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Game Developers Conference 2010: Havok™ Sees Rapid Adoption of ... - TMCnet

... highly aggressive expansion in Asia ... added NCsoft Korea to its roster of triple A worldwide publisher and developer partners. "Choosing technology for MMO titles is different than choosing technology for traditional games," said Jongwon Kim,

Adoption Information Meeting (Kids & Family, Meetings ... - ArkansasMatters

A Dillon International representative will give an overview of the licensed, non-profit agency's adoption programs in China, Korea, Haiti, India and Hong Kong, plus new opportunities in Ghana and Nepal. Adoption programs in Ethiopia, Russia and ...

International adoption: A big fix brings dramatic ... - The Christian Science Monitor

That was four years ago, when the adoption business was booming and people from rich countries were traveling the globe from China and South Korea to Russia and Ethiopia to find a child to complete their families. At the time Silvia arrived in ...

Adapting to foreign adoptions - The Christian Science Monitor

A need for safeguards became obvious soon after intercountry adoption became popular six decades ago, when Henry and Bertha Holt started a flow of orphans from war-torn Korea to the United States. Steadily over the years, rules have been put in place ...

Game Developers Conference 2010: Havok™ Sees ... - TMCnet

Our recent successes in the Asian market can be accredited to the high rate of adoption of Havok's highly advanced productivity tools and technology solutions by the skilled developers in Japan, Korea, and recently, China." Havok's dedicated team ...

Game Developers Conference 2010: Havok™ Sees Rapid ... - Businesswire.com

Our recent successes in the Asian market can be accredited to the high rate of adoption of Havok’s highly advanced productivity tools and technology solutions by the skilled developers in Japan, Korea, and recently, China.” Havok's dedicated team ...

Mobile internet adoption gains pace - Korea Herald

LG Telecom, the smallest of Korea' three mobile carriers, also recently rolled out the Wi-Fi capable feature phone, MAXX, which is manufactured by LG Electronics. The LG-LU9400 supports Qualcomm's Snapdragon processor, making it faster for users to ...

First Person Singular - East Bay Express

While the merits of adoption are numerous, Liem also questions South Korea's adoption history and policy. Despite the fact that Korea has rapidly modernized since its war-torn roots, Liem finds an orphanage in South Korea full of abandoned babies. "

America's 2020 Broadband Vision - Huffingtonpost.com

households, compared with 88 percent adoption in Singapore, and 95 percent adoption in South Korea. The U.S. adoption rate is even lower among low-income, minority, rural, tribal, and disabled households. This country can and must do better.

Gov't to begin 200,000 unit housing project - Joy Online

According to him, Exim bank of South Korea, having withheld their financial assistance due to Ghana’s adoption of the Highly Indebted Poor Country (HIPC) Initiative has promised to invest in the country’s economy. “Exim bank of Korea for almost ...

Resolved Question: Why is there Intergovernmental Cooperation in Worldwide Implementation of ID Cards?

Is it all just a HUGE coincidence that there is a Simultaneous introduction of biometric, smart ID cards around the world? Or is it the case, that a huge network of "agents" in many Governments are all working towards a World Government and a Global population all micro chipped? The reason I say this is because it does seem strange to me that so many Governments are implementing the same policies, at the same time. Is it really all one huge coincidence? 1. The ID schemes and database projects are harmonised and conform to international standards, designed to be coordinated and interoperable. The smart ID cards being adopted by different nations worldwide are all on a common format: - ICAO 9303 part 3. This document available can viewed here: www.hasbrouck.org/documents/ICAO9303-pt3.pdf 2. Behind the ID project, the participating nations are also all adopting a common format for personal information on government databases. This is what ID cards are about - more than the physical cards themselves, they are an interface to access databases of personal information. Adopting a common format for cards implies adopting a common format for data systems and databases. Interoperability of systems and universal accessibility of data has been an explicit goal, not merely implicit. There is also a project to make your personal data available to all other governments, worldwide. 3. The adoption of these systems has been coordinated, by a government process, conferences, aid and support. 4. This policy is being projected worldwide by the European Union (EU) and the US. They have been the leading movers in promoting common format "smart" ID cards and databases. 5. It seems probable that Russia and the Eastern Bloc nations will also be joining the project - under the EU-Russia Common Spaces agreements. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/European_Union%E2%80%93Russia_Common_Spaces 6. Smart ID cards will cover at least 90% of world population - perhaps over 95%. This figure is even higher than that in my earlier article, in Global Research. Only about 2.5% are definitely not going in with the common-format ID scheme (e.g. Burma, North Korea, Madagascar, etc). For about 8% of world population, I haven't been able to track down solid, reliable information, e.g. small countries such as Equatorial Guinea, Fiji, etc. 7. The aim of this process is to track population movement - migration of population. The system of immigration and border controls has evolved into worldwide system of monitoring population movement, to stop potential immigrants. The aim has progressed from stopping potential illegal immigrants at the borders of the EU or the US, into extended border controls, that stop migrants hundreds or thousands of miles before they reach the borders. This requires systems of population monitoring and surveillance, in "third nations." ID systems are part of this strategy. more

Resolved Question: Why does everybody believe that adoption by American parents is best for foreign children?

I was adopted from Korea and everybody says my life is better because I was adopted by Americans. I think that's bullchit. How do you know I couldn't have become a dictator or something great? more

Resolved Question: world history.. some questions about japan.. i need some help!!?

