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Baby come back: Vikings teammates lobbying for Brett Favre's return - Pioneer Press

Pat Williams probably isn't the best guy to start the campaign for Brett Favre's return next season. The veteran defensive tackle doesn't know whether he'll return to the Vikings, either, so he understands the real value of lobbying at this point ...

Can Ellis keep going if team keeps losing? - San Francisco Chronicle

"Monta, come on back. We need you, baby," Don Nelson said to Monta Ellis on Tuesday night, via Nelson's postgame TV interview. Ellis missed two games with an ankle sprain. On Wednesday, he came back, baby, and played well, with 19 points and nine ...

BRIT BABIES CONCEIVED IN BACK OF CAR - Daily Star

Some parents-to-be were even happy to admit their tot was conceived in the back of a car. Between 6pm and 10pm is the favourite baby-making window. The figures come from a survey of 1,000 expectant couples.

3 month old baby with reflux-any solutions out there? - HealthCentral.com

I have a 3 month old baby girl with acid reflux. I have done a lot of research in desperation trying to find answers to my baby's behavior from birth pretty much. She had been extremely gassy and fussy from the moment she was born and has gotten ...

Hooping -- from child's play to exercise workout - Vancouver Sun

NEW YORK (Reuters Life!) - Hula Hoops, those baby boomer toys that fired a worldwide craze in the 1950s, have come back as must-have fitness tools to strengthen the core and battle the love handle. The hoop is an ancient toy, fashioned from dried ...

Clint Eastwood springs back into action - Metro.co.uk

He was a gregarious man – ‘always the life and soul of the party,’ recalls Eastwood junior – and his diligence and moral standards left a marked impression on his son. When it came to sport, however, the two didn’t always see eye to eye ...

What never to say to a single woman - CNN

( OPRAH.com ) -- Allow me to introduce myself. I am a gainfully employed, God-fearing, law-abiding citizen, and I come in peace. I don't bet on baseball, I take excellent care of my gums, I keep my tray table locked and upright from takeoff to ...

Making do in a place called Grace Village - NorthJersey.com

In the pre-dawn darkness, the Haitian girls emerge from the shipping containers where they have been sleeping on mattresses, afraid to stay in the orphanage in case an aftershock brings it down. They gather in a circle, some wrapped in sheets against ...

Federer: Fatherhood 'enhances' success - ESPN.com

MELBOURNE, Australia -- Roger Federer stayed up all night, drinking champagne with friends and returned to his hotel room as the sun rose to cap the celebration of his Australian Open victory by holding one of his baby girls in his arms. Looking ...

Tennis: Federer fetes victory with champagne celebration - Honolulu Advertiser

MELBOURNE, Australia — Roger Federer stayed up all night, drinking champagne with friends and returned to his hotel room as the sun rose to cap the celebration of his Australian Open victory by holding one of his baby girls in his arms. Looking ...

Open Question: Hamper ideas for New Mum/Baby?

Hi My Sister-in-Law is due to give birth to her first child (and my first niece or nephew) within the next 4 weeks and I really want to make her a couple of hampers. Having not had children myself I was hoping people may have ideas as to what I can put in the hamper I want to make a hamper just for her, full of little pampery products but she has sensitive skin so I have to be careful as to what I put in there. I also want to make one full of baby essentials that people forget about (and don't come in that Johnson's Baby Box you can buy) such as sudocrem, cradlecap shampoo, etc - any suggestions on what brands etc would be greatly appreciated too :-) Thanks :-D xXx more

Open Question: Ive just turned 21 and have recently found out im about 4 weeks pregnant..im unsure what to do..?

Ive taken four tests and they have all come back positive. I really do not know what to do. Im no longer with the father, it was just a fling (before anybody says use contraception, we did but sometimes it fails). I still live with my parents and im only working part time as i am currently half way through a college course studying beauty therapy. I have no money. I dont think im ready for a child as i have nothing to offer the baby. Abortion was my first thought but the more i have had time to think about the less certain i am, a good friend told me if i have doubts then i shouldnt go through with it as i will probably regret it. Also my mum and dad ( i am an only child) may be moving back to New Zealand this summer ( we lived there for a few years and are now hoping to gain residency) and im unsure on how having a baby would affect that. i dont want to mess their lives up either. before this happened i guese you could say i was party girl who "lived for the weekend" and the reason i am unsure about what to do is NOT because i dont want to give up my social but because im scared i cant give this baby a life it deserves. when i saw my self having kids it was a few years down the line (late 20s, rather than just starting them) when i would be married or in a stable relationship, with a house, being able to drive and have a good job, so that i would be able to provide for it..not 21, single, with no proper job or career and still living with my parents. I know i have probably given lots of pointless infortmation but im just trying to write down everything i can think off. I just dont know if i can do this by self. I can somtimes be spoilt and selfish, not intentially but somtimes i can be..if anybody has any advicee they can give me, if they have been in a similar situation, either with abortion or single parents i would be very gratefull x more

Open Question: Should I stay with my boyfriend for my baby?

I dont know what to do? I cant talk to my boyfriend without getting our feelings hurt it seems like there is just no getting around it. We fight til our heads hurt. we have a baby together. I dont know if we are getting married for love or the baby? Im scared and I know hes scared but i dont know what he truly thinks and i cant talk to him about it. we just fight. I love him but I cant deal with this. Last night we got into a fight and he left to his parents house. He always leaves when we fight and when he comes home he dosent want to talk about it. what am i supposed to do? everytime i try to work things out with him it just seems impossible. please help!!! more

Open Question: Can you help me with my Platy fry questions?

My platy had babies 3 weeks ago, I still have the 15 fry in the hatchery tank. How long before I introduce them into the general tank population. I don't think they can all stay in the hatchery until they are too big too be eaten. Any pointers, does that grass bed really work? My 6 year old is very dedicated to the survival of her babies. LOL -Also, the tank is only 10 gallons so I know I'll have to give some away. How old should they be before I allow my friends to come and adopt some of them? -15 platy fry -1 female platy - tail light tetra -1 plecostomus Thanks for you help in advance. Obviously we are novice fish keepers. more

Open Question: why do i feel like im going to have my period for about 3 weeks until it comes?

we are trying now for baby number 2 have been for last 2 years my periods have never been regular but every month i feel like its going to come on the 4th week but never dose and i feel sick have headaches cramp in my legs and stomach basiclly i feel like crap until my period dose arrive sometimes it can be 3/4 weeks late i spend a fortune on tests and jst feel like giving up i am scared to go to my doc dont want to know if something is wrong i know thats silly but thats me jst keep thinking i shuold be grateful for the beautiful little boy i already have can anyone give me any tips on regulating periods or dose it jst sort its self out. more

Open Question: Friend in some relationship trouble, any help appreciated :)?

Hey, basically my friend came to me this morning saying she did something really bad. she used to have this boyfriend who was a real player and personally I think a bit of a twat anyway she went to america for about three weeks in november and while she was away i seen him having an affair with his ex girlfriend, and it was more than once. when she came back i told her and they broke up and the boyfriend carried on seeing his ex and now they're engaged and she is expecting his baby and my friend has got back together with this really nice guy she dated once and she always says she dont like him that much but when ever he gets a new girl she has like psycho mood swings so i know she likes him really. Anyway so i thought everything was happy and then all of a sudden my friend comes to me in a mood saying she's bored and wants to have some "fun" and im like remember your boyfriend and she's got her head up in the clouds so then she starts having little flings with her ex boyfriends best mates so then he gets really pissed and comes all the way from spain to like have a go at her and then the next thing she's at my door this morning saying she had sex wth him all last night and she's totally in love with him and probably pregnant and he is still engaged to this girlfriend of his and she is still pregnant as well. she asked me what to do and i just didn't know what to say to her, is there anything anybody can suggest i tell her? much appreciated thanxs in advance xxx :) more

Open Question: I am 22 weeks pregnant and been watching abortion videos on youtube for some reason, can this harm my baby?

