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Fathers' smoking and childhood brain tumours - Edmonton Journal

... caused the tumour," says Eric Bouffet, Director of the Brain Tumour Program and Neuro-oncologist at The Hospital for Sick Children ... think twice about smoking. "New data now suggests it should be a decision by the couple to both quit smoking ...

E-cigarettes, gum, patch: Which stop-smoking methods ... - Fort Lauderdale Sun-Sentinel

Some smokers chew nicotine gum in an effort to quit, but instead ... regular gum, it doesn't work and it makes you sick," says Sally Lerman, smoking-cessation counselor at St. Francis Hospital and Medical Center. Others get the urge to smoke while ...

Chantix Lawsuits - AboutLawsuits.com

The anti-smoking drug Chantix has been linked ... The day I tried to quit I nearly lost my mind. I have sinced stopped taking it. The patch seems a lot calmer and more effective way for me. I still sometimes get the pain behind my left eye.

Whitney Houston’s smoking habit spoils her Oz shows - The Gaea Times

... desperately wants to get ... to quit smoking, as she is "addicted" to nicotine. The Smile singer said she couldn't stop smoking after she miscarried boyfriend Ed Simons' baby in 2007 even though the habit had made her feel physically sick.

Ask Amy: Grandma in trouble over smoking advice - Philadelphia Inquirer

... engaged, she wrote me the following letter: "He is far from perfect, but I can endure all of his bad habits, as he endures mine, except for his chain-smoking. He has promised he will quit after ... hair, skin, and lungs get polluted and stink ...

COPD and Denial : Peg’s Story – Part 1 - HealthCentral.com

About three or four times a year I would get a cold with a sore throat that just would not clear up. Sure, my doc would tell me to quit smoking, but isn't that ... were returning from a cruise where everyone got sick. This time I wasn’t just a ...

GUS: Saturday Night's All Right for Fighting - DAILY KOS

I was ready to quit, and I knew I needed to stop making myself sick with those expensive little tubes o' slow death, but obviously some adolescent part of my psyche was really cheesed that I couldn't magically get away with smoking forever with no ...

Did grandma's advice smoke out a potential disaster? - Denver Post

He is far from perfect, but I can endure all of his bad habits, as he endures mine, except for his chain-smoking. He has promised he will quit after we are married ... If you don't mind that your hair, skin and lungs get polluted and stink from his ...

Ask Amy - Nashville City Paper

Where There's Smoke Advice, There's Ire - Salina Journal

Open Question: How to quit smoking cold turkey?

I use to party a lot and drink a lot, in turn i began smoking whenever i was drunk. I stopped drinking, it has been 7 weeks now :) But the smoking dragged over. I smoke about one or two cigs a day, usually only when i drive. I am trying to quit, but whenever i get sad because i dont drink anymore (sounds stupid but you miss something that you did for a long time) i want to smoke. I hate it SO much, the taste is starting to make me feel sick, and after i smoke i feel SOOOO bad about myself. I am exercise everyday and it is interfering, obviously. So what is a good way to just QUIT and never turn back. I am only 18 and dont want to do anymore damage that i have already done on my young body. more

Open Question: concerned teen about second hand smoke?

hey guys.. 2 months ago i quit smoking. since then, its been awful. my scumbag uncle and my drunk grandfather do nothing but smoke cigarette after cigarette and im sick of it. since i quit i realize how bad it stinks and how bad it is to breathe it. i only go downstairs when i need food or a drink, like twice daily, i stay in my room with the window wide open and a towel stuffed in the door to keep the draft from bringing smoke into my room. what is the amount of cigarettes smoke i am exposed to with these precautions? me, my mom and stepdad are out of this dump in 2 months anyway were getting our own house, i just cant stand these low life nothings i live with (good for nothing drunks who dont care about second hand smoke or respect that i quit) thanks yahoo! more

Open Question: teen needs help about second hand smoke?

Open Question: What weight loss pill works?

I have completely overhauled my life since the beginning of the year. Quit smoking, go me! and so far I have lost 15 pounds. I started on a diet I came up with and lost the first 8 pounds. Then got stuck so my dietitian got me started on the Flat Belly Diet. Lost another 6-7 pounds. I have been sick for the last week and lost another 2 pounds. I know I should be patient and loose 1-2 pounds a week but I am impatient and do not want to lose focus. Has anyone taken a diet pill that has REALLY worked for them? What kind of side effects did you get? Would you recommend it to someone? Did you keep the weight off? more

Open Question: Should I cut my parents off?

My dad quit his extremely high paying job as a corporate VP in 2007 for no real reason, and had to bring money to the table to sell the awesome house he had, in a buyer's market (it finally sold in 2009) -- the house was totally paid off, BTW, my parents could have stayed there for almost no monthly fee (just the HOA). He decided to move himself, my mother, and my disabled brother to a retirement community in another state (where I also happened to be moving), where there were no potential jobs. I try to love my mother, but she's always been a physically, verbally, emotionally, and mentally abusive drunk who smokes chains of cigarettes. She never worked because she said she was too sick, but we know for a fact that she was making herself sick with her addictions. They both used to use recreational drugs in irresponsible excess. My parents moved into a house they couldn't afford, in this retirement community with no job prospects for either of them, when they were still in their early 50s. I don't know how they figured they'd be able to make ends meet on my dad's pension, the math doesn't even make sense, but I wasn't smart enough back then to realize their folly. They didn't consult with a lawyer or an accountant. My little brother is high-functioning autistic (has Aspberger's syndrome and a seizure condition), he lives with them. He gets social security disability money every month, and my mother takes it and spends it on groceries and, mostly, wine for herself. None of them have health insurance. I got a joint bank account with the parents so that I could transfer funds to them if they needed me to do so. As it stands now, I've given them over $3000 of my federal student loans (I'm in school), and I will never see that money again. The IRS levied the joint account when they failed to pay their taxes on the house sale and my dad's pension. I just faxed the info to the IRS recently to prove I had control over the account and no money came from my parents. Levy will be removed soon. I will get a new account. I'm moving out of the state we live in, even though my autistic brother still lives with them. My mother won't sop drinking and abusing my father, and my father wants me to get a townhouse where I'm moving so that they can all live with me. He sends me articles about how baby boomers live with their adult kids these days to merge resources, even though he wouldn't be able to bring money to the table to help me out (his entire pension is tied up in his house, a car, and his IRS payment schedule). He plays on my guilt a lot and tries to convince me that what he's asking is somehow normal. I'm not even 30, and they're not even 60. I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. They've been making my life more difficult than it has to be for a long time, by both their irresponsibility and their abuse, and I'm tempted to cut them off, with the possibility of extracting my brother from the situation soon after I'm out. Am I wrong? Is dealing with parents like this normal, and I'm just a selfish, ungrateful son?Do you beat your children, too, Crystal? Do you steal their money and buy booze with it?Crystal, I just read an answer you gave for a question asking about an abusive mother, you gave the opposite response. Stop using all caps and start exercising logical consistency. more

Open Question: For smokers only please?

