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Right time to end ‘don’t ask’ - Boston Globe

AS PRESIDENT Obama began the process this week of lifting the “don’t ask, don’t tell’’ policy, his critics quickly trotted out a timeworn argument against letting gays and lesbians serve openly in the military: that changing the policy is ...

Exhibits: Art Windows of El Paso Airport Gallery - El Paso Times

"Warhol & Pop Art," works by Andy Warhol, Warhol's photographer Billy Name, and Robert Rauschenberg, Jim Dine and Roy Lichtenstein, opens today and continues through April 3 at the Las Cruces Museum of Art, 491 N. Main in Las Cruces. 575-541-2137 ...

The Status of the U.S.-Korea Relationship in 2010 - The Heritage Foundation

Abstract: South Korea is a stalwart U.S. ally that has long been overshadowed by Washington's repeated references to Japan as the "cornerstone" of U.S. security in Asia. Growing strains in the U.S.-Japanese alliance following the Democratic Party of ...

Hawaiian Holdings Reports 2009 Fourth Quarter and Year-End Financial ... - Stockhouse

Hawaiian Holdings, Inc. (Nasdaq: HA) ("Holdings" or the "Company"), parent company of Hawaiian Airlines, Inc. ("Hawaiian"), today reported consolidated net income for the three months ended December 31, 2009 of $35.0 million, or $0.66 per diluted ...

Everything That's Happened on Lost So Far, Just from Memory - Gawker

Lost is so confusing! But not that confusing. Here I will try to write, from memory without using any wikis, fan sites or Google, everything important that's happened on the show up to tonight's final-season premiere. Wish me luck. A guy named Jack ...

AP News in Brief - CNBC

WASHINGTON (AP) — President Barack Obama is sending Congress a $3.8 trillion budget on Monday that will increase spending in the fight against high unemployment, boost taxes on the wealthy and freeze spending for a number of government programs ...

Daily Press Briefing - U.S. Department of State

Not true that sanctions have been prepared or drafted; U.S. working to develop our ideas on how to proceed on the pressure track…but process will take some time to develop Concerning Senate vote on Iran sanctions, the goal remains to change Iran's ...

Samsung Packs Bluetooth 3.0 in GT-S8500 - Softpedia

Bluetooth 3.0 is the latest version of the very popular connectivity option, especially popular when mobile phones are involved, and it seems that the standard has been finally included in one handset that should come to the market in the not too ...

Analyst: Silverlight still needs more developers - Zd Net Asia.com

... response to ZDNet Asia, some 500,000 developers worldwide have tried or adopted Silverlight. Touting Silverlight's developer controls, Quek highlighted examples of Web sites using the platform's capabilities: Korean Web portal, NHN Naver ...

Trina Wants To Adopt Haitian Orphan - The Gaea Times

Rapper TRINA is considering adopting an orphaned child from Haiti - after the country’s devastating earthquake on 12 January (10) made her realise how “blessed” she is. The Here We Go hitmaker, real name Katrina Taylor, is desperate to make a ...

Resolved Question: world history.. some questions about japan.. i need some help!!?

1. In the early years of feudal Japan, what role did the samurai play? A. They managed the business affairs of large estates for shogun. B. They wrote new forms of poetry called haiku. C. They participated in kabuki plays in the theater. D. They were professional warriors, hired by landowners for protection. 2. What change occurred in Japan’s government in 1192? A. Samurai forces killed the emperor and became the ruling council in Japan. B. The emperor went from being the ruler to a figurehead and a shogun ruled, creating the Kamakura Shogunate. C. Daimyos rebelled against the emperor and took over the government. D. Mongol invaders entered Japan and became the new rulers. 3. What happened to the samurai during the Tokugawa Shogunate? A. Many became farmers because the prevailing peace meant their services were in less demand. B. They gained greater status than they previously had in Japanese society. C. Most of them committed seppuku after the Yi dynasty was defeated. D. Women were allowed to become samurai for the first time. 4. Christian missionary activity in Japan resulted in A. few conversions and little interest from Japanese people or the government. B. the conversion of many Japanese and later government persecution of Christians and missionaries. C. the adoption of Christianity as the official state religion. D. a new era of religious tolerance. 5. Which of the following shows the correct order of ranking in Japanese society of the listed groups of people, from highest to lowest? A. Samurai, shogun, daimyo B. Merchants, shogun, artisans C. Daimyo, shogun, peasants D. Peasants, artisans, merchants 6. When the Choson kingdom took control of Korea, what type of government was created? A. One that followed the new concept of democracy B. A government that favored the Manchu over the Korean people. C. One founded on Confucian principles D. A government that was based on the feudal system 7. Korea prospered under the Choson dynasty and produced many new cultural achievements, including A. haiku. B. an alphabet. C. kabuki. D. taekwondo. 8. What kept the Japanese from defeating the Koreans during invasions in the late 1500s? A. Turtle ships equipped with cannons B. The Great Wall C. Highly-trained samurai forces D. The invasion of Japan by China 9. As a result of invasions from Japan, what happened to the government in Korea? A. The government collapsed and the Japanese ruled the country. B. Choson kings began to isolate Korea from the rest of the world. C. The Korean government decided to create a standing army of trained warriors like the samurai. D. The Yi dynasty took over the Korean government. 10. What happened to Korea in the 1640s? A. Foreign trade began to increase as the Korean government reopened its ports. B. The Black Death reached Korean shores, killing one half of the country’s population. C. It became a vassal state to the Chinese Qing dynasty. D. The country became its own independent state, after previously being annexed by Japan. more

Resolved Question: world history,, i need help!!!!?

