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Adoption: Sisters want to continue visits with siblings - MLive.com

Editor’s note: This is another in a series on special-need children waiting for adoption. Courtesy Photo Tiarra, left, and Tamarra. Only after 10-year-old Tiarra, her 8-year-old sister, Tamarra, and their siblings were the focus of several Child ...

Local heads to DC to testify for adoption rights - WSVN-TV

While Gill himself is still waiting for the Third District Court ... Pete Stark to end adoption discrimination against gay and single prospective parents. "It's not the gays and the lesbians, it's the children," Gill said. "In a devastating blow, you ...

Report: State falls short on court-ordered child ... - Detroit News

The state has failed to sufficiently reduce the number of children aging out of foster care or those waiting too long for adoption. And what is "deeply troubling," state officials cannot show how it responded to or resolved instances of allegations ...

Childcare helps identify vulnerable children's needs - BBC UK News

It also includes children in foster care, waiting for adoption, being protected by child protection plans or from families needing support to stop family breakdown.

Oleta Adams & Waiting Child - KTUL

... ago, Bob Hower coming up to me as I was working one night and he told me about this wonderful adoption ... upbringing for children, I think it's the reason why we're put here." If you would like more information about our Waiting Child program ...

Report: Michigan child welfare reforms fall short - Detroit News

It found the state failed to sufficiently reduce the number of children aging out of foster care and those waiting too long for adoption. And in what the report called "deeply troubling," state officials could not show how it responded to or resolved ...

Mixed report card for Michigan's child-welfare agency - WZZM 13

He says thousands of children continue to wait too long for adoption. Only 33 percent of kids whose parents lost their rights were placed in permanent homes. The goal was 50 percent of kids waiting the longest. On the positive side, the monitor says ...

Heart Gallery - Midlands Connect.com

... administered and supported by the Children's Foster Care Review Board - Office of the Governor and the South Carolina Department of Social Services. This unique partnership enhances adoption recruitment opportunities for waiting children.

Ministry helps find, prepare thousands of foster ... - Houston Community Newspapers

There are more than 27,000 foster children in Texas and over 463,000 in the U.S. foster care system, with 123,000 of them waiting for adoption,” Tennant explained. “When these children turn 18, without a family to call their own, they are ...

Janeva focuses on academics and her future - Free Lance-Star

The newspaper periodically features a Virginia child available for adoption. Interested in adopting Janeva or any of the other foster children waiting? Contact Krista McCulloch at the Children's Home Society of Virginia at 800/247-2888 or 804/353 ...

Open Question: reasearch....??????????

im writing about why there shouldnt be any fees to adopt a child but cant find some info..Help! 1.percent of children given up for adoption each yr.(in the world total) 2.the amount of time parents have to wait for the process 3.children waiting to be adopted (percent) 4.ranges in ages of the kids..example: 1 year olds about 20,000 waiting to 2 b adopted(nt a real asnwer just an example of what i mean) 5.percent of children that never get adopted and reach adulthood. and any other percents u would consider accurate for my writing assignment thnxx:]and yes i did try google except that the years are not accurate they r from way back..and dont answer if ur not gonna help more

Resolved Question: Why does adoption cost so much?

I work in a nursing home. There was a woman well into her 80's who told me she adopted both of her children. She told me about the first day she meet her son. She said it was horrible waiting for all the papers to be signed before she could see him but knowing he was in the next room. She said all she had to do was show up sign papers, the adoption people came and toured her house. Spent some time with her & her husband & with in a couple weeks they had a 2 year old the first time & a new born the 2nd time. Why does it cost so much money now a days to adopt? I heard its any where from $30,000-$60,000? more

Resolved Question: Can't you place an ad to adopt a child?

I mean can you put an ad in the paper saying you are seeing an expectant mother who wants to put her child up for adoption and to provide for her during her pregnancy? Then adopt the baby through an attorney? The reason I ask is because I remember when I was in high school (about 12 years ago) a girl put her baby up for adoption by answering an ad like that. I figured this would be a good way to avoid a wait list through an agency that could take years. more

Voting Question: Teen Pregnancy PLEASE HELP?

I know what you all must be thinking. I am the girl you see involved in church and getting good grades and having a future. I was feeling really low one night no one was home. No ones ever home. I went out and slept with a guy I dont know who he is or anything. Older of course. Well Im 15 and pregnant I just found out like yesterday after being late week and realising there was a chance. Now I have pcos where I don't ovulate every month and take medicine metaformin which should help with ovulation and hasn't. I have had abt four periods this pat year. I took the test. I got a bright pink + sign. I used clear blue. I know it was irresponsible and so not me. My mom always told me dont do it. I WILL NOT HAVE ABORTION AGAINST RELIGION AND MY PERSPECTIVE wrong and painful I didnt sleep last night thinking about all my options. Adoption? Though there are many out there loving parents just waiting that if I ever found out i was adopted i would hate my birth parents not saying anything rude but that would be me I need a job like babysitting cleaning anything so that i dont have to have parents signature to do it and i know economy is bad right now no ones hiring inexperienced teens so whats my next option my parent will indeed kick me out we already dont get along and im always left alone So i have to be able to get a job and get my own place Im keeping the baby because of my pcs and im 15 and already have had it for 5 years found out at 10 yrs old I may not get another chance at this. I know i lose respect i lose friends and maybe even family I lose everything everyones ever thought of me. So any advice im keeping the baby so only advice on how i can do this I know its going to be a hard long road my parents dont have money never had my dad hangs with friends all day long mom brings in maybe 1000 a month i have someone for a babysitter so i can continue school and make a better future for my child. How do i tell my parents how do i get a job. I know even with having a job and continuing school and being a mother it will be difficult to have a place of my own and caring for the child without help from some type of finacial program but i dont want to be someone who doesnt try doesnt get a job and lives off of the programs i want to hopefully one day be on my own and i know something will come up Any advice without saying abortion or adoption i am keeping my baby just need help on ideas to make a living and being a good mother everything is appreciated MAY GOD BLESS YOUI found out I had pcos at 10 because I had really bad cramps and had a cyst removed from my ovary. Three monthes later I had another one. So they tested me for pcos because I was also irregular and ended up having pcos. more

Resolved Question: relinquishment and adoption question?

how long would it take after i file my exs relenquishment of parental rights papes for the courts to take away his rights permenatly? and how long do i have to wait to file the patition for adoption for my partner to adopt my child? i live in bexar county TEXASthe birth father is in wisconson and is willing to give up his rights. he realizes that its not practical to try and have a long distance realtionship with a child he hasnt seen since the baby was 3 weeks old. he and his new wife have 2 children and are expectin a new baby in about 6 months...my sons bio father DOES NOT want to be his father more

Resolved Question: Would it be weird to buy things for your not yet conceived or adopted child?

Would you buy things for your not yet conceived or adopted child? I'm debating whether it would be weird to buy things for our not yet conceived or adopted child. We know we will have a child through foster care adoption within the next 2 years.We're waiting for my sister to move out because she and her child are taking up our spare rooms. As soon as that happens, my husband and I plan to start the foster/adopt program. We have been ttc for 26 months. Whether we conceive or adopt, we will have a child. Would you start shopping around? I'm not talking about everything, but would you buy a few things here and there if they were on sale? more

Resolved Question: Would you buy things for your not yet conceived or adopted child?

I'm debating whether it would be weird to buy things for our not yet conceived or adopted child. We know we will have a child through foster care adoption within the next 2 years.We're waiting for my sister to move out because she and her child are taking up our spare rooms. As soon as that happens, my husband and I plan to start the foster/adopt program. We have been ttc for 26 months. Whether we conceive or adopt, we will have a child. Would you start shopping around? I'm not talking about everything, but would you buy a few things here and there if they were on sale? more

Resolved Question: Can a child be adpoted without parental rights being terminated? Father of child overseas in the Navy.?

Here is the deal. My brother is in the Navy and has 4 1/2 years left on his commitment. A year ago the mother of his son got arrested and long story short her sentence is longer than the rest of their child's, childhood. Her parental rights were terminated 6 months ago. The social worker is telling me because my nephew is under 3 he is "on track for adoption." I have been bending over backwards to get him ever since I found out he was taken away, which was about 21/2 months after the fact because our family really wasn't on good terms with the mother at the time. I moved to a bigger place, took all these classes, got certified as a foster parent. Now that everything is in place the social worker is telling me she feels it is in my nephews "best interest to be adopted by the foster mother and is going to recommend that to the judge. I feel bad for the foster mother because she took my newfew with the understanding that she was just waiting for the brith mothers rights to be terminated and then she would adopt him. But we love him and want him with our family, not adopted. So under these circumstance can he be adopted without my brothers rights being terminated? Thanks guysToo:1 on the hip and 1 on the way! Not only is my brother's name on the birth cert., he signed a delecration of parternity and was legally declared the father before being deployed. His son is getting medical insurance from the Navy.Too: LinnyG The rights have NOT been terminated but the social worker said she would move to have them terminated because he hasn't file sent a response to the court. more

Resolved Question: 7 things you didn't know about PETA?