I've been smoking for about a month now and I tried to quit and I got sick and started back.and I love it and don't want to give up cigarettes.and wanted to know what's the best brand to smoke and I don't like menthol .and which is a better smoke filter or non filters.and save the health lectures I'm gonna do what I want to do.I just want my answers...thanks more

Open Question: Answer this PLEASE?

I'm a 16 year old girl. I smoked for 5 years but quit like 6 months ago, I eat a lot of junk food(I have realllll bad cravings for anything sweet..that I can't seem to control), I get sick a lot because I have a LOW immune system (I pretty much catch everything.. I even had the Swine Flu a few months ago).. I actually have a REALLY bad cold or something right now. I also was told my acne is caused by my horrible low immune system ..and bad diet and lack of exercise. I don't go outdoors except to go to school(i have low self esteem from my acne so I stay away from anything social and all that)..so no sunshine. I have digestive problems from all this to. I reallllyyy need to get my body healthy or I'm gonna have some serious issues or something..lol. Give me some advice please? I'm pretty much lost on all this because around here.. healthy isn't what you would call the people. (: How can I have a high, strong immune system? more

Open Question: my dad wont stop smoking!?

please help me! he has been a smoker for more then 10 years and its really bad. We have a deal that every every day he smokes I get $5.00. So now Im up to about 225$ and dad said that he would pay me for my birthday. I added it up and by the time its my birthday he will owe me a total of .... $2210.00. I no that this is really cool for me but its kinda sick and sad. I just want him to stop smoking. maybe his christmas present could be the quit line. more

Resolved Question: Healthy lifestyle? Help?

Open Question: How to be overall healthy? Please help me.?

Resolved Question: Cigarette Smoking headache ?

I started fully inhaling cigarettes (camel turkish silver's) for my first time yesterday, and after I finish a cig I get so dissy and have a small headache. I smoke because it relaxes me and I am an occasional smoker. I love smoking cigars and weed, but I want to smoke and not feel like ****. Is this dissy sleepy feeling the buzz, also will smoking more cause the headaches and sick feeling to go away. Dont tell me to quit please..it's my life not yours ! more

Resolved Question: What causes anxiety and how do i get rid of it?

Im so dammm sick of it an di have no reason to have it, i used to smoke pot and ever since i quit i have it on and off. more

Voting Question: My doctor told me I have a chance of having a baby with down syndrom??!!! HELP?

I am 20 years old and I found out I am pregnant. I am now 19 week prego(5 months) and a couple weeks ago my blood work came back postiive for risk of having a baby with down syndrom! He said it is a 1 in 255 chance so.... 1/2 a percent? and he had me come back in and have an ultrasound done to check. He re-ran my test using my new due date and it STILL came back the same results! This is my first child and Im EXTREMELY upset and worried!!! He said the chances are very low but that there still is a chance and to know for sure we can choose to have another test down where they take fluid out of my belly button with a needle but that has a risk of miscarriage. ALSO... im 5 months prego and im not really showing at all! My stomach has some what increased in size but very little and so im freaking out becuase how am i supposed to know whats really going on? We decided on NOT getting the second test done due to the fact that we can lose the baby; so now im just praying its gunna be okay! ALSO... i was EXTREMELY sick the first trimester of my pregnancy and im barley getting better; i was throwing up literally after anything I ate or drank and even got to the point where I didnt have anything in my stomach to throw up so I started throwing up stomach acid. I have my medical card to smoke marijuana becuase of the number of car accidents I have been in and I have a really bad back problems so I quit smoking marijuana dramatically when I found out I was pregnant but once in a while I would to just be able to keep any kind of liquids and food down. My sickness was so extreme that my doctor also perscribed my the highest dosage of nausea medicine he can perscribe to a pregnant woman and I still threw up so this was my last resort to either! I thought that either A.) Keep throwing up everything and have the baby not get any kind of nutrients or food or anything what so ever or B.) smoke a tiny bit in order to keep food down for the rest of the day! I have completely stopped within the last month but Im worried still. Im not too worried about the smoking back then because I have read and seen many many girls smoke heavily threw there pregnancy and there baby was fine and I was NO WHERE near close to that at all. anyways... If anyone at all has had this happen where your test results came back negative or at slight risk please give me advice becuase I dont know If i should get the test done to know for sure or just pray about it! But I honestly am tooo young to take care of a child with down syndrom and if i could somehow know for sure; then I could adopt it to a better family that could take care of my child. more

Voting Question: Is there any way I could be pregnant?

How long should I wait for results? Ive taken two pregnancy tests and both have been negative. My period is due today and hasnt started yet. I am having symptoms, and I know how it feels because i have two kids already. Its just been awhile since ive been pregnant. How long do I have to wait before I get a solid answer? If youd like to answer based on my symptoms: I pee alot normal foods make me sick I cant sleep well im gaining weight my feet and hands go to sleep for no reason i get dizzy easily and every baby i see is adorable. lol dont laugh, its driving me nuts! btw, I bought two tests that only cost a dollar. I hate spending money on those things lol. I know that the expensive ones are prolly better, but they are EXPENSIVE! Plus Ive smoked a pack of cigarettes a day for over two years and now its making me sick. Ive slowed down, but havent quit yet. I dont wanna deal with that mess if im not pregnant. more

Voting Question: Am I pregnant? HELP!?!?!?