1. In the early years of feudal Japan, what role did the samurai play? A. They managed the business affairs of large estates for shogun. B. They wrote new forms of poetry called haiku. C. They participated in kabuki plays in the theater. D. They were professional warriors, hired by landowners for protection. 2. What change occurred in Japan’s government in 1192? A. Samurai forces killed the emperor and became the ruling council in Japan. B. The emperor went from being the ruler to a figurehead and a shogun ruled, creating the Kamakura Shogunate. C. Daimyos rebelled against the emperor and took over the government. D. Mongol invaders entered Japan and became the new rulers. 3. What happened to the samurai during the Tokugawa Shogunate? A. Many became farmers because the prevailing peace meant their services were in less demand. B. They gained greater status than they previously had in Japanese society. C. Most of them committed seppuku after the Yi dynasty was defeated. D. Women were allowed to become samurai for the first time. 4. Christian missionary activity in Japan resulted in A. few conversions and little interest from Japanese people or the government. B. the conversion of many Japanese and later government persecution of Christians and missionaries. C. the adoption of Christianity as the official state religion. D. a new era of religious tolerance. 5. Which of the following shows the correct order of ranking in Japanese society of the listed groups of people, from highest to lowest? A. Samurai, shogun, daimyo B. Merchants, shogun, artisans C. Daimyo, shogun, peasants D. Peasants, artisans, merchants 6. When the Choson kingdom took control of Korea, what type of government was created? A. One that followed the new concept of democracy B. A government that favored the Manchu over the Korean people. C. One founded on Confucian principles D. A government that was based on the feudal system 7. Korea prospered under the Choson dynasty and produced many new cultural achievements, including A. haiku. B. an alphabet. C. kabuki. D. taekwondo. 8. What kept the Japanese from defeating the Koreans during invasions in the late 1500s? A. Turtle ships equipped with cannons B. The Great Wall C. Highly-trained samurai forces D. The invasion of Japan by China 9. As a result of invasions from Japan, what happened to the government in Korea? A. The government collapsed and the Japanese ruled the country. B. Choson kings began to isolate Korea from the rest of the world. C. The Korean government decided to create a standing army of trained warriors like the samurai. D. The Yi dynasty took over the Korean government. 10. What happened to Korea in the 1640s? A. Foreign trade began to increase as the Korean government reopened its ports. B. The Black Death reached Korean shores, killing one half of the country’s population. C. It became a vassal state to the Chinese Qing dynasty. D. The country became its own independent state, after previously being annexed by Japan. more

Resolved Question: I need help with Immigration Laws?

I was born on 22nd of Ocboter in 1992 in South Korea. However, I visited America on a traveling visa in August of 2006. Then, I was adopted by one generous American couple, and the adoption was finalized in May of 2007. After living two consecutive years in the state of Georgia with my parents, I filed for green card, and I received work permit in August and social security numbers in October of 2009. At the moment, my green card is still pending, and it will be issued no later than April since I filed for green card in August, and according to the laws, green card will be issued after 3 to 6 months from the date it was filed. I have an attroney, but he is so stupid, he won't even help us. My problem is I am currently trying to get into a college and apply for Hope Scholarship. Hope Scholarship is only given to permanent resident or American citizens. What should I put on the citizenship status? Non-Resident ailen or Permanent resident? The point is, the deadline for the application is April 1st, so, in the worst case, I will get my green card towards the end of April. My question is, what should I put on the citizenship status? And is it true that citizenship will be automatically given to me after two months upon receiving green card since I'm under 18 years old, and I was legally adopted by legal American citizens? Thank you.And am I considered as a legal Georgia resident????????? more

Resolved Question: world history,, i need help!!!!?

Resolved Question: Seeking many people's opinions on adoption/interracial adoption?

I know that its been asked before by others, and I have read through all of the questions/answers. I am asking again to hopefully get some personalized advice and even more perspectives. If you don't have time to read the information provided, don't feel obligated to answer... it's frustrating otherwise. :) Detailed answers are very welcome. My husband and I ultimately plan to adopt a set of siblings in the "7 and older" range. Because many white people ONLY want white children, there are a disproportionate amount of other races not being given the same opportunity at a loving family life, and it's a shame. We would adopt where the need is greatest, race aside, and likely from Texas (that's where my family lives). So, my questions + theories: 1) How difficult will it be for children of another race to feel 110% included in their family? We intend on adopting after our future kids are a little bit older so that they'll be the youngest and therefore have fewer chores, be doted upon to a slightly greater extent, etc. My husband's family adopted a little girl from Korea, and it seems like the extra attention the youngest gets benefit her in the transition. 2) Is religion a huge factor? My husband and I are Jewish, which is typically not the case with Hispanics or African Americans. We are very conservative, however, and would actually probably irritate some Jews because we have "Hanukkah trees" and "Hanukkah stockings," etc. We both have Christians/Catholics in the extended family. Children we adopt would be encouraged to continue whatever (if any) religious beliefs they have, and we would be happy to go to church with them. 3) How to encourage racial identity? I have read that some people are concerned that interracial adoptees will never "fit in" with any one race and will feel alone and alienated. My husband and I have government jobs (hence why we are lucky to be in a position to adopt several years from now), which means that our home will be near a military base. We come from Army/Navy backgrounds and have observed that the areas surrounding bases are pretty rich in cultural diversity, so there would be no shortage of race-specific role models. 4) How to prepare for racism? I have seen some people on Y!A concerned that white parents could not adequately prepare their children to overcome the racism they will encounter later in life. As a Jew, prejudice is nothing new to me, however I know it's not exactly the same. Beyond having talks with the children about the ignorance of some people, how they are hateful for no reason, and discussing signs to look out for to determine if they are being treated unfairly, what else is involved? 5) Will it be easier for a sibling set to adjust to a new family life as opposed to only one child? They will have their own rooms, be able to pick their own clothes, have their favorite meals prepared, continue to pursue hobbies, maintain contact with any biological family members in their lives, etc. We also have excellent health coverage that will cover any counseling or therapy family members are in need of. Thanks for any input and for not being rude. I am trying to learn. :)Oh, it might also be of relevance that some cousins I'm very close to are in interracial marriages, so regardless of the children's race they will have family members sharing it. more

Resolved Question: Can one adopt from North Korea?

I know that international adoption is available in South Korea, but I can't find anything saying if adoption is available in North Korea. more

Resolved Question: what's your opinion? please answer ...I'm quite upset.?

Hello, I'm 14, live in Australia and adopted from Fiji ( I'm Indian) and my brother is 9 years older than me and adopted from south Korea. When i was young our families use to get together with people my parents met during the adoption process. We still are very close to a family who live up the road who met whilst they adopted their two daughter ( now 24 and 22) and when my parents adopted my brother ( now 22) - from south korea. Anyways our friends daughters have both gone back to korea 2-3 time and lived with their birth parents for a little while and keep in touch via phone and emails. The contact first happened in 2003-2004. I envied them so much. I have always known my birth father was a terrible man ( locked food cupboards, burnt her had sex with other women in front of her) and left my birth mother when she told him she was pregnant. My birth mother had no family and was poor. She had no choice but to give me up when i was born as she had no money and was dying of cancer. I was adopted at 1 week of age. My adoptive parents did some sneaky work with a friend who was a nurse at the hospital. We received 3 photo's of my birth mother and a letter that the nurse would have wrote but they were my birth-mothers words saying thank you to my adoptive parents and how I was the only thing that belonged to her and it broke her to give me up. I cried reading it. My adoptive parents tried to stay in touch but she died under a year later. --------------------------------------… Now I have no desire to find my birth father but am saddened i would never be able to contact my birth mother BUT... my brother has no desire to search for his BIRTH parents it maddens me that he has the chance and it could be successful yet he doesn't want to. It makes me want to scream and cry because I would Kill for that chance. This isn't really a question just would like your thoughts. My mum says it's a boy thing but i don't know. Thanks. more

Resolved Question: The irritation is maddening!.... (longish but please read)?