This is a repost just looking for some new insight since more users are on sorry to the people who read already! 1) According to government documents, PETA employees have killed more than 19,200 dogs, cats, puppies, and kittens since 1998. This behavior continues despite PETA’s moralizing about the “unethical” treatment of animals by farmers, scientists, restaurant owners, circuses, hunters, fishermen, zookeepers, and countless other Americans. PETA puts to death over 90 percent of the animals it accepts from members of the public who expect the group to make a reasonable attempt to find them adoptive homes. PETA holds absolutely no open-adoption shelter hours at its Norfolk, VA headquarters, choosing instead to spend part of its $32 million annual income on a contract with a crematory service to periodically empty hundreds of animal bodies from its large walk-in freezer. 2) PETA president and co-founder Ingrid Newkirk has described her group’s overall goal as “total animal liberation.” This means the complete abolition of meat, milk, cheese, eggs, honey, zoos, aquariums, circuses, wool, leather, fur, silk, hunting, fishing, and pet ownership. In a 2003 profile of Newkirk in The New Yorker, author Michael Specter wrote that Newkirk has had at least one seeing-eye dog taken away from its blind owner. PETA is also against all medical research that requires the use of animals, including research aimed at curing AIDS and cancer. 3) PETA has given tens of thousands of dollars to convicted arsonists and other violent criminals. This includes a 2001 donation of $1,500 to the North American Earth Liberation Front (ELF), an FBI-certified “domestic terrorist” group responsible for dozens of firebombs and death threats. During the 1990s, PETA paid $70,200 to Rodney Coronado, an Animal Liberation Front (ALF) serial arsonist convicted of burning down a Michigan State University research laboratory. In his sentencing memorandum, a federal prosecutor implicated PETA president Ingrid Newkirk in that crime. PETA vegetarian campaign coordinator Bruce Friedrich has also told an animal rights convention that “blowing stuff up and smashing windows” is “a great way to bring about animal liberation,” adding, “Hallelujah to the people who are willing to do it.” 4) PETA activists regularly target children as young as six years old with anti-meat and anti-milk propaganda, even waiting outside their schools to intercept them without notifying their parents. One piece of kid-targeted PETA literature tells small children: “Your Mommy Kills Animals!” PETA brags that its messages reach over 1.2 million minor children, including 30,000 kids between the ages of 6 and 12, all contacted by e-mail without parental supervision. One PETA vice president told the Fox News Channel’s audience: “Our campaigns are always geared towards children, and they always will be.” 5) PETA’s president has said that “even if animal research resulted in a cure for AIDS, we would be against it.” And PETA has repeatedly attacked research foundations like the March of Dimes, the Pediatric AIDS Foundation, and the American Cancer Society, solely because they support animal-based research aimed at curing life-threatening diseases and birth defects. And PETA helped to start and manage a quasi-medical front group, the misnamed Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine, to attack medical research head-on. 6) PETA has compared Jewish victims of the Nazi Holocaust to farm animals and Jesus Christ to pigs. PETA’s religious campaigns include a website that claims—despite ample evidence to the contrary—that Jesus Christ was a vegetarian. PETA holds protests at houses of worship, even suing one church that tried to protect its members from Sunday-morning harassment. Its billboards taunt Christians with the message that hogs “died for their sins.” PETA insists, contrary to centuries of rabbinical teaching, that the Jewish ritual of kosher slaughter shouldn’t be allowed. And its infamous “Holocaust on Your Plate” campaign crassly compared the Jewish victims of Nazi genocide to farm animals. 7) PETA frequently looks the other way when its celebrity spokespersons don’t practice what it preaches. As gossip bloggers and Hollywood journalists have noted, Pamela Anderson’s Dodge Viper (auctioned to benefit PETA) had a “luxurious leather interior”; Jenna Jameson was photographed fishing, slurping oysters, and wearing a leather jacket just weeks after launching an anti-leather campaign for PETA; Morrissey got an official “okay” from PETA after eating at a steakhouse; Dita von Teese has written about her love of furs and foie gras; Steve-O built a career out of abusing small animals on film; the officially “anti-fur” Eva Mendes often wears fur anyway; and Charlize Theron’s celebrated October 2007 Vogue cover shoot featured several suede garments. In 2008, “Baby Phat” designer Kimora Lee Simmons became a PETA spokesmodel despite working with fur and leather,Hey the man I'd send you some links but I can't. your profile doesn't allow email...sorry more

Resolved Question: 7 Things you didn't know about PETA.....Now that you know how do you feel about PETA?!?

7 Things you didn't know about PETA.....Now that you know how do you feel about PETA?!? ) According to government documents, PETA employees have killed more than 19,200 dogs, cats, puppies, and kittens since 1998. This behavior continues despite PETA’s moralizing about the “unethical” treatment of animals by farmers, scientists, restaurant owners, circuses, hunters, fishermen, zookeepers, and countless other Americans. PETA puts to death over 90 percent of the animals it accepts from members of the public who expect the group to make a reasonable attempt to find them adoptive homes. PETA holds absolutely no open-adoption shelter hours at its Norfolk, VA headquarters, choosing instead to spend part of its $32 million annual income on a contract with a crematory service to periodically empty hundreds of animal bodies from its large walk-in freezer. 2) PETA president and co-founder Ingrid Newkirk has described her group’s overall goal as “total animal liberation.” This means the complete abolition of meat, milk, cheese, eggs, honey, zoos, aquariums, circuses, wool, leather, fur, silk, hunting, fishing, and pet ownership. In a 2003 profile of Newkirk in The New Yorker, author Michael Specter wrote that Newkirk has had at least one seeing-eye dog taken away from its blind owner. PETA is also against all medical research that requires the use of animals, including research aimed at curing AIDS and cancer. 3) PETA has given tens of thousands of dollars to convicted arsonists and other violent criminals. This includes a 2001 donation of $1,500 to the North American Earth Liberation Front (ELF), an FBI-certified “domestic terrorist” group responsible for dozens of firebombs and death threats. During the 1990s, PETA paid $70,200 to Rodney Coronado, an Animal Liberation Front (ALF) serial arsonist convicted of burning down a Michigan State University research laboratory. In his sentencing memorandum, a federal prosecutor implicated PETA president Ingrid Newkirk in that crime. PETA vegetarian campaign coordinator Bruce Friedrich has also told an animal rights convention that “blowing stuff up and smashing windows” is “a great way to bring about animal liberation,” adding, “Hallelujah to the people who are willing to do it.” 4) PETA activists regularly target children as young as six years old with anti-meat and anti-milk propaganda, even waiting outside their schools to intercept them without notifying their parents. One piece of kid-targeted PETA literature tells small children: “Your Mommy Kills Animals!” PETA brags that its messages reach over 1.2 million minor children, including 30,000 kids between the ages of 6 and 12, all contacted by e-mail without parental supervision. One PETA vice president told the Fox News Channel’s audience: “Our campaigns are always geared towards children, and they always will be.” 5) PETA’s president has said that “even if animal research resulted in a cure for AIDS, we would be against it.” And PETA has repeatedly attacked research foundations like the March of Dimes, the Pediatric AIDS Foundation, and the American Cancer Society, solely because they support animal-based research aimed at curing life-threatening diseases and birth defects. And PETA helped to start and manage a quasi-medical front group, the misnamed Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine, to attack medical research head-on. 6) PETA has compared Jewish victims of the Nazi Holocaust to farm animals and Jesus Christ to pigs. PETA’s religious campaigns include a website that claims—despite ample evidence to the contrary—that Jesus Christ was a vegetarian. PETA holds protests at houses of worship, even suing one church that tried to protect its members from Sunday-morning harassment. Its billboards taunt Christians with the message that hogs “died for their sins.” PETA insists, contrary to centuries of rabbinical teaching, that the Jewish ritual of kosher slaughter shouldn’t be allowed. And its infamous “Holocaust on Your Plate” campaign crassly compared the Jewish victims of Nazi genocide to farm animals. 7) PETA frequently looks the other way when its celebrity spokespersons don’t practice what it preaches. As gossip bloggers and Hollywood journalists have noted, Pamela Anderson’s Dodge Viper (auctioned to benefit PETA) had a “luxurious leather interior”; Jenna Jameson was photographed fishing, slurping oysters, and wearing a leather jacket just weeks after launching an anti-leather campaign for PETA; Morrissey got an official “okay” from PETA after eating at a steakhouse; Dita von Teese has written about her love of furs and foie gras; Steve-O built a career out of abusing small animals on film; the officially “anti-fur” Eva Mendes often wears fur anyway; and Charlize Theron’s celebrated October 2007 Vogue cover shoot featured several suede garments. In 2008, “Baby Phat” designer Kimora Lee Simmons became a PETA spokesmodel despite working with fur and leather, after making a $20,000 dona@toussaint_louverture: Where have you been Mr? Lol, anytime! You name it! Missed you around here! No good arguements my friend ;) more

Resolved Question: How do I protect my relationship with my child, when the truth comes to light?

My wife had a child who's father she took to court for child support, whereas in turn he had a DNA test done (came back 99.999% his) then he gave up his rights 2 years after the child was born (my wife asked him to because we were getting married and I wanted to adopted the child and be the father that he didn't want to be) and never once asked to see the child. (At the time he had 2 women pregnant and decided to have nothing to do with this child, called the mom names, said he wanted nothing to do with her nor the child) The child is 7 now and all of a sudden the biological father has come to his senses and would like to see the child. Initially we both said no, but we were persuaded to at least hear him out. He felt remorse and didn't want to leave this earth without letting the child know who he was-he's not sick or anything like that. This child only knows of me as daddy. I met and loved the child since the child was 1 and we are in the process of finishing up the adoption case. We knew that this day would come but because of the nasty way he was, we certainly weren't expecting it now. I was advised to allow him to meet the child but not to allow him to introduce himself as what he biologically is, like a hi and bye meeting almost like in passing meeting strangers. I'm considering this only because I'm looking ahead to the future when the truth comes out and the questions the child will have (at least if he tries to say that he tried to see her, we can say that we let him). My wife feels that if we go through with it, it can only be this one time and he'd have to wait until the child is 18 years old. This was his third child and the situation cuts deep in her family because of the way he handled himself, being disrespectful, telling lies about her to her family and doing the ultimate - giving up his rights. What would you do? What if a family member was dying and requested to see the child before they pass, would you allow it? His family didn't agree with his decision either (they received pictures from friends) and I'm torn up with this matter because I love my baby so so much and if I could pave her future she would never know, but now I feel like both our worlds may be shattered.Thank you all, your words were exactly what I was feeling in my heart. Queen Agnostic I didn't look at it from your point of view with him trying to take her, but thank you for your insight. I hope that it will not happen as we live in 2 different countries, but you never know with these laws nowadays. more

Resolved Question: Adoptees, I need your help!?