My question might be little stupid, it's our first child and me and my husband are very excited, so I've been watching baby videos on youtube and came across some extremely graphic videos about abortion and partial abortion, it's heart breaking and was wondering if this could do any harm to my baby since I am pregnant. Can watching these videos do any damage? I am just shocked, last night I couldn't sleep because for the first time in my life I've found out that there is something called partial abortion, that they do abortion at the last stage of pregnancy :( and that babies come out alive at times and they kill them :(, it's very disturbing and heart breaking and I can't stop crying. It's even more shocking that some women just do it because they can't raise a child or they're not ready for one. I couldn't sleep last night because my daughter kept kicking me all night and I was just thinking all the horrible things that are done to other babies, so please tell me if by watching and reading about these gruesome stuff could do any harm to me or my baby, I am not worried for myself rather for my unborn daughter. I am little embarrassed to ask my doctor this question, she'll probably think I am crazy for watching those things and reading about it. Please don't tell me your stand on abortion, I don't need to know especially if you support it. Thank you very much.Thank you guys, that made me feel much better. I don't stress out too much, it just makes me think a lot about the pain of those babies :(, it's just shocking, I wish it was illegal to abort babies but it's not and I guess there is nothing we can do. I've also found out Obama supports partial abortion and voted against the born alive act 4 times :(, I had no idea, I voted for the guy and now I regret doing that after finding out his stand on this issues. I guess being pregnant can change you a lot LOL. Before I found out I was pregnant I had no idea any of this stuff existed, I knew abortion did just not last stage and I thought everyone does it before the first 3 months of pregnancy.... more

Open Question: my spoiled baby lionhead rabbit?

I feed him alot but he is on his own all day wen I work.in eveniing wen I get back as soon as i come in he circles me and does binkies,wags his tail.why is this? more

Open Question: Very light brown discharge with cramping?

[Reposted after only getting one answer. I want more opinions. :)] Hey, ladies. I'm back with another question. :) My last period was January 13th, I had sex on the 25th, around my ovulation time, I've come to realize. We did have moderately rough sex Friday, the 29th. :P I'm due for my period on February 10th. A few days after the 25th I started having cramps off and on all day (which is what I asked about earlier.) Well, last night, after I went to the bathroom I wiped, I was cramping beforehand, and noticed somewhat thick discharge with a VERY light brown tint to it and a little bit on my underwear. I'm experiencing tender breasts, but nothing too bad. I'm on birth control, but haven't been taking it as I should, and have always experienced sore breasts. We aren't TTC, but a baby would be a very welcomed surprise. :) Am I getting my hopes up? Obviously no one can tell me if I am pregnant or not, and I will take a test only after a missed period, but does this sound promising? Implantation bleeding or a result of vigorous sex? :P Just like some opinions please! Thanks! more

Open Question: Baby coupons and discounts?

My best friend got his girlfriend pregnant, and they're only 16. They're planning on keeping the baby, so I was wondering if any of you know any websites or stores that give out great discounts or coupons for baby items. The baby is due in 2 months, and up until now, they've acted like she wasn't pregnant. They've ignored the pregnancy until now, so I wanted to help them out by steering them in the right direction, since the father is always coming to me for advice. Any suggestions on how they can save money when raising their child and still be good parents? more

Open Question: what are the chances that i might be pregnant?

I missed my period for 2 months I had to go to the dr. and he gave me hormones, which made my period come. I didnt have a period for Nov. and Dec. January 2nd I got it today is February 1st...What do you think I really did try with my husband this past month, we did it almost every day after day 10. So I really did try during my days of ovulation, almost every day. I dont have any pregnancy symptoms or i dont think my breast feel funny, but it might be because my period is coming.I had a miscarriage about 6 months ago, having a baby right now is like a dream for my husband and I. more

Open Question: mother in law from hell and new baby?

just had a baby. My mother in law has been complaining to my husband how I (her daughter in law) doesn’t ask her to stay over and spend time with the baby. Let me tell you…after having my baby, I didn’t ask her to stay coz my own mother was here helping me. I didn’t think it was a good idea to have both my mom and her to stay over at the same time (smart decision or so I thought). When I did ask her to come over (after my mom left), she said I didn’t “ask” her before and that she is going on vacation (her tickets weren’t booked…nothing was finalized). I begged, pleaded her to stay and said I’m sorry…but she didn’t budge. So when she’s back on from her vacation, she expects me to “invite” her over for a week or two and spend time with my baby. She has come over for a few hours and given me a lecture on how I should be raising my child, do this…don’t do that. Negates my rules completely. I tell her to not pick her up…she goes and does that. I’ve never had a good relationship with her. She has always tried to put me and my parents down…about how I am not good enough and my parents don’t send her nice expensive gifts and don’t call her regularly. Ugh. My husband is a mamma’s boy and thinks his mom can do no wrong. I categorically told him I am not inviting her over to stay over after what happened. If someone needs to…you do it. he thinks I should compromise since his mom is inflexible. I am fighting my own battles here…my husband does not have my back. I am not against her seeing the baby or anything..but she needs to realize that I cannot have her move in with me now. she can see the baby on a weekend or something and follow my rules. more

Open Question: Can someone please read this argument essay and tell me how to improve it?

Smoking should be banned in England completely! Our country can be an unpleasant and dirty place to live. No matter where you go, you always come across someone smoking which is a dangerous, dirty and expensive habit ,which has no positive effects. I will discuss why I strongly believe smoking should be banned in England and why we should take action now. My three main arguments against smoking are that smokers are ruining their own health, that it is bad for non-smokers’ health and thirdly, our health services have to pay vast amounts on stop smoking sevieces. The first problem with smoking is that it is damaging smokers’ health and taking away their lives. Smoking has so many negative effects including lung and heart disease, circulation and respiratory problems and asthma. Each year England has 364,000 patients admitted to NHS hospitals due to smoking related illnesses. One of the main health problems with smoking is cancer and Cancer Research claims that 114,000 people are dying each year due to smoking related diseases. Pregnant woman who smoke are also running a big risk of damaging their babies’ health; the poisonous chemicals go into the baby’s blood and this can result in a miscarriage, low birth weight or the baby being premature. I get the impression that people who start smoking are not well educated or just do not care about their own health, which is a cause for concern. However I know a person who has an asthmatic daughter and is well educated, but despite having a daughter who is more prone to health problems, she still chooses to smoke around her, which I think is appalling. Secondly it just isn’t right that non-smokers are having to inhale other people’s smoke. Scientists have proven that passive smoking is extremely dangerous to non- smokers as the smoker only inhales 15% of the smoke and the people around them inhale all the rest. Passive smoking can cause serious health problems especially for those with allergies, heart or lung disease and for children and babies. An example of just how dangerous passive smoking can be, is the entertainer, Roy castle; he was a non – smoker but through working in bars and clubs for many years he inhaled a lot of smoke and was diagnosed with lung cancer which killed him. Just the other day I was on my way to college and outside my local train station, there was a group of smokers there. I had no choice but to inhale their dirty smoke. Ruining your own health is one thing but damaging non – smokers health is just unacceptable. And the final problem with smoking is that it is expensive. The National Health Service is already in a terrible financial situation and they are having to give away millions of pounds?, not even knowing it will have any effect. The NHS spends on average £1m each day, £7m each week and between £1.4bn to £1.7bn each year on stop smoking services. Furthermore, smokers on average are spending at least £1500 on cigarettes every year. Some smokers on low incomes sacrifice their daily essentials such as food in order to buy cigarettes and that is very sad to know that some people have to go to those extremes to carry on smoking. Amy, you might want to say a line about why people smoke – to help them relax etc – although you conclude that the cost to their health, and their wallet, is too high?? When cigarette adverts began in 1911, smoking had a positive image because people did not know how harmful it was. Famous people were shown in films smoking, which made smoking very popular. However, even today it can be ‘cool’ to smoke and even if the young people know about the bad effects of smoking, they think they are invincible and ignore the warnings. Many young people get into smoking as a result of peer pressure and this is a huge problem which needs to be tackled, especially as smoking is so addictive, and many people find it incredibly hard to quit. In July 2007 I was very pleased to find out about the smoking ban as more people gave up smoking and enclosed public places became more pleasant to be in. However it still wasn’t enough to make everyone quit which is why we should ban it in England completely. Before banning it completely though, we should ban smoking in all public places including the streets as then smokers would have no choice but to smoke in their own homes. This would be bound to make a huge number of smokers choose to quit, as most responsible adults do not want to smoke near their children. It is not right at all that children have to be around people smoking at home because as well as it damaging their health, having smokers around them all the time is bound to encourage them to smoke and is an on going problem. I think all Schools throughout England should have ’Stop Smoking’ services available as this would increase the number of young people choosing to quit dramatically. I also think that if stop smoking adverts were more emotional and showed the effects on children, smokers would take quitting smoking much more seriously. The adverts should show ill children as this is very emotional and could make smokers realize that they are responsible for any health risks in their family. I have come to the conclusion that smoking doesn’t have any positive effects and is just making health matters worse. If we don’t do anything about this now, more and more people will die from smoking and this will carry on forever which would be very disappointing. When cigarette adverts began in 1911, smoking had a positive image because people did not know how harmful it was. Famous people were shown in films smoking which made smoking very popular. However, even today it can be ‘cool’ to smoke and even if the young people know about the bad effects of smoking, they think they are invincible and ignore the warnings. So I urge people to come forward and start an anti-smoking campaign – Together we can ban smoking in England! its all messed up:( please help:( more