Ive taken two pregnancy tests and both have been negative. My period is due today and hasnt started yet. I am having symptoms, and I know how it feels because i have two kids already. Its just been awhile since ive been pregnant. How long do I have to wait before I get a solid answer? If youd like to answer based on my symptoms: I pee alot normal foods make me sick I cant sleep well im gaining weight my feet and hands go to sleep for no reason i get dizzy easily and every baby i see is adorable. lol dont laugh, its driving me nuts! btw, I bought two tests that only cost a dollar. I hate spending money on those things lol. I know that the expensive ones are prolly better, but they are EXPENSIVE! Plus Ive smoked a pack of cigarettes a day for over two years and now its making me sick. Ive slowed down, but havent quit yet. I dont wanna deal with that mess if im not pregnant. more

Voting Question: When is the best time to find out if im pregnant?

Resolved Question: Do cigarettes go bad after a certain period of time?

I quit smoking about a year ago, but I still have an old pack at my house. Its been open and sitting there for over a year. Every once in a while when I come home after a few cocktails I'll sit outside and have one. I had one last night and my throat is absolutely killing me today. I may just be getting sick, but I was wondering if it was from the old cig. I ruled out allergies because I took a Zyrtec this morning and it didn't go away. more

Resolved Question: My mom has a smoking problem?

My mom smokes everyday- has two ciggarettes at night, and one in the morning. I actually sit down with her and tell her this is bothering me and to lay off, and she says "okay baby. I love you." then the next day she is smoking again. I get pissed at her because of how much she does it (I don't care if she does it every once in a while, but a lot of times a week, it drives me insane. I love my mom and care about her and I don't want her to become sick. My step dad tells me: "she is an adult. She can smoke if she wants. Your a kid. Quit getting involved in adult things." But I feel the need to get involved because how else is she going to lay off? The only person I can talk to is my biological dad (my parents are divorced, and they are both remarried). He comforts me, and I can also talk to my nana (my mom's mom). She also agrees that it's very bad for her and she needs to stop. Once day my mom told me: "these are my last few packs. I swear these are the last and I will never smoke again." She stopped for about 1 week and I was quite happy, but then she started again. She will yell at me if I tell her she needs help, but she really does. What can I do? She has a real problem. more

Resolved Question: On a diet and have questions about weight loss?

Doing weight watchers. It works well. Im 43yr old male and 252lbs. Basically Ive got a serious beer gut. Weight watchers will take off about 60lbs in just a few months. Ive done it before. This time will be different though. Its been 5 years since I put the weight on from quitting smoking. My question is how can I keep from having loose skin once the weight comes off. Last time I lost this much weight I just looked like I had been sick. Is there any way to tighten up the skin in the stomach, arms and chest areas? more

Resolved Question: My dad smokes and everything I own smells like smoke...please help!?

Alright, so my dad has been smoking since he was 16 or so and I hate the smell. It makes me sick and I cant stand it. Everything that I own smells like smoke and I can't stand it. I spend most of my time in my room and even if I'm up there, I can smell smoke. I am very sensitive to the smell and I can't stand the odor. I've had to stand this odor for my 13 years of life and I am getting to the point where I am going to be done smelling it and run away....I just can't take it..whenever I ask him about quitting or anything like that he gets all mad and scary....I just want him to stop for his health and my family...please help! How do i get the smell and help me deal with my issue? more

Resolved Question: 2 months Pregnant, partner not being supportive? kinda long...?

so i'm 25 and about 8 weeks pregnant totally unplanned but a happy surprise to me and my immediate family. My parents are incredibly supportive and both my brother and sister are pumped about their soon-to-be neice or nephew. The problem is my boyfriend, we've been together for 2 1/2 years and i thought that he would be different in this situation then he's acting. He's constantly snapping at my for asking him questions, for example, this morning on our way to out dr. appt, as i am fighting the urge to vomit (i have really bad morning sickness) i asked him if he knew where my chuck taylors were, and he flew off the handle screaming at me "i don't know what the HELL you're talking about!" he's also constantly calling me a brat and he tells me i'm being unreasonable for crying at sappy commercials or the fact that he got the wrong kind of peanut butter (i believe there's a difference between chunky and creamy). granted he is still trying to quit smoking, he doesn't smoke around me. and i quit as soon as the test results said positive. he's just constantly moody. the thing is he was very caring and always very loving before i got pregnant. i mean i understand that he's got a lot going on (he has medical bills of his own to pay after hurting himself last year in addition to his school loans) and he's trying to quit and it was easier for me since the smell of smoke made me sick but i don't understand why he's taking out on me when he know how sensitive i am at this point in my life. I feel like he resents me because he's missing out on his 'youth'. Am i being unreasonable? more

Voting Question: Trust issues! need advice?

A while ago, I found out my boyfriend had been lying to me about smoking cannabis since we started going out. We've been together a year now. He told me he had quit but really he hadn't. I found out after christmas he had been doing it all along and now I cant get it out of my head. We talked through it and sorted it all out but now I just cant stop thinking about what he's doing whenever he's not with me and im so paranoid about if hes doing it or lying to me again. I mean if they lie once they can do it again right? He said he wanted to sort his life out now and settle down, and he only used to do it when he was really stressed. I dont know what I can do to help myself trust him again, I really want to but how? Also now he doesnt trust me, always thinks im going to leave him and go with other people, but the thought of that makes me sick! The last thing I want to do is split up, I woulnt cope, he is my life and i really need help sorting this out!I havent forced him to stop, he wants to do it on his own accord. He says it messes his head up and this is why he wants to stop. I despise thinking about him doing it so much, i dont know why i just doand he hasnt had it now since janurary, is this good? more

Voting Question: Why do i get paranoid when i smoke weed?

So, i have been smoking weed for about two years, and within the first year i smoked weed it was all fine and fun i would talk alot everything was great this first year though i wouldnt smoke very often at all maybe like twice a month, between these two years i started doing e (ecstasy). I did it about 13 times approximetly and then i decided to quit. I didnt do drugs until the e was fully out of my system and then i started to do weed again it was great at first then i started to get paranoid i would sit there and everything looked like it wasnt real. My heart started beating very fast my body would go into random muscle spasms and my hands were sweaty, This happened about 7 times i would sit there silent because i was to paranoid to say anything. And yes yes i know dont do drugs but i want to get back to normal like the normal great high i has before im sick of just sitting there and being silent and scared, even when i was with close friends this would happen, Please is there anyway to get rid of this? more

Resolved Question: how can i eliminate stress?!!!!!?

one problem is my dad smokes and smokes, i second-hand smoke almost everyday and go crazy but nothing i can do!!! i cant get him to smoke outside and i get so mad and sad about this im so sick of it everyday i worry and worry but how can i not worry ? there is no way either he quits or he leaves my house im so stressed , its been 5 months and i cant take it any more!! more

Voting Question: How do I take away my bad cough?