Hello, I'm 14, live in Australia and adopted from Fiji ( I'm Indian) and my brother is 9 years older than me and adopted from south Korea. When i was young our families use to get together with people my parents met during the adoption process. We still are very close to a family who live up the road who met whilst they adopted their two daughter ( now 24 and 22) and when my parents adopted my brother ( now 22) - from south korea. Anyways our friends daughters have both gone back to korea 2-3 time and lived with their birth parents for a little while and keep in touch via phone and emails. The contact first happened in 2003-2004. I envied them so much. I have always known my birth father was a terrible man ( locked food cupboards, burnt her had sex with other women in front of her) and left my birth mother when she told him she was pregnant. My birth mother had no family and was poor. She had no choice but to give me up when i was born as she had no money and was dying of cancer. I was adopted at 1 week of age. My adoptive parents did some sneaky work with a friend who was a nurse at the hospital. We received 3 photo's of my birth mother and a letter that the nurse would have wrote but they were my birth-mothers words saying thank you to my adoptive parents and how I was the only thing that belonged to her and it broke her to give me up. I cried reading it. My adoptive parents tried to stay in touch but she died under a year later. ---------------------------------------------------------------- Now I have no desire to find my birth father but am saddened i would never be able to contact my birth mother BUT... my brother has no desire to search for his BIRTH parents it maddens me that he has the chance and it could be successful yet he doesn't want to. It makes me want to scream and cry because I would Kill for that chance. This isn't really a question just would like your thoughts. My mum says it's a boy thing but i don't know. Thanks. more

Resolved Question: FAFSA... being adopted and adopted out, being independent?

so... it is a long story but first thing i live in MD, USA in year 2005, me and my sister move to us, by some recommendations from my uncle and aunt saying that they will take care of us and do their deed and now they want us out, after my hs graduation for no reason my aunt said that several times, thinking that as a "technical weapon" against our biological parents, to have better place for them. but whats more, tax cuts + annual money till become 18 (me and my sister, total of 8 years) and etc my uncle makes decent money(around 130k), so adoption should played some positive roles for him such as promotion and tax cuts but did not their "parental responsibilities". aunt is not staying at home for most of the month, and my biological parents pays most of the fees including cars (yes paid once because they do not want us to get credits and refused to pay it monthly, even though they could), insurance, food sent from korea, phone bill, "all" documentary fee for adoption. i am a us citizen now.. just let you know yes that's right took all parental benefits yet not responsible i think aunt does not know what shes talking abouht expecting us to "freak out" by that statement i may preparing law suit against them... but im so young so just wandering gaining evidence of those events... but thats after this so this is real question... after my long(srry..) and briefened story to being indepent, i may qualify for those things: You were a foster child after the age of 13. You are an emancipated child as determined by a court judge. i not so sure i do not have the address, no income nor the tax reporting but one thing for sure is i(also include my sister), we are financially indepedent for sure but they said to get out after my graduation (2010 June). they may to stay but i dont give the shit so moving out in June, but have to fill out the FAFSA form before that how do i explain this? i maintain good academic records, so i offer merit scholoarships from several schools, so one thing im taking care of is the living cost to summarize my legal parents want us out cuz they used all the benefits or just threathening but anyway we are out (most importantly, "being forced to out, because they dont want us and did not provide their responsibilities) will that qualifiy me as those options or unusual case? and how do i do the FAFSA form till then, we will be in their house and legally they are our parents appeal to a judge or court will enable us to do that? i kinda wrote this in hurry, but hope you guys understand what im saying thank you for your time to read this... answers will be really appreciated.. more

Resolved Question: Adoptees, have you ever met your biological parents?

If not (yet), do you want to meet them? Why? I'm adopted. Came from South Korea at 5 months. My sister was also adopted (she's not my blood sister). She and I were trying to plan a trip to South Korea through this adoption services. This service also provided the means (though no guarantee) to look up your biological parents. I was considering doing that out of curiosity. Would you? more

Resolved Question: Shouldn't we be thinking of alternatives to adoption?

I don't mean abortion. I mean ways to keep families together. If Korea is doing it, why can't we?"if she put it up for adoption that was her choice." If she put it up for adoption, doesn't that indicate she felt she truly had no choice? more

Resolved Question: My dad looks Japanese and he is Korean does that mean he has japanese in him?

My dad was adopted from Seoul, South Korea and he claims to be full Korean but he looks Japanese. My asian friends and parents say they see Japanese in him and ME! But his adoption papers are in Korean and I don't understand it. Do you think he has japanese in him? Someday i want to find his acutal parents unless they're already dead... more

Resolved Question: Do you agree with adoption reform in Korea?

Korea's adult adoptees and mothers (who relinquished) are seeking to end international adoption from Korea by 2012. They are fighting an immense battle for a complete reform against cultural stigmas and a cultural mindset. Do you agree with this? Why or why not? more

Resolved Question: Adoption, Foster Care, Unwanted, Pregnancy, Emergency, Help, Assistance, Baby, Child,?

I am a hopeless parent who needs desperate help. To be frank, my ex-girlfriend and I slept with each other and now she is pregnant. We broke up and don't want any part of each other's futures. Now we are living in two different continents, I live in the Czech Republic and she is in South Korea. We can barely support ourselves and are in no condition to take care of a child. She and I were both students. I quit my studies and am on my own to pretty much survive. She is studying in a different country. Even though we are sick and hopeless, we would still like our child to grow up in a good family because she deserves the best. We just can't support her. Is there anyway to find people who would want to adopt the baby? Is there an easy way to find couples who would want to take care of the child? We are finding an easy way because she is in Korea and I am in the Czech Republic. We desperately need assistance and help. God bless those who can help out... more

Resolved Question: Can I move out of country with my child IF?