Okay. So, my husband's sister has died in childbirth (2 days ago). She knew there were major risks, but she refused C-Section. My husband and I were left as the legal guardians of the child, as the father is completely out of the picture. We we're there in the hospital room/waiting room while she was delivering the baby, and my husband and I we're the first ones to hold him. I know that there's this thing, if a baby is not held and touched at a very young age, they will develop mental conditions and other things. Is this true? And if it is, if we have held him, will it not matter if we are not the biological parents? We really want him to be raised in a good household where he is loved, yet we want him to grow up knowing that he had a really brave mother who risked everything for him. This is why we are naming him Grayer Seth. Grayer is his biological father's middle name and Seth after his mother, Serena, who died. Do you think this will impact him growing up? I've read a bunch of questions in this section about the adoptees having many suicide-like episodes and I never want that for him. Can we control it? He is living in the hospital right now, as he has severe heart conditions right now, but we are visiting him regularly. If we raise him making sure he knows his biological parents and talking to him about it, will that change anything? Will he still always yearn to know his real parents? Our whole family really doesn't want the biological father involved as he left my sister-in-law when he found out she was pregnant and has been awful to her. I just want to know if what we are doing will help the case of adoption, and who better to ask than people who have been adopted themselves? Will it change anything or make it worse or better if my husband and I already have two kids, and I am pregnant with another? Will he feel jealous when he grows up? Thank you for your input! more

Resolved Question: Adoption for low income families?

I am 23 and have been married for almost 3 years. I have health issues (asthma, Myotonic Dystrophy, ovarian cyst) and am not sure if we are going to have a child of our own, but if for some reason we can't I want to have a child. Due to my health, while my husband and I were laid off, we have some impending doctor bills and late home bills from the layoff (my husband now has a full time job and i am working part time and am in the process of getting disability- i was denied for SSI, I was told we have to much income and am just waiting to see if they deem me medically disabled.) Anyhow, where can I contact and low income adoption agency or a christain based agency that the church pays for the adoption. Any help would be grateful. I really don't want to wait till I hit my 30's cuz my health may or may not get worse. Thanks.We are in the process of getting caught up on our bills so that's not really an issue. We have help if we need it from family members, but I thought Adoption Agencies weren't allowed to refuse you because of health issue. I thought that was discrimenation to deny someone who really wants a child to adopt. And it's funny you should say they would deny me because I have a friend who has myotonic dystrophy just like me and she adopted a baby just after she was diagnosed. The child is now 2 years old, doing fine and is in a loving family. My friend even gets disability for her condition. She gets a check for herself and a check to help support the child. So maybe you should look up your info before giving it. I'm not concerned about the child, I am going to be a good mother and A person cannot be denied for health issues, if that's the case we would have a lot of law suits. As for my health we don't know what will happen I may get better with time or I may not and I have the...............support of my family to help me if I need it. I believe as long as you have support of family and friends when you have a health condition, having a child weather adopted or not, there should be no issue. And it's not being selfish to want to adopt a child that has no family at all. No matter what my health issues are that has nothing to do with the child and they would be in a loving home surrounded by a big family of grandparents, aunts & uncles, great-grandparents, & godparents. So what is the issue I ask you. I just want to know how to start the process, cuz I'm pretty sure that they can't deny you due to health problems, ask my friend.When I say "I'm not concerned about the child", I don't mean it the way you think I do. What I mean to say and I should've worded it differently is that if something should happen to my health to make me worse the child isn't gonna have to worry cause there is plenty of family around for comfort and care. I don't mean i'm doing this for selfish reason when I say i'm not concerned about the child, I mean the child is gonna be taken care of no matter what. And anyone can die you don't have to be old or sick. When I say I don't want to wait till I'm 30 is because it's no cause i'm gonna die, but because my energy level may decrease so then I won't be able to do as much as I can now. Anyone has that chance, even if they are healthy that they can adopt a child and die in a car accident or have a heart attack. It really frustrates me that people who are healthy thinks you can die young. I've lost plenty of friends from car accidents and even heart attacks. I know someone who had a heart....attack at age 20 and they were in perfect health. You don't have to be old. Any person that adopts a child always takes that risk that yes something may happen to them and that child will be without a parent. I understand that it's gonna be hard and the child may be resistant and angry cause they are adopted, but that's something parents deal with with there biological children. I could live to be 80, who knows, it's all in God's hands. And I know if God wants me to adopt he will provide away. If your gonna judge me because of my health issues maybe you should look at yourself. No one can help the way they are, it's all apart of God's plan. I've been praying that He let me know what he wants me to do and no matter what i will honor HIM. If there is a child out there that he wants in my life, I'm not gonna ignore the call just because I'm sick and may die oneday. Each day every person gets up risking that could be their last day and most are healthy. I will do what God wants of me. more

Voting Question: Child Abuse Clearance in NewYork State?

I got an unofficial offer for a job in the Foster Care/Adoption Field. They cannot make me an official offer until they get my finger printing and child abuse clearance back. I spoke to HR yesterday and was told that they received my finger printing, but they are still waiting for my child abuse clearance. Does anyone know how long this takes? I know that it will come back fine, I just want to get an idea of when I will start. more

Resolved Question: Adoption has crossed my mind, Is it only for the rich or for couples?

I am a poor but a loving woman. I have a job that keeps us.I'm in my mid 40's and I have an adult son( student). Is it crazy of me to have adoption cross my mind? Is it only for rich people? I take care of children. How rich do you have to be...I don't mind if the kid is even 5-6 years old and has some problems..It's not that I couldn't have another kid of my own. It just never seemed to matter much to me . I always was struggling as is to get my education to take care of my little family. Was busy with finding a perfect significant other...do you think that I should try get pregnant? I don't care about getting pregnant...there are plenty of ready made children waiting to be adopted. I always struggled to have my quiet corner, peace of mind, college degree, nice living conditions, two cats...I have it now, even a steady boyfriend. But, there is something else, now...should I just spend some money on a gym membership and forget the whole crazy thought?I have a degree in Child Development, and had worked at a day care for over 14 years, then I went and got a degree in Education and I've been working as a teacher for some time nowIf I chose adoption I would never change my mind no matter how hard it would get..I'm simply not that type.When I read all the beautiful caring answers of every one here, it leaves me wondering if what is right for people in one country is also suitable for another country...Is it the same degree of difficulty to adopt a child in any given country or say, is it easier to adopt an Asian kid or a child from Africa? or its all the same? more

Resolved Question: Can anyone who is, was, or could of been a young mum please answer these questions?

What made you go to the doctors? What was your reaction when you found out? Did you keep it to yourself? if so for how long? Did anyone go with you? if so who? How did having a kid in school change your life? Did you get stared at? Any good or bad comments? If so what? Did you stay at school? if so for how long and why?, if not what did you do? How did the school handle it? Did they try and make you leave? Are you still in school? or planning to get any kind of degree? Did you put any kids up for adoption? Did anyone make you?Why did or didn't you? Did you consider abortion? have it forced on you? or go through with it? What made you decide to do it or keep it? Did you go through any abuse? Did you loose the baby? if so how? Did you want/have a natural birth? or use drugs? did anyone make you go one way or the other? or did you plan on drugs or natural then change your mind? Did you have a lot of morning sickness? What could/couldn't you eat? any cravings normal or weird? if so what? What does your religion feel towards unmarried sex? or teenage pregnancy? does it believe in abortion? Did you have a lot of support?Any friends stick by you? Is the dad still around? or apart of the babies life? How old were you both when you found out and when you had her? when was your baby born? gender? How did you get pregnant? (bad condom, careless, rape) Did you have to get stitches and why? Did you have to get a cesarean? why? Any other birth complications? Any depression experienced before or after? Did your parents help out? How did you tell your parents? How did they react? Once born, how did you support this baby financially? Did you get married to the babies father? for love or forced? when? If not together does the dad pay child support? Any other kids? if so how far apart? how old were you when you had them? Do you wish you had waited to have kids? when do you think a better time in life is to have kids? Sorry for the millions of questions lol I am doing an assignment on teenage mums, including myself. I was hoping for genuine answers to start getting ahead. Everything is confidential, and any info would be useful. Who knows could make friends out of this ^^ more

Resolved Question: Survey for teen moms and teen moms to be?

