union bosses’ so-called “representation,” thereby losing the right to negotiate their own employment terms. Big Labor thrives on this system of government-granted special privileges based on coercion. Compulsory unionism makes union bosses more unaccountable to rank-and-file workers, as their financial support is absolutely mandatory. This arrangement breeds union boss corruption, extravagance, and abuse. Despite the “feel-good” rhetoric about standing up for workers’ rights, union bosses commonly target independent-minded workers who stand up to them and exercise their individual rights. Such retaliation often takes the form of harassment, firings, and even violence. The National Right to Work Legal Defense Foundation is fighting back for thousands of workers. Compulsory union abuse involves a wide array of tactics. In one recent example, a Hartford, Connecticut-based employee named Patricia Pelletier of the Connecticut Student Loan Foundation became the target of a local union’s harassment campaign after being dissatisfied with the union’s presence in her workplace. Simply for exercising her legal right to circulate an employee petition which allowed Pelletier and her coworkers to ultimately vote out the unwanted Communications Workers of America union local from their workplace, union operatives forged her signature on numerous magazine subscriptions and consumer product solicitations. Pelletier’s home was then flooded with hundreds of unwanted magazines and advertisements. Not only was Pelletier forced to spend several hours each day canceling individual subscriptions, she was also billed for thousands of dollars by various companies which often turned her over to collection agencies. Union agents then raised the stakes by planting cocaine in Pelletier’s office in an effort to frame her. With free legal help from the National Right to Work Legal Defense Foundation, Pelletier filed a fraud and civil conspiracy suit, ultimately forcing a satisfactory settlement. In over 200 cases nationwide, the National Right to Work Foundation is helping workers take a stand for their rights in the face of union boss intimidation, coercion, and even violence. These cases underscore the extreme lengths to which union operatives will go to retaliate against those who do not toe the union line — and are a direct result of compulsory unionism. This Labor Day, big labor bosses will dish out their usual Labor Day propaganda about how awful our lives would supposedly be without them. The reality is that millions of workers and indeed our economy are continuing to suffer greatly under the scourge of compulsory unionism. Yet, there are signs that folks are realizing the truth: cooperation is a healthy alternative to compulsion and is the best way to enhance individual liberty while achieving economic progress and raising workers’ living standards. Labor Day should be about honoring the hardworking Americans who make our country’s economy prosper — not union bosses who rely on forced unionism privileges for personal and political gain. Mark Mix is the president of the National Right to Work Legal Defense Foundation. http://www.williamsondailynews.com/pages/full_story/push?article-It%E2%80%99s+%E2%80%98Labor%E2%80%99+Day-+not+%E2%80%98union%E2%80%99+day%20&id=3521528-It%E2%80%99s+%E2%80%98Labor%E2%80%99+Day-+not+%E2%80%98union%E2%80%99+day&instance=secondary_opinion_left_column more

Resolved Question: Isn't LABOR DAY a disgrace to LABOR from what it was created to mean?

Since the seventies, The Rich Big Business and the conservative right have done all they possibly can to undermine and KILL the organized labor movement. From the days of the late 1890's when labor organized to stop abuses in the workplace and earn workers benefits and respect,to the ''sham''of the labor markets of today, we are going backwards !! No pensions, health care, guaranteed time and a half, or job security. Shouldn't the holiday be changed to ''LABOR TAKE A BREAK TODAY< BECAUSE THE COMPANY IS GOING TO ABUSE YOU ALL YEAR !!' more

Resolved Question: Does this count as stalking?

My husband's father is probably 4 cans short of a six-pack. As long as I've known this family, he has been a complete creep. My husband's mom (P) and my husband's dad (K) got divorced when my husband (M) was only 1-2 years old. They are his adoptive parents, not his birth parents. The Phone Calls: If K calls once in a day, he will more than likely call 5-10 times within 10 minutes. Whether we say that the person he is calling for is not home, or if we just don't answer the phone.. This will happen. He will also do this to P or M's cell phones. The House: At 10pm or later at night, he will come to the house and ring the door bell... Repeatedly. He will not stop until someone has answered the door. If you answer the door and tell him that no one is home then close the door, he will start ringing the door bell again. We have told him many, many times that he is not allowed to come to the house but he does it anyway. Work: He will drop by M or P's workplaces, forcing them to talk to him, have lunch with him.. Whatever. He has been told multiple times that he is not to drop by either of their work places, but he does it anyway. The Cops: He has sent the cops to our house twice now to "check to see if M is still alive". My husband is 21 years old, and even one of the cops has said that he is an adult and is allowed to do what he wants. But, today my mother answered the phone and it happened to be K.. Well, he told her that if my husband didn't call him, he was going to call the cops AGAIN. Isn't this abuse of the system? Can't he get in trouble for, basically, crank calling the cops? more

Resolved Question: My husband's manager yells, curses, and pushes my husband, what can be done?