Open Question: I have a 5month old son I haven't told my extended family on my mothers side?

I have a 5 month old son and my Mum Dad mums sisters and brothers. and Dads sisters and brothers know of him but know one else I haven't told my mums cousins and my cousins on my mums side like my Grans brothers children etc I don't no how to break it to them at this stage as its been 5 months now I don't want it look like Im ashamed of him but how do I break it to him at this stage as its been so long. He has developed his own little character so they wont see him as a baby but its only now Ive felt comfortable to come to terms and to show him around but I fear its been too long. more

Open Question: Overbearing Mother-in-Law and baby?

I just had a baby. My mother in law has been complaining to my husband how I (her daughter in law) doesn’t ask her to stay over and spend time with the baby. Let me tell you…after having my baby, I didn’t ask her to stay coz my own mother was here helping me. I didn’t think it was a good idea to have both my mom and her to stay over at the same time (smart decision or so I thought). When I did ask her to come over (after my mom left), she said I didn’t “ask” her before and that she is going on vacation (her tickets weren’t booked…nothing was finalized). I begged, pleaded her to stay and said I’m sorry…but she didn’t budge. So when she’s back on from her vacation, she expects me to “invite” her over for a week or two and spend time with my baby. She has come over for a few hours and given me a lecture on how I should be raising my child, do this…don’t do that. Negates my rules completely. I tell her to not pick her up…she goes and does that. I’ve never had a good relationship with her. She has always tried to put me and my parents down…about how I am not good enough and my parents don’t send her nice expensive gifts and don’t call her regularly. Ugh. My husband is a mamma’s boy and thinks his mom can do no wrong. I categorically told him I am not inviting her over to stay over after what happened. If someone needs to…you do it. he thinks I should compromise since his mom is inflexible. I am fighting my own battles here…my husband does not have my back. I am not against her seeing the baby or anything..but she needs to realize that I cannot have her move in with me now. she can see the baby on a weekend or something and follow my rules. Please help me. more

Open Question: has anyone got any good tips on how to bring on labour? im 40+5 weeks and have been having shows for 2 weeks?

hi, desp for this baby to come....will try almost anything. had sex, tried walking, hot baths, currys, nipple stimulation, jumping, gutted the house. i know i should be patient but im soooooo friggin tired now. this is my 2nd baby so i thought i would have went on time or just a couple of days late. braxton hicks happens at least every 5 mins only for a few seconds at times but it hurts at times but never comes to anything. had my 1st show 2 weeks ago but for the past 4 mornings theres been loads of snot like (sorry folks) and its been a lot. clear outs have been happening too sorry again) all the signs are there but is he just being a typical male and just being lazy. AGAIN, i know i should just be patient but im sure you'll understand it gets frustrating and im like a maniac......my poor hubby has to put up with the mood swings and temper and its not fair (to a certain degree lol). more

Open Question: Why would someone say how much they love you one day, and a week later be avoiding you?

It's a long complicated situation, but two years ago I met someone and she was so amazing. I began developing feelings for her merely a week or so after talking to her all the time and it was wonderful. When I expressed how I was beginning to feel, she slowly got distant. Her situation was complicated; she was pregnant with her second child from a different father. Soon after, she got back together with her unborn baby's father and they tried to work things out. We kept in touch briefly but much more on a friend basis than anything else. I was able to let my feelings go and be there when she needed me for emotional support over the years. I was happy that she was happy. The day they broke up, approximately two or three weeks ago, she texted me and we began talking again. I was there to cheer her up and she confessed she loved me and I mean the world to her. She also said two years ago she had feelings for me but didn't want to burden me with her life and has also said she didn't love her baby's father, but wanted to make her family work so her son could have his real father in his life. Immediately my walls broke down and my heart became vulnerable again. We hung out last week and it was nice, but now several days later it's like I don't exist. She rarely texts me or responds to my texts, hasn't called, and has promised to come see me but hasn't. Now I feel like my heart is shattered and she was simply reaching out to someone she knew cared to help her feel loved in her time of need. The problem is I was completely fine and on that friend level until she told me she loved me last week. Now I can't stop thinking about her and it's killing me. I don't know what to think or what to do to stop the hurt. I've done everything to be the perfect person for her, as a friend or more... and it just doesn't seem like it is enough. more

Open Question: does anybody know where you can still buy the lime green quinny zapp in the uk? i cant find it anywhere?

when i had my son 2 years ago you could buy a lime green quinny (my fave colour) but i already had a pushchair then. i was hoping they were still about for the new baby but i can find them :( does anybody know if you can still get them online? i can only find groovy green which i dont really like. also does anybody know if the maxi cosi car seat comes in any fun colours to? im in the uk thanks ladies more

Open Question: does any body know where you can still buy the lime green quinny as i can find it in store or online? uk only?

Open Question: Bridal Shower Ideas?! Please Help!?

I asked this question yesterday, and apparently no body knew what I was really asking for. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aj755tl13OZ_cMFvXW2fh0gazKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20100131174218AAfWXEB anyway, to be more specific. 1. This is a BRIDAL shower, not a baby shower. 2. yes, i am 14 and the m.o.h. is 17, but we both would like to pursue to career of event planning (more specifically weddings), so we know a lot of how to do, just not what 3. We both know how to do things like make food (we dont need our mom's to help us with that, other than ideas on what to make), decorate, reserve a room if needed be. 4. We will probably be having it at my aunt's house, or my grandmas depending on how many people are on the final guest list. 5.Please I need ideas on WHAT to serve not how to serve it, what kind of games, how long before the wedding (the bride lives in a Virginia, i live in Oklahoma, the m.o.h. lives in Texas (where the wedding will be), and the other 2 bridesmaids live in Michigan, so I think we are all heading back to Texas sometime in early may (except me, i am coming down mid-may) anyway would 2 weeks before be too early? Please help, and remember, i know hot to do things so you don't need to tell me things like, well you need to send out invitations, because i am not an idiot and i know things like that. Thanks in advance for any help! Maddie more

Open Question: Can you cope with a baby and a migraine?