I'm 15 years old and I started smoking when I was 11. Which I do regret. Now that I quit about a year ago (I have relapsed a couple of times though) and as soon as I quit like about a month later I started getting a bad cough. It would be a heavy hard cough, but I wouldn't have any Flem. Now its been a year later and I still have that cough, but now it got a lot worst. It started about 4 days ago where I started getting dizzy and with a migraine that doesn't come off and a fever which the fever got better now, but I feel really sick I can't eat and the cough is not letting me breathe. I've been taking antibiotics and ibuprofen, but it hasn't worked. What should I do? please help. more

Resolved Question: Is it okay to hate my so called "father" ?

My "Dad" Has two other kids with another lady that he used to beat. He also used to beat those two kids. He was addicted to meth then. Then he abondoned them. After meeting my mom and my mom's two kids, my brother and sister, he was still on meth! He abused my sisters BAD!!!! They would always tell me horror stories, like him dragging them out of cars by their hair and beating them with a metal fly swatter. And his yelling is unlike ANY yelling you've ever heard, he has a physcotic yelling voice thet haunts me and still my sisters today (who are all moved out, now im all alone.) And he also used to hit my mother. When I was conceived, he was on meth. So I am a meth baby because of him. Then they got married. They decided the only way they could save their marrage was if he worked 300 miles away and came home on the weekends. This worked for about.. 13 years now. But now i'm 15 and he got laid off from his job. i remember getting beaten but not as bad as my sisters. And yelled at for no reason like you wouldnt belive. He has an anger issue BADLY!!!! And he denies it but he smokes weed, AND I NKOW HE DOES, I HAVE CAUGHT HIM and he says he quit for me.. BULL!! Also once before he had his own computer, i went on his account and was looking at his music on limewire, and i found his porn collection and there was one where all you could see was a flashlight and it was this old man having sex with a five year old girl!!!! the title was "5 year old girl penetrated" HE IS SO SICK!!!!!!! AND HE THINKS I HAVE NO REASON TO HATE HIM!!! I HAVE NEICES, HIS GRANDCHILDREN, THE SAME AGE AS THAT LITTLE GIRL IN THAT PORNO!!!!!!!!! UHG!!!!!! Is is SO wrong to hate him!?The thing about turning him in is that this was about a year ago, and since that the computer has crashed and gotten restored with no past history or data on it, and he has gotten his own lap top. I always regretting not turning him in though, i've told my sister, but i tried to take it back for some reason!! UGH idk wut to do! more

Resolved Question: lung pain with bronchitis?

hey everyone, im not finding the answers i need in search so ill ask. ok i had a cold and i was clearing out my sinuses and accidentally got the mucous from there into my lungs. then i got a lung infection. went to the instacare. told the doc my symptoms which were: pain with coughing. green mucous. mucous with sinuses. and remaining cold symptoms. he said my oxygen level was good so it proved i didnt have pnemonia. he said i also had and ear infection. he put me on max strength mucinex, amoxicillin, a syrup with genifenisin and a narchotic pain med in it and told me to use my inhaler (which i got from last time i was sick like this) i still have lung mucous. i do smoke. still have mucous in my sinuses and pressure, blah blah blah. but why does it hurt when i breathe. in my lungs? i woke up in the middle of my sleep and my lungs hurt like a wheezing kind of hurt almost and i coughed a lot. it doesnt feel like its in my ribs, but in my actual lungs and air ways. mostly the big tube that goes into the lungs themselves. and im not completely better with the lung infection/bronchitis yet but why (scientifically) does it hurt when i breath still till almost where i dont want to breathe anymore? and please no answers like, 'you need to quit smoking" i already know and have been trying every year to quit, so im still working on it. funny though, the doc didnt want me to get an x ray more

Resolved Question: Can i do it or it's a harm to me??????

I'm a gal , 21. Working in a software company. I've been working in call center since i was 18. Since last nine months i've been smoking. I am an extrovert n gel very well with every one. I mostly go out with my friendzz . Dominantly Guys. I smoke with them. All of them know i smoke. But in my Office i can't smoke because people here are very sick. i've to hold myself. Sometimes i think why i should bother about others but then i think its k I've to work n move on why to get into mess.. I'm confused should i quit or continue. more

Resolved Question: Smoking a cig while haveing a cold?

Im sick with a cold. my nose isnt to clogged and my throat doesnt hurt im just really stuffy. I havent smoked a single cig yet but if i smoked JUST one while sick would that make me feel absolutly shitty and make it a longer process to get better? please dont tell me how smokings gross and blah blah just answer the question. Im trying to quit but im addicted! more

Resolved Question: SICK OF STRETCH MARKS! It's been 9years!?

I had my first kid in 2000. He came out 9.9 22 1/2 I was only like 129 pounds. Now I'm 139 and have a second boy he was 7.11 22inch long. I did not get stretch marks till I was 8 mo! . I'm a dancer at the local strip club ( please don't need any judgments here. I quit drinking in Dec and don't do drugs I don't even smoke. My job is to provide for my boys we make good money or I would not be there....now back to topic at hand) Working n dark lights that are meant for imperfections people can't really tell. But when I'm at the beach or river whatever I have great suits but horrible stretch marks. Ive tried creams and seen horrible tummy tucks. I'd like to find a product that real people on here can VOUCH for and say I used it and it worked. Mederma sucked lol lol. I don't have money right now to spend on creams or laser surgeries ( if that works) but I will have cash in about a month from taxes. So I'm curious as to what is out there now that will work! Thanks so much! more

Resolved Question: What you think of my Lil Wayne diss?