I'm not trying to be judgmental, I'm honestly curious. Not all of these questions will apply to everyone, so if anything doesn't apply to you, feel free to answer n/a. 1. How old are you now? when your baby was born? 2. How old is the baby's father now? when the baby was born? 3. How did you did you get pregnant? (yes, I know. sex. What I mean is did you get pregnant on purpose, did your birth control fail, were you just being careless, etc) 4. Did you consider abortion? If so, what made you decide to keep the baby? 5. Did you consider adoption? If not, why not? If you considered it and decided against it, why? If you considered it and gave your baby up, why? 6. Once the baby was born, how did you support the baby financially? 7. Is/was the father still in the baby's life (a) when you were still pregnant, (b) when the baby was first born, (c) when the baby was 1 year old and (d) when the baby was 5 years old? 8. Did you and the baby's father get married? If so, when? how long has it been? how is it working out? 9. If you and the baby's father did not get married, is he paying child support? 10. Have you graduated from high school or are you currently enrolled in high school/GED program? 11. Have you graduated from college or are you currently enrolled in college? 12. If you have other children, how many years apart are your children? (in other words, when did you get pregnant again?) 13. If you have other children, did you have another child with the same father or with a different father? 14. If you had another child by a different father, is your relationship with the second father worse, better or the same as the father of your first child? 15. In retrospect, do you think it was all for the best or do you wish you could have had your child when you were older? 16. In retrospect, if you wish you could have waited to have your child when you were older, when do you think is the more ideal time to have kids? (no time is perfect, but some times are better than others, right?) more

Resolved Question: How to become a private foster carer in Scotland Uk?

I am looking to find more information as to how to become a private foster carer. I already know of a boy in foster care who is waiting adoption. This boy is very close to my son as they are best friends at the nursery. Due to spending so much time helping out in the nursery I have come to love this boy very quickly and only recently found out he was up for adoption or I would of started this process 6 months ago when I first fell in love with him. I would love to adopt him but the adoption process takes too long, as by the time I am qualified he will already of been adopted and moved miles away from all that he knows. I know that 1 family is showing an interest but they live no where near his mum and siblings who have wished for an open adoption. It would also be distrubting the boy loads as he would have to change nursery again and settle into a whole new area and life style. We could keep him in the area he is used to and he would stay in the same nursery and we would encourage his mum to keep open communication if she so wished. It was recommended to me to look into private foster caring for this child for a year then adopting him. Can a boy in local authority foster care go into private foster care? Who would make this decision? How do I become a private foster parent legally? I am still trying to get the little boys social worker in his office to speak with him for advice but hes never in so feel its best to make good use of this time and gather all information needed before meeting him. Thankyou for taking the time to read my question any help or advice would be much appreciated.Thanks for all the posts so far. Can anyone clarify though if a child can go from local authority foster care into private foster care?Need some help guys. Today I managed to contact the boys social woker who wasnt very helpful, when i asked him about the private foster care route he said not his department. Hesaid not much else really. Spoke face to face with my local social worker who is going to look into things. Thankfully our local social worker is a friend so we could open our hearts up to him. Contacted my local MP who is also going to look around for advice. Phoned private foster duty worker in scotland who is away on holiday till Monday. So far all ive got is to speak to the boys social worker from everyone but he insists that as we are a county next door to him we must go through our own local office. Which I have now done but they have said that we should be dealing with the boys social worker. Starting to feel like I am going round and round in circles. Thats my update from today. Any thoughts? more

Resolved Question: Looking to adopt a child from foster care. Does the birth mum have any say on the who gets to adopt her kid?UK?

I am a married woman with 3 adorable children. My husband and I had always planned on adopting but never picked a time as we are still raising our birth children. My son who is in nursery has become very close friends over the past 6 months with a boy in the same nursery as him. Just recently i have found out that this little boy who we have all fallen in love with is actually in foster care waiting to be adopted. We desperately want to adopt this boy via the means of an open adoption which i believe is the birth mothers wishes also. The social worker has struggled to find this boy a family and has now located one on an island outside of Scotland but they want a closed adoption. Now what I want to know is would the social worker consider us for adopting the boy given that he already knows us and we would be able to keep him in the area that he is used to and the same nursery he is already in and we would be happy for the birth mother to stay in contact? The biggest problem that I am facing though is that we havent started the adoption process and have been adviced it could take at least a year to be approved and by then the boy will of been adopted. Is there anyway to get an adoption granted quicker in Britain? Or could the birth mother even have a say on who gets her child? I am not interested in doing anything illegal but would be very grateful for peoples knowledge on how I can adopt this boy and keep him surrounded by as many familiarities as possible. Seems very sad if the only stability this 4 year old could have will soon be his first name and nothing else if we cant adopt him. Any questions please ask and thankyou for taking the time to read my lengthy question. God bless P.S. I live in Britain more

Resolved Question: could you help me with my short story?

i've wrote this short story to submit to the school publication of, well, my school. i know it's kinda lengthy, but any feedback would be gratefully appreciated :D The white sheet was stretched over me, quivering with each gust of wind in the drafty room. I shifted a little, and the springs responded, resonating, and that dreadful noise I hear constantly pierces my ears. A million needles it seems pierce my legs in the bitter cold, yet on my forehead form dazzling crystals of sweat, dripping down my neck to form a wet puddle around my head. In the sheer torture I sob, and it allows a huge bit of reassurance. If I laughed, I would know that I had lost my sanity. The walls were gray in the darkness, but in the daytime they were a pleasant shade of yellow—pleasant to anybody who did not know. Heavily adorned mirrors hung everywhere, and unnecessary, expensive glass curios sat with beautiful, angelic figurines staring out at you, eyes seeming to follow every step. Dolls, doilies, and dollhouses this room hosted; every doll/item is happy in every way imaginable. This huge mansion, including my room, is where I live, but it is not only me. Others live here. This mansion has everything to compel a young child—bucketfuls of sweet candies, toys scattered everywhere, the expensive porcelain dollies with soft hair…I had been just like any other little kid would have been. Forever ago—or that’s as it seems—I was an orphan until a nice, loving couple adopted me (it seemed like adoption at least, just like an animal would be.) They were everything I could ask for…they would tuck me in my covers at night, defeat the sinister monsters under my bed, and replace the parents who didn’t want me. I lived then in a surreal life, a time bubble almost, where everything was perfect, of course including the gigantic house full of fun things. Every day I would wake up at dawn, eager to begin the new day of discovering different rooms and things in the house and new toys. Happiness never lasts long, however. I see it clearly; it’s like a movie playing in my head. I remember shrieking, then awakening, panting, sweat plastering my body to the sheets. This nightmare I do not remember now, but I do remember it being the most terrifying dream of my life. Most terrifying event! It was worse than all of my fears combined. I lie waiting, time unmoving, for my ‘parents’ to rush in, tears in their eyes in fear of why I had screamed. That time never came. I felt unloved. But then, rationality would creep back into my young mind. Of course they loved me! But I could actually sense the emptiness in the house, empty of any living souls but myself. And that’s when They and I first met. Teeth clenched together in fear, I force the sheet farther over me with every part of my body pinning it down. My bones and muscles ache from how hard I forced the sheet down. It is with crazy reassurance that I fall asleep. My teeth chatter together; I shake my head from side to side. My eyes pop open to see the window open and the curtains billowing out. Have you ever imagined a window being opened when it was closed a few hours ago, and you can’t even get up from bed to shut it? It’s even difficult for me to believe that this is my new life. It’s time. I feel it in the air, thousands of spirits coming alive, but not in human form. I bury my head against my pillow. Oh no! The pillow is snatched out from under my head and tossed lightly in the air, back and forth between two souls which I’ve gotten used to. Laughter from the ballroom directly downstairs from my room echoes through the walls. I am somehow fortunate. None of the ghosts in my house would ever hurt me. All of them love me; they think that I am their lost child. That’s one thing everyone here has in common; they all have lost their child in some way, so they take possession of me. The ghosts are aware of how terrified I am of them, so they mostly keep their distance, however. Gradually the entire house becomes alive with noises of every kind. Again, there are thousands of ghosts and the house is huuuuuge. Ghosts from all different time periods intermingle together and teach others hobbies and activities they did when they were alive. The oldest ghost is from the 1600’s, so that can show you how old this house is… To the outsider, it may seem ridiculous that I am fearful of something that absolutely loves me, but you cannot judge until you have walked the steps I have. And, of course, you must consider the fears I have towards the future…will I die? Will I live forever? Will the ghosts kill me? Will the ghosts be freed and I become a restless ghost without peace? None of these questions I am able to answer. I have attempted on several occasions to communicate with the ghosts, but they have not spoken to me. They would smirk and continue dancing. However cruel this may seem, I wish with my entire heart that somebody could experience the sensation of having a mansion full of ghosts. Perh more

Resolved Question: What age is too old to have a child?

I am thirty one and I don't have any children. I had a miscarriage nine years ago. I really want to have child before I get really old. I can't seem the right guy. The guys I have dated in the past were all wrong. I have a descent job and my own place. I could have afford a child on my own but I do want to be married and have a father for my child. I have looked into adoption and I may later on but I want my own child as well. How long should I wait to find the right guy before I decide to have a baby on my own? more

Resolved Question: What should I do? My son is adopted and I think I found his birth sister.?

This question is not intended for people who are against adoption. I do not need to see anymore about what you feel is wrong about adoption. I know our decision to adopt was the right choice. My son is now 4 years old. His birth mother was 45 and had 7 children. her last 3 children she gave up for adoption. She has a severe drug problem as well as bipolar disorder. all of the previous adoptions were closed and his birth mother has not wanted to have any contact what so ever with us and our son. The birth father is unknown and it is SUSPECTED that she MAY have been prostituting. Our son was in foster care for a good bit before we learned of him. The paperwork we received about medical history listed the first names of his siblings. I found who i believe is his oldest biological sister. the birth date matches up, i know she is of indian decent and her last name matches (which is an unusual last name) She is 23 years old. I want my son to know as much as possible about his birth family. I had asked if the other 2 families who adopted his 2 siblings would be interested in allowing contact between the kids and I never received an answer. Should I contact her and give her the option to have a relationship with my son (she was not adopted) or should I leave it alone and wait until he is older and make this decision on his own? I am not sure if she is even aware of his existence as on the adoption forms the birth mother stated her oldest daughter had been raised by grandparents. I just want to do right by my son and not cause the sister any grief. Thank you.Thank you for the great answers. alot of adoption questions are answered with negativity and i appreciate nice people. thank you. more

Resolved Question: Partner refuses adoption?