I have a question for all you mums out there who suffer migraines... I suffer terrible migraines, I've been on long term meds for them for a while now & have had to even give up work! My husband & i are thinking of starting a family next year after my 30th & i cannot wait... i would do it now but with all the medication it takes careful planning. I'm so excited at the prospect of becoming a mum but everyone i speak to puts me on a downer by asking me if i'm sure i'll be able to cope with a baby with all my migraines... my answer is always the same, when you're a mother, your baby's needs will come first & your pain will become secondary... Now my question to you is... am i being naive? don't get me wrong i know it wont be easy but is that the case? And just in case anyone is wondering about the fact that i am out of work, my husband & i are capable of supporting a family. more

Open Question: How can I apply for housing while pregnant and unmarried (long)?

In short, I'm enlisted in the AF, stationed in Okinawa, Japan, trying to move out of the dorms before I'm seven or eight months pregnant and too huge and unwieldy to move myself, much less my stuff. Here's the story: I went to Housing at the end of December. Housing said, 'you can't apply until you have a dependent, go get command sponsorship and come back.' So i went to MPF. They said, 'you can't apply for command sponsorship til the baby is born.' I said, 'but...housing?' and they said, 'get an exception to policy letter.' I went to housing and asked. They gave me a template. I routed it up my chain of command. Weeks later, I got it back. I took it to housing. They said, 'oh, no, you need him to sign HERE, not there.' I took it to the Col's secretary. She said, 'this is wrong, and this is wrong, go fix it before i bring it to him.' (even though the Col had already approved it, proving civilian secretaries outrank Cols.) I fixed the stuff (making 18th into 18TH, for example.) and brought it back. She got it to him. A week later I got it back. I brought it to housing today. The people at the desk were very confused at what i needed, and finally got a civilian worker to come up front. He basically explained that nothing i had done was going to work. Apparently: I don't need a letter to apply for housing without command sponsoring - I can do that 60 days prior delivery. I just can't move in before the baby is born. Of course, there's much more than a 60 day waiting list for housing, but that doesn't matter. If i want to move in prior delivery, I have to have an exception to policy. The one i have saying I can apply for housing before delivery will not work, as I can 'apply' before delivery already - just not move in. Also, I have to move out of the dorms at five months. But, since I can't apply for base housing that 'early', I have to apply to live off base. For which i need proof of an extended tour. For which i need to command sponsor a dependent. I find this just as confusing upon reading it as I did when I heard it, which is why I'm tossing the question out here in hopes someone may have some information I haven't thought of to ease this process a bit. My supervisor just got to base a week or so before me, and as I'm his first troop, he's as helpful as he 'can' be, but knows just about as much as I do. more

Open Question: I need help sorting out my parents relationship with me and my wife.?

My mother fell out with my wifes parents a long time ago over a situation where she was well out of order. but she expected me to chose between her or my wife. I stood by my wife and so she never came to our wedding and very rarely contacts us or aknowledges our baby at any time other than Christmas. My father and step mum have also fallen out with us over a whole load of petty things that they have been stewing over for ages. We forgot a birthday, had to ask them to look after our dog at very short notice when my wifes nan fell ill. (we were staying in a hotel and asked if they would mind looking after our dog an extra day so we could stay an extra day at the hotel but they said no) we bought some stuff off them and then my wife found out that they had made a small profit on it, they only live 5 miles away from us but rarely pop over to see us or our new baby which we could have done with after my wife gave birth as she had a very hard labour, they felt that her parents were there too much and they dont like them. All petty stuff really. Anyway, my dad would visit on the odd occasion and just go on about how my mum left him 5 years ago for another man and that my brother hates me for what happened to my mother. My wife basicly had had enough of the grief we were getting and had been getting eversince we got engaged...my dad thought we got engaged when we did because he was away and it meant my mum could come and celebrate with us (she basicly invited herself), I got an award at work where my parents could come to the ceremony, my dad wouldnt come if my mum was coming, my dad and step mum felt we got married too early and had a baby too early, my mum refused to come to our wedding after the argument with my wifes parents and I'd stood by my wife, my brother and I own a house together and he kept taking the house account overdrawn and I had to keep bailing him out and he hasnt ever aknowledged our baby or seen him because of the situation with my mother. My dad wont go and see my brother because he wants to be invited and wont just turn up. My brothers been driven to a breakdown because of the stress with our family and he's given up his job. My wife hates my family because of all this shit and so one evening when my dad and step mum came over, there was an awkward atmosphere and the next day I got a phone call at work from my step mum wanting to know what was up. I just played it down at first but then she emailed my wife and bollocked her so my wife replied then she got another email and now my wife wont entertain visiting my dad and step mum or letting our little boy anywhere near my step mum. She gets so upset if I say I'm going to as when ever I do i have to just sit there and listen to how bad we've been, how it's all our fault, that my wife is behaving like my mother, that we've caused so much upset and when I get home I just feel like I want to run away from everyone and never come back and I'm bloody 32 years old! We havent seen my dad since November and while I really want to see him because he is my dad, because of how upset my wife gets and the fact that I dont want to sit there and listen to them slagging me and my wife off, I havent. Therefore I keep getting emails about how I need to get my priorities sorted and stand up to my wife and go round and see them. An email which my wife read before I knew about it as she was checking my emails for me while i was away. Now she feels even stronger hate towards my step mum for sending it. This is so complicated and long!!! I know it's my responsibility to stand by my wife and I have and will but God it's being made so hard. more

Open Question: 1st birthday cake? what do i do?

Im having my little ones party at the weekend, there are no other babies/children coming just family which everyone is 17 plus. I am going to make a cupcake for my little one. Im just stuck as to what i do for the guests... do i make/buy a big birthday cake that has a 1st birthday theme or as there are no other children coming could it just be any cake i.e. a chocolate cake?? more

Open Question: Are ALL newborns cute? NO... really?

Some of them really look a bit funny, like they were taken out of the mould before they cooled enough. And what about the week after, when they start getting the baby pimples! And losing their hair... Just when all relatives and friends come knocking at your door, it's like you have the real Benjamin Button in the crib and you feel like telling them "Come back in a month when he looks better!" What's your experience?And the craddle cap. My second had just about EVERYTHING and my friends still cooed... Unbelievable! more

Open Question: Can someone please read this argument essay and tell me how to improve it?(10 points)?