Get that bandana out of your a** you young piece of sh** Fake a** blood, can't rap, might as well quit You got those shit ass dreadlocks and birdman sucks your d*** Hearing a milli just makes me sick Young money is adorable, and that little boy drake If they had gotten to Mexico his parents could've avoided the mistake You said you were number one in the game, what a joke If 2Pac were alive you wouldn't provoke Back in the day werent u the shit, smoking that pot Only gun you ever had you pulled a Plaxico and got shot I'd admit your good albums like Jay-Z did when he dissed nas So, you got, well, I don't know, your best was... Nope, none, all were just you mumbling like a f** Sucking c*** like yo mother except you don't gag Please, just quit, you fake a** b**** with no skill Cause I'll keep ripping you apart until you lose your will more

Resolved Question: my husband supposedly quit doing coke 1 1/2 years ago butt...?

he has been speding money, and his moods have been wierd again, caught in a couple lies, and my sis in law told me that he stopped by her house today to pick up our 6 month old and he used her bathroom and was in there for a while and befor he left he blew his nose, so she went into the bathroom and found a little bit of white powder on the toilet seat and had her boyfriend taste it and he said it was definately coke (he did it befor a long time ago). now when he came home with the baby i did notice that he was acting unusual but he acts like that a lot and i never know if he is high cause he smokes weed, and he also drinks a lot so i can never tell. but now i know but what really pisses me off is that hes driving around with our kids and taking care of them and to top it off tonight they went to a daddy daughter dance for her girlscouts (our daughter is 7) and he actually snorted coke befor they went !! how sick !! his family is going to do an intervention and are going to try and get him into a 90 day rehab. but im just soooo sick of this i feel like calling it off but i still somehow love him and dont watn to break up my family. im soo depressed man!! like, i work hard i work third shift, im breastfeeding our baby, trying to help our first grader who has a learning dissability and stressing out over money and the possiblilty that we may have to lose our home, and dealing with mr. drunk, high and coked up all the time. do i leave? do i stay and keep trying to stand by him and help him? more

Resolved Question: Hey!!!!!!!!!!!!!! uh, could you please please please please please please please please edit this?

Hi, I'm writing this little convincing paragraph for class and this is my original draft...I need to revise it but it looks okay to me...despite that I have to change it considerably anyways so any help would be GREATLY appreciated!! :D here it is: Diagnostic Assessment Though there have been many warnings against the scourge of smoking, American teens continue to puff away. In a 2001 national survey of high school students it was revealed that the overall prevalence ‘of’ cigarette use was twenty eight percent. My aunt used to smoke in high school and even though she quit once she left her teen years, two years ago she died of lung cancer due to the smoking habit that she had so long ago. So personally, I think that the percentage of kids smoking in high school should be absolutely ZERO. Many teens think they are “invincible” I have seen it; they don’t realize that the nasty habit of smoking can catch up to them later. Even if teens actually want to quit later, it’s not going to be easy because the younger you start, the harder it is to quit. Cigarettes are highly addictive and, fifty percent of those who started to smoke during their adolescence years go on to smoke for fifteen to twenty years because of this addiction. They want to quit, but are unable to. An estimated 4.5 million teens living in the United States are smokers. Theses teens need to recognize that effects of smoking during adolescence can actually be quite severe. First of all, you can easily become addicted to tobacco products such as cigarettes. By the time you realize this affliction has started to control your life, it is too late. You are addicted to the cigarettes. The seriousness of this plight is proven by the fact that six point four million kids under the age of 18 will die prematurely due to a smoking-related disease if current tobacco product use patterns endure. That’s 6.4 million children. I have to be honest and say that to me, knowing that kids die from something anyone can find on a street corner or at the grocery store is sick. That isn’t even all, the health problems caused by smoking while young are decreased physical fitness, cough and dysfunction of phlegm production, an increase in the number and severity of respiratory illnesses, an unfit lipid profile, and potential retardation in the rate of lung growth and the level of maximum lung function. I hope it isn’t just me thinking that teen smoking is wrong. Why would any sane person want to smoke? Well, one of the primary reasons young teens start to smoke is because another teen whom they admire is a smoker and they are trying to emulate them. Or they might have a friend who smokes and that friend pressures them to start smoking. Then there is tobacco advertising. Cigarette commercials often emphasize youthful energy, attractiveness, and independence which entice young people trying to achieve these characteristics. Unfortunately, surveys have shown that teens are heavily influenced by cigarette advertising. They think that, if they smoke the will be “cool”. If one thing is for certain, it is that smoking is definitely NOT “cool”. Cigarettes may seem like they make you cool and unique, but really, every time you take a drag you’re just digging a deeper grave for yourself. lol thank GOSH for the copy/paste button!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hehe ok thanks again for help and ya I know this isn't exactly a 'books and authors' section type thing but noone answers my questions in the homework help section so they got deleted :( ok thanks!!! more

Resolved Question: I cheated on my boyfriend :'( What should i do?

First of all i'm 17. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. I've known him for a year and a half and since then we were on and off, due to him. These 6 months have been different and he's really changed for the better, quit smoking, drugs, barely drinks and i feel he's more in love with me and cares about me so much more now. I went to a party a couple of nights ago where my mates left and i ended up staying over. I got drunk (and i know this is no excuse what so ever) and ended up having sex with another guy. I woke up in the morning and left, knowing i'd just made the worst mistake of my life! i can't sleep, eat and i feel sick to my stomach i've been crying so much. i don't know why i did this because my boyfriend's been so good to me the past few months, i feel we could last for a very long time. I haven't told him because it can't bare to see him hurt so much i know it would kill him, and me to see him hurt (i'd rather suffer a lifetime for him). Only the guy and another person knows because he stayed as well. I can honestly swear on my life and our relationship that i would never do this again. I hurt so much i can't even forgive myself because i promised i would never be one of those people to cheat on their partner. This is the first and last time i will ever do something like this again!! I feel so sick with worry :'( i can't even tell my best friends, everyone will hate me and i'll lose everything i live for. Please help me. Do you think i should tell him? Is it wrong to keep this from him? Please don't tell me i'm a slut, slag, whore or whatever because i know what i've done is wrong and i hate myself so much. more

Voting Question: My dad smells like smoke and I am so frickin' sick of smelling like it...Please help?

Alright, so my dad has smoked since he was young and he smokes AT LEAST 2 packs a day. Whenever he smokes around me, I usually feel sick to my stomach and I feel really sick and I end up smelling like smoke. My friends are so kind and tell me that my coats don't smell like smoke, but I know they do. It is ridiculous that I have to live my life living with a smoker and I am really not feeling the love on ruining my lungs. My grammie smoked and then quit and she now has all these problems with her and might have to have surgery. She also has to wear oxygen. My dad knows all of this, but it doesn't seem to get to him. I really don't care if he smokes A LITTLE, but just not around me and outside. Now my question is how to I keep me smelling good and not smelling nasty? How to I convince him to slow down and go outside or quit overall? Please help....I am sick of this BS...it is ridiculous! Please help me... more

Resolved Question: COPD End Stage, How to Help?