I was talking to my parter about having children last night, and he is aware that I may not be able to have my own children. I have previously mentioned the possibility of adoption before, and trying to have kids early so I know whether getting on an adoption list may be necessary. He has always seemed weird about this but never said anything. Last night I said that if we can't have kids then he refuses to adopt. I have two questions: 1. Should I stay with someone and wait to find out whether we can have children only to find out that adoption may be the only option. Because if it comes to that, I want children. I love him and want to be with him forever, but it is really important for me to have a family. 2. What options are there? Apart from IVF, what can I do if I can't carry children. I know there is surrogacy, but I am living in Queensland, Australia and am unsure of the legalities, and am also afraid of situations where the surrogate mother decides to keep the baby - that would kill me! more

Resolved Question: how do you know when is the right time to divorce?

DH and I are in our early 40's and together 7 years. We tried to have children for the first 3 years but wound up with 3 miscarriages and 1 stillbirth. We researchd adoption and determined it wasn't for us because we couldn't afford it and weren't comfortable with open adoption and having a relationship with the birth mom for the rest of our lives. We decided to be childfree, and I have taken to that lifestyle faster and easier than my husband but I waited for him to catch up. However, now he thinks that we should be the best of friends and do all things together and NEVER FIGHT (I mean EVER, not even once) and that our lives should be easy since we don't have kids. I think he has high expectations, but he is very unhappy with me but won't tell me why. I try to do things together with him that he says he likes, but nothing helps, and the death knell is when we argue about something realy ridiculous and laughable. But he will get really upset and basically makes me feel so bad, like I am ruining his life because we aren't best friends, and I'm thinking of leaving him but really dont' want to, but he doesn't seem happyl. We've been seeing a counselor and he says he's happy to her, but then why is he so unhappy over even the littlest disagreements that we have? (the average disagreement is once every 3-4 weeks, lasts 2-3 hours, involves talking it over, and some tears and mostly silence and then resolving the issue) He just can't STAND THAT! I'm think that he wants a setford wife where NO PROBLEMS EVER HAPPEN but wouldn't I need to be on some psychotropic drugs for that to happen? more

Resolved Question: What should I do ?? suggestions please?

Ok, so I'm 16, and my fiancee is 17. Last year I got pregnant and because of my age everyone was telling me to have an abortion. The father did want to keep it but told me not to cause we cant afford it and it was bad timing. So I decided that he was right and that I wasn't ready for that kind of responsibility. So I knew if i kept it, it would be me being selfish cause the baby would have suffered cause we don't have the money to support it. We told his mom first and she freaked out and said if I didn't tell my parents she would so I told mine and they said they'd take me to toronto to get that abortion but I wasn't allowed to get another one if it happened again. And of course he told his mom so she said that if it happens then were not telling my parents next time and that she'll do it her self (she actually had her son, my fiancee at 16). So I had an abortion last year on September 10 I was 9 weeks pregnant and ever since then I've been depressed and feel horrible about killing my own baby before it even had a chance at life. (and I know I could have put it up for adoption but I just couldn't do that, have a child in the world and have some stranger take care of it and raise it) But over the last couple of months I've started to realize that I want a baby. Cause I know I'm able to do it now, I can hand the responsibility and financial to it. The problem is that my fiancee doesn't want to he just keeps telling me not yet just wait a few more months and he says it every time I mention it. And I know that he's right to put it off but I just want it so bad more then anything else. He wants to wait till the end of this school year cause he's a year older and will be finished and able to have a full time job he's going threw for an election so he'll make a lot of money. And we would be able to support it and have are own place and we already have a car. Originally he told me that we'll try this summer soon as we finish school and get the apartment but recently he decided that he wanted to wait a bit longer. And he to me seems like he doesn't want to at all but when I asked he swore to me that he does, and when he said it I totally believe it. I just wanna know what I should do, I know waiting is what's best, but I can't help but want it. I'm over the abortion it has nothing to do with that i was over that for a bit before I realized I wanted one. more

Resolved Question: Why are the kidnappers seen in a positive light in Haiti?

Could it be because the children are black and whites feel ENTITLED to do as they please with other ethnic groups? The truth is, what were they thinking? It is not enough to say that they took it upon themselvesgrapegrab children and take them to ANOTHER country to find their parents later! This sounds innocent because of the earthquake and the fact they are Haitians. Did they give thought to the FACT that some of the children have relatives that they would NEVER be able to locate them if they take them to Haiti? Then what? The Baptist organization will start sending the slaves (I mean children) to white families in the USA. They had NO INTENTIONS of getting permission. Real Christians follow Christ!! What happened to What Would Jesus Do in Haiti? Then again, white theology allows for almost anything under the sun. This totally blows me away!! Just because they say they are Baptist somehow makes it right, I guess? They made the decision to STEAL children, and I hope they spend some time in jail. If the laws of Haiti do not apply to WHITES or Baptists then the jails do. All of these comments about how the kidnappers were in the right are from the pits of Hell! Doing wrong can never convert itself into a right!! Go ahead and pray; this is not going away any time soon. I could accept it if the children had already been assigned to leave but were waiting on papers. I cannot imagined these people simply plucking kids they deemed as parentless. What is wrong with a make shift orphanage in Haiti? Like San Franciso, Haiti underwent an earthquake, but the land is still there. The country did not fall into the sea!! If you wanted to give testimony to Jesus, let the Baptist Church be the first to set up an orphanage for children. With the president of Haiti stopping even auhtorized adoptions, they knew full well that they were in the wrong. The bible says even Jesus had to learn obedience through the things that he suffered. They need to do some time, really. They DID NOT have good intentions because they KNEW that they did not have permission but did it anyways. This NOT hidding Jews from the Nazis; this is taking children because you have plans of your own. Good, may God remind you that obedience is better than sacrifice when they are lying in jail somewhere. The USA will be much harder than Haiti, much harder!!! more

Voting Question: Is it wrong of my parents to do this?

my parents have never been his biggest fans, but now since i'm pregnant they really aren't. My boyfriend and i are both 17. They keep saying he isn't fit to be a father, when they are just judging his appearancee saying that he won't be a good dad, just because of the way he looks.. He is actually very excited about the baby. There is no way that i am getting a abortion, or that we are putting the baby up for adoption. He already is proving that he will be a great dad. He calls meevery nightt to make sure that i'm doing ok, and that the baby is too. He has a job, and so do i. we have both thought about the whole process of raising a child. No, i'm not dropping out and neither is he. we are seniors anyways. also, we have been together for 4 years. And they have basically told me that the main reason they don't like him is his appearence. As far as financial needs go, his great grandpa left him a ton of money for when he turns 18. What should we do about my parents??? They know all of this, yet they still arent accepting. My boyfriend even sat down with them, and explained how much he loved me, and how much he loved our baby already, and he can't wait to be a dad. this is him: http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/33778591.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/34161090.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/l_b970ad1ee82d49bb82add28653518c31.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/NewPicture.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/l_a7b81ab0d20348c88236feb893a1a757.jpg more

Resolved Question: how can my bf prove to my parents he will be a good dad?!!!?

my parents have never been his biggest fans, but now since i'm pregnant they really aren't. My boyfriend and i are both 17. They keep saying he isn't fit to be a father, when they are just judging his appearancee saying that he won't be a good dad, just because of the way he looks.. He is actually very excited about the baby. There is no way that i am getting a abortion, or that we are putting the baby up for adoption. He already is proving that he will be a great dad. He calls meevery nightt to make sure that i'm doing ok, and that the baby is too. He has a job, and so do i. we have both thought about the whole process of raising a child. this is him: http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/33778591.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/34161090.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/l_b970ad1ee82d49bb82add28653518c31.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/NewPicture.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/l_a7b81ab0d20348c88236feb893a1a757.jpg No, i'm not dropping out and neither is he. we are seniors anyways. also, we have been together for 4 years. And they have basically told me that the main reason they don't like him is his appearence. As far as financial needs go, his great grandpa left him a ton of money for when he turns 18. What should we do about my parents??? They know all of this, yet they still arent accepting. My boyfriend even sat down with them, and explained how much he loved me, and how much he loved our baby already, and he can't wait to be a dad. more

Resolved Question: My parents are stressing me out while i'm pregnant!!!!! help?

my parents have never been his biggest fans, but now since i'm pregnant they really aren't. My boyfriend and i are both 17. They keep saying he isn't fit to be a father, when they are just judging his appearancee saying that he won't be a good dad, just because of the way he looks.. He is actually very excited about the baby. There is no way that i am getting a abortion, or that we are putting the baby up for adoption. He already is proving that he will be a great dad. He calls meevery nightt to make sure that i'm doing ok, and that the baby is too. He has a job, and so do i. we have both thought about the whole process of raising a child. this is him: http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/33778591.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/34161090.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/l_b970ad1ee82d49bb82add28653518c31.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/NewPicture.jpg http://i939.photobucket.com/albums/ad231/waterMELon-is-good/l_a7b81ab0d20348c88236feb893a1a757.jpg No, i'm not dropping out and neither is he. we are seniors anyways. also, we have been together for 4 years. And they have basically told me that the main reason they don't like him is his appearence. As far as financial needs go, his great grandpa left him a ton of money for when he turns 18. What should we do about my parents??? They know all of this, yet they still arent accepting. My boyfriend even sat down with them, and explained how much he loved me, and how much he loved our baby already, and he can't wait to be a dad. more

Resolved Question: Please help, what would you do?