We live in Illinois. They currently undergoing legislation to start a workplace abuse act that states employees cannon treat employees in a hostile manner. They specifically state in the bill that employees have little rights when it comes to abuse/harrassment in the workplace unless it falls under the already classified harrassment laws (sex, race, orgin, etc...) The whole point of the bill is to protect him in this situation. However it has not passed yet they are still debating and amending the act. His manager is constantly yelling and cursing at him and will even push him out of her way if she thinks she can do it faster. He has told the higher up manager and asked them not to schedule him with this specific manager. However they ignore him. What can he do to get this behavior to stop. Should he bring up this proposed bill? It looks like it will pass sometime next year. This bill already shows that Illinois is thinking about this kind of harrassment so if he quits because the manager refuses to do nothing will he have a legal leg to stand on?My hubby is not a wuss he is just smart enough to know that even if someone pusshes you first you don't retaliate (esp. on a woman) because he doesn't want to go to jail. He is trying to get this resolved the legal way with out involving police etc... more

Resolved Question: I have a problem with a man I know, please help.?

Very long story short. I know a man who used to present himself as a woman. His gender change has nothing to do with his sexuality. I screwed-up one day BEFORE I knew of his gender change and addressed him as "ma'am". He was offended, he explained his situation, I apologized and explained that it was only a slip of the tongue (One I make often with men all the time actually) and everything seemed fine. Ever sense then whenever he sees me he will make jokes. Very tasteless ones about himself and his biological sexuality. He STUDIES my reaction and response to them carefully, finding how my reactions were offensive and pointing them out in a passive, joking manner. All of this takes place at my workplace, he is a customer. He is easily offended and very quick to find offense in anything that is said to him. My conversation with him today left me angry with him and quite frankly feeling emotionally manipulated and abused. How do you suggest I deal with this? I don't want to tell him off because I am at work and he is a customer but on the other hand I've had to ask my coworkers to come and get me to extract me from conversations with him because of his behavior. I don't want to offend him but on the other hand I don't want to seem rude or give him the impression that I am rejecting him based on what i know know about his biology. Help? more

Resolved Question: What do you do if someone does you wrong?

And by that i mean if some person treats you wrong either at work or elsewhere. I'm not talking about physical abuse but more like disrespecting you or landing you in the s**t. Or if they exercise bad communication or lack of in the workplace that puts you in trouble. Basically any action or any inaction that causes trouble for you or anyone. Do you? a) explain to them why it was wrong b) carry on and just keep quiet and forgive them and realize you're right they are wrong. c) Do the same action back to them to show them how it feels and what happens when you do wrong. d) other more

Voting Question: A question on workplace life?

I am 26. And I got into the corporate career-style not by choice but my parents influence. I see this world as a nasty place, full of selfish people and I feel so lost and unhappy in my career. No ones care about you as an individual or wants to help you - they abuse you and use you. My question is, was the corporate world like this say 20 / 30 / 50 / 70 years ago? Is it just this generation which is selfish, where people are underpaid and abused? Has it always been this way? more

Resolved Question: When will China be rescued from its sweat-shop workplaces and contaminated foods? It took a socialist like?

Upton Sinclair to expose the abuses of Robber Baron crapitalism here.Bullsh!t! Money is the Ponzi scheme that you've been brainwashed into accepting, and as long as there are sheep like you, nothing is going to change. Want some more Kool-Aid, "my friend"?There is no such thing as a "communist government"! Communism, socialism, and crapitalism are all economic systems. America wasn't founded on crapitalism. It was founded on DEMOCRACY, which is only marginally compatible with REGULATED crapitalism. more

Resolved Question: My boss mobbed me for 2 years then fired despite hard work great results - how do I now approach new employer?

Mobbing is an emotional abuse in a workplace aimed to force a person out and this is what was happening to me. I found no protection in a company considered to be one the best place to work at. I had worked extremely hard and competently, got great results that my boss used; I loved what I did and I loved the company despite hating my job - this is why I tried to do internal transfer rather than looking outside; I even got an offer but my boss was quicker... more

Voting Question: comany being racist. managers degrading a race?