...here is my question. I have a family member that is very sick with COPD, i would say that he is probably severe, borderline very severe. But this is just a guess since he hasn't been to the dr. in over a year. He is wasting away (probably lost 30lb in last 6 months). He can't walk very far without being out of breath, he hums when he breathes and REFUSES to quit smoking, see the doc or eat much. Sooo, as a loved one, what can I do. My main concerns are that I will not know when I need to get him some in home care. I live in Canada and he is in the US so all i can go on are very infrequent calls from him that he is still alive. I don't know the state of his apartment or living conditions. I don't know if I should expect him to die suddenly because he is not caring for himself or if this will be a long drawn out process. more

Resolved Question: How Can I Help My Husband Understand that his habbit is making me sick?

I been happily married for 10 years. We have a good relationship, and are not big at fighting. We sit and discuss our problems, and for the most part meet in the middle with the resolution, but their is one problem that he seems to ignore every single time. He smokes ciggaretts about a box and half a day. I used to smoke myself and quit about 7 years ago, so I understand that in order for a person to quit they have to have the state of mind and be ready. In this situation am not concerned with him quiting because is his health, but for the past year he has choosen to smoke in our bedroom. I suffer from Asthma and is really starting to affect me. I excersice, stay active, eat right, and watch my health because I want to enjoy my children. I tell him in many ways to please stop smoking inside the house ,or in our bedroom. So, today I got very angry an told him how ignorant of him to continue smoking in our bedroom knowing that my Asthma is getting worse by the day. He is now upset at me, and gives me the stop bitching look. I don't want to upset him ,or be the bitchy wife, but I don't think is fair to me. Can someone give me an opinion, How can I tackel this situation. I have ran out of options it feels like to me. Thanks for any help! more

Resolved Question: So I am 9 weeks along and STILL TRYING TO QUIT SMOKING!?

It is so hard. I don't smoke because of my baby, BUT I get horrible withdrawls so I smoke again. Even tho I've cut back A LOT. (Used to smoke 1-1/2 a day, now 1 pack lasts 3 or so days) I still feel bad! I don't know what to do to stop the withdrawls all the way, or to not want a smoke anymore!!! Please help!! With my first baby I stopped a week after I knew, I was too sick to smoke. WIth this baby I dont have any nausia. more

Resolved Question: am I just being selfish?

I'm 20 years old and 21 weeks pregnant, and my sister in law who is 21, just found a few weeks ago that she's pregnant too. She's 8 weeks now I think... Here's the thing though: Simplest way to put it is, she's not smart. I don't mean that as in, irresponsible, but I mean it as in she's probably the dumbest and laziest person I've ever met. She doesn't even have a driver's permit, she needs instructions on how to boil water, she doesn't know how to work a dish-washer, she dropped out of high school when she was 15, she doesn't think she needs to quit smoking cigarettes or pot, she uses her pregnancy as an excuse to eat like a total pig, and she actually told me last week up until now, she always thought there were 6 weeks in a month....*sigh* What I'm getting to is, I find it EXTREMELY hard to feel any kind of happiness for her and her being pregnant, when she doesn't even know how to take care of herself...How will she take care of a baby when she doesn't even have a job, a car, and doesn't know how to cook any kind of meal? I'm not trying to make myself look like a know-it-all or a stuck up bitch, but I really can't help but fake smiles whenever she squeals in excitement about her baby...Honestly, it just makes me sick to my stomach... What do you think about all this???I completely understand why some of you would get the idea that I'm "jealous" of my sis in law supposedly "stealing the spot-light" from me, but believe me that is totally not the case. I actually get really annoyed when someone comes up to me and touches my belly or asks me ANYTHING about the baby and my pregnancy. I actually really hate all the attention, so no I'm not jealous, just clarifying...The attention is nice at first, but after a while I don't want to hear anything about "pregnancy"...lol more

Voting Question: My dad always makes jokes about heroin and how he's gonna start doing it?

He jokes around a lot about a lot of things, but this is the only thing that really worries me. I know he used to do heroin when he was a kid, but he quit. he didn't go to any fancy rehab, or anything, he said he just straight up quit it, that's what he always told my mother. He is kind of sick. He has emphysema (won't quit smoking), glaucoma (just got a cornea transplant and is starting to gain back his sight), and some problem with his kidneys. I'm 16 and I see him once a week, because that's all my mother allows me to spend with him, because of his record, and such. I just don't know what to do. Sometimes I feel like I'm the adult, and he's the child. more

Resolved Question: Ex-Smoker Has To Quit Smoking A Second Time...?

I quit smoking in May 2007, it was the hardest thing I had ever done in my life, but I felt SO GOOD after having done it, I saw so many positives to the experience, life was great and I owed it all to having quit smoking. In October 2009, I was out with some friends, drinking, and I had one cigarette. I felt bad about it, but was determined to never do it again. In December 2009, I found a pack of cigarettes on the ground outside of my apartment, containing 5 whole cigarettes. Over the course of a week, I smoked all 5. I again felt guilty, I felt like the last 2 and a half years as a non smoker had been for nothing, and once those 5 were gone, I was determined to never smoke again. On New Years Day 2010, I smoked one cigarette at a friend's house. The next day, I bought a pack, and I've been smoking about 7 cigarettes a day ever since. I REALLY want to quit again. The first time I quit in May 2007, I used Nicorette Gum for a week, and then I was okay. But now, again, I've bought the gum, and its just not cutting it, I go for maybe a day or two without smoking, and then I find myself buying another pack of cigarettes. I'm now 20 hours into not smoking, and I have to go to work in 2 hours, and I don't want to smoke anymore, but the urge is so strong that I know I'll stop and buy another pack before I go to work tonight. I have two and a half years as a successful non smoker under my belt, there are so many positives to not smoking, but, when your smoking, its just such a powerful addiction that its nearly impossible to stop. I'm a nurse, I KNOW all the health dangers, I have patients with COPD, emphysema, throat cancer, lung cancer, CHF, heart disease, hypertension, etc, all due to smoking. As a lifelong asthmatic, I know that if I continue to smoke, I WILL get many of the things listed above. When I smoke, I get severe heartburn, shortness of breath, skin rashes, and urinary frequency. I think that, maybe if I could keep my smoking to one or two cigarettes a day, I'd be okay with that. And thats why I continue to buy packs, I think, "well, I'll only have one in the morning, and one at night", but that quickly turns back into 6 or 7 a day. I like the "high" that you get after not smoking for 12 or more hours. And, for me, smoking during "adult activities" increases the pleasure I feel. But I'm sick of the coughing in the morning, I'm sick of my lack of energy, I'm sick of the heartburn, the urinary frequency, the smell on my fingers/clothes, decreased sense of smell, decreased circulation to my limbs, decreased tolerance for exercise, etc, etc. And then when I have all this willpower to quit, and I have 1,000 good reasons to do so, my mind goes back to my low self esteem, "you're not good enough to quit smoking, you deserve to get lung cancer, look at all the bad things you've done in your life, why quit smoking? Why be healthy?" HELP!!!!!! more

Resolved Question: I told my husband I was tired of his mother using him?