I (White) was raped by a guy (black) i knew on the 25th of january, 2010. When I got checked it was past the 72 hrs for the morning after pill. my period was due on jan 30th but it never came. i know i have to wait two weeks before a positive pregnancy test but my concern is what is the likelyhood i would get pregnant from this? my second question: if you were raped and got pregnant from the guy what would you do? would you keep the baby? Abortion? or Adoption? I am against abortion so it is out of the question. I have wanted a child for a bit and I lost my first one in october. now that this happened I do not know what to do. Any help is much appreciated. thank you. more

Resolved Question: Waiting Child Adoption?

We have two bio kids, 5 (girl) and 9 (boy). Are we crazy for wanting to adopt an older child? We are thinking of a kid who is between their ages, or younger. I understand that most older kids have been through trauma and will have challenges. Our son has some challenges w/ ADHD, but I just don't know what to expect in terms of challenges with adopting an older child. For example, attachment issues and food issues--do these things improve over time? What are the typical things we would encounter? Do bio and adopted kids blend easily? We have discussed with our children and they are excited about the prospect. (Though we have been honest w/ them about only be in the 'thinking phase"). Advice would be great. more

Resolved Question: how much of this is true about peta?

7 Things You Didn’t Know About PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) 1) According to government documents, PETA employees have killed more than 19,200 dogs, cats, puppies, and kittens since 1998. This behavior continues despite PETA’s moralizing about the “unethical” treatment of animals by farmers, scientists, restaurant owners, circuses, hunters, fishermen, zookeepers, and countless other Americans. PETA puts to death over 90 percent of the animals it accepts from members of the public who expect the group to make a reasonable attempt to find them adoptive homes. PETA holds absolutely no open-adoption shelter hours at its Norfolk, VA headquarters, choosing instead to spend part of its $32 million annual income on a contract with a crematory service to periodically empty hundreds of animal bodies from its large walk-in freezer. 2) PETA president and co-founder Ingrid Newkirk has described her group’s overall goal as “total animal liberation.” This means the complete abolition of meat, milk, cheese, eggs, honey, zoos, aquariums, circuses, wool, leather, fur, silk, hunting, fishing, and pet ownership. In a 2003 profile of Newkirk in The New Yorker, author Michael Specter wrote that Newkirk has had at least one seeing-eye dog taken away from its blind owner. PETA is also against all medical research that requires the use of animals, including research aimed at curing AIDS and cancer. 3) PETA has given tens of thousands of dollars to convicted arsonists and other violent criminals. This includes a 2001 donation of $1,500 to the North American Earth Liberation Front (ELF), an FBI-certified “domestic terrorist” group responsible for dozens of firebombs and death threats. During the 1990s, PETA paid $70,200 to Rodney Coronado, an Animal Liberation Front (ALF) serial arsonist convicted of burning down a Michigan State University research laboratory. In his sentencing memorandum, a federal prosecutor implicated PETA president Ingrid Newkirk in that crime. PETA vegetarian campaign coordinator Bruce Friedrich has also told an animal rights convention that “blowing stuff up and smashing windows” is “a great way to bring about animal liberation,” adding, “Hallelujah to the people who are willing to do it.” 4) PETA activists regularly target children as young as six years old with anti-meat and anti-milk propaganda, even waiting outside their schools to intercept them without notifying their parents. One piece of kid-targeted PETA literature tells small children: “Your Mommy Kills Animals!” PETA brags that its messages reach over 1.2 million minor children, including 30,000 kids between the ages of 6 and 12, all contacted by e-mail without parental supervision. One PETA vice president told the Fox News Channel’s audience: “Our campaigns are always geared towards children, and they always will be.” 5) PETA’s president has said that “even if animal research resulted in a cure for AIDS, we would be against it.” And PETA has repeatedly attacked research foundations like the March of Dimes, the Pediatric AIDS Foundation, and the American Cancer Society, solely because they support animal-based research aimed at curing life-threatening diseases and birth defects. And PETA helped to start and manage a quasi-medical front group, the misnamed Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine, to attack medical research head-on. 6) PETA has compared Jewish victims of the Nazi Holocaust to farm animals and Jesus Christ to pigs. PETA’s religious campaigns include a website that claims—despite ample evidence to the contrary—that Jesus Christ was a vegetarian. PETA holds protests at houses of worship, even suing one church that tried to protect its members from Sunday-morning harassment. Its billboards taunt Christians with the message that hogs “died for their sins.” PETA insists, contrary to centuries of rabbinical teaching, that the Jewish ritual of kosher slaughter shouldn’t be allowed. And its infamous “Holocaust on Your Plate” campaign crassly compared the Jewish victims of Nazi genocide to farm animals. 7) PETA frequently looks the other way when its celebrity spokespersons don’t practice what it preaches. As gossip bloggers and Hollywood journalists have noted, Pamela Anderson’s Dodge Viper (auctioned to benefit PETA) had a “luxurious leather interior”; Jenna Jameson was photographed fishing, slurping oysters, and wearing a leather jacket just weeks after launching an anti-leather campaign for PETA; Morrissey got an official “okay” from PETA after eating at a steakhouse; Dita von Teese has written about her love of furs and foie gras; Steve-O built a career out of abusing small animals on film; the officially “anti-fur” Eva Mendes often wears fur anyway; and Charlize Theron’s celebrated October 2007 Vogue cover shoot featured several suede garments. In 2008, “Baby Phat” designer Kimora Lee Simmons became a PETA spokesmodel despite working with fur and leather, after making a $20,000 donation more

Resolved Question: Baby missing, husband drifting?

I have been married for 2 yrs and right off day 1 my husband and I have been trying to have a baby, but I'm just not getting pregnant. We've seen fertility specialists and we are both fertile and healthy, but it's not happening naturally for us. We also tried in vitro fertilization TWICE last year, but the 1st time it didn't take, and the 2nd I miscarried after only 4 weeks of pregnancy. It's killing me that I'm unable to have a baby of mine, to give a son to my husband. Motherhood has been my most cherished dream for years, and now that I am married to the man I love, that wish of becoming a mother have become ever bigger.I'm also having a hard time accepting my inability to become pregnant because I have a lot of pressure on my shoulders because my husband's 22 yrs my senior (we're 28 and 50) and I want our baby to be born soon so he can enjoy him. Also I feel pressurised because he already has a child from his previous marriage, a daughter, that he loves more than anything in the world. Please don't think that I have ill feelings for his daughter (because in fact I like her very much and care for her a great deal) but it eats me up inside that another woman was able to make him a father and I am still not. Adoption is not an option, nor is surrogacy, because I want the baby to be HIS, and I want to give it to him, not yet some other woman. And his family is also pressuring me to get pregnant and "produce him an heir" (these are their exact words, what with them being of lebanese origin and having a male child is very important in this culture). And the worst is that now this is also affecting us as a couple; he's being distant and away at work a lot more (he's a doctor) and I think his family might be telling him that I'm not a good wife because I can't give him a son. Lately we've been arguing a lot and bigger than we ever did, and we make love only once or twice a week (we used to do it everynight except the 2 nights a week he's on call at the hospital). Even his ex-wife (who still blames me for their failed marriage) seems to rejoice at the fact that I can't have a baby. I feel lonely and deprived [emotionally, as a wife and as a mother-wannabee]. I want my husband back like we were in the beginning, I want to become a mother more than anything in the world, and I want to fulfill this dream that is also my husband's whom I love to death but I think I may be going nuts. What should I do to make us close again, and to live through this long wait of getting pregnant? more

Resolved Question: Lupron Depo shot, endometriosis, and getting pregnant? Help!!!?

My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 4 years. Had a lapascopy done and found I have horrible endometriosis. I was told I needed the Lupron Depo shot (I will receive 1 every 3 months for 6 months), then I will have to wait 3 months, switch hormones stuff around before we can try to get pregnant. I have heard how horrible the side effects can be. My question is anyone have any luck getting pregnant after being on Lupron Depo? My husband and I can not afford IVF like Octomom. Just so frustrating how some people can pop out babies like puppies (that they can't afford to take care of, so we're footing the bill in the long run) and how couples like my husband and I can't even have 1!!! Any help or advice out there? Just depressed and frustrated. Also private adoption is too expensive as well. We have looked into fostering to adopt, but would like our own child as well more

Resolved Question: I'm thinking about abortion and I feel horrible about it!?

I am pretty positive I'm pregnant again. All the things I feel are undeniable and they're exactly like when I was pregnant with my daughter who is now 7 months old. I cannot have another child! I already have my daughter full time, I work 2 jobs and take 2 college classes, my husband works 2 jobs, AND he has another daughter who is 4. Her mother is constantly starting fights with us and stressing me out. I can hardly handle life as it is. We're just holding on until I get my first degree and can get a better job while I go to law school. Did I mention we're only 19 and shouldn't have 2 kids anyway???? I don't believe in abortion. I think it's wrong. I can't fathom killing my own child! It's a sin! Although so is premarital sex and I didn't seem to have a problem with that... I know myself, though, and I couldn't put it up for adoption. I would always wonder about it if I was even able to let it go. I'd torture myself and lose sight of the two wonderful girls that I do have (I love my step daughter like my own) I just know that it would be a bad idea so I think that abortion would be what is best for our family. But how can I live with that? I've ALWAYS been against it! Advice?? By the way, if you read my other post then you know, but if not I just want to say that I am going to the doctor tomorrow but I can't wait until then! Also that we have made efforts in the past to get an IUD for me and things have gotten in the way to make it so that I couldn't get in until now. more

Voting Question: I think I'm pregnant again and I don't know what to do?