Resolved Question: My dad looks Japanese and he is Korean does that mean he has japanese in him?

My dad was adopted from Seoul, South Korea and he claims to be full Korean but he looks Japanese. My asian friends and parents say they see Japanese in him and ME! But his adoption papers are in Korean and I don't understand it. Do you think he has japanese in him? Someday i want to find his acutal parents unless they're already dead... more

Resolved Question: adoption for Korean babies.?

i wonder why Korean babies are the most expensive ones to adopt. why is that? more

Resolved Question: Do you think having an aunt who is adopted from the same country as you would be a good cultural influence?

I ask this because another user responded the question about Katherine Heigl's adoption of a Korean infant by saying "This lady also has an adopted sister who is Korean. So this baby will have a family member who is from her native land. Having a Korean sister is a big reason she wanted to adopt from there". Is this a positive thing? I personally don't really think it is. And I would probably be insulted if my sister decided to adopt from Korea since she knows how I feel about adoption. I don't think I would personally be a great cultural influence for a Korean child seeing as my Korean heritage was taken away from me as a child. I was interested in what other people think about this. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe that would help.ETA: Jennifer, the purpose of asking the question was really so I could get other perspectives because obviously as a KAD with strong opinions on the topic to begin with, my thoughts are farther to the other side of the spectrum than other people's might be. Monkeykitty, your point about the child not being the only KAD in the family is a good one. I never thought of that.ETA: The question also is really more about the types of CULTURAL influence the person could provide. Not so much a positive/negative influence, but more of a matter of culture and heritage. more

Resolved Question: My parents became naturalized US citizens. What about me?

According to the Child Citizenship Act of 2000, it says children of naturalized parents automatically become US citizens. However, the USCA's site says this: Children who acquire citizenship under this new provision do not acquire citizenship automatically. They must apply to the Bureau of Citizenship and Immigration Services in the Department of Homeland Security (USCIS) and go through the naturalization process. Currently, I’m still a minor and I got my official US passport several months ago but I never went through any naturalization process. My parents, however, did go through naturalization and they even have their certificate of US citizenship (which I do not have). I’m totally confused, am I a US citizen or not? If I am, does that make me an unnaturalized US citizen? I do NOT want to be recognized as a Korean citizen!!!! I want to be a legal and official US citizen!!!!!! Here's my source: http://adoption.state.gov/pdf/FAQs_Child%20Citizenship%20Act%20of%202000.pdf So what does this mean? Am I a unnaturalized or naturalized US citizen? Do I have to go through naturalization process? I lived in the US for almost 13 years.I still have not got my answer to my question. Am I considered a naturalized citizen or not? more

Resolved Question: Is adoption sad to people who aren't adopted?

Serious answers please. I'm adopted from South Korea and I'm one of the like very few kids who would like to learn Korean and go to Korea one day, the other kids don't want anything to do with Korea because they just really don't care. But sometimes it SEEMS (to me) like Koreans find it sad when I talk to them, they usually go "Oh...I'm sorry.." and then I feel like they talk about me. And usually from other people who aren't Korean are like, "Oh...are you sad?" I just want your opinions. more

Resolved Question: Korean Adoption Protests?

in korea alot of children going into orphanages are from single mothers. adopted children and children without fathers experience many prejudices from what i've heard. alot of koreans protest international adoption, and i used to think that maybe international adoption should stop there so that the government would have no choice but to help single mothers and people would have to accept fatherless and adopted children, but why should all those children suffer just to bring a few people to realize that. from what i've heard its rare for a korean family living in korea to adopt a child unless they're not fertile. if they hate international adoption so much, why don;t they try harder to keep their children? why don;t they adopt all the kids so that then there are no children for us 'big fat rich' americans. it kinda pisses me off. does anyone else feel this way, or am i wrong? should americans stop going to everyone elses countries for their daughters and sons? does it really matter where the child comes from? isn't it still one less suffering child? isn't it one more happy family? as long as they love each other, does it really matter where they come from? also i was just wondering about others opinions. i've heard about people that adopt inter-racially sometimes get snide remarks on them or their children and also are judged a lot.i just wanted to clear up that i am all for international adoption. As long as it is one less suffering child I am happy. By mentioning "big fat rich americans" i was referring to a stereotype. I myself hope to adopt someday and don't want anyone to feel offended. I was just trying to get other peoples opinions on how they feel about people not doing anything for kids except protesting them being sent to another country. kind of like people who are against gay adoption, if they are against it why don't they adopt the child, thus preventing he/her from going to an gay couple? just as a side note, i am FOR gay adoption. if it was legal everywhere soo many children would have loving homes.its not americans that i heard the prejudice remarks come from prejudice remarks come from btw.its not americans that i heard the prejudice remarks come from prejudice remarks come from btw. more

Resolved Question: Is Korean Adoption still plausible?