Smoking should be banned in England completely! Our country can be an unpleasant and dirty place to live. No matter where you go, you always come across someone smoking which is a dangerous, dirty and expensive habit ,which has no positive effects. I will discuss why I strongly believe smoking should be banned in England and why we should take action now. My three main arguments against smoking are that smokers are ruining their own health, that it is bad for non-smokers’ health and thirdly, our health services have to pay vast amounts on stop smoking sevieces. The first problem with smoking is that it is damaging smokers’ health and taking away their lives. Smoking has so many negative effects including lung and heart disease, circulation and respiratory problems and asthma. Each year England has 364,000 patients admitted to NHS hospitals due to smoking related illnesses. One of the main health problems with smoking is cancer and Cancer Research claims that 114,000 people are dying each year due to smoking related diseases. Pregnant woman who smoke are also running a big risk of damaging their babies’ health; the poisonous chemicals go into the baby’s blood and this can result in a miscarriage, low birth weight or the baby being premature. I get the impression that people who start smoking are not well educated or just do not care about their own health, which is a cause for concern. However I know a person who has an asthmatic daughter and is well educated, but despite having a daughter who is more prone to health problems, she still chooses to smoke around her, which I think is appalling. Secondly it just isn’t right that non-smokers are having to inhale other people’s smoke. Scientists have proven that passive smoking is extremely dangerous to non- smokers as the smoker only inhales 15% of the smoke and the people around them inhale all the rest. Passive smoking can cause serious health problems especially for those with allergies, heart or lung disease and for children and babies. An example of just how dangerous passive smoking can be, is the entertainer, Roy castle; he was a non – smoker but through working in bars and clubs for many years he inhaled a lot of smoke and was diagnosed with lung cancer which killed him. Just the other day I was on my way to college and outside my local train station, there was a group of smokers there. I had no choice but to inhale their dirty smoke. Ruining your own health is one thing but damaging non – smokers health is just unacceptable. And the final problem with smoking is that it is expensive. The National Health Service is already in a terrible financial situation and they are having to give away millions of pounds?, not even knowing it will have any effect. The NHS spends on average £1m each day, £7m each week and between £1.4bn to £1.7bn each year on stop smoking services. Furthermore, smokers on average are spending at least £1500 on cigarettes every year. Some smokers on low incomes sacrifice their daily essentials such as food in order to buy cigarettes and that is very sad to know that some people have to go to those extremes to carry on smoking. Amy, you might want to say a line about why people smoke – to help them relax etc – although you conclude that the cost to their health, and their wallet, is too high?? When cigarette adverts began in 1911, smoking had a positive image because people did not know how harmful it was. Famous people were shown in films smoking, which made smoking very popular. However, even today it can be ‘cool’ to smoke and even if the young people know about the bad effects of smoking, they think they are invincible and ignore the warnings. Many young people get into smoking as a result of peer pressure and this is a huge problem which needs to be tackled, especially as smoking is so addictive, and many people find it incredibly hard to quit. In July 2007 I was very pleased to find out about the smoking ban as more people gave up smoking and enclosed public places became more pleasant to be in. However it still wasn’t enough to make everyone quit which is why we should ban it in England completely. Before banning it completely though, we should ban smoking in all public places including the streets as then smokers would have no choice but to smoke in their own homes. This would be bound to make a huge number of smokers choose to quit, as most responsible adults do not want to smoke near their children. It is not right at all that children have to be around people smoking at home because as well as it damaging their health, having smokers around them all the time is bound to encourage them to smoke and is an on going problem. I think all Schools throughout England should have ’Stop Smoking’ services available as this would increase the number of young people choosing to quit dramatically. I also think that if stop smoking adverts were more emotional and showed the effects on children, smokers would take quitting smoking much more seriously. The adverts should show ill children as this is very emotional and could make smokers realise that they are responsible for any health risks in their family. I have come to the conclusion that smoking doesn’t have any positive effects and is just making health matters worse. If we don’t do anything about this now, more and more people will die from smoking and this will carry on forever which would be very disappointing. When cigarette adverts began in 1911, smoking had a positive image because people did not know how harmful it was. Famous people were shown in films smoking which made smoking very popular. However, even today it can be ‘cool’ to smoke and even if the young people know about the bad effects of smoking, they think they are invincible and ignore the warnings. So I urge people to come forward and start an anti-smoking campaign – Together we can ban smoking in England!its all messed up:( please help :( more

Open Question: How quickly will my pregnancy go after now? i'm 26 weeks only ...?

This is my first and already i just want to have my baby. May feel ages away, i'm not having a bad pregnancy or anything i would just like it over with :( don't get me wrong i would rather her come when she is meant to rather than now but its just the waiting i guess ... how quickly will these 3 months go?? Thanks more

Open Question: I dont know if my water broke?

I am 39 weeks according to my last period. Im measuring for 41 weeks though... I had my 36 week ultrasound 4 weeks ago and at that time my baby was measuring for 39 weeks, and (i dont really know what this means but my amniotic fluid measured at 13) I went into the hospital about a week ago because I hadnt felt my baby move for 24 hrs. and when i was there they did an ultrasound and at that time my fluid was measured at a 5.... so a big decrease... now, the other night I went back because something leaked out and down my leg, just a trickle though... they tested for amniotic fluid and said it wasnt and sent me home. About 10 minutes ago I went to the kitchen to get a glass of milk and I felt liquid come out again this time it ran all the way down my leg and a big drop hit the floor ( a puddle about the size of a 50 cent piece) I took another step and another drop about the size of a dime hit the floor. but then it stopped. It is totally colorless and odorless and just about the consistency of water. This is my first baby so i dont have a clue and im not trying to go to the hospital just to get sent back home... any help please??? more

Open Question: what do i tell her as i am worried?

a friend i've known since secondary school has just found out shes 5 weeks pregnant. thing is she slept with a bloke she met at some party and didn't use anything but that same month she had her period,she told me her periods are regular and come on the 17th of every month. the following month she met another bloke and slept with him, and that same month she found out she was pregnant as her period was 4 days late. i was there when she done a test and confirmed she was pregnant. she has a supportive family who i know will look after her and the baby, but i keep telling her that the dad should know about the baby. if she slept with the 1st guy but still had her regular period...could he be the dad? or is it this recent bloke she slept with after her period was late the following month? i'm just so worried for her as i'm 19 weeks pregnant and don't know how i'd cope without my partner he's my rock. i feel so sorry for her but at the same time i'm annoyed at how she didn't use protection more

Open Question: How can I get over my ex girlfriend?

Now normally I wouldn't have a real problem getting over an ex but this time around my situation is a bit more complicated. I'm a first time dad with a 6 month old boy. The relationship with my girlfriend had always been great up until the pregnancy where she had a bout of post partum depression. She basically flipped out one day and had to be admitted to a hospital. The CPS got involved and all that stuff. She got out of the hospital after a week and decided to move back with her parents and our baby lives both here and there. We got back together to make things work for our child. About two weeks ago we got into a minor argument over nothing and I tried to diffuse the situation by just going back home and letting the issue blow over. She flipped out again and tried to choke me to get me to stay. She threw the ring I gave her out the door and I left. She sent me all kinds of harsh letters that I never responded to. A week later she wants to be friends again but I stand defiant. Since our time away she has made friends with two guys from her neighborhood one of which she kissed!! I got her to admit it after I saw some texts from him. (she let me read them, only to say I wouldnt understand what was wrote) But come on, there is no mistaking that and she fessed up. We got into another argument (which I tried to diffuse) and she ended up disrespecting my mother for no other reason then her guilt of kissing that guy. She claimed to regret kissing him only to try to make amends with me again but after she disrespected my mother I dont know how I can ever truly take her back as my best friend ever, lover, and mother of my child. How do I get over her especially knowing shes probably still talking to that guy? My main concern is my child due to the fact that those people she hangs around all smoke weed and drink. Nothing against weed but I dont want any kind of smoke around my son. I read one of the text saying they want to all be roommates. This is blowing my mind and I cant help but think about some guy hanging around my son. How can I work things out with this girl for the benefit of my child?? more

Open Question: urgent! what am i going to get my baby for valentines day that shows him how much i love him.?

evan and i have been through so many memories, tears, smiles, everything. and a couple of months ago it almost ended for good! but something held us together. and im sure glad we are still together. ive never loved some one this much. i would die for him, hes....hes the person i would spend the rest of my life with. (if i had that choice, im 15). Hes my baby:). its febuary the month of love! i havent seen evan in 2 months because he switched to a school called afc(academy for change)(he got in some trouble with his brother) anyways hes coming back to my school sometime this month. and i have NO CLUE what im getting him for valentines day!!!! it will be are one month anaversary! huge for a freshman relationship! please help no bitchy awnsers please, if you do comment something bitchy, thanks for caring :) thanks! for the ppl who actually try to help! more

Open Question: can certain things harm unborn baby?