I'm 19 and I have a 7 month old daughter. Her father and I have been together since we were 15 so we have a stable relationship. We got married when she was 6 weeks old. He has a 4 year old, though, who was born when he was 14. He didn't get to see her until this past summer because he had to wait until he was 18 to file for rights. We spent all the time before his 18th birthday fighting with the mom about letting him see his daughter, then we fought in court about the terms (because the magistrate obviously wasn't going to give him rights). Now that he is seeing his daughter we spend a lot of time fighting with the mom anyway because she is always lying to the child and telling her not to like her father (stupid). On top of that my husband and I both work 2 jobs each and I'm still taking classes to get my English degree and go on to law school. It is hard because I also have the baby full time (one of my jobs is for a guy who doesn't mind that I bring my daughter to work while I pack and ship things that he sells) I have an appointment tomorrow to get an IUD, but I think it might be too late. I was supposed to get one back in November because I was tired of dealing with my doctor's office about getting a shot for birth control, but the office that I went to was so backed up that they had to cancel my appointment for that day and I couldn't get back in until January because of the holidays. My husband and I have been careful, but I'm not sure what happened around Christmas. It was the first night that we didn't have our daughter since she was born. My mom kept her for the night and told us to go to my dad's and party with him. She wanted us to take a break and she wouldn't take no. So we were both really drunk and I don't think we were careful. The last week or so I have been REALLY moody. I am bloated and I can smell everything. I've developed a very small hard knot right where my uterus should be. It was the same thing I could feel when I was first pregnant before. I've been exhausted all the time and I've started taking naps with my daughter. I am getting really behind on things, but I'm just so tired! It is exactly how I felt when I was pregnant with my daughter!! When I go in tomorrow they will test for pregnancy, but I can't sleep worrying! My period hasn't gone back to normal since I had my girl in June so I have no idea if I've missed it! What should I do? We can't handle another kid! We're killing ourselves as it is! I don't WANT another kid!! I don't believe in abortion! I don't think I could put it up for adoption! Help!! I'm freaking out. I seriously think I'm pregnant again!I would like advice anyway. I am almost positive I am pregnant. I feel exactly the same way and I knew then too. I only took the test to have proof for my husband (then boyfriend) It feels very undeniable....Thank you Englishxana, actually that helps. I know that worrying can cause some of the symptoms, but I wasn't worried until my husband and I started talking about how weird I was feeling earlier. Then I realized what all the symptoms correlated with... Hopefully it is just my period beginning again! And yeah.. mean people do suck. Especially the ones who lie to children... more

Resolved Question: Why is Domestic Adoption so difficult?

Not meaning to be senseless but, Why are people jumping on board for adoption for children in Haiti when there are over 100,000 children here in the united states waiting for adoption? My wife and I are in the process and don't understand why it takes so long and why if you are taking a child out of the social services program it costs so much for adoption? more

Resolved Question: Adoption with out an agency?

hi was just wondering if/how i could go about adopting a baby in sydney without going through an agency??? My husband and i have been trying for a baby for 3years now and with no luck we are looking into adopting a child but the wait is so long and also cost alot, if there is any way of being able to adopt without the agency please i would love to know. more

Resolved Question: Am I the only person who thinks that children require more than money and love to raise? Thoughts please!?

About me and him: - him: mid 30s.. me early 30s, both with master degree in technology field - me: financially good, debt free, but far from 'stable', him: 40k in the hole - both renters - me: minority, him: white guy - me american living in foreign country, him: living in native country far away from his only fam: mom I'm strongly considering placing my first child with a family via private adoption for the following reasons: 1. I realistically cannot gurantee or provide a stable family environment.. my family is on another continent and he has almost no family here. 2. I came from an unstable family environment and fear making the same mistakes my mother and father made 3. I am a contractor, therefore my jobs determine where I live and how often I move.. rather than the other way around.. This also means I have to pay for my maternity leave which I have moved into a cheap temporary apartment in order to save the money to do that.. 4. I do not have a house 5. I am living in a country far far away from the kind of family you can depend on 6. The relationship I had with the father is so destroyed that I cannot see any workable co-parenting agreement as he has not lived up to his own promises nor stepped up for his responsibilities. 7. I know i am having a boy and I fear not being able to raise a well adjusted young man who can have relationships with women since his own mom hasnt yet figured it out well enough to teach by example.. 8. his dad also comes from a single mom and has no idea how to be a father or a good partner since he didnt have a father and his mom didnt have a partner during his childhood. 9. While i made a huge mistake by becoming pregnant by an irresponsible and selfish man, I want to give my son a good life with a family who is ready and waiting to be focused on HIM and not on cleaning up their relationship, finances, housing, job or other situation.. 10. I want to give myself a second chance at finding a good man with whom I may or may not have children with. 11. Children deserve to be born into a family with support I have close relatives that have adopted.. my grandmother was single when she adopted 2 boys and I commend and have no problem with it, however I feel that if the possibility is there, why not allow the child to have a male and female parent? The father (mid 30s!!) does not support me in this option, and yet he still lives with roomates like a college student and goes out drinking till 4am in the morning with his jobless BEST friend (jobless more than 2 years). I think it takes more than just money and love to raise a child... there's a whole lot of social supportt hat needs to be set up which I dont have. Father claims he will take part but hasnt put any time, effort or research in finding ways to make this work. Each time I do, he ignores my efforts and claims that Im doing nothing. I want to hear from older mothers and fathers.. (not 24 years old.. more into the 30s or of similar background) Thanks Elena more

Resolved Question: Will abortion be acceptable now that China has some little girls to adopt?

International Child Foundation is a state licensed and Hague Accredited non-profit adoption agency. We serve children who need families throughout the US and all over the world, as well as in our home state, Arizona. ABC Adoption Services is the name of our domestic adoption program. Our philosophy is that every child deserves a loving family and that every family deserves an agency they can trust. We have helped many families become parents to children... helped them learn about adoption and prepare to bring a new child into their home. We welcome birthmothers or birthparents to call. Services to birthmothers are entirely free. Counseling and planning for your child is our priority. If you choose to place your child for adoption, we have wonderful, caring and open-hearted parents waiting to love your child as their own. We are very good about helping birthmothers and fathers explore their options and come to a decision about what they feel in their heart would be best for their child. more

Resolved Question: I am a teen mommy... I became pregnant at 14. Please read my story. Please. I need help...?

This is a very hard story to tell but I was raped, when i was 14. By a group of three men. I became pregnant, and chose to give birth. Abortion was not an option, I was planning to give the baby up for adoption. When the time came to go for one of my ultra-sounds I was shocked to find out that there was a pair of twins in me. My mother is young and a stay at home mom. She offerd to watch my children so I could be a mom and go to school. At the time I was in a relationship with my boyfriend who is a year older then me. He is very supportive and is still with me. We have been together since I was 13. I know that this is rare for us to be together for two years, but I think God gave him to me to help me through this. And he is helping me. But it is very hard for him, to know I am not a virgin, and my virginity was taken from me. We are both christians and were planning to wait untill marriage. But this is such a hard situation and one night we were both so upset and we were talking about it. We were alone and the babies were asleep..and we has sex. I am a 15 year old mother of a Beautiful baby girl and boy. And as if that isn't hard enough, I think I'm pregnant again. What do I do?? I would feel so bad if I gave one baby away and kept two, my parents dont even know. For the health of my baby I know I need to tell them and the doctor, but my boyfriend is the only one who knows. Why did I have sex? What was I thinking?? I'm being punished and I don;t know how to get out of this mess. Help me, please.. more

Resolved Question: If I want a child years from now, am I able to begin the adoption process now?

This might be a completely stupid question but I'm going to ask anyway. I would love to adopt a child. I'm still very young (20) and still in college. I don't have much money of my own and I don't have my own place (I still live with my parents). I live in Canada. From what I've read, adopting a child from another country is extremely expensive and to be honest, I'm not sure if I'd ever be able to comfortably afford that process. This means that I would have to adopt through the public system in my own province, but from the information I have read so far that can take years and years (as many as 8 or more). My question is, even though I'm not financially stable or ready for a child at this point in my life, am I able to apply to adopt anyway? So that in the future when I AM ready, I won't have to begin then and have to wait all those extra years? I know this seems all very poorly thought out and it is. I'm not planning on applying tomorrow if I'm able, but it would give me something to think about for a while. I just can't seem to find the right information anywhere and am hoping someone can help me here. Thanks in advance.Thanks Mary, that's pretty much all I needed to know : ) more

Resolved Question: Why is Canada speeding up adoptions of Haitian children and bringing them here?

Dont we have enough Canadian children sitting in Fostered Homes waiting for families? more

Voting Question: Any advice on TTC with severe endometriosis?