I've heard that Korea is attempting to stop international adoption by the end of 2012. This quite saddens me as I've been hoping to adopt from Korea for some time and we are just about to meet all of the countries requirements. We have a stable military income, I'm about to turn 25, and almost rounding up on my 3rd year of marriage, and we were hoping to adopt a minor special needs/older child from Korea. If we began the paper chase in late 2010 or early 2011, do you think if would be feasible to complete an adoption with Korea? My main concern is being accepted into a program that shuts down, then we're left without a child and a large sum of money being gone. And if Korea does shut down completely, are there any other Asian countries we could apply to without having to wait five more years (when I turn 30). My family has been burned by US adoptions so I'm not willing to go through that myself. Thank you!I will not believe the notion that foster care children are the ones who need homes. In fact, I was told point blank that you DO NOT go into fostering to adopt and that the goal is to reunite children with their families. As far as being burned, yes someone took their baby "back" days before the BM went into labor. I am not the one to say which parents are better, and neither are you since you are not omnipotent! However, considering my Aunt gave that woman thousands of dollars for rent, health care, clothing, etc, because she wanted to take care of the child she was adopting, she was clearly scammed by this woman. A more distant relative also had major issues with their US adopted child and the BM hiring a private investigator to track them down 9 years after the CLOSED adoption! So no, I have no interest in getting into that seedy business. The "baby trafficing" AI fees are mostly ORPHANAGE DONATIONS! BTW, foster kids in the US live 1000x's better than most overseas orphans! more

Resolved Question: On an income of $48,500, would we be able to adopt internationally?

My husband works and I stay at home with our son. We meet the Korean qualifications, we just want to make sure we can afford the fees to adopt. After looking at our budget, we can afford to live comfortably with two children (and ourselves)... it's the adoption cost that is worrying us. We are familiar with the tax credit, but seeing as it only comes after the adoption we do not want to rely on it. We also do not believe in taking out an adoption loan - who really wants to "owe" on their child. Any advice would be welcome too!Just calling a spade, a spade. No matter where you choose to adopt, domestic or foreign, there is a fee! Families who want to give a child a wonderful and loving and nurturing home must pay that fee! We would love to give a child a loving forever home, but are wanting to make sure we can afford the adoption fees - so that we may be able to give a child a wonderful life! I am sorry if you think everyone should adopt domestically, but the tax credit is there for both types - and if that means that it makes it a little easier for us to add another joyful child to our home then so be it. Try dealing with not being able to do it the "old fashioned way" and then come back and answer. Sorry, had to get that off my chest.Of Asian decent. Which is the reason for my inquiry.Not a troll. I am changing the name because I am not sure what user name I want to use. Apparently all of them make you upset. more

Voting Question: Can a US soldier adopt a Korean child?

I am stationed in Korea and me and my wife were wondering if it is possible to adopt a Korean child. We were looking at adoption in the US. We already have a daughter who is very young. more

Resolved Question: How do I put myself up for adoption, i am 13?

Please don't give this crap about talk to your parents are go to a counsler. My parents are divorced and i hate my mom while my dad is abusive. I freakin hate Korean culture. I asked my mom if she can put me up for adoption and she said sure but you have to do it yourself in a pissy voice like she thinks i was bluffing. So is there a rule or something to adoption?to miss 7 inch heals, what are these legal papers? I dont really know much about adoption since i thought every family was like mine until i found out half the stuff she does to me i could call childrens aid for but where can i get the papers and stuff?Crap dude im not smart enough to do all that emancipation stuff.to mrs. pink, i would love to forget everything i remember. Also when i said my dad was abusive i meant that please dont intend me to go live with my dad.So i tried the "talk to your mom" crap that people had said to do. I think it was the worst move of my life..... She got all pissed off and said "you said u wanted to be adopted so your getting adopted either way!" Gosh i hate my mom more

Resolved Question: I am a korean adoptee. my parents want me to go to an asian family festival w/them. how do i say no?

I'm a korean adoptee and i have a lot of issues with my adoption not trying to be ungrateful to my wonderful parents or anything, but they want me to go to this thing for asian families or something. (they are white by the by) I dont think i can stand to be around so many asian people at once. idk why it's jsut terrifying. my dad is so insistant that i go even though he knows i dont want to. what can i say? more

Resolved Question: I am a korean adoptee. parents trying to get me to go to an asian family festival. How do i tell them no?

Resolved Question: How did the Korean War affect adoption?

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Resolved Question: Really Funny or Really Hurtful Comments?

As a member of the adoption community, what are some really funny or really hurtful questions that have been posed to you? For example- Funny- As an AP, I was asked if my korean son would speak english when he grows up. Hurtful- As an adoptee, I hated it when people would ask me about my real mom, implying my mom wasnt real, or didnt really love me, or didnt really earn the term mother the hard way. My mom also happened to be black (jamaican), and my dad white. I used to hate getting asked why I didnt get adopted by a white family, like that matters. Stuff like that...peace out to my fellow adoptees :)-I am NOT a troll? Yes, it was funny to me when that question was asked to me in a supermarket. How silly of an adult lady to ask that question. SOrry you felt that was trollish...jeez. Not as self actualized as we claim are we?And being a fellow TRA, some of us maintained a sense of humor.... more

Resolved Question: What are some reasons babies from Korea are put up for adoption?