The biological father is currently on child support, and I am currently engage due to get married in couple weeks. My fiancee is in the USAF and he is going to be station in Korea for couple years and I wish and hope that me and my child will be able to join him. Can I move with my child without getting into trouble for kidnapping? I am the custodial parent and he's the Non custodial parent. Before we both agree and he signed the Father Voluntary Parental Rights and it was notarized but the court clerk wanted more paper work along with it, I dont have the money to hire a lawyer yet. My husband to be will adopt my child once we get everything situated. I just want to know can i move with my child to a different country ? After we get married we will go do the whole adoption thing and the termination of the fathers right. The biofather doesnt have a problem with that as long as he doesnt pay child support. but Im just concern about Not able to move with my child to where ever my husband to be is station at. The bio father hasnt been there for her for 2-3 years now, the husband to be has been there for her 1-2 years now. she calls my husband to be dad and everything. asking quesiton like a daughter would for any parent. Like where did dad go, i miss dad or I love you dad. she doesnt know the bio father due to the fact that he's never been therehe signed the papers BUT IT HASNT BEEN FINALIZE by court. YET due to me not knowing what to do and no money to get a lawyer more

Resolved Question: Adoption. China vs. South Korea?

We are considering adopting a child from either China or South Korea. Which one do you think is the better option and why? more

Resolved Question: Not being adopted from South Korea? Military?

okay i have a question. this country really doesn't like gay adoption or at least our "leaders". but if i was never adopted from korea. i'm 15 now, would i have gone into korea's military? more

Resolved Question: Do you think having an aunt who is adopted from the same country as you would be a good cultural influence?

I ask this because another user responded the question about Katherine Heigl's adoption of a Korean infant by saying "This lady also has an adopted sister who is Korean. So this baby will have a family member who is from her native land. Having a Korean sister is a big reason she wanted to adopt from there". Is this a positive thing? I personally don't really think it is. And I would probably be insulted if my sister decided to adopt from Korea since she knows how I feel about adoption. I don't think I would personally be a great cultural influence for a Korean child seeing as my Korean heritage was taken away from me as a child. I was interested in what other people think about this. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe that would help.ETA: Jennifer, the purpose of asking the question was really so I could get other perspectives because obviously as a KAD with strong opinions on the topic to begin with, my thoughts are farther to the other side of the spectrum than other people's might be. Monkeykitty, your point about the child not being the only KAD in the family is a good one. I never thought of that.ETA: The question also is really more about the types of CULTURAL influence the person could provide. Not so much a positive/negative influence, but more of a matter of culture and heritage. more

Resolved Question: can i bring my child with me to wherever my husband is station at?

I have a child from previous relationship, my husband will be station in Korea for couples years and he is taking me. My question is will my litle girl be able to go with us??. She is a step daughter to my husband. Her bio father had signed the Father's Involuntary of Parental Rights and appointed my husband to be his choice for future adoption of my little girl. Husband is in the United State AirForce more

Resolved Question: My little Brother was Adopted..?

In brief, My Mom had 4 kids and she ended up giving the 4th one, my little brother Bill for Adoption. The family that adopted him are super great and friendly, they also adopted two other children, One from Korea, and the other from China.We rarely see them since they live out of state, but i frequently call them. I have pictures up of all us at my desk at work and people always ask me who they are, sometimes it gets awkward explaining the entire situation(and it seems rude saying "That's my little brothers second family"). Would I be in the wrong or would it be weird to call the other 2 children in my brothers adopted family my brother and sister also? or call his new parents a second set? more

Resolved Question: Is adoption sad to people who aren't adopted?

Serious answers please. I'm adopted from South Korea and I'm one of the like very few kids who would like to learn Korean and go to Korea one day, the other kids don't want anything to do with Korea because they just really don't care. But sometimes it SEEMS (to me) like Koreans find it sad when I talk to them, they usually go "Oh...I'm sorry.." and then I feel like they talk about me. And usually from other people who aren't Korean are like, "Oh...are you sad?" I just want your opinions. more

Resolved Question: For couples to adopt, how long do you have to be married?

i know theres a time limit and it really depends on where you adopt from. I know for Korea its 5yr minimum. But what about for a U.S. adoption? more

Resolved Question: ok so this is confuzzing about adoption?

so my bff was adopted from korea to the usa and she was born on the 17 july in koria but seince korea is 1 day ahead of us she celibrates her b day on the 16th what would u do 16th or 17th more

Resolved Question: My adoption was open case but I need to find my mother in South Korea.?

I was adoped when I was 14 years old and My adoped parents live in Hawaii. I was very open about my wish to find my natual father and they are always been suppotive of my wish. So 7 years ago I found my father and a lot of my qustions were answer and even had chance to meet some of my cousins. Well, now I really pray and hope I can find my mother in South Korea. more

Resolved Question: Korean Adoption Protests?

in korea alot of children going into orphanages are from single mothers. adopted children and children without fathers experience many prejudices from what i've heard. alot of koreans protest international adoption, and i used to think that maybe international adoption should stop there so that the government would have no choice but to help single mothers and people would have to accept fatherless and adopted children, but why should all those children suffer just to bring a few people to realize that. from what i've heard its rare for a korean family living in korea to adopt a child unless they're not fertile. if they hate international adoption so much, why don;t they try harder to keep their children? why don;t they adopt all the kids so that then there are no children for us 'big fat rich' americans. it kinda pisses me off. does anyone else feel this way, or am i wrong? should americans stop going to everyone elses countries for their daughters and sons? does it really matter where the child comes from? isn't it still one less suffering child? isn't it one more happy family? as long as they love each other, does it really matter where they come from? also i was just wondering about others opinions. i've heard about people that adopt inter-racially sometimes get snide remarks on them or their children and also are judged a lot.i just wanted to clear up that i am all for international adoption. As long as it is one less suffering child I am happy. By mentioning "big fat rich americans" i was referring to a stereotype. I myself hope to adopt someday and don't want anyone to feel offended. I was just trying to get other peoples opinions on how they feel about people not doing anything for kids except protesting them being sent to another country. kind of like people who are against gay adoption, if they are against it why don't they adopt the child, thus preventing he/her from going to an gay couple? just as a side note, i am FOR gay adoption. if it was legal everywhere soo many children would have loving homes.its not americans that i heard the prejudice remarks come from prejudice remarks come from btw.its not americans that i heard the prejudice remarks come from prejudice remarks come from btw. more

Resolved Question: Adoption help please answer?