We are having a plumber look at our bath room because sometimes when we have a bath it makes the drains or something smell and it fills most of the house. its smells horrible and we are not sure where its coming from. could this harm my unborn baby im really worried. before i found out i was pregnant i had been painting and doing alot of cleaning, and changed cat litter 2 or 3 times. im just really worried. please help x more

Open Question: should I stick by his side or kick him to the curb?

my daughters dad and i broke up after 4 years together i moved away for 9 months then decided that i wanted to move back. my ex and I had kept in touch for our baby's sake,when i returned he moved in with me because he said that he wanted to work things out...then I come to find out that the woman he had been living with while I had moved out of state is now 4months pregnant( I can deal with this) I understand that they will now be in each others life and i will have to deal with her since her unborn child is my daughters half sibling, what bothers me is he is spending nights with her after she had kicked him out for wanting to work things out with me. now she wants to work things out with him.. this put him in an awkward position and he just want her and i to get along(I don't see that happening) my question is ....am I over reacting by telling him that if he continues to spend the night with her that he just needs to move back with her? I cant seem to get it through to him that i understand that they have things to work out for their child's sake but spend the night together isn't the way. if he wants to work it out with me, then isn't spending the night with her the same and him cheating on me? he says he wont choose between us. anyone have suggestion any thing will help... more

Open Question: is she allergic to her baby milk?

hey my daughter is sick with every single feed since birth and projectile sick 3-4 times a day, has terrible gas pains, constipation on and off for 2 weeks, has a rash on her face and belly and back that comes and goes for over 2 weeks and has started to get very upset when shes feeding and when i'm winding her...is she allergic to her baby milk???? shes on sma gold, shes also 7 weeks + 3 days and was born at 36 weeks + 1 day x thanksi have the doctors later on today i just wanted to ask what you's thoughtdo poeple on this think i'm that stupid? iv phoned my health vistior first thing this morning and shes told me to make an appointment with my daughters doctor which i did..iv got an appointment with my daughter doctor this afternoon. i was asking what you poeple think.my daughter does have reflux, i suggested it to the doctor at the childrens ward because my son had it and she just agred with me and gave me infant gavascon so i dont no if she has it for sure because the doctor never told me from herselfj = yeah i did try breastfeeding but my daughter would not take to the breast because her sucking was not great because she was born 4 weeks early more

Open Question: Baby shower predicament...?

My original baby shower was planed for when I was 24 weeks but I went into premature labor. My sister is the one throwing my shower, and since I went into premature labor she dosnt want to plan another shower and risk me going into preterm labor again. I am currently 33 weeks, and I really want to have my shower BEFORE baby comes. I want to get everything in place now, plus I barely have anything that I need for the baby. Not to mention, I don't want a bunch of people trying to touch and pick up my baby once she is born. How do I tell my sister I don't want to wait. more

Open Question: Should i leave my boyfriend?

I need some advice from someone who doesn't know me which is why i have created an account. I've been with my boyfriend for about two years. Please read through if you have the time and let me know what you think :) 1. I've caught him trying to convince another girl to break up with her boyfriend to 'get with him'. He used words like 'cutie, baby, sweetie' - the way he talks to me :(. When i confronted him, he said it was a joke. 2. New years - he mysteriously disappeared at the party with his EX. (who i know for a fact sleeps around). 3. Watched a porno with another girl (but was his brothers girlfriend), who hates me and tried to convince him to break up with me. 4. When he gets messages, he moves away so he can read it first. Sometimes, he deletes the message... His phone messages are always just me... looks like someones been deleting messages again? 5. His other ex texts him suggestively often.. asks him to take her driving at night. 6. A random girl "K" messaged him saying "hey sexy can you call me now babe" and he replied "i tried calling you hun whats wrong girl? xx" I was with him ALL day, did he walk away to try call her and reply? wtf. ^ Lots of small things like that. but the big thing that recently happened which is making me think I was with him, and i looked on his camera (cause i usually take lots of photos on his camera), There were two photos i hadn't seen... A drunk girl in his car and then the same drunk girl on his bed? I asked him about it and he avoided the question.. i kept asking and he replied "i dunno". He then convinced me that she DID NOT stay over, he had given her a lift home and she left her wallet in the car so he went to give it to her the next day. He invited her into the house? and went into the room to sit? (yes his stories had alot of holes in it) Then i looked at the photos again. The first one was taken at 4am and the second one was taken at 9am. Obviously she stayed over. After i pointed that out, he admitted it. But he said they didnt do anything, she just slept in his bed with him? both drunk? He has given my chlyamydia two times and he had genital warts recently (thank god it had not come to me). WTF is going on? He usually is a nice caring boyfriend and i enjoy his company... He says he loves me and there is nobody else but why does this make me so doubtful... I was with him just before and his mate named in his phone 'matt' send him a picture msg of a young girls body posing in the mirror with a phone....... He never replies or calls when he's out. But he expects me to message him every second when i'm out and goes crazy if i don't. He does all this shit and if i did it, i'd be dead. this is just killing my head. Now if you have read all this, and have a serious thought, let me know what you think.I don't know whats wrong with me :( When i write it all our it seems obvious, i should leave him. But it's so hard... He's a big part of my life... I remember him calling me and telling me to go home (because i went out with some girls), otherwise he'd F my friend? i hate him so much but i love him... I guess it is pretty obvious what to do.. Now i wonder if anyone reading this knows an easy way out? probably not hey.. worth a try to ask i guess... more

Open Question: pregnant and so depressed.?

Ive come to a point in my life where I am so depressed, all I want to do is sleep or lay in my bed doing nothing and im constantly crying. I am 4 months pregnant and the father of my baby are together but he does this thing where he enjoys talking to other girls behind my back. I don't know if it has ever gone further than talking but I know it hurts my feelings and also is ruining our relationship big time because there is no trust there. His family hates me because during a little breakup we had he made them believe that I was some horrible person. Its not like I am able to stick up for myself to them because no matter what they are going to believe him over me. I got threatening emails from my boyfriends sister when she found out I was pregnant telling me that it was all my fault, pretty much saying I forced him to have this baby with me. Honestly a baby was never in my plan and I was on birth control at the time. When I found out I was pregnant I was really confused and didn't know what I wanted to do, I am against abortions and adoption because its not the baby's fault and i made the mistake by not being more careful and I have to take care of my responsibilities. But never did I plan this or force him to have a child with me. I also gave him the choice of being there for the baby. I told him that if he was not ready he did not have to be there and he told me he wanted to be there. Along with threatening emails from his sister.. No one in his family ( aunts, grandparents) even think we are back together let alone that I am pregnant. Its like he is living a double life and that really upsets me. When my friends found out I was pregnant I thought for sure they would all be there for me since they all already have a baby, but they all decided they didnt want anything to do with me any more. the person who was my best friend even said "you should have killed that problem" My parents are supportive of my pregnancy but they dont understand why I am so upset all the time. I love my parents to death and I would be no where without them but they are the type of people who say "i told you so" Instead of comforting me when I need it they make up excuses like well you should have listened to me when you were 14 and you and your friend had that fight, you should have stopped being friends with them then because then you wouldnt be in this situation. I try to tell them how im upset over my boyfriends family and they just get mad thinking that what Im saying to them is my own family isnt enough support and that I care more about his family then my own. thats not the case at all I just dont like having everyone thinking I am the bad person when I am not, I dont like that his family doesnt like me because of lies they have been told, I could care less if they hated me and had an actual reason for doing so but they dont and that bothers me because they have been made to believe I am a horrible person when Im not. I keep thinking to myself life would be better if i wasnt here, everyone woud be happier if I was gone. I dont like thinking like this but I cant help it. The only thing that has been keeping me going is the little baby inside of me. I love this baby so much and I want to be strong for myself and for this baby. I know eventually things will be okay just right now its so hard and I have no one to talk to.. ADDITION my age is 20 ill be 21 in march ive been with my bf for 2 years without any long term break ups but we have dated on and off since we were 13 ( i know ..young ) I dont want to speak with a councler because I dont think they will help and Im scared they will want to take my baby away when its born more

Open Question: Please Read!!! What do you think about my writing?