I just found out from my parents that I am adopted from S. Korea. My whole 25 years I believed my parents were my biological parents (my mom is Korean and my dad is American). People have told me I look mixed, while others have told me I don't. I was born in 1983 and my mom tells me that my birth mother left me on somebody's doorstep, which is what the adoption agency told them, I'm guessing. I would just like to know what some reasons are for me being put up for adoption, like maybe I am biracial and that is a reason, or my birth mom was poor, etc. I have no way of knowing who my birth parents are, but I am just curious as to where I came from. Just getting some ideas... more

Resolved Question: Moms who have adopted, what would you say to...?

Imagine this. You have adopted a little girl from Korea whose parents were unable to parent her due to financial difficulties. They took care of her for the first few months after she was born. However they ended up placing her for adoption. The adoption files clearly indicate they were not neglectful or abusive in any way, and the agency has relayed the message that they loved her deeply and were very sorry that they were unable to be her parents in the future. You have their names, their birthdates, their residence, everything that could be used as identifying info should their daughter decide to search and initiate contact as an adult. You raise their daughter as your own. She laughs, she smiles, she is as carefree and happy as any child could possibly be and does not seem to care in the least about being from Korea. As far as she's concerned, her ONLY family is you and your husband and any siblings she may have in her adoptive family. She asks about her relinquishment once or twice as a young child and is satisfied with the answers you provide. You tell her that since they could not take care of her, you felt that God chose YOU to be her rightful parents. You say how blessed you are to have her as your daughter and that God knew you guys were the perfect family. Things worked out the way they did for a reason. You are always honest with her and she is completely honest with you and very open about her adoption feelings. One day in her late twenties, she suddenly tells you she's decided to search for her biological parents. Even though she desires no ongoing contact with them, she says she feels they should know she turned out a happy woman with a good job and family. She manages to make contact with them and her perspective drastically changes months after she hears from them. She cannot communicate in Korean but has a translator write letters. All of a sudden she comes to you one day and says to you, "Mom? Do you really think it was Fate that we became a family?" You say, "Of *course*! I mean, they were your parents first, BUT since they couldn't take proper care of you due to financial difficulties, your father and I feel that God chose us to be your parents. He knew we would be the perfect parents for you." And then she says, "Well. Does that mean my parents were fated to 'not' raise me? Were they 'fated' to have financial difficulties JUST so you could adopt me?" You are shocked at her question, and immediately respond, "No, of course not! I don't believe any mother was 'Fated' to have financial difficulties. But sometimes these things just happened, and good things come out of it. Like me being your mom. I feel sad for your Korean mother, but if she had parented you, *I* wouldn't have been your mom and that makes me very sad. Sometimes these unfortunate things just happen." She looks conflicted for a moment, and then asks, "Yes, but if my Korean mom and dad *hadn't* had financial difficulties, you and Dad would have NEVER had me as your daughter." What is your response?Annabelle: Absolutely. I mean, we shouldn't be GLAD that little kids are abused JUST so they can go to foster care and be adopted. Sure, they ended up in better families - but what "Fate" dictates that they should have been abused to begin with, resulting in their adoptions? more

Resolved Question: Is it more important for an adopted child to grow up in their birth country, or know the truth of their adopti?

We adopted our children from Korea. The Korean government takes measures to find a Korean adoptive family first before the child is allowed to to be adopted internationally. Although I realize the benifits of this, I also have found that because of cultural attitudes, most adoptions by Korean citizens are kept completely secret- meaning the child and others are never told of the adoption. So, what I'm wondering is if being raised by the first-parents is not an option, is it better fior the child to be adopted by a Korean family, raised, within their culture, but never told the truth, or us it better to be aopted internationally, as long as the adoptive parents keep the child connected to their birth culture as much as posible, so that the adoptee can know the truth of their adoption, and have the possibilit of one day reuniting with their first- mother.independent- We were first told about most adoptions in Korea being secret by our social worker, so I asked a few people I know that are from Korea, including a man whose mother use to work for an adoption agency there, and they said that the child would usually not be told. One friend explained that part of the reason is that there's a such a stigma about being an "illegitamate child", and importance put on the family blood line that they probably think they are protecting the child. She also said that her parents would have NEVER allowed her to marry someone who was adopted or born to a single mom. Here are a few articles about it, I promise, I didn't just make this up for the sake of arguement. http://mpak.com/WhySecretAdoption.htm#WhySecret http://www.seoulselection.com/streetwise_read.html?cid=1648 more

Resolved Question: Adoptees-Does it annoy you when other adoptees are so bitter and ungrateful?