Your Question So I told my husband that I was sick of his mother using him, and he left me? Tonight my MIL called my husband(after calling him several times today and spending all day w/ him) to ask him to come down and get his nephew to quit crying. I had a problem w/ this as his mother always does this, not to mention w/ our child, if she cannot(or could not) get him to stop crying, we got called home immediately from where ever we were(even if it had only been about 30 mins. since we left); however w/ BIL and SIL's child, she makes my husband come down and take care of him(she has FIL w/ her, so she is not alone)and never makes them come home b/c their child is crying. Today BIL,SIL, MIL, FIL, and my husband went to an event and left me at home w/ my son, as well as BIL and SIL drug our poor nephew around all day, so he didn't get a nap and was overtired by the time they left him w/ the IL's. BIL and SIL's fault=they should have to deal w/ the consequences (like DH and I had to and did, esp. when our child was that age) and come home. It should not be a totally different standard(SIL is a DIL like me also). This is just one example of how MIL uses my husband. She has also made him think that he is unemployable, so that he doesn't even look for a job, so that she can control his(and as a result, our) finances(I am 20 weeks pregnant as well, & have been furiously looking for a job for nearly 2 years- I am now back in school). She had him taking care of his grandmother(who needed to be put in a nursing home years ago by more than several of her doctors opinions)pretty much 24/7 while she & FIL stayed gone either hanging out w/ BIL and SIL, or just gone. His grandmother passed away last fall, and then his mother started trying to get him to be BIL and SIL's child's 24/7 for free on demand childcare service. I straight out told them NO WAY, as SIL is like MIL was w/ GMIL w/ her child, and I had had enough(my husband had been doing the GMIL care thing since before we had started dating 5 years earlier). MIL also acts like my husband is her spouse rather than I am his spouse. She has never really acknowledged me as his wife, and acts like I am not my child's parent, as well as completely ignores my pregnancy(I bought all of my son's baby things, and I have some people that have given me some of the things I need for this baby, but there are some things that I don't know if I will be able to get due to our financial situation-that it seems that only I should be worried about, as my husband can get all the money he wants from MIL to support his smoking habit, and whatever else he wants to do, however I get the grocery money and that is it). MIL also acts like I am the most worthless person she has ever met, and that nothing I ever do is right. She & FIL also verbally,emotionally, & mentally attack me every time they get a chance, & treat SIL like she is the greatest thing since sliced bread, & treat me like I am the scum of the earth. MIL is also a pathological liar, & doesn't like me around b/c I see through her lies. My husband has 1/4 a$$ dealt w/ his mother(even after she lied to him about some really big things, including a house she bought w/ his trust fund getting foreclosed on-she even lied to FIL;we were living w/ them at the time), but never made solid boundries w/ her, and always allowed her to overstep her bounds, esp. in regards to our relationship(he once bought me some lingerie on his debit card, and his mother traced out the purchase and saw the lingerie my husband bought for me to wear. I was mortified as well as embarassed). Tonight when he got home from going down to MIL's to take care of BIL and SIL's child, I told him that I thought it was messed up that we always had to come home, and yet BIL and SIL never have to, & that they always will watch BIL and SIL's child, but will never watch our child,esp. if it means that I might get the chance to interact w/ other adults. I also told him I am sick of him coming running whenever she calls him(the woman gets annoyed if I answer the phone for our house instead of my husband), etc. & that it (along w/ the constant critizism & abuse)needed to stop. He told me to go to hell and called me a Stupid b!+(H, then walked out the door, stating that he was going and not coming back this time. He just now showed back up here at the house at 12:30 am. Am I wrong for wanting this to end? Dealing w/ his mother has given me anxiety issues(that I never had prior to dealing w/ her), & is destroying our marriage, as I never know when he is going to desert me for her. more

Voting Question: How can I stop overeating?

I recently quit smoking, and I can't get myself away from food, I swear I'm craving cookies and cakes more then I ever craved a cigarette. The problem is, I eat all this junk food, and then I feel sick, ashamed, and tired (sugar crash). I might be emotional eating, I'm not sure, but I really want to get rid of cravings and learn how to like healthy food. more

Resolved Question: Quitting smoking half way through pregnancy?

Ok I am 24 weeks pregnant and I haven't smoked in over a week. Now with my first pregnancy i smoked the whole time. I went from a pack a day down to 3-4 a day by the end of it. I had a very healthy 8lb 8oz girl, and I also gained 53 lbs!! Now my Dr then knew I was still smoking, he said he wasn't going to tell me it was OK but 3-4 a day was way better than a pack a day. This is my second pregnancy and I tried to cut down, then I lost my job and am not use to being home all day, so I realized I was smoking a pack a day again, and my appetite had gone away due to stress. Then recently I got really sick with a Virus that has been going around. i ended up with a high fever and could barely get out of bed. So of course because I was feeling so crappy I didn't smoke, then when i started feeling better I realized I had gone 3 days without, why start again? But now of course I am getting people telling me I can do more harm quitting cold turkey then if I just kept smoking. Which I know (and so does everyone else) the best thing is to NOT smoke, NO cigarettes are way better than even just 2 a day. And this pregnancy is different, I have only gained like 7 lbs so far, and am eating differently than I did the first time I was pregnant. Now I already know someone is going to say, Ask your Dr, well my Dr now is not very good. I am more just a "Chart" to him. Just another patient, and I get a standard answer, not an answer based on my situation, like my old Dr did. I know people also say that it is more stressful to the baby to quit cold turkey because your body is going throuwith drawlswls and so is the baby's. But i figured this time I was so sick and had a really high fever, and was shaking, and when I finally started to feel better I really didn't even care about smoking, and I still haven't had any crazy mood swings with drawlswls.I think I was actually having worse nicotine fits when i was still smoking trying to not have So many a day!! I mean I did notice the first couple days not smoking, the baby was kicking WAY more than usual and was moving way more at all hours. but now it's like back to normal. So what i was wondering is: Has anyone else gone through this?? Or has anyone quit in the middle of pregnancy and then had complications because of it? I mean I LOVE smoking, but I also Love the way I feel when i DON"T smoke, and I quit for a year before, and was stupid and started again. I am really happy NOT smoking right now because I already feel better and have a lot more energy. I just don't want to causproblemsoblems with this pregnancy, which I don't see how quitting could be any worse than keep smoking almost a pack a day for the next 16 weeks? Thank you everyone who give advice, opinions, or personal experiences... :) more