hey this is the continuation to of something i posted on earlier. Just so you know it's about a 15 yearold named Lionel who falls into Hell and goes off in an epic adventur..blah,blah,blah. Anyways, this is a scene pretty close to the begining where the crack which he actually falls through is opening. here it is and thanks : --------------------------------------… Something happened, that averted him from following through though, the moment his finger made contact with the chrome flush switch- the ground began to rumble. For three quick seconds the ground gently quivered as if it were alive and hungry, and then went back to being still. At first Lionel was struck dumb by this sudden event, but then came to a fast conclusion- that it had only been a soft earthquake. He swallowed some saliva with hard found ease and started to laugh. He laughed because he found the idea of an earthquake striking at that precise moment terribly funny, given his awkward situation. The laughter came to an abrupt stop however, when the shaking of the ground arose once more. This time, more intense than the last. Everything; all the tooth brush cups and paste, medication, shampoo and conditioners, gels, sprays, and wall pictures, began to hit the floor. Lionel didn't think it was so funny then. Quite the opposite, he was scared out of his mind, and was even more so, when he saw the bathroom floor tile begin to pop out of place. This was something to worry about he thought, it meant the floor wasn't stable. If he was on the second floor of a two-story house and it couldn't hold- Lionel didn't even want to think what would happen, much less stick around to find out. And so in one brisk movement he was up and on his feet, looking like a fool with his pants on the ground, and feeling like one too. Maybe it was coincidence or maybe Lionel was just cursed, but at the exact instant his feet touched the ground, the lights went out and nothing could be seen, save for a slim line of light emitting from beneath the bathroom door- his target would be that. As Lionel took his first steps towards escape, he was brutally knocked off balance by a sudden rise of rage in the uncontrollable shaking and thrown into the glass sliding doors of the shower. They shattered, while simultaneously releasing an ear-splitting noise, that only the likes of shattered glass could give off. However, Lionel was quick to get over the broken glasses' effect, and focus on the task ahead- getting the hell out of there. He was in the most uncomfortable position of his life and couldn't see a thing, yet this didn't stop Lionel from being able to regain his composition and most importantly get on his feet again. The plan was simple- to open the door as fast as he could and get out. It was'nt that far after all, five, six- feet maybe. All he had to do was keep his balance. With little thought, he went for it. But as he did, he was stopped dead in his tracks by something astonishing- a narrow thin crack of blinding light, that appeared along the floor like a slithering snake, making its way through the tile as if it were water. From it came a radiant red glow that hurt the eye, and the more it seemed to advance in its conquest for territory, the more Lionel felt the floor under his feet was going to collapse. For moments he remained hypnotized under awe, and his body entered a state of strict muscle contraction. Fore in spite of everything that was going on, Lionel's mind flung the dangers present aside, and risked the precious time to challenge the existance of things seemingly impossible, right there and then, such as that of this which was before him, by trying to figure out a reasonable explanation for this strange phenomena, keeping in mind he was on the second floor. It was his nature to be skeptical and always ask 'why and how' when something seemed odd or out of place, apparently even now, this was true. That which managed to bring him back was his mother's voice in freak panic, "Lionel! Baby are you ok!" "Loinel!" "Yea mom! I'm coming, hold on!", he replied remarkebly calm, still bugged a little by the mystery of the crack. Anyways, determind to reach safe haven and now his mother, Lionel pulled up his pants half way, managing however he could to sustain them, and told himself 'alright, here we go...another challenge'. "One, two,...three!", he courageously declared. But that's all he did. He didn't move, he didn't budge- he was hesitant. What was to fear of this little crack, he thought. Perhaps, maybe just that it was against all the laws of reality? Acknowledging his own sarcastic humor, even if only for a brief moment, he smiled. Short lived was his grin, coming to the end when his ears cringed at the sound of a , as only a woman could. A loud thump and short squeal atlast, brought an end to the woman's screaming. more

Open Question: What did you pack in your hospital bag?

With my son I ended up packing way to much stuff. I didn't end up using half of it. I had a birthing ball, lotion, a massager tool, hard candy, clothes for after wards, toothbrush & paste, deodorant, underwear, camera, chapstick, phone, mp3 player,hair brush ect. Honestly I think the lists you can find online have way too many things suggested to bring. Here's what I actually ended us using. For labor: Chapstick, hairband, camera, & cell phone. After delivery: Deodorant, toothbrush & paste, hairbrush, tank top with built in bra, or nursing top. Going home: Another tank top, some comfy pants, house shoes, outfit for baby & prepacked diaper bag in car. This time I plan on having 2 or 3 bags. One for labor. Another with some personal necessities for after delivery, that some one can bring in later. The clothes can come in with the after labor bag too. The hospital the I'm having my daughter at has you stay at least one day with or without complications. Last time I just felt I had way too much stuff at the hospital with me. You can ask for pretty much anything you need, and they'll get it for you. So what do you feel you should bring with you? Or what did you bring with you? Did you feel like you over packed or under packed? more

Open Question: im pregnant should i tell the father? please read the whole story and be serious?What would you like to ask?

have just found out im pregnant. 15 weeks to be close to exact. I wasnt planning this pregnancy and have been told pretty much since i started going to the "lady" doctor that i wouldnt be able to have children naturally if at all. so this all came as a big shock and part of the reason why im already 3 months and didnt find out until now (but i am so happy and so excited about this child now). the question i would like to ask is I dont know if I should tell the father. I dated him and loved him very very much for the past 2 1/2 years. He was in the military and in Iraq about a year and a half ago and was injured. Drove over and IED. He recieced some injuries and was in the hospital for 13 days but He came back not even close to the same person he was when he left, his being is 2nd deployment. Physically he is the same mentially he isnt. I spent the last 1 1/2 trying to find that person i loved so much trying to get back something that was him, but he isnt there anymore. I feel like the man i fell inlove with died over there and this person i know know looks an awful lot like him but thats all they share in common. After a year and a half and supporting him and trying to get him back waiting and seeing if he would heal and come back to me, i couldnt take it anymore and ended the relationship about 3 months ago. I drug him to the doctors because he was fine. I made him take the medication they gave him even though he said he "didnt need it". I spent a 1 1/2 with this man. I know him extreamly well. I was up half the night for the past 1 1/2 with the night terrors and the screaming and the jerking. during the day i worried about where he was what he was doing if he was alright. I would wonder if today was going to be a good day or a bad one, if he'd even come home and if he didnt would he call? Dont get me wrong Im still inlove with the man i fell inlove with 2 1/2 years ago who was my everything and was so so good to me. he was my soul mate and everything i could have ever wanted in a person and thats why i didnt want to leave him. I know he gave a great sacrafice to his country, i know the sacrafice he paid better then anyone else, but the issue now is im pregnant and i really dont believe i should tell him. I belive he needs to find peace and i dont think that he will be able to do that with a child and i dont belive he (as he is now) would be a healthy influence. I love this baby more then anything and part of me is happy that its part of him. When i look at my child years from now ill be able to remember the love of my life and see bits of him in my babys face. Im just wondering if other people would see me not telling him as wrong. I dont care what i go threw really (bringing him into my life again) but i want a happy and loving and healthy environment for my child, thats the most important thing.... and i know i can provide it alone and am not 100% sure it would be that way with the father involved.we do not live together. he currently left town to say with his sister in NC for awhile. And YES there is no doubt he is the father. Since i met him i havent wanted any other man and in all honesty still dont want anyone but him (the way he was). I make exceptional income and dont need any monitary support. I have hoped that he would get better but as each month progressed it seemed he got worse less of him showed threw and more of who he is now took over. I wouldnt be ok with leaving the child alone with him and would want ME to be there somewhere close if he did have visitation, im just afraid the judge wouldnt agree to that. I know he made a huge sacrafice for his country, i know it better then most people. i have a picture of us for the nursery and have started a scrap book for my child of his father with pictures of him and pictures of us. I wouldnt talk bad about my ex ever to the child because i know they both deserve better the that. and eventually would tell our child everythi more

Open Question: im pregnant should i tell the father? please read the whole story and be serious?hat would you like to ask?