Personally I am really glad I was adopted. I would not have a had any opportunites to succeed and have a good life had I been raised in a Korean orphanage. What my life would have been like had my birth mother not made the decision to leave me there when she did is very scary to me. I feel like I have really been blessed to have been adopted and brought to the United States as a baby. Even though I did not have the smoothest childhood ever I grew up to appreciate the fact that I had two parents who loved me and did the best they could for me. My parents always raised me to believe that I was special because I was adopted, that I was chosen. And you know what? I still believe that. When I was a little kid people would see me and my mom and say "Is that your real mom?" and I would hate it. To me my "real" mom is the one who has taken care of me, who taught me to walk and talk, fed me, wiped me, dressed me, stressed over me when I was a teenager, has gray hairs because of me. I hate it when people are so negative about adoption, saying it ruined their lives and stuff like that. I understand the pain of being abandoned, but eventually you need to move on and start accepting that and getting over it. I was abandoned too (literally left on the doorstep of the orphanage by my BM) yet I do not dwell on that, instead focusing on the gratitude that I feel for having been adopted. To those who wish to play the victim "I was abandoned" card: Do you really think your life would have been better if your birth parents had not given you up for adoption? Even if they were in terrible circumstances or did not want you? And to the adoptive parents: Wouldn't that hurt you if your child constantly focused on the negative (being abandoned) instead of something so wonderful and positive (being adopted) And finally to adoptees who are grateful they are adopted: Does it annoy you too when you hear how negative other adoptees are about adoption? It really makes me sad. It is really pathetic and annoying to me when people say that more

Resolved Question: my speech...? plz tell me what you think.?

plz tell me what you think and any constructive critizism would be grately appreciated. thanks oh btw im 12. and if i need to change/remove/add anything please tell me! thanks. Hi, Well some of might or might not know that im adopted. Well Ill tell you just how that came about. Well in the year of 1996 I was born. I was born in Fiji. My birth father left my birth mother when he found Out she was Pregnant. So when I was born she was Alone, with little family. When I was born she was diagnosed with cancer, and couldn’t Take care of me so for a couple of weeks the nurses took care of me. Unfortunately they shaved my head coz its an Indian tradition to Have your hair shaven off. This is the reason why they believe Indians have such thick hair. So I dread it when mum gets out the baby photos! Yes now getting to the adoption apart. Whilst being at the hospital A couple came in and wanted to adopt someone. Yes and that’s how They ended up with me. I was only 4 weeks old. They had already Adopted a boy called Shaun who was 9 and was 4 months when they Adopted Him from South Korea. 4 years before me they had adopted a Korean girl, which had Sadly drowned before reaching the age of 2. We then lived in Fiji for just over a year and a half. When my parents Split up. My mum, brother and I then moved to Australia. I was 2 And my brother was 11. I went to panorama when we came here. So I was 2 attending a 3 year old kinder. I then when to lion Hopkins Kinder. I started school at our lady help of Christians. Sadly I moved house To the other side of Warrnambool. I then attended St joeys where I met Many new friends Now of coarse I’m at Emmanuel I rarely have contact With my dad who has remarried and has 3 kids. I don’t get along with my Brother just like most siblings. I argue with my mum and annoying Shit out of her but in the end we all stick together. Hope you liked Speech. Anyone got any questions>? >? more

Resolved Question: Korean adoption what is considered a child with "mild" medical issues?

We have just started our journey into Korean/China adoption and were wondering if anyone knows what the definition of "mild" medical issues are? We are considering adopting a waiting child. Thanks more

Resolved Question: Would you check these 2 sentences?

"Adoption became a familiar process in the United States in the aftermath of World War II. During the war and those following, many families were torn apart and a substantial number of children became orphans." I want to know if it's okay to say "during the war and those following" to indicated that a similar trend emerged in Vietnam and Korean wars without specifically stating it. Is there anything you would do to improve anything in these 2 sentences? more

Resolved Question: I need help finding my two korean half brothers adopted in France...?

Resolved Question: I need help to find my two half brothers... adopted in France?

Resolved Question: I am trying to find my two half brothers who were adopted by a French couple. I need help!!!?

With France being the only country in the world who doesn't allow adoptee disclosure, I don't know how I can find my two half brothers. My mother is korean and had to give them up for adoption when she was young because her current husband had control of their well being. (Women had no power over the custody of their children) Their names then were Kang, Hyun (Feb 14, 1979) and Kang, Jung Hyun (June 25, 1981). I obviously don't know their adopted names, but can someone tell me how I can try to find them? I hope my mom can see them before she passes later in life...With France being the only country in the world who doesn't allow adoptee disclosure, I don't know how I can find my two half brothers. My mother is korean and had to give them up for adoption when she was young because her current husband had control of their well being. (Women had no power over the custody of their children) Their names then were Kang, Hyun (Feb 14, 1979) and Kang, Jung Hyun (June 25, 1981). I obviously don't know their adopted names, but can someone tell me how I can try to find them? I hope my mom can see them before she passes later in life... more

Resolved Question: Moms and dads, is this fair?

Quick background. My son to be was not planned, the protection failed. Abortion was never an option. Adoption isn't what's best for my son, I have an amazingly supportive family. The father was not happy (neither was I....) and he was disowned by his parents (they're Korean, if that changes anything). The last time (besides Wednesday night) he spoke to me was when I was in the ER with heavy bleeding from a subchorionic bleed at ten weeks. I'm 22 weeks now. We were supposed to meet to talk tomorrow, I told him to choose when and where. I've heard nothing back. I need to know what his plans are for this child (he CLAIMED he'd be there for the baby, not for me so I assume the ER visits and dr visits are considered for me). I am not sure I want him in our lives. My family is supportive enough to where I don't even need him financially. It would be nice however. Am I wrong to leave a voice mail (being that he never answers my calls, knowing there always about baby anyway) informing him that if he doesn't attend at least one dr's visit and child birth classes he will NOT be called once I'm in labor nor will he be listed on the birth certificate? Basically saying he doesn't have a son anymore? I have tried to be civil about all of this. Yes, I'm young (19 now, 20 when I deliver) but he is older (um 29) and is being immature in my opinion.... My child will never lack for NEEDS, probably will for wants lol but he WILL be provided for. What do you think?Also, how can someone just desert their own flesh?...FYI Mis, I'm at my aunt's dog sitting and have been bored all day. Second, I don't see why I should HAVE to put him. He denies the baby is his and has shown NO interest.... more

Resolved Question: Unplanned pregnancy and Korean?