Resolved Question: all day everyday headaches?

i was 15 when i started to get really sick, at first i thought it was from drinking alchohal cause everytime i drank no matter if it was a beer or vodka it just make me throw up but then i quit drinking and it still continuted so i went to the doctor and he told me that i could have acid reflux disease but he never gave me a for sure answer and made me an appointment to get an ultrasound done, and in the ultrasound nothing was found. the throwing up continued and then one day in july i got this really bad migrane all day long and couldnt get out of bed and i thought it was probably just a one day thing but it never went away. i get headaches when i wake up until the time i go to sleep and it never goes away so i started smoking weed everynight cause it was the only thing that seemed to help. then i went back to the doctor and he made me an appointment to get a mri scan and i got the scan done and nothing was there ive been having these constant headaches for about 6 months now and i have absolutly no energy its so hard to even get out of bed in the mornings and this weird nauseas feeling i cant explain it good but when i get up in the mornings without all the sleep i need i get super nauseas and just cant even stand i have to go back to sleep and i even quit smoking weed again cause i thought that might of been making my headaches worse and its beeen about 2 weeks since i quit and i still have them all day everyday. i keep going to the doctor but he cant figure out whats wrong so i was just wondering if anybody had any thoughts of what could be wrong?? please help more

Voting Question: Ladies can I have your prayers? I'm pretty upset/scared......?

My mom called a little while ago. She's been having trouble with her asthma the last few years. She quit smoking 3 years ago and has done great. She went to the doctor last week and they called to tell her today that she has SEVERE COPD. They told her she was only using 28% of her lungs to breath. They told her if for any reason she ever needs to get put on a ventilator that she will not survive. I'm very close to my mom now. She's so scared. I'm so scared. I don't know what I would do with out her. She's so young, she will be 50 in July. It's just not fair. I'm sorry, I'm babbling, but I just can't even wrap my mind around this yet. I can't stand to hear her cry because I know there's nothing I can do for her. Can I just get your prayers for her strength? For me to support her in anyway possible? For my dad to understand just how sick she really is and support her too? For my brother to stop being an a$$ and forgive them? Thanks so much ladies. I'm so upset, I'm trying really hard not to cry. What am I going to do without her???????? more

Resolved Question: How can I help my dad stop smoking?

My dad has been smoking for years now. I love my dad and I want him to live a long life. It seems that he doesn't really care about his health. He's quit like 3 times and he's smoking again! It gets on my nerves and it makes me so mad! How can I help him quit? He's making the family sick too by the smell!!! more

Resolved Question: Feeling sick bad headaches, tired, crabby, etc. Details inside! Help!!?

I have been having really bad headaches, I have been very bitchy lately, and just not myself lately. At times I get this weird feeling that I can't even explain its weird. I feel like I am always tired, I have a sore throat, and stuff but I was wondering if this all could be from all of sudden not smoking anymore.... It's not like I was a hardcore smoker but I was smoking maybe 3 or 4 full cigarettes per week. I am 15 but I decided I do not want to smoke anymore, and I just all of a sudden quit cold turkey. I am wondering if this is causing all of these symptoms. I was thinking maybe if I had a few hits of a cigarette once a week or something to ween myself off of them ? Would that be better than just not smoking anymore at all. I am miserable feeling so crappy! I also feel depressed since I quit smoking too! All of these symptoms started up when I stopped smoking..... Please help.. Thanks! more

Resolved Question: I recently moved to China about 5 months ago, and I have noticed my health steadily decreasing.?

I am a 25 year old male from North America. I was in relatively good health before I left for China, I am of European descent and not overly familiar with Asian foods. In the 5 months I have been here I have lost about 35-40 pounds. I wasn't that heavy before 6'3 210 lbs. I am constantly getting sick (colds). My stomach hurts 5 out of 7 days of the week. As of late I have become complacent to most things around me, as if I hate an don't care about anything. I have recently quit smoking, which should make me feel better I thought, but to no avail. I was wondering if there is anything I can try, like a diet change or something to help me out. Anything would be greatly appreciated. more

Resolved Question: can my husband go to jail if we take his son away from his ex?

my husband ex girl friend is the mother of his son and she doesnt do anything at all. she see's him during the day sometimes and every once in a while she will keep him over night. my step son is 3 yrs old ans his mother has not bought him any cloths in them 3 years and one pair of shoes recently. she doesnt take him to the doctor she doesnt call him she will go days without calling him or seeing him. she is supposed to pick him up at 9 am on monday and bring him back at 4. she doesnt show up until 12 or 1 and then doesnt call to ask if she can keep him over night she doesnt even let us know. there was a day that he came back with a cigarret burn on his neck from her she said he ran into her cigarret. when she knows that she is not allowed to smoke around him. She will sleep all day and not feed him or his older brother. would we go to jail if we quit letting her see him until we go to court? they were never married so i wouldn't think so but i need some advice. she has left him with us for weeks at a time with out calling or seeing him. he lives with us and always has we are the ones that take him to doctor when he is sick. there was a time that he came back from her house and his eye was all swollen. she had called me that day saying that his ear was hurting him and that he needed to go to the doctor and i told her i would come pick him up or she could drop him off she said that she would drop him off in an hour well she didnt come until 11 pm that night and she called at 3pm. he ended up having pink eye and an ear infection he has gotten pink eye 4 times from her house. then she took him camping and brought him back to our house and he had 5 ticks on his privates. then he ended up getting scarlet fever and was in the hospital and she never called to vheck on him or came to see him. so if we stop letting her see him till we went to court can my husband go to jail? more