Ok I'm really confused about adoption I'm only 11 ( I know I have to wait 10 more years) but how much does it cost to get a newborn from either Korea or china, do you get to pick out your baby, do you get to name your baby, and how old does the baby have to be thanks more

Resolved Question: Is Korean Adoption still plausible?

I've heard that Korea is attempting to stop international adoption by the end of 2012. This quite saddens me as I've been hoping to adopt from Korea for some time and we are just about to meet all of the countries requirements. We have a stable military income, I'm about to turn 25, and almost rounding up on my 3rd year of marriage, and we were hoping to adopt a minor special needs/older child from Korea. If we began the paper chase in late 2010 or early 2011, do you think if would be feasible to complete an adoption with Korea? My main concern is being accepted into a program that shuts down, then we're left without a child and a large sum of money being gone. And if Korea does shut down completely, are there any other Asian countries we could apply to without having to wait five more years (when I turn 30). My family has been burned by US adoptions so I'm not willing to go through that myself. Thank you!I will not believe the notion that foster care children are the ones who need homes. In fact, I was told point blank that you DO NOT go into fostering to adopt and that the goal is to reunite children with their families. As far as being burned, yes someone took their baby "back" days before the BM went into labor. I am not the one to say which parents are better, and neither are you since you are not omnipotent! However, considering my Aunt gave that woman thousands of dollars for rent, health care, clothing, etc, because she wanted to take care of the child she was adopting, she was clearly scammed by this woman. A more distant relative also had major issues with their US adopted child and the BM hiring a private investigator to track them down 9 years after the CLOSED adoption! So no, I have no interest in getting into that seedy business. The "baby trafficing" AI fees are mostly ORPHANAGE DONATIONS! BTW, foster kids in the US live 1000x's better than most overseas orphans! more

Voting Question: Can a US soldier adopt a Korean child?

I am stationed in Korea and me and my wife were wondering if it is possible to adopt a Korean child. We were looking at adoption in the US. We already have a daughter who is very young. more

Resolved Question: People were not given a choice to live, I feel it's only right to be able to choose when to die.?

First I suppose i'll describe my situation so you can have a better understanding for those who share there thoughts which is appreciated. You can call me Jesse. I was adopted from Korea when I was very young. Brought to america and given to a caucasion family.Once my family adopted me thats when things got bad. The whole family was flipped upside down and things took a turn for the worse. I was raised by a mother who raised 3 kids on minimum wage and no child support. I never really had a positive outlook on life never had much friends, never had a girlfriend but yet When I was younger I never gave my adoption much thought, despite the obvious difference in ethnicity to my whole family generation. I always felt that I had a peace of mind with my adoption. That was until I hit 20..the thoughts of my whole adoption and the unanswered questions just started gaining my curiosity, and it increased with time. I figured it was just a phase and that it would go away. But it hasn't and it keeps getting worse. My mother cannot understand because she is on the -opposing- side of the situation and its hurts to not be able to have a conversation about it with her without an argument. As far as my birth mother goes..the woman I have never met but love more than anyone else in my life..I feel as if the goal of my life is to live out her mistake, the other goal is to satisfy the a-mother who gave me the "gift" of a "good" life. I have tried to make peace with this, I am almost 25 and have been thinking about suicide for the past 3 and half years. I looked into maybe seeking my birth mother to maybe solve the issue in my head..but when it comes to international adoptions the odds are just not in your favor. I feel as if my whole life is a joke. I have gave it much thought and when it comes down to it, this life is just not for me. I cant show affection, emotion, love, I cant even enjoy the good things in life..im not really sure why, it feels as if i've lost myself somewhere along the way and never have I felt closer to peace than this. I truly beleive that suicide is a reasonable solution if a life long burden has dampered your will to live. I beleive that there are some things in life that you just cant expect people to accept and altering there birth right is one of them. To be honest what im looking for here is a way to clear my mind so when I do make the big move I will be at peace with my decision. and im wondering if what is going through my mind isnt complete insanity for irrelevance. Please do share your thoughts. Is it alright to take my own life if I feel that my life is truly not worth living given the situation. more

Resolved Question: Centralized government leads to religion?

Do you guys think centralized governments generally lead to the adoption of religion (or the creation of religion, or the creation of personality cults, or any system that emphasizes faith over rationality etc...) among the nation's population? Highly centralized governments need a strong influence on the population so that citizens embrace authority rather than question it. It's logical for leaders to encourage religion (or any system that emphasizes faith over rationality, eg. Kim Jong Il's personality cult of North Korea), a system that emphasizes faith in a superior, to gain the unequivocal cooperation of the public. In effect, centralized governments want the public to be "less rational". more

Resolved Question: Is there a way for me to find my biological parents?

I know that I was born in Seoul, South Korea and obviously my birthday. I was adopted around two months after my birth. I don't know anything at all about my biological parents, my adoptive parents say that they don't know anything. I was wondering if there is possibly a way for me to find out who my biological parents are. I'm 16 now, almost 17, and I've been thinking about this for the past few years. It has been making me really sad that I have no idea who my real parents are, and where I really came from. I really want to know, because I feel so incomplete not knowing, and not knowing makes me depressed .I don't know if my adoption was open or closed, and I don't know what agency or anything my parents used to adopt me. My parents have always said that they don't know they names or anything of my real parents. So, is there a way to find out who they are? I really appreciate your help. more

Resolved Question: What is my political philosophy? Ex: Conservative, liberal, and then tell me what my political party is?