A manager at my workplace recently made racist remarks about all latinos in the company? He has also abused all people in his shift by constantly screaming and threatening everybody with loosing their Job. Now the other managers know all this but yet nothing is done. we want to expose them but we need to make it big since this is a multimillion dollar company. all warehouse people get treated like trash while the office is not. We have a ton of roaches in our lunchroom, no toilet paper, watered downed soap and filthy water filter with no cups. this warehouse is located in torrance ca. please help me find someone to cover this story to bring this guys to justice, help me find a newspaper tv station or someway to expose thembet all you giving funny answers would get mad if it was directed at you. more

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Resolved Question: Setup to be fired from position?

I worked for an employer for 6 months. During this time I earned 3 work achievement awards. I was never late, and was only absent on one occasion to attend jury duty for 3 days. I was always polite respectful, and did my job to the best of my abilities. Two immediate managers in the department in which I worked in on several occasions kept fabricating performance reviews of my work to substantiate that I made many errors, and did not follow written procedure. I challenged these work reviews respectfully to show that I did in fact perform my duties in accordance to written procedure and other guidelines. However, these two managers disagreed, did not listen to what I had to say, and would not void out these negative performance reviews. I then spoke to their superiors about the matter to prove otherwise, and the superiors blew me off. I kind of thought that it was odd that these same two managers recommended 3 work achievement awards to me, but then all of a sudden started fabricating several negative performance reviews towards me. Since these negative performance reviews could not be voided out no matter how I attempted to challenge them I shrugged it off and kept doing my job the best I could in accordance to written procedure, and other guidelines. However, I was not alone as these managers did the same thing to 5 other employees in my department. I figured maybe upper management was putting pressure on lower management to get rid of a few people for budgetary reasons. The position I held was salaried, which at the time made sense. Anyways, 1 week befored I got fired one of these managers stated to me that if I don't start showing improvement in my work I will be fired soon. I asked this manager how exactly he would suggest I improve my work since earlier his allegations of my poor performance were not consistent with the written procedure, and guidelines I was mandated to follow. I told this manager outright that I really like my position, and intend to do really well. The manager then gave me weird grin, and stated, "You were trained sufficiently, and know what is expected of you." One week passed since my discussion with the manager, and I received another negative performance review. The performance review stated that I was disrespecful demeaning condescending unprofessional, and defiant towards one of my managers. The performance review basically stated that I outright did not do exactly what one manager instructed me to do on a work endeavor. This work review led to my termination. However, while I was being terminated I was given an option to voluntarily resign, and receive 4 weeks of severance pay. I elected to take this option as I thought it would look better to resign from a position rather than be terminated. After my separation from this employer I filed for unemployment benefits, this employer agreed, and did not challenge my application for unemployment compensation. I thought it was quite odd that if I was such terrible employee why did this employer grant me an option to resign, give me severance pay, and not challenge my attempt to collect unemployment compensation? Anyways, since then I've been working on getting a graduate degree, and found a better job 2 months later. My question is it a common phenomenon that lots of employers act as revolving doors to use, and abuse employees? In another words hire a bunch of employees, and then get rid a portion of these employees? I understand the "AT WILL" concept of employment where an employer can fire anybody for any reason as long as it is not discriminatory. I never really experienced such a irreprehensible employment situation. Does this type of scenario occur often in the workplace, and just is something employees have to accept sometimes? more

Resolved Question: How do you cope with a toxic parent?

It has been more than 30 years of emotional abuse and manipulation by my own mother. Growing up in a single parent family, I have always made to feel that the reason for my mother's hardship is because of us, me and my brother. So no matter how bad she verbally abuse me, or even physically, I would always let her have her way, cos I feel that I'm part of the reason for her misery. However, it affected me psychologically and emotionally in so many ways, that I decided to do something about it and stop feeling self pity. I took a bold step of moving away, and as expected, it filled her with rage. She swear to destroy my life and embarrass me at my workplace and in my university). Her threats put me in fear, as I do not know what would be coming next. If I do not move back to her, in her words, she wouldn't let me off. I do not know what to do. I have never asked for a single cent from her since I was 16 and I even pay off the loan for her house and even her business. I'm feeling so much pain inside, and do not know what I can do. For one thing I know, I cannot return to that kind of life again. more