I had surgery to remove the endo in June but it was complicated and I've been back in hospital twice for more laps and some reconstruction. I know I don't ovulate every month (not sure if I did this month because when I had my lap it was around the time I should have ovulated and my surgeon found a haemorrhagic cyst on my ovary), my DH has been tested and he's fine. I feel like we'll never get pregnant ever. I've been off the pill now for about 3 years, I know my most fertile time (I can't be sure because my cycle varies from 26-33 days) but I know we're doing everything we can. We have to wait a few weeks now anyway before we can try again because I've got stitches and they have to heal so I'm trying to be positive and think right, surgery's over at last (fingers crossed), new start, let's try again but it's hard. It's like am I not meant to have children, have I done something wrong or is there something wrong with me that means I'm not allowed to somehow, like I've got nothing worth passing on or something? I feel like I'm ruining things for him too- it's not his fault at all that it seems like I just can't and he says it's fine and he's supportive and if we can't then we can't but I feel terrible. I'm thinking that way to myself on a day to day basis- that if it turns out that we really can't then there are other ways like adoption or fostering (IVF/IUI aren't necessarily going to work for us either because of the surgeries I've had) but when it comes down to it pretty much everyone wants to have their own baby don't they? (I'm adopted myself so this is something I've given a lot of thought to). What am I doing wrong? Is there anything else I can do? Does anyone have any similar experiences? Thanks very much and sorry for going on. more

Resolved Question: Would you adopt a child that is not biologically related to you, but is related to your children?

My friend is an amazing mom. Two years ago her husband was killed in Iraq after only being married a couple of months. She found out 2 weeks after he left, that she was pregnant with her now 15 month old twin boys. A year before she met her husband he was involved with a nice woman, but they weren't compatible. In April of 2009, she got the shock of her life. Her husband had fathered a child with the other lady. The little girls mom had been killed in a car accident, and the state was looking for her husband. There was a will in place, and it stated that her deceased husband was the biological father, however her husbands name was not on the birth certificate. My friend asked the state to perform a DNA test. The DNA test came back that he was 99.999% the father. After meeting the little girl, she fell in love. This was the clincher for my friend. Since she was still licensed to do foster, she immediately applied for guardianship over the little girl. The state had to wait a mandatory 6 months waiting period to see if anyone would come forward to claim the little girl. Since no one came for the little girl, she has adopted her foster daughter. Today my friend had a big party to celebrate the adoption of her little girl. So my question is: Would you adopt a child that is not biologically related to you, but is related to your children? more

Resolved Question: Please could you help interpret my dream?

Sorry, It's so long. Ok, here's a little bit about Tori and my Half-aunt ( they are very important in the dream ). Ok, my aunt Rozzenna who is my moms sister gave birth to Tori and then gave her up for adoption. Tori then got adopted my my dad's half sister Cindy who wanted another child only to not take care of Tori. Cindy has been taking drugs since before me and Tori were born. When, Tori was twelve she ( Cindy ) met a younger man and ran away with him. When, the guy got arrested she came back and waited for him to get out of prison to run away again. Tori began cutting herself and became deeply depressed ( and she still is ). Cindy is back because she broke up with the man and Tori is with her every other weekend. Tori began dating this fifteen year old named Dante from New York 17 months ago when she was still thirteen or fourteen. We found out Dante is actually 16 when he came to visit her three weeks ago. Ok, here is the dream. It started out with me and Tori sitting in a room. On my side it was covered in light and her's was completely dark. She was wearing her normal dark and baggy clothing while I was wearing a short white and flowing dress. We were talking about why she became like this and what I can do to bring the old her back. She replied "Nothing. There is no hope for me.". Cindy burst through the door and started calling her a useless waste of space and that it would be better if she was found dead. Tori just laid there taking it until Cindy left. I told Tori I would fix things for good. I followed Cindy out side where her car was waiting. We were on a cliff. I yelled at her saying "You never loved her and you were never there. I was and I'm tired of seeing my best friend, my sister in pain because of you! You are the one that deserves to die not her. She is much better off without you. So, why don't you just disappear.". She had a look of shock on her face like most do when I stand up and talk down to an adult. She got into her car and it drove off the cliff. Tori showed up beside me with her dyed black hair covering her gray-blue eyes that match mine and her real brotherTaylor'ss perfectly. She started stepping toward the edge off the cliff saying "I don't deserve to be looked upon by the angels and those that are very important to this life and time. I deserve to die with the evil in which I hide.". I grabbed her arm and pulled her into a hug saying "You are my angel as I am yours." I saw us running into a field. Tori was wearing a white dress like mine and her brown hair was back instead of remaining black. Then, the scene switched to us and my brother and nana in a kitchen eating cake with chocolate sauce. We all looked three years older making me and Tori eighteen. My brother came up to me saying "He's waiting for you.". I looked outside a window. A boy a little older then me was pacing back and forth on the sidewalk. He had dark brown hair and eyes, but I didn't get a good look at his face or the texture of his hair to really place him to anyone I know. But, I felt like I will know him. I know he wasn't Dante ( Dante has blue eyes ) if that is who you think he might be in the dream. more

Resolved Question: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help interpret my dream?

Resolved Question: What did this dream with my cousin in it mean?

Resolved Question: What does this dream mean?

Ok, here's a little bit about Tori and my Half-aunt ( they are very important in the dream ). Ok, my aunt Rozzenna who is my moms sister gave birth to Tori and then gave her up for adoption. Tori then got adopted my my dad's half sister Cindy who wanted another child only to not take care of Tori. Cindy has been taking drugs since before me and Tori were born. When, Tori was twelve she ( Cindy ) met a younger man and ran away with him. When, the guy got arrested she came back and waited for him to get out of prison to run away again. Tori began cutting herself and became deeply depressed ( and she still is ). Cindy is back because she broke up with the man and Tori is with her every other weekend. Tori began dating this fifteen year old named Dante from New York 17 months ago when she was still thirteen or fourteen. We found out Dante is actually 16 when he came to visit her three weeks ago. Ok, here is the dream. It started out with me and Tori sitting in a room. On my side it was covered in light and her's was completely dark. She was wearing her normal dark and baggy clothing while I was wearing a short white and flowing dress. We were talking about why she became like this and what I can do to bring the old her back. She replied "Nothing. There is no hope for me.". Cindy burst through the door and started calling her a useless waste of space and that it would be better if she was found dead. Tori just laid there taking it until Cindy left. I told Tori I would fix things for good. I followed Cindy out side where her car was waiting. We were on a cliff. I yelled at her saying "You never loved her and you were never there. I was and I'm tired of seeing my best friend, my sister in pain because of you! You are the one that deserves to die not her. She is much better off without you. So, why don't you just disappear.". She had a look of shock on her face like most do when I stand up and talk down to an adult. She got into her car and it drove off the cliff. Tori showed up beside me with her dyed black hair covering her gray-blue eyes that match mine and her real brotherTaylor'ss perfectly. She started stepping toward the edge off the cliff saying "I don't deserve to be looked upon by the angels and those that are very important to this life and time. I deserve to die with the evil in which I hide.". I grabbed her arm and pulled her into a hug saying "You are my angel as I am yours." I saw us running into a field. Tori was wearing a white dress like mine and her brown hair was back instead of remaining black. Then, the scene switched to us and my brother and nana in a kitchen eating cake with chocolate sauce. We all looked three years older making me and Tori eighteen. My brother came up to me saying "He's waiting for you.". I looked outside a window. A boy a little older then me was pacing back and forth on the sidewalk. He had dark brown hair and eyes, but I didn't get a good look at his face or the texture of his hair to really place him to anyone I know. But, I felt like I will know him. more

Resolved Question: What does my dream mean?

Ok, here's a little bit about Tori and my Half-aunt ( they are very important in the dream ). Ok, my aunt Rozzenna who is my moms sister gave birth to Tori and then gave her up for adoption. Tori then got adopted my my dad's half sister Cindy who wanted another child only to not take care of Tori. Cindy has been taking drugs since before me and Tori were born. When, Tori was twelve she met a younger man and ran away with him. When, the guy got arrested she came back and waited for him to get out of prison to run away again. Tori began cutting herself and became deeply depressed ( and she still is ). Cindy is back because she broke up with the man and Tori is with her every other weekend. Tori began dating this fifteen year old named Dante from New York 17 months ago when she was still thirteen or fourteen. We found out Dante is actually 16 when he came to visit her three weeks ago. Ok, here is the dream. It started out with me and Tori sitting in a room. On my side it was covered in light and her's was completely dark. She was wearing her normal dark and baggy clothing while I was wearing a short white and flowing dress. We were talking about why she became like this and what I can do to bring the old her back. She replied "Nothing. There is no hope for me.". Cindy burst through the door and started calling her a useless waste of space and that it would be better if she was found dead. Tori just laid there taking it until Cindy left. I told Tori I would fix things for good. I followed Cindy out side where her car was waiting. We were on a cliff. I yelled at her saying "You never loved her and you were never there. I was and I'm tired of seeing my best friend, my sister in pain because of you! You are the one that deserves to die not her. She is much better off without you. So, why don't you just disappear.". She had a look of shock on her face like most do when I stand up and talk down to an adult. She got into her car and it drove off the cliff. Tori showed up beside me with her dyed black hair covering her gray-blue eyes that match mine and her real brotherTaylor'ss perfectly. She started stepping toward the edge off the cliff saying "I don't deserve to be looked upon by the angels and those that are very important to this life and time. I deserve to die with the evil in which I hide.". I grabbed her arm and pulled her into a hug saying "You are my angel as I am yours." I saw us running into a field. Tori was wearing a white dress like mine and her brown hair was back instead of remaining black. Then, the scene switched to us and my brother and nana in a kitchen eating cake with chocolate sauce. We all looked three years older making me and Tori eighteen. My brother came up to me saying "He's waiting for you.". I looked outside a window. A boy a little older then me was pacing back and forth on the sidewalk. He had dark brown hair and eyes, but I didn't get a good look at his face or the texture of his hair to really place him to anyone I know. But, I felt like I will know him. more