I am pro-life, but abortion is acceptable in cases of rape or health problems. Not incest. I strongly oppose gay marriage. For civil unions, gays should have all the rights entitled to them, except for adoption. I believe that anyone, with background checks, can own a gun and I oppose the assault weapons ban. I believe that there should be more pro bono health care, and the government should only do as much as give Americans tax breaks or tax credits on health care. I support the Patriot Act. I oppose torture and waterboarding. I support the Iraq, Pakistan, and any war we are having in the Middle East, and we should be at war with Iran, and keep a good eye on North Korea and what they do. I think prayer in schools should not be mandatory, but voluntary, and the Ten Commandments SHOULD be hung in schools. Flag burning should be illegal. We must build a border fence, and only LEGAL immigrants can enter. As for illegal immigrants, they will be deported, and as punishment shall never be given a chance at residency in the US. We should keep our presence at Guantanamo Bay. I oppose Affirmative Action. I don't think the Confederate flag should be held in public places, but could be hung on a person's home if they choose. I don't think anybody, from lower class to upper class should be taxed anything more or less. I support the flat tax concept. I support the death penalty for ANY murderer. (This is just me speaking. When people say only for heinous crimes, isn't murder always heinous?) I think we should spend more money and time on the armed forces. I think Social Security should be privatized. I support free trade, but try to but some restrictions on it. I support a two-state solution in Israel. We should drop out of the UN. A war should never begin under UN resolutions. I support the Iraq troop surge. -The first time I was able to vote, I voted in '92 for George Bush, then Clinton in '96 after I saw what he economically did for this country, then Bush in '00 which I regret, then Kerry in '04, then backed Mitt Romney in '08, and then went to McCain when it was down to him and Obama. more

Resolved Question: I have a question about a foreign exchange student and adoption?

ok so this year our school had an exchange student from south korea...its now getting near the end of the school year and he is going back to korea for the summer but wants to come back next year and stay in america so he can finish school and go to college. He says if he wants to stay here, a family must adopt him so i was just wondering if you guys know if this is legal. Can it be done cuz my family wants to adopt him so he doesn't have to go back, but we don't know if we can, he is a great person and i don't want him to leave =[...please help...thanks. more

Resolved Question: Why do people put thier children for adoption?

My friend is korea, she was given away when she was a new born baby, she was found in the frontsteps of an orphange. And she is 16 years old, she's looking for her parents, but my questions is ... why would her mom give her away? She asked her adoptive parents and her adoptive parent's told her that her mom left her a note saying that she loved her but that she had to give birth to a boy, and during her pregnancy she told her parents that she was going to have a boy, but it was just an excuse so she wouldn't abort the baby, who right now is my best friend. why don't they want baby girls? ahhh more

Resolved Question: do birth mothers ever think about their children that they gave up for adoption?

just wondering... i was adopted and i was adopted from korea.. so i was just wondering if anyone thinks my birth mom was thinking about me today.. more

Resolved Question: What country should I look into for adoption?

We're not really at the starting point but we've been talking about countries. I was just wondering what other people have experienced and personally recommend? This will mostly be in about 2 years so places like Korea where they're trying to severely limit/close down their programs won't work. I only want International recommendations. I think it's great when people adopt within the country but I'm too terrified of the birth mother taking the child back - it's just not for me. All advice appreciated. Thanks!ETA: I'm not infertile and object to the idea that a birth parent is always the better option for the kid. So no, I'm not going to adopt from here when even if they give their rights away they can take your kid back - no matter how many years it's been. And for your information Korea is shutting down it's programs not because it's corrupt but because there's been a shift in-country where they can place most of their kids with Korean families because the stigma that comes with it is diminishing. Get your facts straight before you accuse me of corruption.I don't want my own. I want to adopt. It may not be your choice but lay off. This is not a forum for you to decide my future. I was asking about international countries to adopt from - if you can't answer the question then don't post.Robin, Korea is no longer on that list and corruption can be found everywhere. Especially in this country. more

Resolved Question: Why are there so many babies from Asia up for adoption?

I was just wondering why there are so many babies in China and Korea up for adoption, is there something going on in their country? Also, why aren't Americans able to adopt them from birth, they adopt them when they are a few months old? I'm just curious I was watching "Bringing Home Baby" on TLC and there were a few episodes like that. more

Resolved Question: Would you agree with these moderate policies?

I think I'm a moderate. For both sides to be pleased we could put these policies in place. 1. Abolish 2nd and 3rd trimester abortions. 2. Gun control - very little. only ex-felons cannot own a firearm. No waiting period either but ex-cons caught with firearms can face up to a 20-year prison sentence. 3. Government funding for nuclear power and storage - I don't care what Repubs say, we gotta step away from coal and oil at some point. Nuclear is by far the best and does not produce too much waste. 4. Allow gay marriage, but deny gay adoption... good compromise 5. Follow the Constitution and NEVER go to war without it being declared war by congress. We would have never went to Vietnam or Iraq. I don't even think Korea was declared war. 6. Impose the fair tax which is rather progressive but many Republicans are advocates for it. 7. No more earmarks!!!! Obama and John McCain both campaigned on it.... good compromiseThe fair tax is progressive because you are basically lifting the tax burden completely off the poor. The government will send checks to cover a family's spending up to the poverty level. Its a national sales tax and no other taxes. more

Resolved Question: Adoption in South Korea?

I have a friend who was born in South Korea, and was adopted out. He currently lives with them still, here in Australia. However, his adoptive parents fight alot, and he also sometimes wonders about his real mother. My question is, in South Korea is it illegal to locate your biological mother? At the time, she was young and single when she had him.. But, he says that he's unable to look for her because it's against the law. What are the rules concerning adoption etc in South Korea? Thanks. Peace. more

Voting Question: Can you rephrase this?

I'm doing a presentation and I want to use these phrases in a more casual way (the presentation is for teenagers)...but not too casual.. 1.) Your support will provide basic needs and make it possible for your child to be in a secure, stable environment that offers love, care, and mental and physical stimulation. 2.) Social workers oversee the care of each child in Holt’s program, making regular monitoring visits and working with the child’s birth family to stabilize the home situation so the child can return to the family, if possible. 3.)When complex circumstances cause birth parents to relinquish their child for adoption, Holt-Korea places that baby into the loving arms of a foster family. The child thrives in the foster home receiving individual care until joining a permanent family. While in care, Min-Seo & Seong-Hun will receive regular well-baby exams and specialized medical attention as needed. thanks =Dactually Min-Seo & seong-hun are the names of the babies. In Holt International adoption centers more

Resolved Question: What would YOU have said to her...?