have just found out im pregnant. 15 weeks to be close to exact. I wasnt planning this pregnancy and have been told pretty much since i started going to the "lady" doctor that i wouldnt be able to have children naturally if at all. so this all came as a big shock and part of the reason why im already 3 months and didnt find out until now (but i am so happy and so excited about this child now). the question i would like to ask is I dont know if I should tell the father. I dated him and loved him very very much for the past 2 1/2 years. He was in the military and in Iraq about a year and a half ago and was injured. Drove over and IED. He recieced some injuries and was in the hospital for 13 days but He came back not even close to the same person he was when he left, his being is 2nd deployment. Physically he is the same mentially he isnt. I spent the last 1 1/2 trying to find that person i loved so much trying to get back something that was him, but he isnt there anymore. I feel like the man i fell inlove with died over there and this person i know know looks an awful lot like him but thats all they share in common. After a year and a half and supporting him and trying to get him back waiting and seeing if he would heal and come back to me, i couldnt take it anymore and ended the relationship about 3 months ago. I drug him to the doctors because he was fine. I made him take the medication they gave him even though he said he "didnt need it". I spent a 1 1/2 with this man. I know him extreamly well. I was up half the night for the past 1 1/2 with the night terrors and the screaming and the jerking. during the day i worried about where he was what he was doing if he was alright. I would wonder if today was going to be a good day or a bad one, if he'd even come home and if he didnt would he call? Dont get me wrong Im still inlove with the man i fell inlove with 2 1/2 years ago who was my everything and was so so good to me. he was my soul mate and everything i could have ever wanted in a person and thats why i didnt want to leave him. I know he gave a great sacrafice to his country, i know the sacrafice he paid better then anyone else, but the issue now is im pregnant and i really dont believe i should tell him. I belive he needs to find peace and i dont think that he will be able to do that with a child and i dont belive he (as he is now) would be a healthy influence. I love this baby more then anything and part of me is happy that its part of him. When i look at my child years from now ill be able to remember the love of my life and see bits of him in my babys face. Im just wondering if other people would see me not telling him as wrong. I dont care what i go threw really (bringing him into my life again) but i want a happy and loving and healthy environment for my child, thats the most important thing.... and i know i can provide it alone and am not 100% sure it would be that way with the father involved.i would tell my child about his father because i know he was a great man. and eventually I would like to tell our child everything.... i know that in the future if the child wants to know its father thats its choice and i will take on full responsiblily for not telling him. I already have a picture of us for the nursery and have started to put together a scrapbook. I dont live with him and i dont see him anymore... hes actually left town for awhile to stay with his sister in NC (a state away). im just very confused. I've seen the way his parents raised him and his father hasnt helped with his mental state now and even tho i love his father i dont believe he was a good influance on my ex when he was a child or growing up.... Im just very confused and unsure with what to do. I wants best for my baby first and formost, me and the father come second in line. I make exceptional income and do not need someone to help me when it come to money.... more

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Open Question: How do I know when i'm in labour?

I'm 39+2 with my first baby and yesterday I had severe pain in my lower stomach. When i phoned the hospital and explained it to them they said I was in Early labour. An hour later the pain had gone and I haven't felt anything since. This is the second time they've told me I'm in labour and both times nothing has come of it. I have a high pain threshold so for me to say that I was in severe pain, it must have been pretty bad! I have just been left with a dull ache, backache and the occasional cramp which i have been experiencing for a few days now. I was just wondering, can anyone describe the type of the feelings i might get when i am in labour as i don't trust my hospital to tell me! lol, they have got my hopes up twice now so i'm not impressed with them. also, is it possible for labour to start and then stop again? Can I also just ask that anybody that feels the need to answer this question with, 'you'll be in immense pain, you'll never have felt pain like it' or anything similar, please don't bother. I am not interested in people trying to scare me, I know its going to hurt and I am not scared, everyone's labour is different, there is nothing I can do to avoid the pain and If the pain gets too bad I have a whole list of drugs that will be offered to me by the hopsital so please keep your 'horror' stories to yourselves :o)In reply to Leigh- I know that you are only supposed to be pregnant for 40 weeks, and seeing as I wrote that I am 39 weeks plus 2 days, that would mean that my baby is due in 5 days so thanks for that :o) more

Open Question: im pregnant should i tell the father?

I have just found out im pregnant. 15 weeks to be close to exact. I wasnt planning this pregnancy and have been told pretty much since i started going to the "lady" doctor that i wouldnt be able to have children naturally if at all. so this all came as a big shock and part of the reason why im already 3 months and didnt find out until now (but i am so happy and so excited about this child now). the question i would like to ask is I dont know if I should tell the father. I dated him and loved him very very much for the past 2 1/2 years. He was in the military and in Iraq about a year and a half ago and was injured. Drove over and IED. He recieced some injuries and was in the hospital for 13 days but He came back not even close to the same person he was when he left, his being is 2nd deployment. Physically he is the same mentially he isnt. I spent the last 1 1/2 trying to find that person i loved so much trying to get back something that was him, but he isnt there anymore. I feel like the man i fell inlove with died over there and this person i know know looks an awful lot like him but thats all they share in common. After a year and a half and supporting him and trying to get him back waiting and seeing if he would heal and come back to me, i couldnt take it anymore and ended the relationship about 3 months ago. Im still inlove with the man i fell inlove with 2 1/2 years ago who was my everything and was so so good to me. he was my soul mate and everything i could have ever wanted in a person. The issue now is im pregnant and i really dont believe i should tell him. I belive he needs to find peace and i dont think that he will be able to do that with a child and i dont belive he as he is now would be a healthy influence. I love this baby more then anything and part of me is happy that its part of him. When i look at my child years from now ill be able to remember the love of my life and see bits of him in my babys face. Im just wondering if other people would see me not telling him as wrong. I dont care what i go threw really but i want a happy and loving and healthy environment for my child, thats the most important thing.... and i believe i can provide it alone. more

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Open Question: whats going on with me?? plz help!!?

i posted this question yesterday; first let me say that my period's are kinda irregular, i never skip a month but my period never comes on the same day every month, in november i started on the 15th last month i started on the 18th, i haven't had a period at all this month & i have had unprotected sex. i haven't had any spotting, cramping or anything, i don't even feel like im going to start any time soon, but i don't feel like im pregnant ether & i have taking 3 home pregnancy tests & all were negative, the last 1 i took was yesterday at my doctors office, they also gave me a blood test to see if i was pregnant or not but i don't get the results back until monday & im driving myself crazy thinking about it. i have 2 little girls (5 years old & 7 months) & i would be excited about a new baby but i don't really wanna get my hopes up, if i was pregnant the tests would have came back positive right?? but i have never just skipped a month without anything, plz help!! update; still no period, no spotting, no cramping, nothing. and earlier tonight i kept having these weird sharp tingling little pains in my boobs, i really don't know how to explain it. i call the doctor at 9:30 in the morning to see if the blood test came back positive of negative, & i cant get my mind off of it, has anybody else been Through this sort of thing and been pregnant?? has anybody been Through this and not been pregnant?? plz help lol, thanks!! more

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Open Question: Would you help fulfill my dream?

I refuse to smile; I don't even know how to smile. I'm too embarrassed to smile....to have my teeth fixed is going to cost a tonnn of money. My hubby is a marine and we are both really young I'm 19 and hes 20. Half of my teeth are baby teeth; I can't chew, my teeth don't meet in the back. Having baby teeth if I chew on something wrong I have no root to my teeth so they could fall out. It is my dream to be able to genuinly smile. Please help me make my dream come true....this bugs me day and night...night and day. I need to build my confidence. How you can help...I have no idea. I don't even know where to start...but if you can please do so. My email is xochickaox@yahoo.com If you have any valuable information or want to keep in contact with me this is how you do so. Thank you I hope someone can help.. more

Open Question: is my 10 gallon stocking good?

i have -5 neon tetras -2 small (2 inch) angelfish (will be moved soon) -2 cherry barbs -1 baby guppy (1 inch) -2 albino mountain minows -1 african dwarf frog -1 apple snail - MANY trumpet snails they stay in gravel all day and come out in night all this will be moved to a 40 gallon tank soon. how long can they stay like this? more