Ok, the question may be worded wrong! I'm 21 weeks pregnant with a little boy at age 19 (I'm white). The father and I were not in a relationship when I found out I was pregnant. We talked things over and he basically left the decision up to me. I never felt abortion was an option, and adoption isn't what's best for my son. I have tons of family support. Mind you, they don't approve but its too late now type deal lol. He is full Korean, he moved here (US) when he was 5. Once he told his parents, he quit talking to me (except for arguments at work, no I can't keep my mouth shut when my child's father is making smart a$$ remarks about me....) ANYWAY, they disowned him, and since then I have had no support or contact with him. He claims he's waiting for Jamie to be born, as he has gone through this before and the baby wasn't his. Did his parents disown him because I'm white, or because of the premarital sex/pregnancy? This is causing me a little bit of depression, as this isn't how I planned my first child to be..... Is he being distant because of the uncertainty on his part, because he was disowned, or what?? Any opinions on this? I said abortion was never an option, plus I'm too far along anyway. I already love my son. more

Resolved Question: Unplanned baby and Racial question?

Ok, the question may be worded wrong! I'm 21 weeks pregnant with a little boy at age 19. The father and I were not in a relationship when I found out I was pregnant. We talked things over and he basically left the decision up to me. I never felt abortion was an option, and adoption isn't what's best for my son. I have tons of family support. Mind you, they don't approve but its too late now type deal lol. He is full Korean, he moved here (US) when he was 5. Once he told his parents, he quit talking to me (except for arguments at work, no I can't keep my mouth shut when my child's father is making smart a$$ remarks about me....) ANYWAY, they disowned him, and since then I have had no support or contact with him. He claims he's waiting for Jamie to be born, as he has gone through this before and the baby wasn't his. Did his parents disown him because I'm white, or because of the premarital sex/pregnancy? This is causing me a little bit of depression, as this isn't how I planned my first child to be..... Is he being distant because of the uncertainty on his part, because he was disowned, or what?? Any opinions on this? more

Resolved Question: question about the gosselins future adoption!??!?

ok so im a HUGEEE jon and kate plus 8 fan (as in obsessive, yes i know its pretty strange) and i was practically screaming when i read that whole 3 page story in people magazine this week or last week. on the last page, at the very end of the article, it says that they might adopt a korean baby girl, because they really want to know what it is like to have just one baby. is this true??? and when??? and ????? ahhhhh more

Resolved Question: How do I tell me son about his father leaving?

I was engaged to his father for a good 6 months then I got pregnant. He left me a month later. I probably drove him away because my hormones got so bad but then after he left I tried getting him to come back but he wouldn't do it and wanted to put my son up for adoption or sign away his rights.. he didn't do either. He doesn't pay child support either. After I had him, I asked him again if he wanted to be in his life or even just see a picture of him and he said absolutely not. My son is 2 months old.. What do I tell him as he ages? His father is Korean and whoever I marry will more then likely be Caucasian.. he looks more Korean. So I really can't pull the 'my husband is your father' thing. more

Resolved Question: Question about Japanese adoption...

Why do they not allow international adoptions? But more importantly my husband and i are looking to adopt a little Japanese or Korean boy. Is it possible to "find" a little one here in the United States? This may sound weird, but we're obviously just in the planning stages, and wondering...Thanks! more

Resolved Question: I'm afraid I'll never know who I really am. Please,some help or advice. (how to find your birthparents)

I am south korean. I was put up for adoption as soon as I was born. I know my birth mother cared about me a lot, because she did not just put me in an orphanage. She came up with a birth plan and put me in a nice baby reception home and had the adoption agency, Spence Chapin find adoptive parents for me.. Anyways, I would really like to get in touch with my real family, or atleast my birth mother. My parents are pro- the idea, but I fear that since my korean last name was very popular (Lee) it will be very difficult to locate her, or them. Has ANYONE ever gotten in touch with their birth parents? If so, how did you do it? what steps did you take to find them? I'm guessing that you would first contact the adoption agency, right? And would there have to be mutual attempts to contact? like, would both of us have to try find each other before outside parties could help us? Please help!!! this has been bothering me to no end lately... I'm finally ready to figure out who I am!!!I was born in So. Korea, in Seoul. I know my parents were from a different city tho, however I'm not sure which one.. & thanks for all of your answers/advice guys.. It really means a lot to me. more

Resolved Question: I am adopted from South Korea and I really want to find my birth mother, can you please help?

I do not know the adoption agency I came from, but I do have my adoption paperworks. Some of it is in English and some of it is in Korean. I do have the name of my birth mother, birth grandparents, and birth aunts. I know their addresses and their birthdates. I have some other information as well, so if you need anything from me to help me find my birth mother, please help me! I really want to find her. I am very proud to be Korean and I just want to know more about my background history, etc. I hope she is looking for me too. Can someone please help me? Thank you. :) more

Resolved Question: Will my daughter be able to travel with me to South Korea?