I am a speech therapist at a public school. Today I went into a classroom to work with one of my students who has special needs and has a nurse assigned to him while he is at school. The nurse recognized me from a Parent Night we attended several months ago and reintroduced herself as the mom of the kids I babysat that night. She has 2 kids who are five months apart in age...a girl adopted from China and boy adopted from Colorado (I'm assuming from foster care but I could be wrong). She started telling me the story of the two children (apparently she and her husband were turned down for adoption in Korea because they were over 45 at the time they wanted to adopt) and went into some detail which I was really uncomfortable with. For example, she told me her son's "birth father" (her words, NOT mine!) is a habitual drug user. I wanted to tell her that that is her son's story, not hers, and she shouldn't be sharing it, but I kept my mouth shut. She then went on to tell me that her son's "birth father" had the NERVE to try to fight her and her husband for the little boy. She said it cost her $33,000 to fight him. Once when referring to the boy's fdad she said, "...his dad. No, his birth father. He already HAS a dad." It was quite clear that this woman has no respect at all for her son's fparents (I have no idea how she feels about her daughter's fparents as we didn't talk about the little girl). I shudder to think of what she's telling these kids about their origins and though I am known as someone who talks A LOT, I could barely speak, I was so shocked at her lack of knowledge and poor attitude. This is someone I have to work with as we 'share' a student and it could make thing difficult if I get into an argument with her. Besides, I am SUPPOSED to be working with a child while she's telling me all this, so I tried not to engage too much so I could focus on my student. What would YOU have said to her if she'd spouted off this way in front of you? I am used to people asking stupid questions or having a lack of knowledge about adoption if they're not involved with adoption in some way, but this woman is an adoptive mother of TWO! I know I will see her again so if I get any great suggestions, I'll be happy to use them. Thanks so much! AP - foster careGood, positive answers so far...thanks. I forgot to mention that the nurse told me that the little boy had only been living with her for a month when his fdad tried to fight them for custody! She seemed outraged by this ("Can you imagine? We'd already had him for a MONTH!"), but all I could think was, "a month? Big deal! He wasn't even bonded with you yet!"Durdens: sorry. fdad means "first dad." The child's biological father. I should have clarified. Also, this woman paid her lawyer $33,000 to fight the boy's biological father for custody. She didn't pay that much to adopt the child. more

Resolved Question: has your adopted child/children ever had mental/emotional issues after getting adopted?

i have a 15 year old son that i adopted from south korea about 2 years ago. he is extremely quiet, antisocial, and even cold with both me and my husband. its not even like he gives us attitude.. he just doesnt respond to us hardly at all. it has me really worried has a child you ever adopted suffered with mental problems or problems with being withdrawn? particularly international adoptions? have you ever tried to get your child any sort of therapy? and if so where would you suggest looking/starting to look.. thank you so muchoh i forgot to add i found some weird writing that my son wrote, some in korean and some in english. its not like poetry but just ramblings like 'no more of this' and 'im tired of being here'. and 'i cant breathe' which was really frightening. i cant read korean but it was mostly in korean. this is kind of unrelated but have you ever discovered your teenagers poetry/depressing writing? it was creepy and really shocked me. i dont know whats wrong with him am i over worrying? i hope this doesnt mean im a bad mom.. more

Resolved Question: my adopted 15 year old son is withdrawn, antisocial and extremely quiet. i really need some advice/help? long.?

okay to begin. sorry if this is really long but im at wits end i decided to adopt a son a little less then two years ago. my husband and i decided to do an international adoption and we adopted a boy from south korea through a religious organization. we had aimed for a younger boy, an infant to 5 years old, but i seen this 13 year old boy and instantly fell in love with him. he was quiet from the beginning but we assumed that he'd warm up once he got adjusted. well now its two years later, he speaks great english (if he'd speak more), goes to school, and knows our entire family.. but we still have problems at the time we didnt have kids, but now we have a beautiful daughter who is about 5 months old now. she is doing fine but our son (whos name is chin) never adjusted. he refuses to get to know our daughter, he ignores my husband and our family (we have a big family who is really close). he comes home from school and instantly goes to his room to be on the computer or sleep. he does well with grades in school but he doesnt have any friends and doesnt talk with the teachers. he doesnt like eating dinner with us or going out anywhere with us. its gotten so bad that often times when i ask him questions, he'll ignore me or just stare at me. we have never clicked like i had hoped we would. he seemed like such a gorgeous and sweet young boy when we adopted him but now hes so antisocial that i worry about his mental state. itd be better even if he'd talk back to me or give me an attitude but he acts so empty he doesnt seem happy at all and its worrying. he even went to the huge christmas party my family and i have every year but spend the entire time sitting outside, by himself for three hours. i really dont want this to be one of those 'failed adoption' stories. i really love him so much, but the anxiety of worrying about him is upsetting our entire family. im really worried that ill have to commit him to some psychological clinic, get him therapy or even worse. like i said i dont want this to be one of those failed adoption stories. he is after all, my son. even if i didnt give birth to him, we're not of the same ethnicity, we're not from the same country.. i still love him. we are a very tight, loving family and hes a very handsome, intelligent young boy. i dont understand whats wrong or why hes so sad please please give me some advice. im really lost and dont know what to do anymore. more

Resolved Question: Finding My birth parents?

I am 14 years of age, and am i female. I always knew that i was adopted and my brother too. I often think of why I was put up for adoption, was my "real" mom too young, didn't want me, i wasn't good enough, whatever the reason is I want to know. I can't do a lot right now because i'm not that old, but I really want to find them. I was born in Seoul, South Korea and was adopted at 4 months of age. more

Resolved Question: Is being a homeless, drug addicted prostitute in America less tragic?

than being a homeless, drug addicted prostitute in another country? Is it easier to be homeless, drug addicted, selling your body for food, drugs, shelter in America? Is it somehow less tragic to end up a homeless, poor, drug addicted, prostitute in America? Is it because America's streets are paved, while many other countries have dirt roads? Is it less cold in the winter in Minnesota, New York, Illinois, Washington, Idaho than it is in China, Russia, India, Vietnam, Korea, Guatemala, Mexico, S. Africa? Is poverty "better" in America than it is in other countries? I'm just wondering since this is a main argument in support of IA. Though I'm not opposed to all IA, the US Govt's issues Adoption Alerts to caution American citizens about adopting from certain countries b/c of fraud, trafficking, etc. http://adoption.state.gov/news/notices.html So please enlighten me, is it because poverty is worse in other countries that we should adopt internationally rather than adopting from foster care in spite of the stats on children who age out of foster care? "In a study of children who had “aged out” of foster care, researchers found that within 12 to 18 months of turning 18 & leaving foster care, 27% of males & 10% of females were incarcerated, 50% were unemployed, 37% had not finished high school, 33% received public assistance, & 19% of females had given birth to children." http://www.achildswaiting.com/adoptive_p...Thanks everyone for your input. RB. I appreciate your points & agree:stats are worse:the poverty more desperate:the opportunities fewer. LT & ABR1: Thanks for adding your voices. IT MATTERS GREATLY to hear what you have to say! MamaKate: Thanks for sharing your POV. I totally agree! IndianVision: Grateful 2/u for joining in! You & other IA'ees especially have an important voice in the discussion! Glad you're here! Angela:Y assume I don't do research? I've traveled to other countries too. What is the point of asking Qs? These Qs & the dialogue created-whether or not we agree-lead to research & to sharing our knowledge & experience. Take 1 child out & how many 100's of 1,000's are left behind? It solves nothing for those kids. Unhealthy kids won't likely be adopted. $30-$50k would take care of kids in an orphanage 4/perhaps a year? In SOME IA there is "baby buying" or child trafficking per the US Govt. Tho certainly not ALL IA. http://adoption.state.gov/news/notices.htmlETA:IV - As MK wrote, "true charity is not supposed to come with tangible benefits to the "donor"..."what can I do to help in the most effective and beneficial way FOR THE CHILD." It's somewhat disingenuous to argue that "I'm only saving a child in terrible poverty" yet do nothing but take 1 child home b/c really, all the PAP wanted to do in the 1st place was adopt a child. (this does not apply to all IAP's, incl. RB) When really some PAP desperately want to adopt a baby, any baby, especially one that doesn't come with ties to their birth families. I've heard those actual words come out of PAP's/AP's mouths. This does not negate YOUR experience. This does not mean there should be no IA from any country. Many AP's do adopt for the right reasons. I'm saying be honest and I'm saying that no life has less value. And while LT may have been an adult @ 18, as a female, she could no more protect herself from rape or assault by a grown man or group of men on the str. than a young girl can. more

Resolved Question: Any countries that adopt children to under 30 and not married for 3 years? ?

Husband and I married last year. He's 28, I'm 27. We are ready to start a family but are finding in the adoption process we can't adopt because of these two factors. USA= over 30 China = over 30 India = married for 3 yrs Korea = married for 3 yrs Anybody know what countries we can adopt from and can let an agency know we are interested? more

Resolved Question: Adoption Sadness and Loneliness ?

I'm 16 years old, I was adopted from South Korea at a very young age, I don't have much information about my birth parents, but I know they were young. I've never really been open about this, but it makes me sad when I think about my birthparents. I wonder if they miss me sometimes, and sometimes I just want to cry, but I feel like my parents won't like it. It's affecting everything I do, including school, I can't even work anymore. I just don't know what to do, I just want to explode, I just wish I wasn't adopted, I know this is awful, I feel so alone. Now I'm rambling, but if there are any parents who put their kids for adoption, do you think about them? And any kids who are adopted, do you share some of my woes?I cannot thank you all enough for all of your advice. I have talked to my parents now, and I am going to join a network with other adoptees. These types of replies make me feel great, and reassure that there is good people in this world. Thank you all so much. I wish you all the best, and you can know that you have helped me out more than you can imagine... more

Resolved Question: Care to play a baby name game!?

1) After being married since you were 21 you and your spouse decide to adopt a baby (you're 25). The adoption is successful and you have a beautiful new 6 moth old daughter from Korea. 2) A year later you adopt a six month old son from Korea. He takes to his older sister quickly and is definitely a mommy's boy. 3) Two years later you decide to try for a biological baby. After a year of trying with some difficulty you go to a fertility specialist and get pregnant with the assistance of fertility drugs. You have an adorable baby boy with light brown hair and blue eyes. 4) Still not feeling like your family is complete two years later you go back to the fertility specialist. You get pregnant, but unfortunately miscarry at 21 weeks. The baby would have been a girl. You name her with her middle name being Angel. 5) A year later you finally feel you are ready to try once more for another baby. This time it is much more difficult to get pregnant. It takes two years to conceive, but it was worth the wait. You give birth to quintuplets! Three girls and two boys, and one of the girl's middle name is your miscarried daughter's first name. So you have an eight year old daughter, a seven year old son, a five year old son, an "angel baby" who would have been one, and newborn quintuplets. more

Resolved Question: Yay! It's A Baby Name Game!!?

I love this idea so I'm gonna try my hand at it. 1: At the tender age of 20 you're in your last year of college and are engaged to be married to a wonderful and supporting man. Life is going good for you and you're about to start a new job in the journalism field! When the phone rings you eagerly answer, but it's not the call you're expecting... Your fiance rushes to your side as you erupt into tears, your mother was in a car accident and pronounced dead at the scene. After much consideration and support from your family you decide that your marriage will take place as planned, on your wedding night you conceive your first child, a baby girl. And in naming her you both decide to honor your mother, what's this miracle's name? 2: Three years after your daughter is born you and your husband are happily married and comfortable with where you are in life. You begin trying for a baby, and eight months later, days before your daughter's fourth birthday you find out you're pregnant with fraternal boy/girl twins. When they arrive the little girl has a hole in her heart, and is barely alive, while your little boy is small but healthy. After months in the hospital and two surgeories, your daughter accompanies you home to join the family. The doctor tells you that if your son and daughter had not switched positions with one another in the womb during your second trimester your little girl's organs wouldn't have developed enough to enable her to live. Knowing this, what do you name your little blessings? 3: Two years after the twins arrive you and your husband are ready to try for just one more baby but after a few rounds of in vetro the doctor tells you that it may just not be in the cards for you. Immediately upon hearing this you put yourselves on an adoption list, the next year, you welcome home a baby boy from Korea with dark brown eyes, hair to match, and warm, charming features. What do you name this little one? 4: Happy with four lovely children now aged 7, 3, and 14 months you and your husband decide to settle down and even move a little closer to his side of the family. After a few months in your new home you and your family make fast friends with many of your neighbors so when your best friend, a struggling young woman, aspiring to be a teacher like yourself, asks you to help name her child, you're honored beyond words. She tells you that she loves your taste and would like you to pick something that you feel suits the baby when it's born. The little girl arrives as the picture of perfection with soft, feminine features, wispy white-blonde curls, big blue eyes and a fighting spirit, what's this little cutie's name? Hope you had fun :) more