Hi all! I was wondering if anyone of you has already experienced the same situation I have right now with my daughter and if you were able to go about it and how. My American husband is currently working in South Korea and I will be coming to join him there as his dependent. As we still haven't started with our adoption procedures for my 3-year old daughter who uses my last name, the immigration has asked for her adoption papers that will prove her link with my husband or she can't come to join us in South Korea. I just want to know if there is an alternative document that I can present/submit to the Korean immigration that will be acceptable and therefore allow them to issue visa to my daughter. We are coming from the Philippines. Thank you.She uses my last name in her birth certificate. more

Resolved Question: Does anyone know this korean photographer ?

I'm looking for the name of a famous korean photographer that did the black and white photos with all of the korean celebrities with the babies. I think they had something to do with adoption.......but i like the photos a lot but i have no clue what's his name. this is one of Singer Rain http://www.bi-rain.org/wp-content/uploads/2006/12/Singer%20Rain%20Poses%20for%20Unfortunate%20Children.jpg and one of Actress Yoon Eun Hye http://news.stareastasia.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/12/yoon-eun-hye-pic-0003.jpg I think their great but i just don't know who did it. there are many other photos but those are the only ones i could find :( more

Resolved Question: Korean adoption? Has anyone adopted from there?

Ok so my my family is interested in Korean adoption. Has anyone adopted from there? If so, what agency did you use? How did it work? How long did it take? How much approx. money did it cost? Any information would be helpful. Thanks! more

Resolved Question: help!!!i need a cat expert!!!!please!?

ok,i've been wanting a cat.so my parents bought me to a cat adoption centre. so,i picked this cat,orange colour,and..lets just say its not 'sociable'. the other cats are THIRSTY for love,but they are already old,and some are not persian cats. the cat that i chose just stay still.the owner of the pet centre said that they have just received that cat yesterday and that it has not adapt to the place yet.(the place is full with dogs barking and also some other cats)-its a cat and dog adoption centre. they also said that it also misses its korean master who left it to the adoption centre. so,the question is:- 1)will the cat gets to adapt to me once i bring it to my home? 2)how to make it be friendly with me? 3)how to nurture it? 4)how to take care of it? best answer for 10 marks. answers that are not relevant will be spammedand my cat is not a kitten. its age is 1 year old now more

Resolved Question: Moving to KC area. Is there a Korean and/or adoption community there?

We are trying to decide if KC is the right place for our blended family. We adopted our son from South Korea and would like to find out if there will be issues with his looking different. Are there any Korean schools/markets/restaurants? Are there adoption support groups? We haven't decided what area to move to yet and so any information of this nature would be extremely helpful. more

Resolved Question: Primarily for Korean guests to answer?

I am now 55 and live in the United States. In 1953 April I was born in Pusan, Korea. Mt mother put me up for adoption in Pusan when I was 3. A year later I was adopted by German/Americans and brought here. I have been searching my mother many years. Went to Korea a few years ago, no luck. I also need to know if/how I can get a copy of my original Korean birth certificate. Is it even possible? Any suggestions or help from anyone would be appreciated. I've done alot of things over the years but ren out of suggestions. Catholic Charities can't/won't help. my e-mail is: j2cmi@yahoo.com Thanks to all for whatever help you can give. James more

Resolved Question: sisters through adoption close in age?

I watch three little ones, a new 5yr old, 3yr old and 2yr old. The younger ones are 9 months apart. When the 2yr old was born her 3yr old sister had just been adopted three months earlier at 6mons. Whenever I go out with just them people always ask me "are they sisters", I say "yes" and they say "Oh, so she is adopted?" Its clear with her korean features. Why do people have to assume to she is the adopted one? It drives me crazy, her sister could very well be the one who is! I want to say "No, she stolen" and see their reaction. Or I want to say "No, she is adopted" and point to her American sister and see their response but I suppose its not polite and I would never really do it ... more

Resolved Question: korean adoption?

South Korea has a problem with adoption. They will not adopt their own, because it is not the same blood line. Orphans are treated different here. And when they are older and look for their parent the biological parent pressures them to stay in Korea and take care of them. Do yu think the Korean's should adopt their own children? more

Resolved Question: "Disrupted" adoptions? How can we stop things like this?

I am heartsick over the story of the 7 year old girl, adopted in Korea by Dutch diplomats at 4 months old, who they turned over to Hong Kong fostering. Apparently the claim is that she had culture shock and did not want to eat Dutch food. Maybe she's just a picky eater! They never naturalized her, so she is not a Dutch citizen and does not have Hong Kong residency, but doesn't speak Korean. http://www.radionetherlands.nl/currentaffairs/071212-dutch-diplomat-child-mc And from a group of Korean adult adoptees: http://goal.or.kr/upload/bbs/e613/495411974421940.pdf What do you all think about this? I know that there are some times when a child is better off without a family that is horrible for them--adoptive or not--and this might be one of them for this child. But, oh, my heart just goes out to her. How we can stop things like this from happening? There just has to be some sort of better screening or mandatory counseling or something that would keep people like this from adopting.To clarify, it is unclear where this child will be able to live. She does not have Dutch citizenship, because her adoptive "parents" never went through the process for her to become one. She does not have residency rights in Hong Kong, where she has been living for the last few years. It isn't clear (to me) if she could still legally live in Korea, but that would be hard anyway, as she does not speak Korean. She speaks English and Cantonese, according to the reports. It seems as if she must speak Dutch also, but the reports have read don't say that. It is just an awful situation for her, but her (apparently former) adoptive "father" goes on about how hard it has been for "everyone" and how the adoptive "mother" had to go to counseling. Another thing that might be important to the story is that the couple thought they were infertile when they adopted her, but they have since had 2 birth children. That makes the whole sad situation a lot more troubling, at least to me.The thing about her not wanting to eat Dutch food really bugs me. I mean she's 7, for heaven's sake, how many 7 year old are picky eaters?! For this we destroy their family? And she was adopted when she was 4 months old, so Dutch food (or Cantonese, or whatever else she has eaten in this family) is the only solid food she's ever known! It just steams me that it should be so easy to "disrupt" an adoption and just throw away an adopted child like this. If parents gave their seven year old birth child up to the state because they didn't like the food, the state would probably look into removing the other children. Why should it be different for an adopted child?! more

Resolved Question: Koreans slightly suspicious of sudden surge in adoptive fathers...?

South Korean adoption agencies are reacting with some skepticism about a recent glut of potential adoptive fathers from UK and the US, selectively seeking female 17 and 18 year-old twins, triplets and quads. "We suspect these men may not be able to adequately mother these girls as best a mother could, most especially considering most applicants are recent divorcees and have little contact with their former spouses", stated Korean spokesman Ms. Kim Loo-Ni. Another questioned whether these men had ulterior motives; "We all know Michelle Wie and actress Sandra Oh are such big star- but that doesn't mean all Korean children can be- such a view could be potentially bigotted". Homes for ORphaned North East Asian, Male Adoptive Network (HOrNEA- MAN) Spokesman Willy Benderhover stated that,"We simply wish to devote as much love, affection and attention as possible on these young, pert, firm, impressionable girls". It is believed humanist Woody Allen initiated this newfound altruism more

Resolved Question: Why is foreign adoption so difficult, is there an easier way?

My husband and I would love to adopt a baby girl, the problem is everytime I look into a specific country or agency we don't meet the criteria. Examples, you have to be married three years and not have more than four children living in the home. Even though are home is quite large and there is plenty of room. We have only been married a year but together we share six children. Our income is great and our home is nice so why is this so difficult. I don't understand the cookie cutter mold, I also learned that korean adoption you can't be older than 45 when the baby arrives and right now my husband is 44 (I am only 34). Is this hopeless or am I not looking in the right direction? more

Resolved Question: How to refer to women who placed their child for adoption?

For those of you who've placed a child for adoption, how would you like for the adoptive parents to refer to you to the child if you could choose.(other then by your first name) I've heard that some women don't like the term "birthmother", but some are fine with it. I've also hear "firstmom", or "tummy-mom". Both of our children were adopted internationally, so we do not know their birthmom's first names. Our children also were cared for by a foster mom for 6 months who they referred to as "ooma" (mom in Korean), and I think it would be confusing to call them both by that name, this also makes "first mom" difficult, as there would be a "second mom" too. Thanks in advance for your opinions.***I just wanted to clarify that I had heard the term "tummy mommy" used by biological mothers, and know of an online group by that name (created by a "birthmom") I know many don't like that term but I think it was intended to be used to explain adoption to very young children, and not to be demeaning. Also, as far as the boys foster mothers, yes we are remaining in contact with them and plan to visit them when we visit them in the future. We refer to them as "ooma" because that's how they refer to themselves. We do definetly feel that each of our sons has 3 moms, each special to them in a different way. I want to refer to his 2 "other moms" in a way that show respect towards them, and identifies the special role that they play in each boys life. more

Resolved Question: Are you Korean? How do you feel about adoption?

I would like to hear from Koreans or Korean-Americans about international adoption from South Korea. How do Koreans feel about Korean children being adopted by American families? What are the most common circumstances that usually lead to a child being placed for adoption in Korea?- divorce, poverty, unwed status? I have heard that single motherhood is not an option in Korea. Are things changing? Is there discrimination against these children if they return to/visit Korea? Or are they welcomed? Does it make it much easier if they speak Korean or will it still be difficult because they don't know the manners/customs. Answers to any of these questions is welcome or just your thoughts. Thanks. more

Resolved Question: I want to know the korean symbols for love and happy?

i was adopted from south korea and i was reading a page in my adoption book that said that my korean name "Hee Ae" means happy love so iwas wondering what the symbols looked like. more

Resolved Question: Adoption from Korea?

Has anyone here adopted a child from Korea? Any advice? Any good source for Korean names? more

Resolved Question: Question about Korean adoptions? please dont tell me to adopt here in the US.?

This is only to those who have been through this, or know of some knowledge about it, Is the post placement visits difficult to go through, and can they change their mind once your baby is here? I need an agency or country that will escort the child to me, because I cannot leave my children, and I know Guaetamala and Korea do offer escort services. I wanted to adopt from china, but I think they expect you to have too high of an income, and I not sure if they care about bad credit? Just wanted some details about what you went through after your child was brought home? thank you. more